How Love & Relationships Got Twisted (Maybe) | LoveQnA | Lucky Pikas Library

 

📖 Chapter One: Back to the Roots — How Love & Relationships Got Twisted

🔥 Setting the Record Straight — From the Ancestors to the Algorithms


🌱 The Love That Built Families & Dynasties

Before the podcasts, before Instagram models and “high-value man” debates, before red-pill vs. blue-pill nonsense — there was real love. Not perfect love, but partnerships built on survival, respect, and reality.

💬 What Our Ancestors Knew

  • Love wasn’t a “vibe” — it was a strategy for survival.

  • Marriage wasn’t just a “goal” — it was an economic alliance.

  • Raising children wasn’t “a woman’s job” — it was a full family operation.

  • Romance wasn’t about luxury trips and matching pajamas — it was about trust, teamwork, and traditions.


🚨 The Myths They Sold Us

Fast forward to today — and love got twisted like a pretzel. People running around thinking:

❌ All grandmothers were housewives baking pies.
❌ All grandfathers were faithful, wise providers.
❌ Every marriage was happy just because divorce was rare.
❌ Women only wanted love, and men only wanted sex.

💣 Truth Bomb: The Real History

✅ Plenty of women worked back in the day — in fields, in factories, as teachers, seamstresses, and maids.
✅ Men left families back then too — they just didn’t have social media to brag about it.
✅ Some marriages lasted because divorce was taboo — not because love was stronger.
✅ Women weren’t “choosing careers over families” — they were forced into work because men died, disappeared, or couldn’t provide.


📊 A Timeline of Love & Labor

Era

What Really Happened

1800s

Marriage = Survival Contract. Women worked farms & businesses. Divorce rare due to church & laws.

Early 1900s

Women worked in factories (especially during wars). Love = luxury for some, survival for most.

1940s-1950s

Post-war prosperity = Temporary fantasy of housewives & working husbands (mostly middle-class white families).

1960s-1970s

Civil Rights, Women’s Rights, Free Love Era — Traditional roles crumble. Women enter workforce in droves.

1980s-1990s

Economic shifts = two incomes needed to survive. Divorce rates rise.

2000s-present

Internet, social media, global dating pools = Love is a high-stakes game with too many players & too much noise.


🔎 The Real Reason Divorce Exploded

It wasn’t because people suddenly stopped loving each other. It’s because:

📡 More options = less loyalty
💰 Financial independence = more exits available
📱 Social media = comparison culture & temptation overload
💔 Less family pressure to “stay together for the kids”
🧠 Mental health awareness = people left toxic situations faster
🔥 Cultural shifts = Marriage isn’t seen as a “must” anymore


📊 Divorce Rates Over Time (U.S. Data)

Year

Divorces per 1,000 people

1850s

0.3

1900s

0.7

1940s (war era)

3.4 (spike due to wartime marriages failing after war)

1950s

2.5

1970s

5.0 (highest ever — rise of no-fault divorce)

2000s

3.6

2020s

2.3 (marriage rates dropped too)


💬 Top 10 Reasons Couples Split Up (Past & Present)

1️⃣ Infidelity
2️⃣ Money problems
3️⃣ Communication breakdown
4️⃣ Lack of intimacy
5️⃣ Different values/goals
6️⃣ Family interference
7️⃣ Abuse (emotional/physical)
8️⃣ Unrealistic expectations
9️⃣ Boredom
🔟 Addiction (drugs, alcohol, gambling)


💬 How Couples Used to Meet vs. Today

Old School

Modern Era

Family Introductions

Dating Apps

Church Socials

DMs & Thirst Traps

Work or School

Speed Dating & Reality Shows

Community Dances

Online “Situationships”

Through Friends

Solo Travel Hookups


💣 The Root of the Battle of the Sexes

At the heart of every argument between men & women is one thing:

POWER.

⚔️ Who controls the money?
⚔️ Who controls the sex?
⚔️ Who controls the decisions?
⚔️ Who has more options?
⚔️ Who brings more to the table?


💬 Bible, Beliefs & Bad Interpretations

Many people quote “Wives submit to your husbands” without ever reading the whole chapter.

📖 Ephesians 5:21 says: “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”
That’s mutual submission — not dictatorship.

Some religious beliefs fueled toxic power struggles.
But the Bible also says:
✅ A wise man cherishes his wife like his own flesh.
✅ A virtuous woman is worth more than rubies.

The truth: Real leadership serves, protects & uplifts. Not controls.


