Notes - Suicide Is Not The Answer To Your Problems In Life - 2

A few notes I've been wanting to post sparked by a friend on Yahoo Answers...

Why Suicide is NOT the answer to your problems:

first of all, you MIGHT feel as though people would rather have you gone or would miss you but you really don't know.

second, you don't how severe this step you're thinking of taking would torment the ones you love. when we lose someone we love, it hurts really bad and lasts for a long long long time, trust me.

third, you don't know what the future holds or whose life you will touch or who you help in the times to come. you may save dozens of lives or help someone who is also suffering. or, someone less fortunate or someone in desperate need of advice or friendship or kindness.

and, to be loved, you have to be lovable. you have to reach out to people. give of yourself. give of your time, friendship, and advice.

i know from experience that someone loves you or wants to love you - maybe you just haven't met that person yet. give it time.

stop traveling around and around in the same circles and make new friends. they don't have to outgoing people. make friends with nerds or old folks or skaters or christians or whoever. do something new.

don't let your life become monotonous and boring. that only makes things worse.

there are many dimensions to life and learning and teaching and helping. and you can do any part of it you wish if you open your mind and strive for more.

don't let abuse get you down. there are other people who have experienced this and talk about this all the time. they try to help others overcome it. you can do that too.

if you don't want to join in helping others with that, help them with depression. talk about how you've dealt with it and survived it up to this point. if you don't want to talk about that, learn something new or in a similar field like psychology or law - or become a counselor. or, learn to work on cars. or, learn to ride motorcycles. or, write a book. or become a chef. or, learn to bake different kinds of cookies. whatever.

life is an adventure. do what you like but live it up!

Suicide Is Not The Answer To Your Problems In Life

I know Life sucks for a lot of people right now.

There are many people out here going through a lot of B.S. and crap that a lot of us could not imagine.

Some people are haunted by bad memories. Some people are feeling out of place and out of touch with reality. Some people feel like they don't fit in. And, some people are just full of sadness and pain and don't have any idea why.

Maybe you feel all alone...

It's possible that there's some jerk in your life causing you nothing but grief, confusion, and anguish.

Maybe you see no hope in your future.

I won't lie and say that you can conquer these feelings. Some people are surrounded by friends, family members, and lovers, and still feel empty inside.

They've went to doctors and experts and still didn't find a cure.

They've taken medications but to no avail.

Some of them have tried to conquer their issues with "religion" but that didn't help.

I've been one of those people.

I AM one of those people.

I'm tormented by bad memories every day.

I've been depressed for months and years at a time (even before I was a teen).

I've had more "downs" than "ups" in life.

I've thought about "giving up" quite a few times. And, came close several times.

To be honest, I don't know if I'll have those thoughts OR not. I don't know.

But, one thing I DO know is: I see a purpose for my being here.

We all have a purpose for being here. Me. You. Everybody.

And, you shouldn't ruin your purpose in life due to the trials of life.

There will always be obstacles to face and fight - but, that's just how Life is. It's a series of "tests".

Some things in Life test your emotions. Some things in Life test your intellect. Some things in Life test your Inner Strength.

And, it's Not always about conquering these "tests" that makes us stronger. Sometimes it's how we are able to DEAL with these "tests" that makes us stronger - AND WISER.

And, what is the Benefit of this?

To answer this question, we have to "go deep".

We have to look way way waaay out beyond all space and time.

Now, I don't want to give you the impression that I'm trying to sound like some spiritual guru or Jedi Master or something, but, for a moment, I want you to think about your Karma and the wisdom that you possess and WILL possess as you move forward throughout your life.

There are many things you will learn. The knowledge you gain will make you mentally and emotionally and socially and spiritually stronger.

Your instincts about Life will improve and you will be wiser. Wiser than those who will come after you.

Everyday, you are growing, improving, advancing, gaining insight and learning.

Although it doesn't seem like it (because it's a slow process), you are evolving - either mentally, emotionally, spiritually, or socially, or whatever. Some aspect of your life (besides your age) is advancing whether you realize it or not.

