How To Tell If A Man Or Woman Is Playing Games

Let's be honest with each other...

Aren't you sick and tired of men and women who play romantic games?

Well, in this post I'm going to spill the beans on the game these pretenders and so-called wannabee players try to run on the innocent romantics out there looking for a relationship and love.

This won't be a comprehensive list, but if you pay attention and observe - AND keep your awareness level high, you'll be able to spot the bullsh*t before those scallywags play you out, give you the run-around, and lead you on a path to wasting your time, energy, and money.

But, you have to be careful!

Many of these manipulators and teasers have some good game and will lie like hell to get what they want out of you. They'll butter you up and mislead you. They'll flatter you, court you, and tell you everything they think you want to hear to seduce you. They are good at deception because they practice deceiving people constantly. People who are lonely and those who are desperate for love or a long-term relationship are especially susceptible to these games because they let their guards down in hopes of finding love. So, you HAVE to be somewhat detached and rational if you want to avoid the B.S.

So, for starters, before you approach a prospect for a date or romance or in hopes getting to know him or her for a long-term relationship, make sure you are "proper". Make sure YOUR game is tight. Have your confidence level high. Be in a good mood and radiate good vibes, but Don't rush in with the intention of expecting to meet the love of your life! Just enjoy the moment. Remember! You don't know ANYTHING about this girl or guy. So, go in with the intention of having a good time (some fun) and just getting to know him or her and MAYBE setting up a date or phone call for later on. You could even say that this is the "practice field" for developing your conversation and social skills. Just think of it as that.

If you've ever been involved with anyone on the Net. Or, thought that you've found true love on there only to have your heart broken or disappointment take hold because the person was NOTHING like what he or she claimed to be, then you totally understand what I'm talking about.

Now, the simple games are: teasing, tricking, and faking.

Teasers will flatter you, talk sexy, and lead you on just for fun and waste your precious time. They'll keep you hanging around and toy with you simply because they enjoy the attention and they have nothing better to do. They may think you're cute but, if someone else more interesting comes along, they'll ignore you and dismiss you like you're trash. This is a game that many women play. To them it's entertainment. Some of them will toy with your emotions and make you jump through hoops just to see how far you will go to try to please them and win their heart. But, don't be fooled, there are badboys out there who play this foul game too.

You can spot these people because they are all talk, talk, and more talk, but when you start talking dates or asking for their phone number, they act coy and play dumb. These are the same people who will give you a FAKE phone number or who will promise to call but don't. Pay attention. If they're playing TOO hard to get, let him or her know that you ain't got no time for foolishness and games, and move on.

Tricks will try to turn you into a trick by asking you for favors, or money, or they want you to SPEND your hard-earned money in order for them to talk to you - Or for you to get to first, second, or third base. And, they still might not give you the time of day! This is very true in night clubs and bars. If you've ever wanted to talk to a girl in a club - and she DEMANDS a drink first - oh, get to steppin'. There's nothing wrong with buying a woman a drink - whether you're feeling her or not, but if you HAVE to buy a drink just to get a conversation... move on. I was in a night club a few years ago and asked this girl to dance. That hag told me that if I wanted a dance, I'd have to buy her drink first! I said, "Damn! You ain't even worked up a sweat yet and you wanna drink already??? You're fine, but I don't deal with pimps!" And, I bounced. I went right up to the next chick I saw (she wasn't as cute but she looked okay)and asked her to dance, and we went on the floor. That's what I do. I don't chase a woman at a club. There are plenty in there. So, You don't have to put up with that sh*t!

You can spot these people easily. They'll ask for favors early on. Some will start begging within the hour. Some will bless you with a favor or gifts just so that you will be willing to give them more in the long run. Be wary of their hidden agendas. Their goal is to satisfy their immediate wants and needs, but if they can't, they'll work on you and keep you around while you provide them with dinner dates, bill money, transportation needs, trinkets, errands, labor, etc. But, when you need THEM, they're busy or you can't get in touch with them. These people will suck your bank account dry and use you up for your time if you don't keep your eyes open.

Fakers come in all shapes and sizes and have different goals. Some want you for a one-night stand. Some want you for money. Some want ONLY your money. Some want to control you and use you for convenience and support. Some just want to escape their current lifestyle. Some don't seem to know what the hell they want - you or their Ex or to be single.

This could be a list in itself. Fakers are...

* players - will use you mainly for sex or convenience

* con-men/con-women - will get you to invest in a scheme and steal your money

* scam artists - will get you to invest in a scheme or make you fall in love and steal whatever you've got

* manipulators - will abuse you for whatever they can get - including your love

* cheaters - aren't satisfied with anything except companionship or sex

* wafflers - don't know WHAT they want and will drive you crazy going back and forth between you and an Ex - or trying to decide if they want love or the single life

* pick-up artists - are like players but usually only want sex - some may be looking for something long-term

The only thing you can do to avoid being played by these players is to take your time and get to know him or her. Be friendly but, Don't allow him or her to do you ANY favors and don't feel obligated to do him or her any favors. Don't accept any gifts or trinkets that might make you sway your judgment. If their birthday comes up, get a card. Dinner maybe. But, don't give the impression that you're going to be his or her sponsor or the begging won't stop. If he or she starts guilt-tripping you, recognize that THAT is the sign of an abuser and you need to move on - as fast as you can.

Now, some people are generous and don't mind helping someone they care about. Some people don't mind sharing their good fortune with others. If that's your style, that's fine. But, be prepared to keep doing it if you want to keep this person in your life. And, I won't say that he or she WON'T change, but I wouldn't put faith in it. If your game is tight and You can establish some sort of equality in the relationship, then you may have a chance of winning his or her heart.

Many people can recognize these mind games at the first introduction. Some people need 3 months or so before they realize they've made a mistake. Again, take your time to get to know the prospect and KEEP YOUR AWARENESS LEVEL ON HIGH. If you remember that, your game will always be tight and you won't get played for sucker by these no-good scallywags.

- loveqna