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Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Find Your Alter-Ego And Get Rid Of Shyness


One of the best ways to improve confidence is through preparation for an event or situation. When you know (or sort of know) what to expect or what might happen, you don't have to think and worry about the unexpected. Your brain and instincts takeover and allow you to enjoy the moment. You know what's coming and what's about to happen so you don't feel anxious and nervous.

You become more engaged with your date (or friends)... And you're able to relax and have a good time.

Or, show off your "skills" and wit.

Or, ask better questions to get others engaged and talking.

Preparation is something you should practice often. It will make social situations become a lot more natural to you. And, you'll feel just as comfortable and have a good time like everyone else.

But, another way to improve your confidence and to get rid of shyness is by DISCOVERING and USING your Alter-Ego. We all have one - a fierce and courageous personality that roams on a higher level within our psyche.

A higher level of Energy.

A higher Force.

A higher Power.

A higher level of strength and confidence that we are able to tap into IF we are willing to move out of our comfort zone and face our challenges and tests in life.

Beyonce talked about having an alter-ego: "Sasha Fierce".

Other celebrities use their alter-egos to conquer stage fright or to deal with the public.

Some salespeople rely on their alter-ego to deal with strong-willed customers in negotiations.

Many ordinary people (especially the ones who go out to night clubs) have alter-egos that they call upon before they go out at night, because they want to feel confident and have a good time.

Actors, I'm sure, have an alter-ego (or maybe even multiple personalities) to get into their acting roles as superheroes or action heroes or as sex symbols.

There's nothing wrong with that. You should dig deep and discover yours.

Sometimes you have to get in the Zone and take your mindset to that next level if you want to conquer your fears - or a particular situation.

I'm convinced that a lot of guys and girls (women) out there could discover who they are in life or what they really want to do in life if they weren't afraid to be WHO THEY REALLY ARE. They've always been what OTHER people wanted them to be. They've always done what OTHER people have wanted them to do. Their True Self (maybe their true Ego) is hidden way way Way down deep within their psyche (or subconscious). And, they're afraid to let it out!

These shy and awkward-feeling folks are "out of touch" and afraid to approach and meet new people.

They're afraid to face certain challenges in life.

They only dream about the life they want and don't believe in themselves enough to make that life come true.

They need to say "Fuck it", and just go for what they want out of life.

Don't worry about being rejected or failing or making mistakes. Just do it.

Everybody makes mistakes.

Learn. Use your instincts. Do your due diligence and research so that you can minimize mistakes. But, don't let Fear keep you from moving forward or growing or meeting new people.

Use your Alter-Ego and boost your Confidence!

Sometimes it may take another person to bring out that extra boost and confidence you need.

It's possible a mentor can help you find your true self or your alter-ego.

Sometimes it might take a certain situation to bring out these emotions or the character and Power you need to change your life or boost your Confidence.

Don't fall into the "cookie-cutter" model...

Alter-Egos come in all shapes and sizes and colors.

Some are like Bill Gates, the founder of Microsoft.

Some are like Edward Cullen, the vampire character of the Twilight Series.

Some are like Oprah Winfrey, the media mogul.

Some are like RockStars.

Some have the coolness and suaveness of the actor Denzel Washington.

Yours will be unique to You and give you the strength you need to be a true Leader.

You only have to find ways to draw it out.

And, it will be unique and stronger than you ever imagined.

Walk tall and let it overtake your senses, emotions, character, and personality. And when it does, hold fast to it and do the right thing for your life and for love.

- loveqna

Friday, November 25, 2011

Enjoy The Moment - Accept The Bad And The Good

The Script - Before The Worst



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Just got home from a Thanksgiving Dinner hosted by a friend and I'm a little tipsy, but I was just thinking...

This year has been great (one of the best years of my life).

But, it hasn't been all "peaches and cream".

I've been stressed out, disappointed, confused, depressed, overworked, almost ran-down by crazy drivers on the road, dealt with irate customers, seen some of my friends fired, missed opportunities... I've suffered some Trials and Tribulations! And, I'm sure there will plenty more where all that came from!

But, if I didn't have the blessings of making new friends and finding that job and having the health and strength that I have to write or ride my bike, I'd probably have a lot more trials and tribulations than what I've suffered thus far. I'd be broke as hell, homeless, and wouldn't have a friend in the world.

I know I talk crap about bad relationships. And, I can't stand drama. But, sometimes, the drama that you suffer is nothing compared to all the good and all the blessings that one has by being in a relationship.

These past few weeks, I've talked to quite a few old couples (mostly the men) who've been with their wives for at least 20-something years or more (up to 48 years), and almost every time I've asked these guys how long they've been in their relationship, they've responded with: "Too long." But then, they laugh. Most of them have admitted that their relationship has had its ups and downs, but all-in-all, they felt they had done the right thing by getting married.

Now, I know some men (and women) don't see any benefits of being in a relationship because of all the B.S. they go through with a tyrant, or a nagging loudmouth, or a lazy bum, or a manipulating jerk, but it's because sometimes these scumbags weasel their way into people's lives or because we Bring them into our lives. We don't see the potential drama or the negative side of this person until it's too late and we've committed ourselves. BUT! if there is real compatibility - and a connection - love and good times and real benefits can be had. But, I see from observing many of these younger couples that it requires patience and sometimes biting your tongue to avoid turning a difference of opinion (or an angry woman) into all-out War.

Now, I'm not saying that anyone should be a "kept man" or "submissive woman", but you have to realize that there is gonna be drama at some point when you're interacting with other people. Hell, you're gonna have drama in your life as long as you live on this earth. There's just no way around it. No matter who you're involved with! Even your SoulMate is going to rub you the wrong way every now and then and get on your nerves - or, do something you don't like. But, some things aren't worth fighting for or getting into an argument over. Some things are best to accept as B.S. or foolishness and just move on.

Now, Abuse! I don't think ANYONE should tolerate. If you're being abused and severely mistreated, Hell yeah, I think you should dump the relationship and leave the abuser as quickly as possible. Or, if you're not compatible and this person constantly gets on your nerves, maybe you should leave. But, if you can make your relationship better by putting a little more effort into it or by comprising or by being a little more patient, then you should give a little to get the love and benefits that you deserve. In the long run, it's worth it to have someone by your side that cares for you and wants to see you advance and succeed in life.

This year, I've been to several parties hosted by co-workers. And, at each of these parties there have been older couples in their 30s, 40s, and 50s (some in their sixties), and almost all of them live (or seemingly live) good lives. They have nice homes, cars, toys, hobbies to keep them busy, gadgets, good friends, good vibes going on, they travel, and some even have devoted kids. These are just a few of the benefits they've acquired by being together. I'm sure they have their ups and downs and drama in their relationship, but by sticking together, it's teamwork that has gotten them where they are.

Some people can't get those simple benefits by being alone. They spend their whole lives going in circles or going downhill because they don't have the love and inspiration (or Motivation) they need to move up in life.

Hell, even these single folks who are doing well in life might as well commit to someone... They can't escape the drama either! They get played, dumped, and have to deal with arguments and drama in their dating and on-again-off-again relationships.

Why grow old without Love and companionship only to have the state or someone strip all that you own from you and put you some old folks home where you'll probably end up all alone and "captive" anyway?

At least enjoy all that you can out of life besides a dog or a few cats or flowers...

Those people ain't getting no real Benefits!

Some of these people don't even grow spiritually. You can look at them and see it in their eyes and faces. They don't care about anything else except staying alive and keeping the world out of their lives. But, they're lonely as hell. That's why they desperately cling to those pets.

Don't DO that to yourself!

Sometimes you've got to walk through the Valley of Shadows Of Death to get to the Land Of Milk and Honey!

Don't be afraid of the drama. Hate it but learn to deal with it and conquer it, because you're gonna have drama in your life whether you want it or not and whether you're single or not. So, accept it. Be prepared for it. Fight it.

Hardly anything good in life comes without hard work and pain, we all know this, so don't fool yourself. Be prepared to take the bad along with the good, and get all the Love and Benefits that you deserve.

- loveqna

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

VIDEO - Red Red Wine - UB40

Some days I feel like "Dave Matthews Band"; Some days I feel like Bob Marley - Or, in this case, UB40...

Red Red Wine - UB40



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- loveqna

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Why A Girl or Guy Didn't Call After You Gave Your Number

There are a lot of people out there who play games, and, a lot of people out there who don't know what they want.

Some of them get phone numbers for fun (or sport). Some of them get phone numbers and are afraid to call. Some of them will get a person's phone number and don't know what the hell they want to do.

I know dealing with these kind of people are frustrating - especially if you're interested, but don't lose any sleep over these bums. There's nothing wrong with you, it's just that THIS person may be a player or a waffler.

Or, the timing wasn't right and there were no good vibes.