Even when we aren't learning more about ourselves or how to conquer Life's issues we are learning Something.

Hell, you might not realize it, but your instincts about Life are improving every single day! Because you're taking in all of your experiences. All that you see, hear, smell, taste, and touch.

You're learning from your Senses, Imagination, AND Emotions.

All of this stuff is taking you to a higher level each and every day of your life!

Now, some people might ask: "What the hell good is all of this learning and acquiring wisdom and building Karma if I'm only gonna die one day anyway?"

That's selfish thinking. And, the dumbest shit anyone could ever fix their soup-suckers (lips) to say.

What in the hell do they think they're supposed to do with all of that knowledge, wisdom, learning, and Karma???

You pass it on to the next generation so that they can learn, improve, grow, advance, and pass on what they've learned from you to the next generation!

In this way, the World KEEPS advancing and evolving! And, sooner or later, we'll get rid of all of the nuts and mean-spirited people who don't belong here and the World will be a better place.

But, there's another reason why we're here also (and, why you may be going through the issues in which you're going through).

We don't see things, hear things, and experience things just so that we can sit around and whine and complain and gossip about them. Much of the things we go through in Life (especially our mistakes) are so that we can learn from them and teach others (those who need and seek our help) how to overcome the same situations and troubles. Or, how to avoid the mistakes that WE made.

That's your Purpose in Life as a human being. To learn, to grow, and to give information, knowledge, or wisdom to another! To share some news, or info, or a skill with another person. To Teach! Not only your children but anyone who needs teaching or your guidance about things in Life.

Like:

- how to become successful
- how to make a marriage work
- how to get out of a bad relationship
- how to fight depression
- how to overcome sadness
- how to fish and feed themselves

Whatever!

No matter what you're going through, you can learn to conquer it OR deal with it and teach the next guy or girl how to do the same. This is a benefit because you will help yourself in the process.

When this girl or guy comes for your help, You will discover changes in your OWN life that need to be made. You will start to see certain mistakes that you are making that you haven't seen before. You will be more aware of traps and pitfalls that keep tripping you up and causing you to experience grief and drama. Your confidence will also move to higher levels as your knowledge, wisdom, and instincts continue to grow.

Don't let a bad relationship get you down.

Don't let "new chapters" in Life confuse you or the passing of Time break your heart.

Don't let these mean men and women drive you insane.

Don't let a bad economy or lack of money break your spirit.

Keep Moving!

Realize what is REALLY important in Life and you will Learn to overcome your "tests" in Life.

Help others and You will also help yourself.

- loveqna

The Worst Mistake Any Man Or Woman Can Make

There's something I hate to admit but I won't feel good about this post unless I come clean and tell you about it.

The other night, I was severely distraught over a new girl I met. I was almost in tears.

I know this chick is crazy for me. I like her a lot too. But, I can see all the drama looming ahead.

I think she's crazy as hell.

I'm almost sure that one day she's gonna "snap".

And that's too bad because she's an attractive girl with beautiful brown eyes, a great smile, a sweet personality; kind, witty, caring, a great hostess, energetic, hard-working. She has a lot of positive traits.

But... She has a "dark side" too that I've Heard about.

Her zodiac sign is Gemini. And, you know Geminis have split personalities. So, I'm almost sure everything I've heard is true.

People that know her say that she starts arguments and that she lies a lot.

I've already mentioned in an earlier post that she is imposing, stubborn, and won't take "no" for an answer.

I'm starting to wonder if I can trust her emotions.

I've seen how she takes her father's goodwill and generosity for granted and it's not cool at all. I was embarrassed by it. She used his SUV to help move a friend and kept the vehicle way way too long without calling and letting him know that everything was okay. He had to called HER to find out what was going on. And when we returned the vehicle, she barely thanked him. Her only concern was getting rid of the SUV and going home. It was totally disrespectful. I couldn't believe it. Not from her.

But, this girl is so sweet so I don't get it.

And, I'm at a crossroads because I like "bad girls", but at the same time, I want to have a girl who's sweet.

