** I'm not calling out any of those sorry slobs that are out there trying to "buy love" or win the hearts of women with money and flashy trinkets! I'm saying don't go this route and waste your time and money on a woman who really isn't interested in your personality, looks, your vision, your plans, your goals, or ANY part of your life besides your money and a free ride. Why piss all of your money away trying to lure and trap someone into a relationship? I know some of you guys out there are kind-hearted and will help anyone because it's in your nature to do so. But, if you don't keep your cool, and pay attention to what's going on, you will be broke as hell, and need help your own damn self. Why put yourself and your mind through all of that stress and worry about your credit and bills and what you will have to do or be able to do, if one of your "REAL FRIENDS" come to you for assistance? You don't always have to say "no", but you should always spend and share wisely.
đ§ đ âSpoil Her, Then Shame Herâ
The Real Story Behind Why Some Men Call Women Gold Diggers... After Spoiling Them First
Letâs start with the hard
truthâŠ
Some men treat women like royalty in the
beginningâgifts, dinners, spa days, purses, money, rent, trips...
whatever she wants, itâs hers.
But a few months later?
đ€ Now sheâs âungratefulââŠ
đž
Now sheâs âa gold diggerââŠ
đŹ And suddenly, the
narrative flips: âShe used me.â
But waitâŠ
Was it her idea? Or
did he set the stage?
đ€ Who Really Started This Game?
A lot of men donât want to hear thisâbut sometimes, the gold digger storyline is just a cop-out. A man goes above and beyondâfinanciallyâwithout first establishing compatibility, character, or even clear expectations.
Why?
Because some of them never learned
how to court or connect without a transaction.
Because some were
taught: âIf you got money, you got power.â
Because some
believed: âIâll get her attention, then sheâll fall in love
with me.â
And when that plan doesnât work?
They feel playedâŠ
Even though
they dealt the cards.
đ§Ÿ Letâs Look At What Really Happens:
He gets a settlement, a big tax refund, a bonus, or inheritance.
He wants to feel like a bossâso he goes all in.
Buys her the bag, pays for the nails, books the trip, covers the rent.
Now sheâs posting, glowing, smiling⊠and he thinks that means sheâs âhis.â
But when reality sets in and the money slows down?
Sheâs still expecting the treatment
he set the tone for.
Now, itâs âsheâs too
materialistic.â
But bro⊠who taught her that rhythm? Who
opened that door?
đĄ The Cost of Trying to Impress Too Hard, Too Soon
Men who lack identity
outside of what they can spend⊠often lead with their wallets.
It
becomes the first (and sometimes only) love language they
know.
They donât take the time to ask:
Can she add to my vision?
Does she have goals?
Does she believe in budgeting, building, investing?
Can she handle a storm, or does she only love sunshine?
If you never askedâŠ
How can
you say you were âusedâ?
đŻ Letâs Make This Plain:
Thereâs a difference between a spoiled woman and a gold digger.
A gold digger seeks money onlyâno loyalty, no goals, no emotional bond.
But a spoiled woman?
She accepted what you offered.
She
let you treat her like a queen.
She let you drive the boat.
And now youâre mad because she didnât become the woman you imagined in your head?
Thatâs not her fault.
Thatâs
your leadership flaw.
đȘ
If youâve ever looked at your bank account and felt resentment toward a woman you once spoiledâŠ
If youâve ever started treating a woman worse after she accepted your giftsâŠ
If you ever called a woman a gold digger AFTER the factâŠ
Ask yourself:
đč Who set the
standard?
đč What did you actually want from her?
đč
Did you lead with money because you didnât know how to lead with
anything else?
đ Challenge Question:
Would you still be confident around
herâŠ
if you lost everything today?
đ„ Weâre just getting
started.
Part 2 will go deeper:
What men really want but donât say
The psychological high of spoiling someone
The difference between giving to build vs. giving to impress
And how some men attract exactly what they fearâŠ