Sometimes people just aren't interested but they'll accept a phone number anyway just to be nice. I'm sure you've been in that position where you might get someone's number so that you don't have to turn the person down and hurt their feelings.

But, there could be any reason.

Maybe there was no connection. Maybe he or she was looking for "Love" or a spark and didn't feel it. Maybe he or she didn't feel you two were compatible. So what. Don't let it get you down. Go on with your life.

Sometimes we take an "encounter" or date WAY too seriously. Some of us "fall in love" WAY too fast.

Some people meet an attractive person who seems sweet, kind, and thoughtful. And, there seems to be a connection, and almost instantly - "it's love".

Half the time, it's only infatuation.

In reality, there's no connection, or chemistry, or we know so little about the person except that they have a good sense of humor. Most of the time, we've only known this person for a few minutes or a few hours. We don't even know him or her on a deeper level. Yet, we're head over heels in love.

Why???

Most of the time it's because there seems to be good vibes going on between us - like there's a true connection.

That first encounter is usually all jokes and laughs the first time we meet. Or, we're turned on by their looks or physical appearance. Or, he or she seems kind and thoughtful and treat us with respect so we think he or she is interested in getting to know us on a romantic level.

But, we don't know this person. We don't know he or she is really about. But, we're swooning over this person like we know all there is know about him or her. He or she could be a total asshole. Therefore, contain yourself.

Get to know this girl or guy and find out what he or she is REALLY about!

How many times have you met someone, fell in love, and later on the person changes and starts acting like a jerk?

It happens all the time.

He or she was probably a jerk all along and we just didn't see it. We only saw what we wanted to see. Or, perhaps, trickery.

What do we REALLY KNOW?

Not much.

So, why should you be so anxious about him or her calling?

I know you want to get to know this prospect better, but don't put your life on hold waiting for him or her to come running to you with open arms.

Move on with your life, keep doing what you do, and "see how things turn out".

I've sen guys and girls give out their phone numbers to people and check their phone every five minutes to see if the person they've given their number to has called. It's a pitiful sight to see.

Now, I'm not saying that you shouldn't put a little bit of effort into the courtship. If you have the guy or girl's phone number, then call. But, if he or she is not showing any interest or making an effort to call you, why sweat it?

Move on.

But, let me list a few reasons why a prospect might not call...

Now, whether he or she is a player, a waffler, or just didn't feel any chemistry is important.

Use your instincts to see who or what you're dealing with.

A man or woman who's genuine and wants to get to know you will find a way to call no matter how busy he or she is.

But, the other types won't call if...

- they met what they believe to be a better option
- they're only getting phone numbers for sport or to impress friends with how many phone numbers they can get
- they heard something negative about you - found out you have baggage or issues
- he or she is a waffler and changed his or her mind about dating or getting involved - prefers to be alone.
- he or she is a cheater and had to destroy or lose the phone number
- the waffler doubts himself or herself as far as offering a good time
- doesn't believe you two are really compatible or felt no chemistry
- he or she found out a friend is also interested in you and doesn't want to ruin that friendship
- he or she is just testing his or her skills to see if you would give him or her your phone number (want to know that they're still desirable)
- they're just flirting for fun (teasing)

And, sometimes phone numbers get lost or don't get saved.

And, there are various other reasons why people don't call when they get a phone number. Every man and woman has their own reasons for doing what they do.

But, again: I wouldn't lose any sleep over it.

Nine times out of ten, there's nothing wrong with you. Sometimes the timing just isn't right. Sometimes the "vibe" just isn't there. Sometimes people expect too much too soon. And, sometimes players and wafflers have a way of creeping into our lives.

Whatever. Move on.

If you see the bum again, act like you never met.

If they want your number again, play hard to get.

You ain't got time for these games and confusion.

Remember: There are plenty of fish in the sea, so why play in the pond with toads?

Tell'em to kiss your ass.

- loveqna

Saturday, November 19, 2011

Why Do Some People Think Being A Virgin Is A Bad Thing?



I know I should be updating some of my earlier posts in which I published only notes, but I have to comment on a subject I recently came across on the Net.

There was a 27 year-old woman on a forum who was wondering whether or not she would still be desirable if guys found out that she was a virgin. And, there are lots of people out there with the same "blessing" who are wondering the same thing.

And, I say (many people say), "of course a guy or girl will date you if you're a virgin". It's not like you have the plague or something.

A virgin might be inexperienced (and some people might not like that), but overall, it's not a bad thing. Especially, if you've been focused and moved forward in your life and have grown spiritually - or even started a career and have something to show for yourself.

If you've "abstained" to stay pure for marriage, that's not a bad thing either. But, you'd better be "skilled" when the honeymoon comes or else your love life is going to boring as hell. Maybe. (some virgins are closet freaks and sexual addicts waiting to explode)

Some men and women would actually prefer to meet a virgin and settle down with him or her because of the virgin being pure.

Some men (I don't know how women feel about this) would love to teach a virgin the ways of Love and how to make love. Maybe it's even a fantasy for some guys, who knows.

Many people also believe virgins are more likely to be faithful because:

Number One - They have already proven they have self-control

Two - Many virgins (probably most) fall in love with their first lover

Three - A virgin is not going to be tempted sexually by a guy or girl no matter how hot the guy or girl is

But, there's more...

Can you imagine how hard it is for a single guy with no kids to meet a twenty-one year-old (or older) woman with no kids??? It's like searching for a needle in a damn haystack!

Hell, you'd be lucky to find a 27 year-old who ain't a grandma nowdays!

I'm just kidding.

But, baby-mamas and baby-daddies ARE running rampant as hell around here, aren't they???

But, seriously...

If you're a virgin, it ain't nothing to be ashamed about.

Don't feel pressured or odd because of what your friends and family says. They're just teasing you and having a bit of fun. And don't let the haters and manipulators talk you into doing something you might regret. They just want you to feel their pain. If any of them could do it all over again, they would wait too.


The only people that don't get this are the ones who have sex but who have no common sense or wisdom about love. or, they have no real relationship goals. they're just going with the flow of life.

You're cute and have great character. That's a prize catch by any man's (or woman's) standards.

As long as you and your choice are compatible and know how to enjoy all aspects of Life (sex included), you're gonna have a wonderful relationship. Just make sure you have chemistry on all levels before you settle down.

Everybody knows that virgins rock.

- loveqna

Friday, November 18, 2011

Conversation Topics - How To Talk About Yourself

Yuck!

These Hi-Def TVs are sweet, but have you ever seen the actors and actresses on one of these things??? Some of the women I thought were hot - really look terrible... These TVs show off all of their flaws and everything! Thank God for makeup and lighting... It helps a little.

I hate this TV.


Anyway...

Here is another conversation tip to consider when you're out on a date or talking on the phone or socializing with a group of your buddies this week.

Talk about yourself.

- what good news (or bad) have you heard lately and how do YOU feel about it

- what is the funniest thing happened to you this week

- what is the weirdest thing you've seen today

- have you thought about cooking anything lately or learning how to cook

- do you have a dilemma

- are you sick and tired of working at your current job

- have you had any ailments lately

- are you thinking about going back to school/college and getting a degree

- have you had poor customer service lately

- is there a place you hate to go because the employees are "ghetto"

- did you hear anything interesting on radio show this morning

- has someone offended you or pissed you off recently because they are a jerk or deceitful

- have you thought about going on a diet or working out

- are you planning a trip or vacation

- have you gotten a good deal on anything lately

- have you been to any new restaurants or stores lately

- do you need ideas for a gift to get for a friend or your Mom or someone who's sick

- are you sick and tired of being treated like dirt by a friend, your boss, or your mate

- is someone trying to manipulate you

- have you caught someone in a big lie recently

- do you feel you're being overworked at home or at work

- is one of your family members or friends or children involved in drama that you have to help solve

- have you been overcharged or sold a defective product recently

- what do you remember about the good old days

- is there restaurant or venue or event that you miss going to

- who is your favorite team and what do you think they'll do this year

- have you heard anything shocking about anybody lately (scandal; death; dating; termination)

- do you have any exciting plans this week

And, you could go on and on and on...

Remember, many statements about yourself or your life are like "bulletins" that tell people what you got going on or how you feel or what your plans are or what you're thinking. Your preferences. Whatever. And, it's not always a bad thing.

Sometimes, talking about yourself can spark a good conversation about a specific issue or dilemma the person you're talking to is having. Maybe you could help them solve their problem or give them a chance to vent.

Maybe you got a good deal on food or gas. Who wouldn't want to know about that???

With these types of conversations, you could easily move from small-talk to deeper levels of thought and on to even deeper levels of conversations that can bring about a connection and understanding between you and a new prospect - or your friends and family.

And, don't feel too shy to do a little trash-talking about how good your favorite team is or how you overcame an obstacle or how you got a hook-up on a sweet deal. Be excited. Enjoy the things in your life every once and a while. It's only when people go on and on and on about themselves or what they're doing, that sickens others. The key is to read other people's interest (from their eyes, body language, and responses).

