5 Reasons Why You Keep Getting Your Heart Broken

Sometimes, the "love" in a relationship won't last no matter HOW hard you try. And, there could be any number of reasons why a lover or partner wants to end his or her relationship. The only one who truly knows what the reason (or reasons) may be is the person who wants to move on. BUT...

The partner who was "dumped" in the relationship should have SOME idea why this happened also.

Read on, and let me explain why.

During the relationship, there are always telling signs that the relationship is going downhill when it's going downhill.

A man doesn't have to be told he isn't spending enough time with his woman or that he isn't romantic enough. He knows it! He can make excuses about having to work all the time and having to do this and that around the house and being tired and all, but he's still going to hear some complaints from the woman that they don't do anything and that she's bored with their lifestyle. And, if he isn't hearing it, she's probably on her way out the door and out of his life. She's not going to feel sorry for him.

I can guarantee you this also...

A woman doesn't have to be told that she isn't showing enough affection or that she's "letting herself go" and losing her sex-appeal. She knows it. She can take the advice of all of those gurus and TV psychologists who say that the man should love her for her personality, but some guys don't want to hear that crap! They want a woman that's sexy and passionate when they're in the mood for love.

If the two are arguing all the time, they should know there's a problem. If one of the partners is calling less or not making an effort to see his or her mate, you know there's a problem. And you have to address it or it could mean the end of the relationship.

Hell, I got "the boot" several times! And, I know why! Almost every time a broad kicked my ass to the curb, it was because I wasn't showing her enough attention. (My mind was elsewhere.) I guess I just didn't care enough. Or, at least I didn't show it. They'd complain that I wasn't around enough or that I didn't call, or that I never made an effort to spend quality time with them. I knew they were right. I wasn't a player or anything. I was just lazy as hell when it came to making the effort to be romantic and attentive. I didn't try hard enough.

But, you live and you learn...

Now, let me give you five reasons why some people get dumped and abandoned in their relationships so that you can use this information to reduce the chances of it happening to you - especially if you find the love of your life.

* Not taking enough time to get to know the person you're dating or trying to get involved with. You're moving TOO fast and you end up choosing the wrong mate - one who likes to play games, or a waffler, or one who can't stay out of the streets or out of the clubs (they'd rather party and have fun than commit to a serious relationship).

* Your personality or habits turn him or her off. This person might be really "into" at first but once he or she got to know you, he felt you two weren't compatible. Or, it was something about your looks, habits, personality, style, hygiene, priorities, or interests, that turned him or her off. This often happens to nice guys and girls but it is also the downfall of many people with a strong character who are serious-minded that they give you the creeps.

* You neglect your lover and don't show him or her enough attention. If you neglect with love, conversation, affection, support, or time, these things will definitely cause a lover to leave the relationship or even cheat.

* You have too much baggage. Your love interest may have known this before you got together but thought that he or she could deal with it.

* You have or cause too much drama. Do you remember how quick J-Lo left Diddy's ass after that clubbing incident? That's one way to get rid of a hottie. A nagging or controlling lover or spouse can turn a lover off too. And jealousy is probably at the top of the list. So, if you're a jealous psycho, a nagging love-bird, or a control-freak, you can hang it up. Until you control your ways, you ain't gonna NEVER keep good love in your life.

Now, of course, there are more reasons why lovers leave, but the best thing to do is to get to know the lover and strive to keep getting to know him or her, so you'll know what his or her needs, preferences, desires, and fantasies are AND whether or not YOU want to fulfill them.

Also, try to keep yourself looking good. Stay sexy. Be what you were when you two first met. You know the old saying: "whatever you did to getem' that's what you have to do to keepem'." It's true. It doesn't matter if you're getting old. That's no excuse. You still have to step your game up and turn on the charm.

The effort you put into a relationship won't ever guarantee that you'll get what you deserve out of it, but it WILL reduce your chances of losing what you've got.

- loveqna