So far, she seems happy whenever she's with me. But, who knows, she could also be just as happy with anyone else. I'm thinking she may be fickle. But, I don't know for sure.

What stresses me out is: I don't want this girl to change. I like her just as she is.

But, what if everything I like is all a facade? Or, a charade? You know how sweet people are when you first meet them, then, later on, they start to change.

I might not know until it was too late and our friendship was ruined. We've already gone too far. We've gotten too close.

I trust my instincts. I believe there will be a lot of drama. But, I'm hoping I'm wrong.

I could still drop everything and just stop talking to this chick and avoid her but, deep down, I feel she needs me.

(have you ever felt like that??? that helping someone with their life or giving them guidance could help their and many other lives in return? like: your words, wisdom, and guidance could change them and have a phenomenal impact on helping them improve and succeed in life. It changes you too. Giving you good vibes inside and improving your spiritual awareness.)

Maybe I'm crazy, but I think I could have a positive impact on her life. And, I think she could help me as well.

This friendship could be a beautiful thing.

But, I'm afraid of the drama.

But, I'm also afraid of letting her go.

The reason I'm afraid of ignoring this potential relationship is because I've let some good girls get away from me before.

For the most part, I'm a nice guy. I try to do the right things and treat people right. But, I've been a terrible love-mate to girls that I was damn lucky to be involved with.

Not only were these good girls some real hotties who were sweet and supportive, but they were Devoted.

They cooked for me. They spent money on me. They treated me out to dinners and movies. They stood up for me when haters tried to sweet-talk Them (or bad-mouth Me).

I had dime-pieces asking me to marry them or to move in with them all the time.

These girls wanted to see me succeed and tried to give me advice or help in one way or the other.

Like many men (and women), I was just a fool.

I didn't realize how good I had it. I didn't realize what a thing I had at the time: A good woman and a good relationship.

But, I was greedy for companionship and sex.

Or, I was afraid of being tied down.

And, I was addicted to partying and having fun.

Plus, I was selfish with my free time.

Most of the time, I was too focused on making money than building a relationship.

My relationships always started out great. But then, after a while, the girl seemed like an intrusion to what I wanted out of life at the time.

I'm not gonna lie. I was a jerk. An asshole.

I'd stand the girl up for dates and lie about why I didn't show up.

Break promises I knew I was going to break before I made them.

I'd ignore her.

I wouldn't call for days (and only when there was nothing better to do).

I'd make fun of her - even if she was hot.

I'd cheat.

I was terrible.

But, through it all - a few years later - I'm still friends with these girls - and women.

I'm not staying in this plush house just because I have pretty face - which I don't...

So, I have to make some kind of decision.

This could be God forgiving me for all of my past sins and giving me my final chance for true love. You never know...

Think about the time (or times) you've had "a good thing" and let it slip away.

I know you would turn back the clock if you could.

You know how hard it is to find something just as good as what you had and how it's almost impossible to find something better.

Only a handful of us are wise enough or lucky enough to hold onto a good man or good woman.

I don't know why but that's just the way it is. Some of us get distracted by the Desires of life and some of us are smart enough to be satisfied with the Blessings we get in life.

I don't plan on continuing my life in circles and going on this merry-go-round of ups and downs.

I'm gonna take advantage of this Blessing - whether it's a friendship or a serious relationship. I know the difference lies within me. Hopefully, I won't have to compromise too much (or FIGHT too much) for it.

Whatever.

If it's "a good thing", I'm not letting it get away from me this time.

- loveqna

Be Careful Who You Make Love To - They'll Work Your Ass To Death

I remember a few months back when people where asking me about becoming a room mate and where I lived and this and that, and I'd have to tell them I already had a roommate. Almost all of them would ask if I lived with a girl or a guy. And, whenever I told them it was a girl (a woman) their eyeballs would damn near pop out of their sockets.

I said, "Damn... Do I look that bad that I can't have a woman for a roommate?"

A couple of them saw this chick and went nuts.