And, I know I'm wearing you down with all of this yappin' and jibba-jabba that I'm doing right now, so I'm gonna let you go.

Take care and don't be shy!

Have Fun! That's the key.

- loveqna

What Are Men Thinking When...



Okay, the weekend is officially here, and for those of you who are looking to improve your conversation skills, approach skills, and social skills, here is the first of two posts for this week.

And, I must insert this disclaimer: You all know that I'm not a "pick-up artist" or "expert", so (please) for "top-notch" advice, review one of those type of sites.

Today, I had a few other topics in mind to post but somehow I ended up surfing the Net and came across an interesting question (and "reality") on Yahoo I want to share with you.

You could call this a simple observation but, I think it's a real benefit and could take some of the pressure off of approaching some good prospects if you use your instincts and "read" them well.

The one thing I like about this post is that it CONFIRMS that men and women DO appreciate eye-candy and are checking each other out all the time.

The problem is: Women are just as much afraid of rejection as men are! So, most good people - who are good for each other - never meet.

And, no one is the blame. It's Fear on all of our part that keeps two good people from getting together.

So, Free Your Mind and Use Your Instincts and let Karma and Destiny take their proper course. There are going to be people out checking you out. And, some will want to get to know you. But, it may be up to you to step-up and invite them to experience your world.

Anyway... Here's the little gem that I discovered.

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QUESTION ON YAHOO:

What R men thinking in a grocery store, when eye contact is made with a beautiful woman?

Ok, Im walking in the grocery store, pushing that awful dreadful cart, thinking what do i put together for dinner tonight? I see a handsome guy pushing his cart, he looks me in the eye, no friendly smile, but I seen something there, in his eyes. And he looks away fast!. Ok, I know what Im thinking when I see a good looking guy(even an unattractive guy), Im thinking "hhhmm, wonder how good he is in bed?" I want an HONEST answer from those guys who know what im talking about. Come on ladies, you know the scenerial im describing, even those women with their hair tied in a knot, their so lady like and always on her best behavior, After all she is on the PTA. You wonder the same thing Im asking about.. Hey guys if you can answer this question. A whole lot of men will get dates in the grocery store line. You can be like one of those last minute items in the check out lane. Women will prob have alot more nerve to ask you out if she thinks your thinking what I think your thinking.
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Okay, after reading that question, I simply came up with a lot of thoughts I've had and comments I've heard other guys (and girls) mention.

But, you know how a group of guys are when they're together checking out a hot chick.

And, a group of ladies ain't no different.

So, I won't post all of the stuff I've heard.

But, all of it is not "dirty" or vulgar or perverted.

There ARE guys out there that love the way your hair looks. Or, guys out there that love your smile. Or, the way you dress. Or, your nails. All men aren't thinking "dirty" thoughts or fantasizing about seeing you naked. Someone may really be interested in getting to know you on a deeper level.

Sometimes, you can see what they're thinking in their eyes... Sometimes, you can see it in their actions or by the way they act when you are near.

But, I know it's hard for some of you beautiful women out there. You girls get approached, whistled at, and flirted with all the time, so, it's difficult to know who's "for real" and who just wants to get into your pants. Still, even a man who appreciates your beauty may want more with you than just sex. You just have to use your instincts to see beyond the B.S. or shyness.

But, let me move on before I get off topic...

Here's my response to "what men are thinking when they see a hot chick at a grocery store or somewhere out in public":

- "Damn, she's fine."
- "Damn, her hair is pretty."
- "Good Lord! Look at that booty!"
- "I know she's got a man."
- "Damn, what should I say?"
- "Damn, that bitch is bad."
- "Wooowe... that ass is phat."
- "damn, she looks sexy with what she has on."
- "good Lord, she smells good! I wonder what kind of perfume she has on."
- "I know I don't have a chance with her. Ain't no use in me even trying."
- "I know a girl like that ain't single."
- "that girl is hot and don't even know it."
- "she has a pretty smile."
- "Damn, she has some sexy lips."
- "Damn! How many kids has she got???"
- "Boy, I wouldn't mind hittin' that!"
- "If that was my girl, I'd never let her go."
- "damn, I don't know what to say to this chick."
- "wow... look at little mama. She's hot."
- "damn. she's workin' that thing. Look at her shaking that booty. she knows I'm lookin'."
- "she knows she's fine."
- "damn. I bet she's a wildcat in bed."
- "I wonder where her man is at? Is she alone? Is she single? Should I approach?" (lol)
- "damn, she has a sexy walk."
- "She's cute. I wonder what religion she is."
- "damn, she's fine. I wonder how old she is?"
- "damn, she has some pretty skin."
- "Where have I seen her before?"
- "I'd make her my wife."
- "Damn, something TOLD me to change clothes before I went to the store!"
- "ohhhh, I got to hollah at this chick..."
- "damn, she has a nice shape/body."
- "ohhh, I think she's checking me out. Damn... what should I say???"

You never know what's going on in someone's mind but these are a few of the things I've heard guys (and women) say when they notice a cute guy or girl out in public.

Now, the thing about these comments is obvious. People DO look and judge and WANT to approach you or avoid you based on your appearances. So, make sure you're smelling as fresh as daisies and looking "tight and right" when you go out to party and socialize.

No matter what your style is, just make sure you're representing class and style and what you're all about to the fullest.

And Have Fun! Be Approachable!

If you're interested, show him with a smile or a compliment - or, even a joke. Sometimes, that's what a "hunter" needs. So, be bold and put him at ease. And, he might have the balls to let you know what's really on his mind.

That's the way to get closer to that secret admirer who's checking you out!

- loveqna

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Show Your Girl Some Love

R. Kelly - Your Body's Callin



Video provided by - RKellyVEVO

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It's cool to be on casual standing with your girl to the point where you can relax and let your hair down and "just be You", but sometimes, you've got to be a little bit romantic and suave.

We all know hunks appreciate a little attention and being romanced and appreciated every now and then - but, so do our women!

Now, I know you know how to make love to your woman (mentally and emotionally). So, I'm not doubting your skills. But, every once and a while, I know we brothers have a tendency to get a little lax and take our partners for granted.

We don't show them enough love and appreciation. Or, flirt with them. Or, laugh and have a good time with them.

We don't put enough passion into intimacy and love-making.

We get slack on doing the little things that show we care.

I know sometimes (or often) kids might be a distraction. Or, work might ruin the mood. Or, sometimes, you don't know whether she wants you to touch her not. Or, she might give you the impression that she doesn't want to be bothered... But, don't forget that she's human and needs some lovin' every now and then.

For some of us, making that move requires more work than necessary - for whatever reason. (sometimes, women can be a sourpuss, I know) But, you have to use your charm and tact to get her to drop her defenses so that you can make love to her the way she wants to be made love to.

It might require flowers, candy, a small gift or trinket for some guys. It may even require dinner and a movie. Or, you may even have to get a little bit "freaky" and try something new (a fantasy of hers) that might excite her. Sometimes, kindness and a sweet conversation or just showing that you care and thinking about her helps. That has worked for me - even with some of the most grouchy-est of women.

Do the unthinkable...

- a love note
- a flirtatious phone call or text
- a pedicure or massage (from you or a spa)
- a foot rub or back rub
- a stroll in the park
- or, give that booty a slap

Whatever! Something simple. Anything.

Did you know that most grouchy women are grouchy because they aren't being shown enough love and romance???

Consider all of those mean-ass women you know! Do you think those witches would act that way if they were getting loved down properly??? Hell no. They'd be as sweet as pie.

They wouldn't come to work grumpy as hell spoiling the mood for everybody else. Or, giving you poor customer service. Or, be so "uppity" and ill-mannered when you ask them a simple question. They'd be cool, civil, and easy to get along with like most of the women in the world.

Am I saying that you have to change or be a lap-dog? Hell no. A woman ain't gonna respect a man who kisses her ass.

Am I saying that you have to cater to your woman every now and then? Yeah. Sometimes you have to treat that broad like a Queen if you expect to be treated like a King.

Sometimes you have to be sweet if you want the Royal Treatment.

Every day is a good day when you can make love to her Mind, Body, or Soul...

It's good for everybody when you show just how wise and skilled you are in the ways of Love.

And a lot of women don't require much.

Seriously.

If she does, you've probably done spoiled her. Or, somebody has.

But, that still doesn't matter.

If you know your woman and know her heart, you can still make her feel complete and satisfied and proud to have you as her Boo. And, I'm not saying that she doesn't feel anything of those things now. But, for some guys out there, I know they've hit a brick wall in their relationship and almost every aspect of it is just dull as hell.

Man, stop sittin' around miserable and get to work!

Be smooth with some charm and tact get things poppin' again!

Just as a strong woman has the power to inspire her man, a strong man like yourself has the power within him to inspire his woman!

