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- loveqna

Good Women Ain't Gold-Diggers

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A lot of men think all women need a "man with money" to be happy...

True, there are a lot of women out there looking for a man with money or a man who will take care of the bills and provide all of the comforts of life. But, all women aren't looking for that. All women aren't looking for a SugarDaddy. All women ain't gold-diggers.

Don't think you can't get a good woman just because your bank account ain't on "swole". Don't think that all women will despise you because you're working a mediocre job making chump-change! Believing that B.S. will ruin your Mind and Self-Esteem!

Don't fall into the trap of believing that you have to have money like Bill Gates or be some kind of famous rapper or Celebrity to "pull" a sexy satisfying babe who has all the qualities you like and lust for.

Look at all of these fine-ass Cougars and Sugar-Mamas taking care of these studs and young bucks! These women have got phat asses and sex-appeal!

Look at all of these famous female celebrities hooking up with these no-name local jokers they meet waiting on tables and delivering pizza!

Look at all of these sexy young tenderonies swooning over these bad boys who are so broke and malnutritioned that their pants are falling off to the ground!

These guys are broke as joke! Many of them are lazy as hell. Most of those poor saps don't have a job, no future, and some ovem ain't even worth a butt-naked nickel!

Do you think those women give a damn about those guys being broke? Hell No! Sh*t No!

Those chicks are trickin' just like some of these guys out here. They'll pay for companionship and affection just like a man will. They'll let those bums drive their car and keep it all day. They'll pay for the gas, pay those guys' cellphone bill. They'll buy those guys all kinds of gifts, shoes, clothes, snacks, beer, weed, and food just to keep the guy happy and hope in the long run that he will keep coming back and continue to be her man or at least a close intimate friend - her "butt-buddy".

Some women will do all kind of trick-ass sh*t just to try to keep those bums hanging around.

How many times have you seen a "Nice Girl" in a relationship with a total loser???

So, it's not always about the money.

It's not always low self-esteem either. That's a myth. That's a bunch of baloney.

Open your eyes! You see sexy STRONG CONFIDENT women with these poor sap-suckers too! Good women. Women that don't take no crap from anybody. Women that have the ability to conquer the World - getting involved with these sorry-ass chumps.

I had no job when me and my Ex got back together. And, when I DID get a job, it was part time and she was happy with it. To that chick, money was not an issue. She wanted Love, affection, and companionship. She just didn't know how to love. That chick was crazy hell and damn near drove me insane. I couldn't give her what she wanted because her attitude was a complete turn-off. But, if it wasn't for that, she couldn't care less if I was making less money than her.

Before I met her, I was involved with this fine-ass Filipina. Oh my goodness... This chick was a dime-piece... Beautiful hair. Beautiful legs. Beautiful lips. Pretty eyes. Passionate. Fun. Sweet. Caring. Giving... She loved me TOO much. My dumbass... There were businessmen, semi-professional athletes, REAL PLAYERS, and such, coming out the woodworks trying to entice my girl, and all she wanted was me. I was broke as hell at that time also - working in an auto parts store - and this chick couldn't keep her hands and mind off of me. She texted me all day. She wanted to make love all the time. She was jealous as hell and didn't want me out of her sight. Money wasn't the issue. I just couldn't handle the relationship. Leaving was the dumbest thing I've ever done in my life.

Let me give you another example...

Where I work, we don't make a hell of a lot of money. But, we have people there dating left and right. There are couples in long-term relationships working there. There are married couples working there. Many of these women in these relationships are sexy as hell. Any guy would be proud to have one of these fine "mamasitas" on their arm. Some of them look better than these celebrities you see in the movies and singing on stage or modeling, but they're married to or dating these "Average Joes" who work in retail. These guys ain't got no Big MONEY.

One of my homeboys (an acquaintance really) went on a blind date and hit a gold mine! He was introduced to this fine-ass chick that worked for a bank. She must've been a top-level executive or something because she was always flying around the country and out of the country. She hooked that dude, and they got married. She bought him a brand-spankin-new SUV and a Tractor - as in 18-wheeler tractor trailor! And she wasn't a bad looking girl. She was just too busy to go out and look for love. And, she didn't go to bars and nightclubs. But, she was able to find a guy she could love and care for and he was no Rockerfeller.

These are just a few examples I'm aware of from personal experience, but these types of connections happen all the time. And these types of relationships with hot sexy good women and broke-ass men are going on everywhere! Open your eyes and look around!