Now, my roommate isn't a beauty queen but she has style and a nice phat ass. I mean, her booty is round and plump. Almost perfect. Men and women are always admiring it and giving her compliments on her body because she stays in shape and she's slim and trim.

So, anyway, she dropped me off at work a few times and a few of my homeboys (or mates) happen to catch a glimpse and ask me why I hadn't tried to tap that ass.

Well, let me just say that tappin' that ass can sometimes lead to a world of trouble...

I've been here for almost a year and I ain't tried to tap that ass yet. And, still, I've been working my ass off!

- washing her car

- killing all kinds of bugs

- vacuuming and cleaning rugs

- cleaning up for HER guests

- running errands

- plumbing work

- picking up her meals when she works from home

- fixing door locks

etc.

Can you imagine all the other kind of chores I'd be doing if I tapped that ass???

I don't care if you're a guy or girl trying to "hook-up" with a guy or girl. If you tap that ass, there will be consequences... You'll have some needy lovesick guy or girl hounding you all the time for companionship. Or, you'll have a manipulating asshole thinking that you're in a "committed relationship" and that you should be devoted to him or her and do whatever he or she asks. It'll be like being in a marriage from hell.

I don't care if everything starts out warm and fuzzy. I don't care if you're friends with benefits. Once you tap that ass, you've committed yourself.

Unless you're a player, you're stuck.

And, do you remember my week-long courtship with the "female player"?

That girl tried to get me in the sack before I could come up with a plan to get HER in the sack!

I knew she was up to something that's why I kept skirting around the issue.

I wasn't about to let that bitch drain my bank account dry!

And, now, this new chick...

I like this girl as a friend. And, really, I want to keep it that way.

I don't want to think about a relationship or any kind of romantic interlude.

I just want us to stay friends and have fun and after we get to know each other - whatever happens - happens.

But...

She's already imposing. If I tell her "no" or not to do something, she doesn't hear me at all. Stubborn as hell. Even if I beg. Hell, I can't put up with that. It'll drive me nuts! And, I don't wanna end up hating this girl.

She's already telling me that she misses me and that she enjoys our conversations and that she thinks about me often.

I was in a state of shock. I said, "Damn!"

I can't lie. I think about her too - Often.

But, I'm not gonna say that! At least not to her. I don't want things to get "hot and heavy" too soon.

This is a strong-willed woman. And already, I'm scared for my freedom.

Man, I think once I tap that ass, I'll never see the light of day again.

I won't be under her spell, but more than likely, under her control.

She's not the type of woman that takes "no" for an answer and that's what I'm afraid of.

She won't listen to reason.

And, she hugs me and holds my hand and cuddles in public and I just don't know what the hell to do. It's cool... but in certain situations it's not cool.

Then, she doesn't want me to ride my bike in the cold and makes a big deal about That. And...

Don't get me wrong. I WANT someone like that. I want a woman who's gonna be "down for me" and have my back and generous and affectionate, but I got a feeling she's gonna take over once I tap that ass.

I got a feeling all of that love and affection I'm getting right now is gonna turn into Demands and hard labor later.

My instincts are seldom wrong! I've been developing them for a few years now and trust me, they have rarely failed to be right.

I've been with other chicks and "tapped that ass", and suddenly became stuck in a relationship.

I'm a pushover and I know it. That's why I have to be extra careful and exercise self-control.

I know this is a risk but I'm gonna take my chances at the friendship route and see how things go from there.

If I miss out on a good thing, then I'll just have to "charge it to the game". But, if she sticks around and we take things to a deeper level, then maybe we're meant to be.

Either way, I ain't gonna tap that ass no time soon and give up living the good life!

And, you guys and girls should take heed and do the same!

Hell, now that I think about it: whether you tap that ass or don't tap that ass, either way, you're screwed.

- loveqna

Don't Let A Toxic Relationship Bring You Down

Queen - 'Another One Bites the Dust'



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These mean-ass manipulating men and crazy-ass psychotic women make my blood boil!

I'm sick ovem!

Why in the hell would you let that asshole play games with your mind and emotions???

