I was on YouTube today and found this heartbreaking video about a girl who was cheated on.
Now, I felt bad for her, really, but at the same time, it made me think about the old truism "there are two sides to every story". And, that's the problem: We're always looking at the faults and crimes of the cheater. We're ALWAYS looking at the drama from one side. I believe if more people started looking at both sides, then there might be less cheating going on in this world. I may be wrong, but I think all of us can REDUCE the chances of being cheated on if we looked at BOTH sides of the story instead of just looking at OUR SIDE of the story.
It's not always about the "victim" doing something wrong. And sometimes, it's not about the cheater WANTING to do wrong. Sometimes, it's just about the situation or circumstances.
Let me ask you a serious question... Why do you think certain people get cheated on over and over again in their relationships? Do you think there's something wrong them personally or intimately? Or, is it just bad judgment in romantic partners?
A lot of times, the "victim" is never told the truth about why the cheater cheated. Or, sometimes, a cheater may TRY to honestly explain why he or she cheated, but the person who got cheated on won't listen and/or won't give the cheater a chance to talk. And, we can all understand why: The victim of the scandal is mad as hell and hurt to their core. All he or she wants to do is argue and kick ass. And, some don't want to hear anything the cheater has to say or listen to any "lies" or "excuses".
But, let's keep it real: There are two sides to every story.
Contrary to what most people tell themselves after they've been cheated on, they haven't always been "perfect" in the relationship.
I write a lot about how frustrated I am with my ex. I paint her as a gold-digging demon from hell. And she is... But, I'm not perfect either.
I'm not handsome.
I'm not spontaneous.
I never took her on trips to any place special - like to the beach, or the mountains, or to a resort out of town.
We only went on one dinner date in the first few months of our relationship.
I never took her to the movies the few months we were a couple.
I'm not a great conversationalist. I can't even hold a good conversation.
And, I'm sure she could tell you a lot more negatives about me. And, I'm sure she would be MORE than happy to do it.
Really, she should've left me a long time ago.
But, that's the thing: We all have our faults. None of us are "perfect". And, you could whine all day about: "It doesn't matter. No one deserves to be cheated on." But, that's just a pipe-dream. The fact is: It happens. It happens no matter how wrong it is. And people are going to continue to cheat because so many people are sneaky, weak, greedy, free-spirits, or love to keep their options open.
Sometimes, people feel like they've made a mistake and they want out.
Sometimes, they feel like they aren't compatible with the person they've started being intimate with, but they're too afraid to tell that person they just want to be friends. So what happens? They allow this "relationship" (or "Situation") to go on and on as they hunt for their soulmate or for what they REALLY want in a girl or guy - and eventually, they cheat. It happens all the time.
But, there are lots of reasons why people cheat. I've posted more than a few reasons.
Some reasons have nothing to do with the victim of the cheater, and some reasons have everything to do with the victim of the cheater.
I'm not blaming anyone. There are certain things people just don't like or want in a partner or in a relationship and it can lead to a change of heart - or dishonesty.
But, let's be truthful and look at the situation from all sides.
And, you don't have to forgive the person, but be honest with yourself about you and what you bring to the table. Does it please this person you've chosen? Or, does it please you?
This is the best way to reduce the chances of being lied to and cheated on.
Video provided by - maiphammy
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Now, I felt bad for her, really, but at the same time, it made me think about the old truism "there are two sides to every story". And, that's the problem: We're always looking at the faults and crimes of the cheater. We're ALWAYS looking at the drama from one side. I believe if more people started looking at both sides, then there might be less cheating going on in this world. I may be wrong, but I think all of us can REDUCE the chances of being cheated on if we looked at BOTH sides of the story instead of just looking at OUR SIDE of the story.
It's not always about the "victim" doing something wrong. And sometimes, it's not about the cheater WANTING to do wrong. Sometimes, it's just about the situation or circumstances.
Let me ask you a serious question... Why do you think certain people get cheated on over and over again in their relationships? Do you think there's something wrong them personally or intimately? Or, is it just bad judgment in romantic partners?
A lot of times, the "victim" is never told the truth about why the cheater cheated. Or, sometimes, a cheater may TRY to honestly explain why he or she cheated, but the person who got cheated on won't listen and/or won't give the cheater a chance to talk. And, we can all understand why: The victim of the scandal is mad as hell and hurt to their core. All he or she wants to do is argue and kick ass. And, some don't want to hear anything the cheater has to say or listen to any "lies" or "excuses".
But, let's keep it real: There are two sides to every story.
Contrary to what most people tell themselves after they've been cheated on, they haven't always been "perfect" in the relationship.
I write a lot about how frustrated I am with my ex. I paint her as a gold-digging demon from hell. And she is... But, I'm not perfect either.
I'm not handsome.
I'm not spontaneous.
I never took her on trips to any place special - like to the beach, or the mountains, or to a resort out of town.
We only went on one dinner date in the first few months of our relationship.
I never took her to the movies the few months we were a couple.
I'm not a great conversationalist. I can't even hold a good conversation.
And, I'm sure she could tell you a lot more negatives about me. And, I'm sure she would be MORE than happy to do it.
Really, she should've left me a long time ago.
But, that's the thing: We all have our faults. None of us are "perfect". And, you could whine all day about: "It doesn't matter. No one deserves to be cheated on." But, that's just a pipe-dream. The fact is: It happens. It happens no matter how wrong it is. And people are going to continue to cheat because so many people are sneaky, weak, greedy, free-spirits, or love to keep their options open.
Sometimes, people feel like they've made a mistake and they want out.
Sometimes, they feel like they aren't compatible with the person they've started being intimate with, but they're too afraid to tell that person they just want to be friends. So what happens? They allow this "relationship" (or "Situation") to go on and on as they hunt for their soulmate or for what they REALLY want in a girl or guy - and eventually, they cheat. It happens all the time.
But, there are lots of reasons why people cheat. I've posted more than a few reasons.
Some reasons have nothing to do with the victim of the cheater, and some reasons have everything to do with the victim of the cheater.
I'm not blaming anyone. There are certain things people just don't like or want in a partner or in a relationship and it can lead to a change of heart - or dishonesty.
But, let's be truthful and look at the situation from all sides.
And, you don't have to forgive the person, but be honest with yourself about you and what you bring to the table. Does it please this person you've chosen? Or, does it please you?
This is the best way to reduce the chances of being lied to and cheated on.
Video provided by - maiphammy
*Click on the link to subscribe to maiphammy's YouTube channel
loveqna.blogspot.com (back to top)
You are welcome to share your opinion, suggestion, or personal story on Love.QnA. Most articles, interviews, videos, vlogs, stories, jokes, and documentaries can be found on various dating sites and YouTube sites here on the Internet. I focus on toxic relationships and relationship drama in order to turn the negatives of a relationship into positives. My main goal is to help others find a compatible partner/team player OR see the positives of being single and enjoying the single life.
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