How are these scroundrels meeting these good women???

Do you know what makes the difference? Do you know why hot chicks hook-up with those losers?

First of all...

YOU DON'T NEED A MILLION DOLLARS TO HOOK-UP WITH A GOOD WOMAN Or a HOT CHICK.

Don't get me wrong though... Money WILL give you more options! With a pocket full of MOOLAH, you could easily pick-up hoodrats, gold-diggers, hoochie-mamas, show-girls, uppity-ass bimbos, high-maintenance chicks, and maybe a sweet girl looking for her "knight in shining armor". But Remember! If you spoil a woman, you'll have to KEEP spoiling her and spending your hard-earned cash to keep her happy!

Many women are impressed by a man with money, a nice car, a good job, a nice crib (or flat), and goals as long as he ain't a jerk.

Yeah, it's a good thing to have a little money in your pocket so that you take your girl out on a date every once and a while... But, it's still not all about money! Who in the hell wants to be stuck in the house ALL the time???

Nobody wants to be in a relationship that's stale and boring.

Many women are attracted to a man with PERSONALITY. They like a man who has GOOD CONVERSATION. They are attracted to a man with CONFIDENCE. They appreciate a man who's FEARLESS. They appreciate a man who THINKS and one who is KNOWLEDGABLE. They enjoy being around men who ENJOY LIFE and who know how to HAVE A GOOD TIME.

All of these women AREN'T lonely and desperate for Love. Don't listen to the excuses from men who aren't willing to meet a good woman. Women appreciate a man who's ATTENTIVE and CARING. And that doesn't mean being weak and sensitive or submissive. Pay attention to the Game...

Stop thinking you need a big bankroll to meet a good woman.

Stop believing all of those lies about all women wanting men for their money.

Some women are willing to share the load. Some are willing to CARRY the load!

Look at all of the house-husbands and Stay-At-Home-Dads brave enough to show their faces on TV! Look at all of the women bringing home all of that bacon nowdays... They're making all the money while the husband stays at home and takes care of the house and kids! It's a beautiful thing...

All women aren't looking for a man with money but a REAL woman will want you to contribute SOMETHING to the relationship - especially if she's a hustler, go-getter, or driven.

You'd better be good with your hands, good in bed, pretty, pretty sexy, or a handyman or have many of the qualities I mentioned earlier if you think you're going to live off a woman for free without tying the knot.

Now, I hope I'm not encouraging anyone to be a bum and mooch and live off of a woman. That's not my intention.

All I'm saying is: You don't have to have a lot of money to find the girl of your dreams.

You have to bring SOMETHING to the table. And before anything else can happen, it has to be a great personality.

- loveqna

How To Escape From A Bad Relationship

Yesterday (or the day before) I accidentally posted my notes. Today is no accident. Read on if you can stomach it, but changes won't be made until I get off from work. If I'm too tired, I'll remove it and change it later.

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Sometimes bad situations change. Sometimes people change. So, I won't suggest that you leave your relationship. But, I'm not going to try to convince you stay either.

If you're involved with tyrant, you deserve better.

If you're involved with a nagging-ass woman or nick-picking nagging-ass man, you deserve better.

If your partner is abusive in ANY way, you should know that you deserve better.

If you're involved with a compulsive liar who doesn't respect you or who disrespects you and your relationship, go A.W.O.L. Kick him or her to the curb.

If you've thought hard about your situation and can't work things out with your partner, and decided that your best option is to leave the relationship, then here's what you can do...

1. Stack some cash. If you can't save any money for your escape, then you need some good friends who are willing to put up with you until you get on your feet.

2. Look for a new place. If you're in an abusive relationship and you KNOW your Ex is half crazy, then don't move where you'll be tracked down. If you can move out by telling him or her that you need time to think about the relationship or you can agree to some time apart, then fine. If he or she is a stalker, don't move in with someone he or she may consider a potential mate for you because that might make him or her crazy with jealousy. Skip town if you have to and don't tell other people where you're going - not even people you consider friends because the truth may slip out.

If you have kids it can be hard to make a move but contact some of these abuse hotlines and find out how a parent can get financial assistance in an emergency such as this. Some of those politicians and people in society don't think about situations like this so it's kind of tough but try to keep your head up and scour the city and books for help and financial aid. Furthermore, throw your pride out of window and do what you have to do to survive.