Why are you allowing that scumbag to manipulate you and abuse you?

Why are you settling for a sub-standard way of surviving when you could be living the life you deserve and enjoying life to the fullest???

You don't have to settle for a life of heartache and pain and loneliness!

This way of life that you're living only robs you of the Joy and Happiness that every man and woman deserves.

Men and Women weren't meant to live in Fear all the days of their life!

You shouldn't be cut off from your Friends and Family!

You deserve to be loved just like everybody else!

Tell that no-good rat-soup eatin' bum to kiss your ass!

Go to the people that REALLY love and appreciate you. People who really care about you. People who want to see you happy.

Why should you stay in a place with a crumbcake-ass loser who doesn't inspire you, who doesn't love you, who gets joy out of using and abusing you, and who's crazy as hell???

I'm sick of these damn tyrants! Lock every last one of their asses up!

Let THEM get abused and mistreated and neglected for a while and see how they like it.

Don't believe their lies and guilt-tripping schemes.

They'll say and do anything to keep you around as their "punching bag".

Face it! The bum is crazy!

Ain't no need in you sticking around and trying to change him (or her).

That lousy-ass rat ain't gonna change until he or she is ready to change.

He or She ain't gonna stop playing games until he or she is Ready to stop playing games.

Sometimes, you've just gotta give people like that their space so that they can see the error of their ways.

You can talk and beg and plead and try to compromise until you are blue in the face and they still won't have a clue about all the wrong they're doing.

Let that guy or girl go. Man-up or Woman-up and move on with your life. The Drama ain't worth it.

Being played and cheated on and berated and cussed out every day ain't worth it.

You HAVE a Higher Power within you. You ARE strong enough to survive on your own.

We all have self-preservation instincts. You just have to have the courage to let yours take over and not fall to your knees and simply accept the abuse that comes your way.

Look for resources and help for a way out of the mess you're in!

Be a Survivor! Be Strong!

Resort to your own bag of tricks, games, and tactics to get yourself out this hell-hole that you've fell in.

You might think you can't move on with your life because you NEED this person financially or for security or because you're in love or because you're afraid to tell him or her that you're NOT in love anymore, but you can do it...

Plan your "escape", Stack your cash, make some connections, and LEAVE.

Now, if this person is REALLY crazy as hell, don't go anywhere that he or she can track you down!

If anything, use reverse psychology! Play the jealous lover role! Or, something. Nag him or her to death. Be a match-maker and hook him or her up with one of your enemies. Let those two bums have each other.

Do anything to make him or her LEAVE YOU (if the bum is crazy as hell).

If you have a good support system like family or friends or a co-worker to stay with for a while until you get back on your feet, that's always a plus. Just make sure you respect their hospitality, their friendship, and their home, so that will be there for you if ever you should need them again.

You should have plenty of people on your side. Everybody knows that's no way for anyone to live or be treated and are willing to help any way they can.

You just have to be willing to have the strength to help yourself.

I know some people feel beat-down so much that they're depressed and lack the motivation to make a move and get out their terrible situation. But, sometimes, you've just got to mad and say "the hell with shit! I'm out!"

And, pack your bags and get gone.

Don't worry about what you're gonna lose or what you're leaving behind... Forget that crap! Half of that stuff you don't need and the other half you probably weren't using anyway!

Some people will stick around in dire situations and suffer themselves to be another person's personal maid or slave just because they enjoy the comforts of the person's home or just because they're able to enjoy free cable and Internet service. WTF???

Man... Screw those luxuries and go and get your own shit!

I know a toxic relationship is a hundred times worse with an abusive psycho and you might fear making a move because you've never been on your own... But, you can Learn.

Screw those luxuries and go and get your own shit!

People out there are willing to help you.

Get out and ask questions and learn and talk to friends and family and whoever else and find you a safe place or a room mate and move on with your life.

You can do it!

Hell, I've made mistakes all my life and look at me now!

I ain't livin' "high on the hog", but guess what?

Life Is Good.

And, it can be good for you too. All you have to do is start making moves.

