** I'm not calling out any of those sorry slobs that are out there trying to "buy love" or win the hearts of women with money and flashy trinkets! I'm saying don't go this route and waste your time and money on a woman who really isn't interested in your personality, looks, your vision, your plans, your goals, or ANY part of your life besides your money and a free ride. Why piss all of your money away trying to lure and trap someone into a relationship? I know some of you guys out there are kind-hearted and will help anyone because it's in your nature to do so. But, if you don't keep your cool, and pay attention to what's going on, you will be broke as hell, and need help your own damn self. Why put yourself and your mind through all of that stress and worry about your credit and bills and what you will have to do or be able to do, if one of your "REAL FRIENDS" come to you for assistance? You don't always have to say "no", but you should always spend and share wisely.
🧠💔 “Spoil Her, Then Shame Her”
The Real Story Behind Why Some Men Call Women Gold Diggers... After Spoiling Them First
Let’s start with the hard
truth…
Some men treat women like royalty in the
beginning—gifts, dinners, spa days, purses, money, rent, trips...
whatever she wants, it’s hers.
But a few months later?
😤 Now she’s “ungrateful”…
💸
Now she’s “a gold digger”…
💬 And suddenly, the
narrative flips: “She used me.”
But wait…
Was it her idea? Or
did he set the stage?
🤔 Who Really Started This Game?
A lot of men don’t want to hear this—but sometimes, the gold digger storyline is just a cop-out. A man goes above and beyond—financially—without first establishing compatibility, character, or even clear expectations.
Why?
Because some of them never learned
how to court or connect without a transaction.
Because some were
taught: “If you got money, you got power.”
Because some
believed: “I’ll get her attention, then she’ll fall in love
with me.”
And when that plan doesn’t work?
They feel played…
Even though
they dealt the cards.
🧾 Let’s Look At What Really Happens:
He gets a settlement, a big tax refund, a bonus, or inheritance.
He wants to feel like a boss—so he goes all in.
Buys her the bag, pays for the nails, books the trip, covers the rent.
Now she’s posting, glowing, smiling… and he thinks that means she’s “his.”
But when reality sets in and the money slows down?
She’s still expecting the treatment
he set the tone for.
Now, it’s “she’s too
materialistic.”
But bro… who taught her that rhythm? Who
opened that door?
💡 The Cost of Trying to Impress Too Hard, Too Soon
Men who lack identity
outside of what they can spend… often lead with their wallets.
It
becomes the first (and sometimes only) love language they
know.
They don’t take the time to ask:
Can she add to my vision?
Does she have goals?
Does she believe in budgeting, building, investing?
Can she handle a storm, or does she only love sunshine?
If you never asked…
How can
you say you were “used”?
🎯 Let’s Make This Plain:
There’s a difference between a spoiled woman and a gold digger.
A gold digger seeks money only—no loyalty, no goals, no emotional bond.
But a spoiled woman?
She accepted what you offered.
She
let you treat her like a queen.
She let you drive the boat.
And now you’re mad because she didn’t become the woman you imagined in your head?
That’s not her fault.
That’s
your leadership flaw.
🪞
If you’ve ever looked at your bank account and felt resentment toward a woman you once spoiled…
If you’ve ever started treating a woman worse after she accepted your gifts…
If you ever called a woman a gold digger AFTER the fact…
Ask yourself:
🔹 Who set the
standard?
🔹 What did you actually want from her?
🔹
Did you lead with money because you didn’t know how to lead with
anything else?
💎 Challenge Question:
Would you still be confident around
her…
if you lost everything today?
🔥 We’re just getting
started.
Part 2 will go deeper:
What men really want but don’t say
The psychological high of spoiling someone
The difference between giving to build vs. giving to impress
And how some men attract exactly what they fear…
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