There's a double-standard when men are in this situation. Men can get food stamps and housing assistance as well, but the resources are not as available to them as it is for women. And some of these guys are in abusive relationships as well - mentally and emotionally we all know, but in some cases, physically, too. A woman can whip your ass then call the cops on you for defending yourself and have your ass locked up. It ain't never happened to me but I've seen it happen before.

But, this ain't just about "straight" relationships. We all know that abuse occurs in ALL relationships. So, whatever your orientation, or preference, or lifestyle, it doesn't matter, you can get help too.

3. If you don't have a good-paying job and you're CONSIDERING leaving the relationship, go to school or look for a new job AHEAD of time. Find a way to support yourself or get a school grant or something. If you have no skills, no degree, or no experience in a job that pays well, then you'd better start working on that now.

Now, let me make something clear: If Life was perfect all of this will work out without any problems, but we all know this ain't the case.

Decent-paying jobs are hard to come by.

You don't have time to go to school and you want to get out RIGHT now.

You don't have anyone that will help you or take you in.

You don't have any money and you have NO way to save.

I know how it is... When my Ex wanted me to leave, I tried to get out there and find a place and couldn't find one. I was working part time and couldn't find a full time job. I didn't have any money.

My only plan was to pawn a few items to get some cash for storing my stuff and I would sleep at a homeless shelter for a while.

All I had was courage and a slight plan.

The other thing I did was I told everyone about my situation and what I needed to do. For days, I made it known that I had an emergency and was being ousted of my current residence. But I wasn't hysterical. Sometimes you can break down and someone will immediately feel sympathetic and offer you anything you need, but I didn't feel it was that serious. So, I maintained my composure. I asked if they knew of any places that were cheap to move into or any that didn't require a deposit. Some of those places were scum... and, I would've dreaded moving in. But, if push came to shove, I would've done what I had to do.

Some of my co-workers even offered to have me as a roommate. I was in need but I wasn't DESPERATE! lol. I'm just kidding.

I guess my Guardian Angel felt I was REALLY trying and swooped down to help me.

That's when I found that notepad with my old friend's number on it and decided to give her a call. I moved in with no money down. I was able to by a bicycle to get to work (since the buses don't come out this far). And, by the time my rent was due, I had the money. I had to clean one of her investment properties and work for a couple of co-workers at odd hours, but the main thing is: I did what I had to do and, I got my rent paid on time.

But, what if you're just in a stale sucker-ass boring relationship with somone who just doesn't turn you on or with someone who turns you off. What do you do if you're too "shy" to come right out and tell him or her that you want "Out"?

Let me tell you how I've weaseled my way out of some of those dull relationships and how others have done it as well...

Did you ever see that movie, "How To Lose A Guy In 30 Days"?

Although it's a comedy, it's a movie based on facts. I haven't seen the entire movie but the bits and pieces I DID see were funny as hell. Basically, this guy and this chick start dating and she does all kinds of sh*t to try and dump him or get him to dump her. She'd do or say things just to get the man riled up. She tries to "turn him off". She nags. She irritates him. She interrupts him while he's trying to relax and chill. She acts like a psychopath in front of his friends. She acts like a "ding-bat". She annoys him. She does all kinds of crap so that he will hate her or dislike her and leave, but he sticks around.

In real life, some guys would stick around too, but over half of them would cheat or leave. And, they do. But, if you want him (or her) to leave anyway, who cares? Get gone.

One of my co-workers told me there was an Astrology book that taught people how to break-up with their partner by doing things he or she doesn't like. Things that would piss the particular zodiac sign off and make him or her abandon the relationship.

One example was: If they're lazy, make them work all the time or ask them to do something. Keep them busy.

Another example was: If they clean-up all the time, be messy and don't clean up.

Or... If they are messy, be a "Neat-Freak" and constantly clean and complain about EVERYTHING being dirty or having germs. Sterilize everything at home as well as out in public.

She gave me two testimonials and suggested if I ever needed it, to run out and grab that book.

It's the same technique used in that movie.

Screw with a person's pet peeves. Do things they don't like and eventually they'll leave you alone. It's real life situations, but you just project and magnify a particular habit or characteristic that you know your lover simply can't stand. After a while, they'll be like: "To hell with this. I'm gone."

Oh crap! Do you think my Ex was doing that to me???

lol.


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She'd have to run her mouth just for hell of it.

These people DESERVE to be alone. They SHOULD be alone. These assholes should be banished and exiled.