If you've got a good thing, don't let it fall by the wayside...

Be mysterious. Be coy. Be playful. Be surprising. Be adventurous.

Make love to your Honey and blow her Mind.

- loveqna

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

It's Okay To Flirt, Baby, But Don't Tease Me


I know it SEEMS I've been doing a lot of female bashing lately in these last few posts, but I'm not angry at women. Topics come to me all the time. and when I'm not being lazy or feeling overwhelmed (mentally), I write about whatever seems to stay in my head the longest - Like this current thought about "why guys hate it when chicks TEASE entirely too much".

I see this crap all the time. And, men do it too. They'll flirt and lead you on like they like you, get you interested, then give you the run-around and play games with your mind and so forth. Or, they'll get your phone number and say they're gonna call you but then they don't. (Guys and Girls do this.)

But why?

Observe closely, use your instincts, and you'll see the reason a lot clearer...

Some people are players and do it just for amusement... or, entertainment. They just love to flirt and they love the attention.

It's an ego-boost for some of these "flirty-birdies" out here.

They just like the feeling of being desired or hot or attractive. It proves to them that they are sexy and JUST AS SEXY as the next hot chick or handsome guy.

Some people are players and do it just to pass the time and because there's "nothing better available" at the moment. When "something better" comes along they forget about the first person's number they got.

Some people out there might meet a good girl or guy and have the intentions on getting to know them better but then - the same day - they might meet someone else and change their mind about getting to know the first prospect.

And, some people are wafflers and don't know if they want to talk to you or not. Hell, they don't know if they want to be single or dating or in a long-term commitment. They want to be involved but they want the fantasy also. Someone "perfect". Those bums analyze too much.

Then, you have the "natural flirts". They love to flirt and make romantic banter because they just love having a good time. It's just something fun to do with these people. Don't ever take them seriously - even if they genuinely like you. Keep playing the game until they start chasing you. That's when you know the game is over. But, don't expect them to stop flirting with others.

But, the most disgusting flirt is the girl (or guy) who leads you on and then, when you approach or ask her (or him) out on a date or over for a romantic interlude, THEN she (or he) starts to avoid you or act differently towards you. Like you're some kind of stalker or something!

I even hear some of these girls talk trash about these guys who show a little interest after the girl has led them on!

These dudes think they have a shot with these chicks and these broads are laughing at them and making fun about them behind their backs!

And, I've had male friends and relatives do things like this to women as well.

These poor suckers are letting these guys drive their cars, eat up their food, and spend their money, and these guys know these poor dumb broads don't have a chance in hell of being their girlfriend.

They're just leading those chicks on! Selling them a dream! That's what you call it! Selling their poor dumbasses a dream...

Some people do it to themselves.

They can't accept a sweet conversation and a little bit of flirting for what it is. They see a sweet face and hear a few kind (or flirty) words, and they fall in lust or in love instantly and think they REALLY have a chance at getting to know that girl or guy on a romantic level.

Just because that girl or guy is telling jokes and talking to you for 15 minutes and you're laughing and joking around, DOESN'T mean that he or she is interested! The conversation just may be interesting.

Now, don't get me wrong. IT NEVER HURTS TO ASK. "A closed mouth won't get fed", so it's always a good idea to speak up if you feel a good vibe from someone and want to "hollah". But, don't imagine it to be more than what it is. Chances are, it's not "love at first sight", so be cool and take your time about it.

Get to know that flirty bird first! Take that small-talk to deeper levels and find out what he or she is REALLY about.

Is this person just a "flirt"? Does he or she simply like attention? Is he or she a waffler? Or, does he or she REALLY want to get to know you on a deeper level? Make a friend first then take the conversations to deeper levels and find out "what's up".

Do you know what guys REALLY hate???

It's when a chick invites them for a romantic interlude, lead them on with all of the hugging, kissing, and smooching, and get the guy all "riled up" and "excited" and then, tells the guy they can't go any farther because she "wants to take things slow". WTF???

That's why some guys never go back! It's not because they only want you for sex! For some guys that may be the case. But, some guys believe that the woman is a tease and just leading them on! They don't want to go through the humiliation again! So, they go and look for someone else! And, usually, their mind is set on a "nice girl" who won't play games!

Now, in all fairness, guys do this too.

The only difference is: If a CHICK wants you - she will try to TAKE IT by force! lol.

She'll grope and grab and pull and tug and try make you "give it up"!

"Hey, Wait a minute! Take it easy lady! "No" means "No"!

(THAT is NEVER talked about in the media or anywhere else. But, it DOES happen. A girl WILL try to take "it" if she is "hot and bothered" and wants it.)

Mmph! Good gracious... I lost my train of thought... lol.

I love aggressive women.

Anyway...

Just be careful of your emotions and money with these overly flirtatious people. Many of them don't want anything. Some of them are more trouble than they're worth. Keep your heart and mind in check and just enjoy the moment.

Don't let those "teasers" play you and don't play yourself!

Use the situation to improve your romantic conversation skills - and also, your approach skills and Confidence!

It's all practice. That's all it is...

- loveqna

Monday, November 14, 2011

VIDEO - The Isley Brothers - Contagious feat. R. Kelly



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Three or four times during the past week the same bit of wisdom has been passed onto me by some older men and women. And this video I ran across tonight while searching for something else has confirmed it. Why the Lord has led me to it is beyond me but maybe it's a message for someone else. ??? Who knows...

But, the message and the philosophies that these people had is this:

Don't stress yourself so much over whether your man or woman is cheating or whether or not he or she might cheat on you. Don't chase him or her - or beg for his or her Love; Or, try to keep the guy or girl locked up in the house away from the World...

Because, "IF a man or woman wants to cheat, he or she is gonna cheat.

And, there's nothing you can do to stop it if he or she wants it bad enough.

So, why worry yourself about it? Why stress over it? And, if it happens, don't ruin your life over it!"

Don't go out there blastin' up the town or commit any heinous crime! Don't jeopardize your future! You have too much to live for! Goals to accomplish. Dreams to live for. Friends and family who need your love and support. Why destroy your life because of this bum???

I know a situation like this can send any man or woman into a rage but why throw YOUR life away over a hoe??? (whether it's a man or a woman)

"Suffer the broken heart and when you've healed, find someone else." Someone better.

I know that's easier said than done, but I agree.

Say "good riddens" to that jackass, and kick him or her straight to the damn curb!

If he or she doesn't know a good thing when it's staring them right in the face, screw-em!

Save yourself and give all of your good lovin' to someone else. Someone more deserving and worthy.

Don't ruin your life over someone who's not worth it! And, especially when there are plenty of other fish out there in the sea who are MORE worthy of your love. Suffer the broken heart and allow the storm to pass.

And, when Time has healed those wounds and the pain and hurt is gone, move on.

Don't let this episode stress you out or bring you down.

You might not ever forget - or even be able to forgive, but, Learn from the experience.

Allow it to make you stronger and wiser. And, move on.

I know some people out there might have kids involved or they've built an Empire with that person, but many people have been in the SAME situation and have survived the same drama. You can do it too!

And, you don't have to shut the cheater out of the children's lives - even if he or she left you for someone else! Don't make the kids suffer or keep the drama going! Find a new love, strive for happiness, and move on.

And, if you can't move on, (and decide to work things out) STILL, let the past go and work on your "new" life. Communicate and discover what you two can do different to make things better.

But, the main thing is: Get away for a while or leave or do whatever you have to do to keep from breaking that hoe's neck and cutting your life short. You have too much to live for.

- loveqna

Saturday, November 12, 2011

How To Get Over The Fear Of Rejection


Have "The Eye Of The Tiger"!

Be a soldier and "go in" without worrying about being turned away. Smile and get in there and let that sweet lamb KNOW that you're interested.

Everybody knows that most of us who let sweet-looking babes and handsome hunks walk out of our life do so because of the fear of rejection. We'd rather suffer heartache and deal with the emptiness and loneliness we feel rather than make a move and ask that cutie-pie out on a date.

I'm not gonna lie. The fear of rejection has made me freeze up a few times. Hell, I've seen confident outgoing guys and girls clam up and turn into shy wimps around certain people or when it came to approaching someone they were interested in meeting, so don't feel bad. We all get shy or a little nervous sometimes. The fear of rejection and not knowing what to say or being unsure about what to do can do that to you.

These days, I don't really feel all that shy about approaching prospects. I just don't do it because for the most part, I know where "success" might lead... And, I'm not ready to give up my freedom just yet. And, this in itself gives me more power and confidence! Let me tell you why.

Number One: I can flirt and have fun doing it without worrying about getting my heart broken. In fact, I EXPECT most women to laugh and say "no" to my quips, banter, and advances. But, Often, they flirt back at me.

Number Two: When I know there's no one I want to be with right now, this enables me to hold a conversation without thinking about how this chick looks or whether or not she likes me or "is she single" or "what should I say next"... I don't care! She's just someone to talk to for the moment or to pass the time. I'm just having fun and enjoying Life.