- loveqna

The Best Week Ever

I've already mentioned this year being a great year for me, but this past week has been awesome as well.

I attended that big Thanksgiving dinner on Thursday.

I made more friends.

I had a pic-nic on the hood of a car with a cute girl at 2:00AM Saturday night. She's somewhat strange and bohemian, but nice.

I went to church. (don't be surprised.) Man, there were so many babes in there, I know the Lord is gonna punish me for watching all of that booty. But, I couldn't help it. I tried not look (really, I did), but those church-going girls were beautiful. They all looked liked booty-licious angels. Mmph! Lord, forgive me.

I went hiking on Sunday with about seven or eight other people who were all sweet and friendly.

We sat around and chilled at the lake for a while and talked. It was cool.

I became closer to the friends I already had and made even more friends.

And, I got the opportunity to practice a few of my conversation skills. And, I felt cool and comfortable most of the time.

I met a sweet young lady who may be compatible to me as a close friend or maybe more.

AND...

I saw a damn meteorite!

Hell, Even my horoscope was positive this week.

I don't know if any of this means anything or not but it's good for a change - just to do something different besides work and think and drink.

I've been getting so caught-up in that monotonous routine that I was starting to get bored with my life.

For the past few weeks since the Halloween Party I really haven't been doing much of anything. At least nothing exciting.

When my co-worker invited me to spend Thanksgiving with her and her family and friends, I was little bit taken aback because I hardly know this girl. But, I went anyway because she's a co-worker and "good people". And, since I was on a streak with all of these parties, I thought I'd better keep enjoying generosity while it lasted.

The Thanksgiving Dinner was great. Good food everywhere!

Man, I only had two plates (the second one with only vegetables, bread, and stuffing) but I was as full as a pot-bellied baby. I was disgusted with myself but the food was delicious. They had everything you could imagine and everyone chipped in and brought a dish - or, helped out in one way or another. It was a real family atmosphere.

Oh, I forgot to mention that she bought a Christmas tree...

We all crowded around or sat around and talked and hung ornaments on it. It was nice.

I was a bit nervous at first because I didn't know I would be surrounded by Christians, but luckily I had a few beers beforehand and when they started to take effect I felt more at ease.

The conversations and good times flowed so well, I didn't know how to say "goodbye".

Now, let me tell you about the shooting star I saw on my way home Friday night...

I was cruising along the sidewalk on my bike when I noticed this streak of light high up in sky to my right. It zipped across the sky so fast I couldn't determine what the hell it was.

At first, I thought it was fireworks because the colors were white at the tip and maybe yellow and blue. I can't remember if the blue was before the yellow or after because I was in shock.

It was going so fast, I immediately said to myself, "Hell naw. That ain't firework going that damn fast."

So, I thought it was a jet. But it was going TOO damn fast. And, it was descending. So, I knew it wasn't a jet. Plus, there was no loud jet engine sound.

Then, I said, "Damn! Is that a UFO???"

As you can see, I had almost lost my damn mind...

I quickly recovered and realized what it was - a shooting star (or meteorite if you wanna get technical).

It took me a while to get to the area where I deemed it would've landed or crashed but I never saw or heard any explosion or collision.

There was, however, a burnt smell (a sort of stench) looming in the air as I got closer but I couldn't really tell if it was from the fumes of the traffic or what, so I just accepted what I had seen and didn't investigate any further.

But, I wonder if it was a sign of what was coming up that weekend with me going to church and meeting new people and getting to know this babe who may be compatible to me as a close friend or maybe more. ???

I'm not gonna speculate about it.

I enjoy being single but, if the opportunity to meet a good woman arises, I'm not gonna pass on it. So, we'll see.

I'm not really sure what this post was about but, I guess the gist of it is: If you wanna have a good time and enjoy life and see some amazing things AND meet some amazing people, you have to get out of the house and explore the world around you.

I know there's a lot of traffic out there, but there's a lot of Love too.

Get up and check it out.

And, don't be afraid of Christians... they're not all fanatics.

- loveqna