Sometimes The Grass Is Greener On The Other Side

Now, while the saying: "The grass isn't always greener on the other side," is true, we must also realize that the flip side of this proverb is: "Sometimes, the grass IS greener on the other side."

And, I believe that many of the people who use this phrase use it as a psychological weapon to raise doubt (or awareness) in their cheating or waning lover.

Again, I'm not saying that this is the case all the time - or even most of the time - I'm saying that many of us know of a situation where a friend or family member has gotten out of a toxic or stale relationship and into another relationship and has done a lot better for themselves.

I'm also saying you never know if the relationship you're in is going to prosper or fail or if you should jump-ship and become the co-pilot or pilot on another prospect's magic carpet. You just don't know.

You may be giving up the best thing you'll ever have, or you might be saving yourself from disaster. You just don't know.

You can use your instincts and experience to somewhat see where things are headed, but you still don't know for sure.

People change and situations change.

But, what about those who don't feel a romantic connection? Or, those who are fed up with being ignored and feeling unloved? Many of these people couldn't wait for things to change. They had to get out. Some of them did well for themselves; Some of them got into more of a mess than they were in when they got out of the previous toxic relationship.

Sometimes, we must realize, the fault isn't always on ONE of the partners. It takes two tango. And, maybe the couple just isn't compatible.

These days, we're moving into relationships too fast without really getting to know each other. People aren't asking the important questions. Girls would rather giggle than to know a guys character, work ethic, and fortitude. Guys would rather date a chick with sex appeal than to find out about her work ethic, honesty, and credit score.

Now, I'm not saying that anyone should divulge all of their personal information on a couple of dates, but you do have to get at least a good idea about the quality of your prospects and what they are REALLY like. Have fun, but be aware of your prospect's habits, manners, and conversations. Ask questions that are important to you and your culture and lifestyle.

This is how you avoid that weak grass and get on the side where all of that luscious green grass is.

And, from there, you just follow that yellow-brick road to the land of milk and honey, and live happily ever after.


- LoveQnA