I'm gonna stop right there because I just thought of something I think you should know.

First, you know that I always recommend that you enjoy yourself and have fun when you're out and about and experiencing people and Life.

oh hell... I'm running out of time. I have to prepare for work so I'll finish this post later.

Let me say this right quick!

Sometimes rejection is personal. Much of the time it's not. Don't let your anger about the circumstances keep you from fighting it.

The key is to develop several approach techniques and

several rebuttle techniques for when you get a rejection (like a joke, a quip, being able to change the subject, being able to use another approach in an instant, being able to be sarcastic without being offensive)

Another thing you should know is WHY A PERSON MIGHT REJECT YOU

- looks
- personality
- the way you approached
- your topic
- the feel uncomfortable talking to strangers
- they're happily in a relationship
- they've just had their heart broken
- they're afraid YOU will lead them on or one day break their heart
- they don't trust strangers
- they'd rather be single and free

Who knows why the prospect might reject you. But, does it really matter?

You can't "sell" to everybody. Everybody isn't going to buy. Even the best salespeople in the world get told "no". But, do they quit selling or settle for selling the cheap stuff? Hell no! They believe in their product and they keep looking for quality prospects who are privileged enough to buy.

Expect to get rejected. Expect the worse, so that you'll be prepared to counteract!

Have a back-up plan (or another way to approach).

Know why you got rejected but don't dwell on it. It's not THAT important because people are different and what one person doesn't like another person may love. And, vice-versa. So, you never know.

Tighten up the general aspects and dimensions of yourself - your personality, your confidence, your conversation, your style, your vibe, your interests, maybe even your finances. Be at the top of your game!

Appearance does matter but it depends on who you're going after. It matters most to the public than it does to the people who really know you.

KNOW HOW TO RESPOND BEFORE YOU GET REJECTED. This will improve your Confidence immensely.

And, by all means LIVE IN CONFIDENCE! Walk Tall. Speak up or talk a little louder. Learn to say "no". Improve your Spirit (the best thing to do). Reach out to people to see how they're doing. Conquer the feeling of being uncomfortable around the people who make you feel inferior or uncomfortable. If you have to, stay away from those people until you build your confidence up. Be self-sufficient. Find Your confidence boosters and build on them. These are some of the REAL WAYS to improve your confidence and break the fear of rejection.

Sometimes, you shouldn't ask. Sometimes you must lead the prospect. Or, guide them to a yes rather than let them stay undecided before giving you a "no" answer.

Sometimes you must ask twice - in different ways - to get a yes or a phone number

will update later.

Friday, November 11, 2011

Tips On How To Reply And Respond


I saw these big beautiful mums at a garden nursery so I snapped a picture of them with my new LG500g cellphone. Anyway...

Now that I'm a full-time "sales" mane, I'll have to really work hard on my conversational skills! So, I'll try to post something at least twice a week for those of you who struggle with conversational flow as I do.

And, it's weird... people seem to really enjoy talking to me and want to talk to me but, I'm nervous sometimes whenever I have to talk to them - even if they are fun to talk to and easy to talk to. I Still get nervous. ???

I don't know what's up with that.

But, people still seem to enjoy talking to me or want to talk to me. Even my managers and supervisors.

Sometimes, I even get people asking me for advice or for my opinion on personal matters. Or - out the blue - these guys and girls will share secrets about their personal life with me. Sometimes I just listen. Sometimes, I'll start yappin' and apologize for rambling on, but they keep coming back....

One of my homeboys even suggested that I write a book. lol.

I don't know what it is. I still have a few things to learn about myself I guess.

Maybe I zone out or something when I talk to people and don't know what the hell I'm saying because I don't get it.

Anyway, let me tell you what I found out.

Dammit! I put the notes in my phone!

Okay, I'm gonna "wing" this cause I'm too lazy to get up and I should be getting some sleep for work tomorrow...

Anyway... This is what I discovered:

You shouldn't be nervous about starting a conversation because you can start a conversation about anything.

The trick is keeping the conversation going.

Let me give you an example:

Let's say you're at the market shopping for some eggs, bread, and milk, and you see this hot girl or hot guy standing a few feet from you checking out the butter. So, you say, "Mmmmmm... That butter looks mighty good."

And, he or she looks up at you...

What do you say now?

Although that girl or guy hasn't said anything. He or she has still responded simply by acknowledging your presence.

So, how do you reply or respond to his or her response?

You could ask:

What brand of butter is that?
Is that butter healthy?
Is that butter expensive?
Is that butter low in sodium?
Do you use that brand regularly? How good is it?
Have you tried that brand before?
How long have you been using that brand?

Then you say (or, you could say):

I love butter and jam on my toast, but I need something healthier. Do you think I should try that?
I'm learning to cook. What would be a good dish to cook with that butter?
Do you cook a lot of meals yourself? What's a good recipe that you use with that butter?
They have some really good prices on butter here, but did you notice how expensive the eggs are?

There are a million responses you could use also!

But, be ready with plenty more responses because the conversation can only get deeper and deeper after you get past the small-talk.

And, you don't always have to respond with words! Remember! Body language and facial expressions are important too.

And, don't forget about being mentally in-tune with the moment! Have fun. Remember, your goal is to get to know this person or to find out more about what's going on in the world around you.

That guy or girl may have some information on more deals. He or she may be able to help you with catering. He or she may have free tickets to give away... You never know. He or she may be related to you in some way or possibly a friend of one of your close friends.

So, engage and just enjoy the moment. That's what it's all about.

- loveqna

Thursday, November 10, 2011

Your Most Compatible And UN-Compatible Relationship Types

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Don't overlook the advantages of using the Zodiac charts! Even if you don't use the Zodiac to find Love, it still is of great benefit to you in improving your Natural Instincts about people, situations, drama, dilemma, events, etc. The Zodiac exposes all.

Anyone can be deceptive, pretentious, and deceitful, but no man or woman can hide his or her true nature from those with strong Female Instincts or Male Instincts!

Trust me when I say you will feel an increase in your Power of Perception and that your game will rise to levels high above average mortals...

If there is Love to be found, you will find it. If a player is in your midst, you will know it immediately. If there is any situation that can lead to disaster, you will see it before time...

Learn this skill and learn how to "read" people. It will definitely help you find your most compatible mate.

Leave no stone unturned.

Develop your Instincts and You will increase your Power to Choose Wisely.

- loveqna


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SoulMate Vs. Dream-mate




There's not a day that goes by when I'm at work that I don't see a beautiful woman. Like I've said before, hundreds of people come into the store every day. And every day, I see a beautiful woman that could potentially be the girl of my dreams. Hell, I see 20 or 30 of them that could potentially be the girl of my dreams... But, could any one of those broads be my soulmate? Or, a candidate for my soulmate?

Whenever I hear people talking about looking for their soulmate or waiting to meet their soulmate, I'm always skeptical.

I'm a firm believer that any ONE of us has thousands or millions of people that we're compatible with. But, most people - including myself - are so picky that we overlook the man or woman that is good for us and that could be a real benefit to our lives.

All of us aren't looking for a soulmate although we claim we are. Most of us are looking for that "Dream Girl" or "Dream Guy" with the good looks, perfect health, handsome smile, nice body, etc. We want this person to be kind, have at least a few interests in common, be madly in love with us, so on and so forth. We want our friends and family to like them, admire, and approve of them. We want them to be (in our eyes) "perfect".

But, although we might meet a person who has most of the qualities we're looking for, we still manage to find something wrong with them or something about them (their habits or personality) that we'd like to change. And, sometimes, when that's not the case, there's something about US they don't like or would like to change.

And even when that's not the case! There's something about the RELATIONSHIP we'd like to change.

We're never satisfied!

What are we REALLY looking for??? What do we really want? Most people don't know. Most people who want to meet or find their soulmate, don't know.

I'm sure that's why there are so many divorces and break-ups and "time-outs". People THINK they know what they want until they get it. Then, realize there's more to the equation!

(some people NEVER seem to realize this)

A lot of people out there look at a man or woman as a 2D or 3D object. An "Accessory" to compliment THEIR appearance or lifestyle or to impress their friends. Or, they look at the person as something of beauty that they can "own" or something exciting that they can experience.

But, after constant interaction, and being around each other for a while, they realize that everything they saw on the surface isn't worth all of the trouble underneath.

Now, when you meet your SoulMate, it's different.

With your Soulmate there is a "connection".

There's not much about each other (probably NOTHING about each other) you'd care to change. You can accept each other as you both are.

It may happen instantly. Or, it may take some time.

But, those who are willing to take the time to get to know a potential mate might discover that their soulmate is staring them right in the face.

Many people DON'T want to take the time (or make the effort) and discover too late that they let a good thing get away!

They don't put in the time necessary to connect with the person. They don't want to compromise or listen to reason.