💔 Why Modern Love Feels Like a Warzone

📱 Too much choice, not enough connection
💰 Too much focus on money, not enough focus on partnership
💔 Too much comparison, not enough authenticity
🗣️ Too much noise from podcasts, influencers & clout-chasers
👀 Too much watching the opposite sex — not enough understanding them


💬 So What’s the Answer?

✅ Learn REAL history — not fairytales.
✅ Study RELATIONSHIPS like you study your hustle.
✅ Upgrade your COMMUNICATION like it’s a survival skill.
✅ Drop the ego — pick up collaboration skills.
✅ Stop listening to bitter, broken people online.


💎 Game for the Ages

“A wise king never fights a war he can’t win.” — Sun Tzu
“The game is to be sold, not told — but this one’s on the house.” — Lucky Pikas


🎁 What You’ll Learn in This Manual

✅ How to spot myths & manipulations about love
✅ How to navigate dating in the digital age
✅ How to break free from generational relationship curses
✅ How to build power-couple communication skills
✅ How to read people, spot liars & build trust
✅ How to play the long game in love & family


 


A Tarot Reader Accurately Read My History And Started Predicting My Future

Before I say anything, I'll admit that sometimes, I DO look at my horoscopes... But, I have mostly been disappointed by the readings. So, now, I only look at my horoscope maybe a few times a year when I'm bored or depressed. But...

 A few months ago, I was back to my old ways again (hanging with the "homies") and put myself in a bit of a predicament. So, I was stressed-out, angry, and disgusted, and turned to YouTube to take my mind off of my troubles.

 

(Pick A Card. Goddess Mentality - YouTube)


I was looking at some YouTube videos, and came across a Spiritual Woman who was also a Tarot Reader. She was on one of my favorite YouTubers' channel. 

At first, I didn't think much of it. I've never been interested in Tarot Readings. But, the more she talked, the more I felt that she wasn't just a Tarot Card Reader. 

I want to say I felt a positive "vibe" from her, but I'm not really sure if that's what it was. Honestly, I don't think so. But, I was curious, and decided to take a break from cyber-surfing to check-out her channel.

She was raw, uncut, vulgar, and profane, but she was right on the money with EVERYTHING she was saying about me and my recent history.

She mentioned my ex and the break-up and how she was trying to get in contact with me. And, my ex had been calling me and sending me emails at the time.

She mentioned a few other things that I was just THINKING about also, and I felt like... God, The Universe, or The Spirit was talking to me through HER; Because, I had been praying and asking questions, and she was responding with all of the answers!

I also had just got rid of those "slow-rollers" (my so-called "friends"), because associating with those "slow-rollers" had just cost me over TEN GRAND. (And, I'm done with them permanently.) 

I don't know why I was even associated with those guys in the first place. I never saw them as people I was "on the same page" with, so being involved with them for all of those years was ridiculous.

As I mentioned in the previous posts, I was kicked to the curb, and after I was, my life got a heck of a lot better. But, when they called me up and wanted to see me again, I didn't want to seem like a jerk, so I reconnected. And, within 7 or 8 months, I was crashing again. But, this time, I separated myself before I went completed down.

She KNEW all of this. She knew I had isolated myself and kicked their asses to the curb this time.

She knew I was into writing. She knew I was working on a clothing brand. She knew I was no longer partying and hanging out. She knew it all.

Later, she even predicted that I would be meeting someone who could possibly be a love-interest... Lord, I hope this girl isn't the one. I was interested in her a long time ago, but my interests have changed. I just want to chill and not deal with the stress of a commitment.

But, here a woman is. I had to sit by the phone half of Valentine's Day until she called to make sure we spoke to each other. And, for her to tell me she's coming over on Wednesday. 

I don't think there's any escape this time.

But, also the Tarot Reader mentioned I would start to see some progress and growth from one of ventures. My clothing brand especially. It hasn't happened yet. But, the crazy thing is all of this energy I've had in working on this brand. It came from nowhere. The ideas came from nowhere. I simplified it and expanded it all at the same time, and I feel much more confident about it succeeding.

If it does, I'll be back on solid ground...

The money will be important, but finally, I'll be able to build bigger and better things, and move away from all of the crazy drama that keeps trying to bring me down.

I know that this new "friendship" is one of those obstacles, traps, and potential dramas I need to avoid - and, maybe it's just a stepping stone - but, hopefully, I can get through it without losing everything - including my sanity.

Y'all pray for meh.

