Why Do Some People Think Being A Virgin Is A Bad Thing?

I know I should be updating some of my earlier posts in which I published only notes, but I have to comment on a subject I recently came across on the Net.

There was a 27 year-old woman on a forum who was wondering whether or not she would still be desirable if guys found out that she was a virgin. And, there are lots of people out there with the same "blessing" who are wondering the same thing.

And, I say (many people say), "of course a guy or girl will date you if you're a virgin". It's not like you have the plague or something.

A virgin might be inexperienced (and some people might not like that), but overall, it's not a bad thing. Especially, if you've been focused and moved forward in your life and have grown spiritually - or even started a career and have something to show for yourself.

If you've "abstained" to stay pure for marriage, that's not a bad thing either. But, you'd better be "skilled" when the honeymoon comes or else your love life is going to boring as hell. Maybe. (some virgins are closet freaks and sexual addicts waiting to explode)

Some men and women would actually prefer to meet a virgin and settle down with him or her because of the virgin being pure.

Some men (I don't know how women feel about this) would love to teach a virgin the ways of Love and how to make love. Maybe it's even a fantasy for some guys, who knows.

Many people also believe virgins are more likely to be faithful because:

Number One - They have already proven they have self-control

Two - Many virgins (probably most) fall in love with their first lover

Three - A virgin is not going to be tempted sexually by a guy or girl no matter how hot the guy or girl is

But, there's more...

Can you imagine how hard it is for a single guy with no kids to meet a twenty-one year-old (or older) woman with no kids??? It's like searching for a needle in a damn haystack!

Hell, you'd be lucky to find a 27 year-old who ain't a grandma nowdays!

I'm just kidding.

But, baby-mamas and baby-daddies ARE running rampant as hell around here, aren't they???

But, seriously...

If you're a virgin, it ain't nothing to be ashamed about.

Don't feel pressured or odd because of what your friends and family says. They're just teasing you and having a bit of fun. And don't let the haters and manipulators talk you into doing something you might regret. They just want you to feel their pain. If any of them could do it all over again, they would wait too.


The only people that don't get this are the ones who have sex but who have no common sense or wisdom about love. or, they have no real relationship goals. they're just going with the flow of life.

You're cute and have great character. That's a prize catch by any man's (or woman's) standards.

As long as you and your choice are compatible and know how to enjoy all aspects of Life (sex included), you're gonna have a wonderful relationship. Just make sure you have chemistry on all levels before you settle down.

Everybody knows that virgins rock.

- loveqna

Show Your Girl Some Love

R. Kelly - Your Body's Callin



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It's cool to be on casual standing with your girl to the point where you can relax and let your hair down and "just be You", but sometimes, you've got to be a little bit romantic and suave.

We all know hunks appreciate a little attention and being romanced and appreciated every now and then - but, so do our women!

Now, I know you know how to make love to your woman (mentally and emotionally). So, I'm not doubting your skills. But, every once and a while, I know we brothers have a tendency to get a little lax and take our partners for granted.

We don't show them enough love and appreciation. Or, flirt with them. Or, laugh and have a good time with them.

We don't put enough passion into intimacy and love-making.

We get slack on doing the little things that show we care.

I know sometimes (or often) kids might be a distraction. Or, work might ruin the mood. Or, sometimes, you don't know whether she wants you to touch her not. Or, she might give you the impression that she doesn't want to be bothered... But, don't forget that she's human and needs some lovin' every now and then.

For some of us, making that move requires more work than necessary - for whatever reason. (sometimes, women can be a sourpuss, I know) But, you have to use your charm and tact to get her to drop her defenses so that you can make love to her the way she wants to be made love to.

It might require flowers, candy, a small gift or trinket for some guys. It may even require dinner and a movie. Or, you may even have to get a little bit "freaky" and try something new (a fantasy of hers) that might excite her. Sometimes, kindness and a sweet conversation or just showing that you care and thinking about her helps. That has worked for me - even with some of the most grouchy-est of women.

Do the unthinkable...

- a love note
- a flirtatious phone call or text
- a pedicure or massage (from you or a spa)
- a foot rub or back rub
- a stroll in the park
- or, give that booty a slap

Whatever! Something simple. Anything.

Did you know that most grouchy women are grouchy because they aren't being shown enough love and romance???

Consider all of those mean-ass women you know! Do you think those witches would act that way if they were getting loved down properly??? Hell no. They'd be as sweet as pie.

They wouldn't come to work grumpy as hell spoiling the mood for everybody else. Or, giving you poor customer service. Or, be so "uppity" and ill-mannered when you ask them a simple question. They'd be cool, civil, and easy to get along with like most of the women in the world.

Am I saying that you have to change or be a lap-dog? Hell no. A woman ain't gonna respect a man who kisses her ass.

Am I saying that you have to cater to your woman every now and then? Yeah. Sometimes you have to treat that broad like a Queen if you expect to be treated like a King.

Sometimes you have to be sweet if you want the Royal Treatment.

Every day is a good day when you can make love to her Mind, Body, or Soul...

It's good for everybody when you show just how wise and skilled you are in the ways of Love.

And a lot of women don't require much.

Seriously.

If she does, you've probably done spoiled her. Or, somebody has.

But, that still doesn't matter.

If you know your woman and know her heart, you can still make her feel complete and satisfied and proud to have you as her Boo. And, I'm not saying that she doesn't feel anything of those things now. But, for some guys out there, I know they've hit a brick wall in their relationship and almost every aspect of it is just dull as hell.

Man, stop sittin' around miserable and get to work!

Be smooth with some charm and tact get things poppin' again!

Just as a strong woman has the power to inspire her man, a strong man like yourself has the power within him to inspire his woman!

If you've got a good thing, don't let it fall by the wayside...

Be mysterious. Be coy. Be playful. Be surprising. Be adventurous.

Make love to your Honey and blow her Mind.

- loveqna