They'd rather argue and debate about everything, and fantasize about other people's partners while they have a "prize" staring them right in the face.

They allow many of the distractions of Life to get in the way of the Love they've been searching for and need. There weakness an lack of self-control makes it hard for them to realize they have the potential to turn a good thing into something special.

He or she doesn't know how to handle the situation. He or she doesn't know how to support and love another person. Or, he or she isn't wise enough to see his or her faults or the destruction that his or her character or habits are causing.

Now, I'm not saying that you should settle or devote your self to someone just because he or she cares a great deal for you. But, most of us have to take a step back and look at ourselves and evaluate our thinking and wisdom and make sure we're not screwing up our lives by falling under the spell of lust, fantasy, or the status quo.

We've got to open our mouths and make moves if we are to meet that special someone or realize that he or she is sitting right under our very nose right now.

Your current boyfriend or girlfriend or spouse or co-worker or someone you pass on the street everyday could be the person you've been searching for all your life! But, you have to really get to know him or her to find out. You have to know YOURSELF also.

Maybe it's a match made in heaven, maybe not. But, you'll never know unless you make a move to see if there is a real connection.

I was dumb as hell and a total jackass.

There were girls that I knew I had chemistry with and I enjoyed being around but I couldn't stop partying and hanging out with the fellas.

I was going through a bit of depression at the time and didn't try to fight it, but some of these girls knew it and tried to help me as best they could. But, I wouldn't listen. I was stubborn and just tried to deal with it by drinking and partying and chasing women almost every night.

Don't be like me!

Sit down and consider your situation and your future. Realize a good thing when you've got it! Build on it and turn it into something special.

USE YOUR GOOD INSTINCTS!

If this person is your soulmate, you'll realize it early on. You'll feel it. The chemistry will BE there. Don't take it for granted. Don't let your relationship get stale and boring.

Don't get caught-up in the distractions of the World.

If that person is giving you the gift of his or her heart, love, and support, do the right thing and return the favor.

Again, use your instincts and make sure that he or she is The One. Don't waste your time and energy on something that is going nowhere. Because if that girl or guy is not The One and not accepting you or showing you love and support properly, do the right thing for yourself! And kick that ass straight to the curb.

- loveqna

Guys Beware... Women Don't Want Love. They Want A Handy-Man.

Ain't no need in me beating around the bush. I know the title alone is somewhat offensive.

But, it's true for most women out here. Especially if the woman is mature, or a Cougar, or a "Lady of Means". These types of women will put your ass to work! And, work you like a damn mule!

Cutting grass
Raking and bagging leaves
Assembling furniture and other products
Landscaping
Painting
Cooking
Moving and Loading
Car washing
Plumbing
Carpentry
Building Shelves
Running errands
Killing bugs
Changing light bulbs
Cleaning gutters
Cutting down trees
etc. etc. etc.

And then, on top of all of that, they worry you half to damn death about what you should do, need to do, should've done, could've done, and haven't done yet...

Good Gracious.

No wonder so many wives out-live their husbands! They've done worked the hell out the poor slobs.

These women-folk are sittin' back taking it easy while we men do all the work. It's a shame and a damn scandal.

That's why a lot of these men run off!


okay, okay. I'm only kidding - a little bit.

We all know that there are many women out here who are very much capable of running a home AND a family on their own without a man. And, we all know that there are many women out here who work just as hard and as smart as many men do - some even smarter. I'm just yanking your chains a little bit.

But seriously...

You know just as well as I do, there are SOME women out here who will run a man into the ground with constant work and errands and chores if he ain't strong enough to block-out her nagging and ranting.

I see broken-down old geezers come into the store all the time - on their last legs; barely walking - trying their best to do whatever their old brittle bones and slight muscles will allow them to do to keep their women happy.

I also see some guys who hate being with their wives and when I ask them how long they've been married, they'll tell me out right: "too long." - and keep walking.

And, these sweet little old ladies are so funny. They never hear the guy say this but they know the man is aggravated with them and want to get away from them, but seem to enjoy seeing these guys irritated and agitated and huffin' and puffin' and pacing around. Those old ladies torture the hell out their men. lol.

I admit, it IS aggravating as hell when you explain something to a woman a hundred times and she still just doesn't get it. Even when other women help explain the product, or how to use it, or why the customer should use it, some women still just don't get it... She'll keep asking a million irrelevant damn questions. lol. And, it drives their husbands insane. lol. Those poor bastards. You can see that they just want rip their hair out. lol.

I don't feel sorry for those old-timers because I know that one day THAT will be me.

My Ex (my sugar-mama) was the same way. She knew everything. I couldn't tell her anything. She was always right. And, always had to do things her way instead of the easy way or the best way.

A lot of women don't realize just how mentally draining this is to men and they do this over and over and over again - everywhere they go and - to the man - it just wastes time and often creates more work!

That's why a lot of men don't like going anywhere with their wives or girlfriends. These women have to ask at least a thousand questions before they decide what direction their gonna go in. And, later on, they still question whether or not they made the right decision!

They'll waste your whole damn day picking out a single light bulb!

But, guys, you know women have to have time to make up their mind about anything. I don't know why, but that's just how it is. That's why "Shopping" is the ultimate female sport! The worst "athletes" shop AFTER they get into the store. The best "athletes" cut coupons, plan, know what they want, and shop BEFORE they go into the store. You've got to find a way to train your "athlete" so you don't keep getting frustrated with her performance, and thus - keep ending up with the short end of the stick.

And, I'll tell you what else will drive you nuts...

It's a woman who has imposed her will on a man to go shopping to help her pick out things needed around the house, and she's not even paying attention to what's going on! She's on the phone yappin' to one of her friends or trying to multi-task, and after HE'S done picked out everything they need (or, doesn't see anything he likes), then she wants to go back and look over the OTHER merchandise again that she should've looked at and helped decide on the first time.

Some men wouldn't mind "doing things together" with their woman if the woman was involved or really cared about his opinion! All that phone action is just rude as hell anyway. I can't stand it.

Women don't realize it... (and, some of you guys who love to yap on the damn phone with your buddies and relatives all the time need to take heed also!) This habit is very annoying and irritating. It's also why a lot of guys don't like to go ANYWHERE with their woman. They'd rather stay home and be bored than to be "trapped" with their wife or girlfriend for half an hour "shopping" and running around in circles while she's on the phone.

If you're gonna be with me then "be with me". Give me your attention and get your ass off of the phone.

I'm not going to go on and on anymore but there's something that guys should realize too!

Just as man's life is hard as a woman's "handy-man" so is a woman's life hard as a man's "house-maid". If you have a woman - or, before you get one - don't look at her in that way. Don't feel like she should work herself to death to please you while you sit around on your ass giving out orders and chores for her to do. You're just as responsible for keeping that house clean and those children fed just as much as she is. And, in most cases, HER job is twice as hard as yours (even though you work full time) if not more.

(One of these days, I'm gonna post some videos of the two bad-ass rugrats I had to take care of almost every day and you'll see what a handful they were. I lovem but they worried me half to damn death.)

Okay, so the "moral" of this post is this:

You HAVE to work for it if you want to have something good. And, you appreciate it more.

But...

If you meet a self-made woman, or a Cougar, or a Diva, BE PREPARED to work your ass off and have your blood pressure rise to astronomical heights!

If don't like to get dirty or stay on the go, avoid these types of women or learn patience. Or, I hope you're the type of person who loves that type of lifestyle where you're constantly busy, on the move, and on the go.

Be aware that relationships with these women usually don't last. These women usually have "a friend" because they are so self-involved about the things they HAVE to do or get done. Don't expect to be a top priority in her life unless you find "the key" to breaking her focus and capturing her heart. And, you're wasting your breath if you think you're going to talk her into seeing your point of view or believing anything different.

The end of the "moral" is this: Realize that this kind of living is what most men are afraid of when it comes to getting married. The hard work, the neglect, the nagging, all of it. These guys don't want to be trapped in that lifestyle. They don't want to be a woman's handy-man and workhorse. They want to enjoy Life. They want to love their woman They want to have some good times with their woman, yet they wanna be free.

- loveqna

Friday, November 4, 2011

How Much Does Size Matter?

In Love With Me -Small Breast and All



Video provided by - 1GracieGirl

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Last night was the worst sleep I've had in weeks. I was tossing and turning and constantly waking up to see if I had overslept. Which, I knew I hadn't because my alarm never went off. But, I kept waking up because I was afraid it had and I didn't hear it.

And, I had the weirdest dream... about Illuminati, chocolates, and prostitutes.... but it wasn't sexual. And, even stranger than that, I interpreted the dream at the same moment that it ended and knew what it meant before I woke up. I said "DAMN."

I'm telling you about it and I still can't explain it.

Either I'm going crazy or I'm losing my mind.

Anyway...