 

Video provided by Goddess Mentality

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Everyone Wins On Valentine's Day (Almost) Video: Cockroaches For Valentine's Day

 Wherever you are, whatever your relationship status, I hope you're enjoying Valentine's Day. 💖

 


Even if you're single and feel like you missed out on the festivities this year, look on the bright side: At least, you didn't have to spend MORE time, money, and brain cells trying to come up with the perfect gift (or gifts) for yet another holiday... Especially in times like these when gas, people, and everything else is so high. 

So, some of us are blessed to be able to chill, relax, and selfishly indulge in our own things for Valentine's Day. 

But, if you are one of the folks that had to come up with a special meal to cook for tonight or find an expensive restaurant to take your Valentine to, at least, you got the chance to watch the SuperBowl in peace last night. 

I heard that some crazy people were even out there running around proposing marriage to other crazy people who were crazy enough to accept those proposals... I still don't believe it But, if it makes them happy, who are we to judge?

My Valentine's Day, so far, is a little bit chilly - but at least I have my Internet. So, I'll probably watch some YouTube Couples brag and boast about what they are doing for Valentine's Day and other people post "Valentine's Day Revenge" videos. I know it doesn't sound all that exciting, but it's my "thing". I like to see people happy, and I like to see people's pain. 😄

My new "friend" gave me a bit of attitude last night on the phone. She called me early Sunday morning because she wanted to come over. 

Honestly, I was a bit surprised a couple of days ago when she mentioned that she MIGHT come over. But, to tell you the truth, I didn't want to be bothered. Hell, I don't even know why she wanted to waste her day off sitting around over here.

But, we missed that opportunity because I was asleep. I must've been "dog-tired" from working on so many projects, because my phone sits on a table right next to me, and I didn't hear it ring. I explained that to her, and then she said something that made me have a flashback...

"You can't see how to do your disability paperwork, but you can sit up all night and see how to edit pictures and video, can't you?"

I usually don't use the phrase "taken aback", because I'm not totally sure of what it means... But, in this moment, no dictionary or reference was needed. I was "taken aback". And, I almost cussed her ass out. Already.

I haven't even moved in with the broad yet, and already she was getting "jazzy" and telling me how to live my life.

But, I didn't flip out. I stayed cool and calm - although, she was reminding me of my ex. Not the last one, but the one before that. The "country girl" whose house I had to escape from in the middle of the night. That's who she reminded me of. She sounded just like her in that moment, and it gave me chills. I'm still afraid til this day. And, I'm almost becoming desperate NOT to move in with this new "friend".

She said she was not interested in any sort of relationship. And, that's cool with me because, I just got out of one a year ago, and I'm just starting to feel free and comfortable again. But, we've been talking on the phone on a regular basis a few times a week and talking about almost everything, so maybe she's... Hell, I don't know. I don't know what she's thinking. She sends mixed signals, but I don't accept them one way or the other. 

Yes, we make flirty remarks towards each other, but nothing suggestive or leading.We know how far to go and what lines not to cross.

Honestly, I only call her because she got angry with me before for not picking up my phone every time she called, and said I wasn't a real friend. So, I started answering the phone more. And then, I started calling her more.

Now, every time my phone rings, I have to jump or rush to grab it to see if it's her calling me, so that I don't miss the call. And, this is how I'm spending Valentine's Day - sitting around on pins and needles - waiting for her ass to call...


Video provided by: YouTube Addict

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No Matter How Great Life Is, You Will Always Be Thrown Curve Balls

Why, Lord? Why me?

I really shouldn't be complaining about anything. I'm going blind, true, but, I'm a lot better off than I was before I stepped-up my game and started focusing on improving my life.

I used to roll with "party animals" and "slow-rollers". 

 These are people who live in the fast lane, but aren't really "Players", Entrepreneurs, Dons, or connected to anybody or anything worthwhile. I was one of them. We made decent money and lived a low middle-class lifestyle, but we weren't building anything or contributing to anything. All we did was talk about what we were gonna do (and trying to do) and run around in circles. 

Besides that, we weren't doing jack-shit.

Lucky for me, I was kicked to the curb and ousted from the "circle". If it wasn't for that, I would've still been hanging out with those guys and Life would've passed me by.

Neither did I have the right girl on my team, but the Lord blessed me to have her on my side for a year, and I was able to start my journey and eventually "come up"...

Over time, I had my dream job. I had a decent amount of money - off and on. My credit was top-shelf (at one point), I had my own home, good friends, good neighbors, a nympho girlfriend, high-speed Internet, peace of mind, everything... 

