Why Single Women Rarely Get Approached By Good Men

There are a lot of good women out there looking for love (or at least a date), but they rarely get approached by men who are truly interested in them - if they get approached at all. Let me tell you why this is happening and why all these good women - and good-looking women - don't get the opportunities for love and romance that some other women get...

I'm going to try to make this as simple as possible because for too long now, women have been kept in the dark about this, but I'm going to reveal a few possible reasons why men don't approach certain women.

It's true that some women are intimidating because of their beauty or sex-appeal. From the guy's perspective, the woman may look like she could be a supermodel. Or, she may be dressed so sexy that he's shocked and flabberghasted by her sex-appeal. After just one look at that woman, he might immediately believe that he wouldn't stand a chance of getting to know her. And even if she would give him a chance, chances are he would hardly know what to say because he would be too afraid of coming on too strong or too afraid of boring the woman to death. He'd make small-talk for hours, days, weeks, or months, before he'd even offer his number or ask her if they could go out for coffee or whatever.

Or, he might look at her and immediately assume that she only dates certain types of guys like: pretty boys, bad boys, big boys, or men with a lot of money.

Then, there are some women who are intimidating because of their demeanor or attitude. These "strong women" are just unapproachable. They may want a good conversation or date with a gentleman but their demeanor says otherwise. These women want to display confidence and grace, but they really appear to be arrogant, anti-social, and grumpy as hell. These women might have everything a good man wants - beauty, brains, ambition, confidence, and goals, but if her facial expressions and body language says, "don't invade my space" or "don't F with me", then she is not going to be sought after by too many men and possibly miss out on the "high quality man" she seeks. They're gorgeous, but who needs the drama?

Then there's the woman with status and grace - usually a mature woman. This woman intimidates some men because most of these women are all business almost all the time - whether they're working, gardening, socializing, or shopping. And men either think she's already married, or involved, or too busy for romance. Men are shy when it comes to this type of woman because they feel in order to get the woman's attention or to break whatever spell she's under and get to know her, he has to be very witty or somewhat "successful". The average blue-collar man won't approach this type of woman as fast as a middle-class man would. More than likely, she'd have to ask either of them out on a date before they'd have the courage to ask her.

Let's speed this up. Here's a quick list you can read.

Other reasons why men don't approach good single women:

* The guy is too shy (and doesn't know what to say)
* The guy doesn't want to appear desperate
* The guy doesn't want to risk the embarrassment and heartbreak of rejection
* The guy doesn't know HOW to approach women or flirt (not sure what to say - or do)
* The guy doesn't want to come on too strong and be charged with sexual harrassment
* The guy may feel that the woman wouldn't date a guy his age (too old or too young)
* The guy may have been in a long-term relationship and now that he's single, he's nervous about dating and shy about meeting new women (these guys may only have a chance of meeting a woman through a mutual friend, or work, or church. The only other way would be if the woman finds a way to arrange a date)
* The guy assumes that he would not be what the woman is looking for
* The guy is turned-off by the woman's personality or style
* The guy is not attracted
* The guy only sees the woman as a friend
* The guy doesn't feel he and the woman would be a good match or compatible
* The guy isn't sure if he wants to date or be single
* The guy is interested in the woman's friend
* The guy believes the woman may want a long term relationship
* The guy believes the woman may be a player
* The guy believes the woman is immature (or is still loves to party)
* The guy believes the woman may be High Maintenance
* The guy doesn't want to date a woman with children (wants his "own" family or a "fresh" start)
* The guy doesn't want to date a woman who has been married or recently separated (the woman may have a psycho boyfriend or obsessed ex-husband)

And there could be other reasons. These are the most common that I know of.

But hold up! Remember! This list doesn't apply to every guy! All of this depends on the type of guy, the guy's perspective, and the situation. Some guys need a little push or help from a friend to get a date with the woman. Some guys - especially badboys, pick-up artists, and players will approach a woman no matter What the situation. These are the guys who usually have a main squeeze and one or two babes on the side.

And, I didn't want to leave out "Nice Guys"...

Here's something you probably didn't know about Nice Guys.

Nice Guys aren't going to approach unless they KNOW the woman or unless the timing is right... MAYBE. Most Nice Guys will talk and talk and talk and never get around to asking a girl out. They're almost always late to the punch!

Most Nice Guys approach women who are already DATING someone else! It's true.

Approaching a woman is like a roll of the dice for those guys. Those types of guys live on the hope that they'll get lucky. They make so much small-talk that they don't even know if the woman they're talking to is "Available" or not. They've probaby been checking out a certain lady for days, weeks, or months - dreaming about her, thinking about her, fantasizing about their future together - and have turned a simple request for a phone number or a date into an event they're afraid won't turn out positive. Their main concern is to be respectful and nice and take things slow. But, they're so respectful and nice that they're stagnant!

I know some women believe that a man who's afraid to approach women ain't a real man, but those women either don't have a man - or, in their relationship - they ARE the "Man". Don't let them talk you into missing out on some good men. If you're interested in a guy and have the courage or connections to arrange a date with him, then do it. He may be interested in you and simply don't know what to say.

- loveqna