I'm always hearing women talk about this subject and for the past few days that I've been surfing YouTube, I've ran across quite a few videos on this subject.

But, let me get something straight with you ladies right now...

Breast size is not important to all men (or women).

Yeah, some men care about the size of a woman's breasts (just as some women care about the size of a man's "johnson"). These people usually have a fixation, fetish, or fantasy about these things. But, if you have small breasts (or over-sized) breasts, don't worry yourself about it. There are many people out there who will appreciate you for you no matter what you're working with.

True, some breasts are sexy, seem perfect, and compliment a woman's overall figure and attract a lot of of attention, but, not all men have a preference. To some of these men, the breasts are just part of "the package". These guys aren't judging a woman by her breasts. They aren't approaching these women out here because these women have "nice racks". They're hooked on the woman for other reasons.

Sometimes, it's the woman who cares more than her man (or companion) does.




I know women believe having voluptuous perky breasts make them more attractive. It adds to their appearance to be sure. BUT! A man is gonna be looking at the overall package. He has other criteria and preferences that he's gonna look for.

Yeah, there are those humongous boobs that stand out like sore thumbs (or rocket ships) but all men don't want a woman with huge melons! Just like all men don't want a woman with huge booty! Some want it. Some don't.

Hell, A-cups are sexy too! Some men have a fetish for small-breasted women! Type it in various search engines and you'll discover a secret about what men like that the media has ignored far too long!

All men ain't going crazy over those silicon "Barbies"! No offense to the Barbies, but Some men don't like those "enhanced" boobs. They can be too much to handle!

I know many women DON'T do this to impress men.

Some of them want to look good for themselves. Or, they want to feel "normal" or "adequate" or "at least average", but if you look around - especially on TV, too many of these women are going way overboard with these "enhancements" to try and look good and feel good about themselves.

What in the hell is wrong with these crazy women??? They've got boobs hanging down to their kneecaps! And, enough boobs to feed an army!

What are some of these women trying to prove??? Who are they competing against? And, Why???



You small-breasted felines don't need big boobs to feel good about yourselves. Be happy with what you got!

And, if you have big boobs, ain't nothing wrong with that either!

We're always hearing women talk about how size matters, but many of them are just getting outrageous!

They want giant men, big eyelashes, big houses, big SUVs, big "johnsons", big money, and big boobs... and Big everything else.

Everything either has be longer, taller, or bigger to be of value to some of these women out here.

And 90% of them ain't even real Divas!

What in the hell is the World coming to???

All of these liars and fools who write these books about men criticize and theorize that men are "visual creatures". And, short men are the ones who have a "Napolean" or "dwarf" complex. And men are always showing off what they have and constantly compete with other men. And, all of that other B.S... What in the hell are those jackasses talking about??? Those dumbasses are dumb as shit.

Ladies, if you want to "live large" that's your prerogative. I'm not knocking your style and taste. I just can't stand all of this propaganda and all of these liars that try to brainwash society and the World and cover up what's really going on.

They love drama. Drama sells.

And, they try to KEEP the battle between the sexes raging on. And, that crap pisses me off royally.

Hold on a minute.

(1...2...3...4...5... Breathe.... And release....) Okay, I'm calm.

Anyway... back to the subject.

Some men prefer bigger just as some women prefer bigger.

Some men prefer something a little more manageable just as some women prefer something a little more manageable.

Some men don't care what size your boobs are just as some women don't care what size a man's johnson is.

It's all a matter of individual taste, fantasy, fetish, fixation, and capability.

We all don't want, need, or care about the same things. Although many of us have certain things in common, most of us are different.

Don't feel inadequate or obese or bad about what you're working with. Appreciate who you are inside. Let your personality and style shine. Get to know YOU. And, if you still HAVE to have a make-over "outside" to feel better about yourself inside, do it.

But, be Careful and Wary of WHY you want to do it.

Don't change yourself to please others, because end the end, you still might not get what you want out of the deal and you still won't be happy.

Give that person (or your friends) the chance to love you for You. Or, admire you for you.

The worst thing you could do is "hide" what you really have in a padded or push-up bra.

It's better to be "real" up front than to be "fake" right out of the gate.

And, Communicate.

After you get to know your prospect better, let that cutie-pie know what you're working with. You're both adults. Have an intimate conversation. Ask questions. Ask about preferences. Find out what this stud wants so that you'll know early on if you want to pursue this "friendship" or "relationship".

Don't beat yourself down or worry about "size" too much.

You could have a chest as flat as a board and you could STILL satisfy all of his wants, fantasies, and needs.

You could have enough boobs to feed an army and he may be mesmerized by you because, to him, you look sexy and thick.

If you can't change it, live with it. People love you for who you are.

If that doesn't make you happy because you have a fixation about your breast size, get counseling first. Talk to some true friends about it. People who are honest with you and who won't let you ruin yourself.

And, if that still doesn't make you happy, then the only thing you can do is stack some cash, research, research, and research, and get whatever you want done - done properly - by an expert with references who is certified, qualified, and sanctified to be putting his or her hands on you.

But, I'm sure you're fine the way you are.

- loveqna

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

How To Really Love Yourself And Appreciate Who You Are

I may be way over my head with this post but I'm gonna try to tackle it anyway since I need to appreciate myself more and stop being so humble.

*** I WAS GOING TO TRY TO UPDATE THIS POST TODAY BUT I MY MIND IS ROAMING. WILL UPDATE LATER ***

notes..... I will relate these notes to relationships;

don't let a bully bring you down; don't let cruel love bring you down

stop kissing ass and trying to please someone who has no respect for you - people admire courage and strength but they can be mean, evil, and devious when it comes to weakness

true friends - no matter how close you are or long you've known each other, friends are not real friends if they are devious and manipulative

don't fall for that guilt-tripping b.s. don't hold your head down in shame! don't throw up your hands in exasperation! realize if a reptilian scumbag is trying to manipulate you with guilt-tripping, then that means you have a choice. you have a choice to do something you don't want to do or need to do and feel weak and bad about yourself. Or, you have the choice to do what YOU want to do and feel more powerful and confident for standing up for yourself. you don't have to mean about it. just say "no". you can't do it. it doesn't work for you. you've already made other plans. not today, maybe next time. whatever... it's up to you. YOU DECIDE.

leave the relationship if it's making you crazy or ruining your self esteem and confidence

meet someone new

you're not gonna make a man or woman fall in love with you by kissing their ass. don't be an approval-seeker.

if you are worried so much about what your friends and family think and it's making you self-conscious, get away from them - at least until you have the courage to stand up and be who and what you really are.

no one can live your life. people have a hard enough time to living their own life and many of them aren't doing so great at it. many of them are miserable. so, don't worry about what others think you should do. follow your dreams. use your instincts!

as long as living a good life and not trying to mess up or destroy anyone else's life, people shouldn't try to control you. they can advise you but it's your decision to do what you believe is right for you.

being self-sufficient is one of keys to great confidence. when you don't have to depend on anyone else for anything, you can make your own rules and live by your own philosophies and beliefs.

you can't please everyone. do what's best for you and not what makes other people happy. because the truth is, if they aren't happy with the way you live your life, chances are they aren't happy about most things in life.

i know parents want the best for their children. and will try to guide them to make good decisions, but most children are gonna do what they want to do in the end anyway. many of them even abandon their parents to an old folks home or nursing home and rarely visit them. so, live your life and give good wisdom but don't make yourself miserable by trying to control or live someone else's life.

a relationship is about being a team - some people are only out for themselves

there are those who only care about what they can get from you or what you can do for them.
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they're only nice to you or want to see you when they want something or need a favor

they only come around when they want or need something

it's like this in many relationships - including marriages

some people don't know how to be team players and supportive. all they know is how to use people and manipulate people. some will try to dominate the relationship and rule it - get away from these types of people. a person like that has a hard time of seeing anyone else as his or her equal and should be left alone.

you're not being selfish or self-centered by loving yourself! you can love yourself and love others - taking care of yourself so that you can take care of your family is a good thing

avoid lovers who are always begging for money and favors. they'll put you in the poor house and make your life miserable. they are not friends! think of your goals and priorities and have the courage to say "no".

get to know a man or woman well before allowing him or her to come into your World. don't just be mesmerized by what you see on the surface.

don't allow loneliness and social fears to conquer you and make you desperate for companionship! stay busy or find something to do.

if you have a hard time meeting potential mates, take a step back and look at your appearance and personality to make yourself more attractive and desirable. ask for help from friends or co-workers if you need to. find love on your terms. don't beg for it. be desirable.

stop trying to please everybody - especially people who are not on your team or who won't help you in your time of need when it's in their power to do it

realize that a lot of people are only out for themselves and their families - this is not always a bad thing but is a reality that you should be aware of

don't take food out of your family's mouth to put food in someone else family's mouth when he or she works just as you do and is not wise with his or her life.