Save - don't hesitate to start stacking your cash - get a mailbox and a new bank account if you have to

Plan your move - move out of the vicinity; change jobs if you have to

Get protection

Inform the authorities if you believe your life or safety is in danger

Get help from a friend but be wary about associating with or visiting friends the both of you know

Don't take threats lightly and if you have a new girlfriend or boyfriend advise them of the same

If the person doesn't respect you now, they may not respect you in the future.

Why don't they respect you?

What issues or beefs have you had that caused you to spite each other?

Why can't you go back to the way things were before when you first met?

On the night of my last post, I called my new roommate up and asked her if she could come over the next day and help me move some of my stuff to the new place. It was fate that she had just pulled up in her driveway and asked me if I wanted her to come over and pick me "now". I said, "That'll be great. I'm already packed." But, in my mind I said, "HELL YEAH! Get me the hell up out of here right dammit now!"

I gave her the directions to my Ex's house and she told me she'd be right over in about ten or fifteen minutes. I was shocked but I couldn't delay. Damn! I didn't think she would come so soon! I wasn't packed! I had most of my crap all over the place like I had been "spring cleaning" and half of my sh*t was spread out all over the place.

I ran around that damn raggedy-ass house trying to find garbage bags and plastic grocery store bags to pack my sh*t in. I didn't care. Some stuff, I trashed. And whatever I didn't see or have my mind on, I just left it. The hell with it. It's only stuff.

I made sure my Ex's lunch was cooked for work. I didn't prepare it myself. Her sons were cooking dinner and I supervised while I ran around trying to find the bags to haul my stuff in.

I hate to say it, but nobody knew I was leaving. I pretended to be cleaning and throwing my old junk out while her sons made dinner. And, she was just waking up after getting her rest for work, so she didn't know what I was doing. But, the timing was great, because I didn't want to go in and disturb her while she was sleeping. I grabbed her work clothes and put them in the dryer for her and took some of my stuff outside and set it on the front lawn. It was a little after 10pm so I was literally running off like a thief in the night. It was exciting to be escaping away to my new life.

About ten minutes after we first talked, my roommate called for more directions. I was moving so quickly and rushing around, I started babbling at first and had to calm myself down. My roommate must've sensed it because she said, "There won't be any drama when I get over there, will it? I don't want to get into no sh*t between you and your woman."

I let her know that everything was cool and she was more than welcome to come over a chill for while if she liked. lol. (Yeah, right.)

She didn't know it, but she had just set herself up for a prank.

Anyway...

She got there before I finished packing but it only took me about a minute or less to get all of my stuff and get it packed into the car. And, I told the guys "see ya' later". And, that was it. I was gone.

When I got back outside I rushed to the car, I yelled at my roommate like I was hysterical, "GO! GO! SHE'S COMING! LET'S GET THE HELL OUTTA' HERE!"

She was shocked. lol. Her eyeballs almost popped out of their sockets! lol. That chick was petrified! It was funny as hell.

I'm surprised she didn't put me right back out of her car. lol. But, she thought it was funny too. Anyway, I packed up my stuff and we rode off into the night...

After I got here and got my stuff into the room, my roommate started interrogating me. She asked me if I DID drugs, sold drugs, or was doing anything else illegal. Of course, NO. Then, she wanted to know why me and my Ex split-up and if she would be coming over any time because she didn't want any drama in her neighborhood. I let her know that "we were done" as a couple and not planning any reunion. And, just as I said that, my cellphone rang. It was Her.

I wasn't going to answer it at first, but I didn't want to burn any bridges, so I took the call. She asked where I was and how I got here. I've been telling her that I'm rooming with a guy from work and that he and his wife lives on the East side of town. I probably could've just told her in the beginning that I have a female roommate, but I think I know her well enough to say there would've been a little bit of drama and false accusations. So, I continued with that lie about moving in with a guy from work and told her that his wife picked me up just in case she happened to see my roommate in the car.

A day or two passed...

She sent a couple of texts (or at least one text) asking me if I missed her. Nope, not at all. I didn't text her back. Then, she called me another day to tell me the kids were asking about me. They thought I was at work and kept asking what time I was coming home. That kind of pissed me off because I do miss those little bad-ass brats. But, I didn't talk to them on the phone. Instead, I told her I was rushing off to work and would call them back later in the day. No. I didn't call. I don't even remember anything she said on the phone. I had move on. The nightmare is over!

Or, is it???

I like my new life. And for now, I like being single. But, don't get me wrong, I AM keeping my eyes open for Love.