I had a bird's eye view of The Promised Land.

I was no longer the Prodigal Son wandering in wilderness with those fools. I was like King Solomon.

I had it all. Everything I wanted. And, almost everything I needed.

But, I didn't have the right attitude to maintain it all.

I'm not going to go into another spiel about "self-love" or "personal priorities", goals, and boundaries. What's done is done. I screwed myself up.

Now, I'm on the move again. On the damn road again like damn Willie Nelson. But, this time, more wiser than the Prodigal Son. 

I was interested in this one girl about ten or so years ago (not long after I started this blog - damn, time flies), but she wouldn't give me the time of day.

I thought we were "cool". But, when she had her house-warming party, she didn't invite me. I asked her about it, and this chicken-head-ass broad had the nerve to say, "I'm not inviting you over to my house so that you and your friends can come back later and rob me." 

And, she walked right into the breakroom without breaking a stride.

My ass almost did a back-flip... I was shocked. I was flabbergasted. And, I was offended... But, it was so ridiculous that I couldn't help but laugh to myself about it for years and years later.

This is one of those "she crossed the line" moments that you never forget about. 

And, I don't know why in the hell she would even say that to me when I knew all of the same people she knew.

Seriously.

All of the people I associated with, associated with her. They worked with me - including her. And, we had even been to lunch a few times together. Hell, she had even been to MY house! (Or, rather, my old house; former house, or whatever). She also gave me her phone number at one point. I just never called it back then, because I had met someone.

But, she still never invited me over. She even played me out, laughed at me, and dismissed me, during the Pandemic...

And, as Karma would have it, she ended up getting played herself - used and screwed over by someone she thought was interested in her. (I'm not laughing at her though. It happens to all of us at some point - No matter how tight your game is.)

But, anyway...

She has been beyond disrespectful, and has even accused me once of "not being a friend". WTF???

I've tried to be her friend ever since I saw those sexy legs walking across the parking lot at work. And, even in one of her most darkest moments, she called me, and I was there. And, called her up to check on her the following days to make sure she was okay. 

But, she has always treated me like "Philip Carey" from "Of Human Bondage". She has always played me out. Ten Years... More than that really. And, I would still stick by her as a friend. 

But, I don't even care about that anymore. It's whatever. It's done.

All of that is in the past, and I'm moving in with her in a few days. 

But, this is just a "friendship", and it's temporary. She's going to help me get a few things in order before I go completely blind, and my contributions to her for allowing me to stay will help alleviate some of the pressures of paying all of those bills by herself. But, I didn't want it to come to this.

I don't mind humbling myself, but I prefer taking care of myself, having my own place, and being independent. And, that's what she wants too. No one wants to be intruded upon. And, honestly, right now, I'd rather be alone.

I've gotten too used to The Good Life, and my Goals and Dreams seemed right within reach. Hell, they were right there! I was so close, I could smell the fragrance of Power and Success like I had done took a bath in it.

*(When I speak of "Power", I'm talking about Freedom, Control, and Options.)

The dream of chillin' in the lap of luxury with my "ride or die chick" is stuck in my head and burned into my memory...

Now, it almost feels like that's what it's going to be - a memory.

I've prayed and meditated on it, but my faith is wavering.

But... I can't blame anyone except myself. I should've stayed on top of my game. I should've kept learning and growing and picking up good game from some of the Major Players of our time like Elon Musk, and Warren Buffet, and all of the cryptocurrency millionaires, and all of these YouTube and TikTok millionaires...

I should've been more focused and stayed busy.

If I had, without a doubt, I'd still be living The Good Life... and The Player's Lifestyle.


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Clip: How Do You Know When You've Found Success As A Woman? 😅👍

Relationship advice for young women: Once the relationship is official, then establish rules. 😅👍

 

Video provided by - jessy and louy

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YouTube Video: You're Cheating On Me With My Coworker!!! (The Jerry Springer Show)

😮 You're Cheating On Me With My Coworker!!! (The Jerry Springer Show)

🤷‍♂️ What in the heck is going on with people at work??? People have been cheating with their co-workers on the job for thousands of years. It's a common thing that's going on today. But...

How in the world do you have the balls to cheat with someone at your girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, or wife's place of employment? And, still have the nerve to say that you're in love? AND... the fool in this video even had the audacity to propose marriage to his victim! How sloppy can you get? 😅 Some relationships survive such stupidity. But, what would you do?

 


 Video provided by - The Jerry Springer Show

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