some people will run to you all the time like a stray cat after you help them once. remember that you have mouths to feed and bills just as they do.

it's a good thing to help the poor, it's a tragedy to help fools.

be aware of what you want

realize that if you've already allocated time, money, and energy to do something for yourself, then you shouldn't change it

people won't always get angry or feel disappointed if you say "no". and if they do, they'll get over it. and if they don't, then they're selfish

after you decide your priorities, stick to them.

realize that everyone in the world has something that they're good at or CAN be good at - it all starts with a spark of interest

don't put too much pressure on yourself to please other people or to save the World. NOBODY has been able to end violence, pain, suffering, or death. it is a natural part of The System of the Universe. It will always continue as long as their are humans on this planet.

so don't strain your emotions. stay alert and vigilant so that you help reduce the pain and suffering

improve your instincts and recognize the distractions in your life so that you don't get sidetracked on your goals

distractions come in the form of situations, ideas, and people. learn to avoid them and to maneuver around them

work on what really matters to you and to your growth in life.

we admire some celebrities - not because they are famous but, because of the work and service they do for others. we admire them because they inspire us to be great and to achieve

don't fight for these people but learn from them so that you can inspire others as well. remember, there will always be people who are silly and "blind" and you should not waste your time or energy fighting them - especially when the battle is so small that it is really insignificant to your life.

haters are trapped in a world of confusion and misguidance. they are ignorant and have only learned foolishness. they add no value to society or to the world.

some of them are miserable because they view their life as one dumbass mistake. they see no success or growth in their future so they are negative about everything else.

some of them are self-conscious and have to have attention all the time.

some of them have been brainwashed into believing they are better than everyone else because of their position, status, caste, appearance, affiliations, etc. they'll all be dead and forgotten one day, so it's best just to forget them now and do what you can do to bring value and real benefits into your life.

fight for what you deserve!

walk tall and stand tall

speak up for your benefits and to help yourself!

speak up to help your family and friends who are dependent on you!

what do you want to happen? What do you need? what do you want to achieve?

Go for it!

What is the worst that can happen?

if you get rejected, be thankful and move on.

don't stop to think about how bad you feel. life isn't about analyzing your negative emotions. realize what you have to do to get the answer you want or to achieve your goal.

Work on improving yourself so that you can be of value - learn a language, improve your skills, learn a skill, teach

realize you are of value because the longer you live the more you learn about human nature and life and you could pass down what you know and help others who will be going through the same stress

you can inspire someone else to be great.

realize the benefit you are to others.

a fool may not recognize your talent and potential but someone will if you work on it make your skills and ideas shine

realize that you are blessed with potential.

you can do something to contribute to science, social work, spirituality, philosophy, whatever. use your mind. it's more important than your body.

you can help fight depression, add, or some other mental disease.

How To Fight Love For A Trifling Man Or Woman

Dave Hollister - One Woman Man



Video provided by - tutnoses

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This post is going to be short and sweet - I hope. And, although this topic really ain't earth-shaking news, I HAVE to talk about it because my mind is flooding again with many topics and I'm starting to feel paralyzed and lazy.

The reason I have to talk about this particular topic is because one of my cousins' exes spotted me while I was on my way to the bank to withdraw some cash and I guess she just wanted to hear about what I've been up to since we haven't seen each other in so long.

But, the conversation quickly shifted to her past relationship with my cousin. She was deeply in love with him (and still is). BUT, she's proud that she has finally found a way to overcome her obsession for him and her desire to chase after him.

She believed wholeheartedly that they were meant for each other and that one day they would get married and live happily ever after. But, he played that broad from "day one". He led her on, wasted her time, humiliated her, and stressed her out.

A trifling man or woman will do that to you if you're not strong enough to love yourself more than you love them - or, if you don't recognize their real intentions early on.

But... when you're deep deep deep in love like she is, it's hard to leave no matter how bad you're treated because you're so attached to the person and you're always hoping things will better. Or, you think that somehow that you can MAKE this person (or convince him or her) to love you.

For years, she thought she was the man's main squeeze. And all the while he was dating other chicks at the same time that he was dating her. One or two of those girls he had even met BEFORE he met her. So, she was a "side-chick" and didn't even know it! A few scragglers came in the picture later on but, all ovem were "chicks on the side".

I always felt bad that I participated in his "scams" and scheming because I've known this girl for a long time, but what could I do? He wasn't just my cousin, we were homeboys too.

And, besides that, his other girlfriends were just as sweet as she was. All of them were nice. There wasn't one that I liked more than the other or anyone that I liked less. They were all cool with me. Anyone of them could talk to me about anything. I felt like we were ALL related.

Anyway...

She talked to me for a while about how she thought he loved her and how she was hoping that he would straighten up and be smart enough to settle down with her, but she was also wise enough to see through his games and B.S. and not wait around for a miracle. So, she kept her options open.

They had been dating for few years... Well, she had been one of his girls for a few years and there came a point where she needed help with some of her bills (so did he) and she suggested that they move in together to save money and expand their horizons. But, he said "No".

Now, this girl was buying a Home. She had her own transportation - a sweet little Nissan Maxima. She was a hard worker. Sexy as hell. Bodacious. Pretty. She was a "poster girl" and spokesperson for (probably) one of Your favorite beverages. And, she had a positive attitude.

He still said, "hell naw."

???

Now, why would anybody with any good damn sense pass on a fine jewel such as this???

Trifling.

Some men ain't smart enough to want a good woman like that. They'd rather mix and mingle and enjoy their freedom and variety.

Some women ain't smart enough to accept and appreciate a good man like that. They love eye-candy and want to marry a fantasy.

And, some people are just so full of themselves that they're in love with the all the attention.

When she asked him why not, he made up all kinds of quirky shit that she basically said sounded stupid, so she moved on.

Later (less than a year), he moved another chick in to live with him.

She was dumbfounded - Hell, she was flabbergasted!

Here he was claiming that he wasn't ready to live with a woman and that jackass moved a woman and her kids into his house!

I know that pissed her off, but I don't know if that's what made her snap and drove her to get married to someone else or not.

It's a shame if it was because she says now the honeymoon is over and her marriage is not as good as it was at the beginning.

So, she has been thinking about my cousin again...

But, she told me he is still lying and hasn't quite grown up yet. He still wants to be a player.

The other girl he moved in is now gone. His house is a shambles. He's over there starving half to death. And, he still wants to toy with this woman's mind.

When will this dude open his eyes and stop being a chump???

His pride must have him by the balls.

I wouldn't be surprised if she is now playing with his mind and laughing at him suffer and grovel in his loneliness.

He ought to just let that girl go and find him one sweet girl to settle down with.

But, he still thinks that he can outsmart this chick. He hasn't realized that he has NEVER outsmarted her. That girl can read him like a book! She knows he's full shit. He's just too damn dumb to realize that the girl is in love with him and that is the only reason that she's still hanging around.

Any fool ought to have enough sense to know that a man's game is no match for a woman's intuition or female instincts! (If the woman has some game also.)

But, still, she is blinded by Love...

So, let me remind you of something (before you get in too deep):

When a man (or a woman) is sleeping with (or in a relationship with) two or more people, it's gonna be difficult for him (or her) to fall in love with one person.

One reason is because he (or she), doesn't have the time to truly invest into getting to know one person.

Another reason is because he (or she), isn't giving him or herself the opportunity to get deeply emotionally attached to one person.

All he (or she) is concerned about is having fun. He may care for the girl. Or, she may care for the guy, but ultimately, the player's main concern is about his or her needs and desires. He or she is selfish and distracted by greed for various companionship and lust for sex.

When a man or woman is living like that, the only kind of relationship they'll be satisfied with is a "friends with benefits" type of thing. And, honestly, that's all SOME people want! They don't want to become emotionally involved. They don't want to get too attached! They enjoy being single and free to sleep around.

Don't stress yourself out about it. And, ain't no use in trying to change the heathen.

Don't continue to beg for this person's love and let him or her toy with your emotions. Get out and just date! Meet new people. Find something to occupy your time and energy. Find something else to fight for! Go out and help save the World! Go to school. Stay away from conversations about that bum.

I know it's hard to do. I know your feelings won't go away overnight. In fact, they may even last a lifetime. But be aware of that reality. And realize that just because you have those feelings doesn't mean that you have to act on them.

Stay away and let Time heal the hurt and pain that you feel. Be strong and realize that this person is like a cancer to your life and bringing you down to a point that you can't help the other people that depend on you and need you.

You're wasting your time on this type of person if you think he or she is gonna fall in love any time soon. You could love him or her all you want but that ain't gonna change his or her habits and character. He or she is still going to treat you like shit. That asshole ain't gonna change until he or she is ready.

And, if you wait around like this chick did for my cousin - hoping that one day that person might see the light, you might be living off of Hope for a long time.

Don't waste your Life on something or someone that has no value to you. Move on.

- loveqna
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