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Have you ever felt someone was "out of your league"?

Let me tell you why you should never think that way...

One of my homeboys (a co-worker actually) has a serious problem. He's suffering from "nice guy syndrome". He's TOO polite and FRIENDLY with women. The real problem is he doesn't realize it.

He keeps meeting girls but he keeps having bad luck with them. They seem to think he's a good guy but they only see him as a friend - someone they can talk to.

According to him, his latest prospect was playing games. She was giving him ALL the right signals and invitations but when he asked her out for a date, she told him she had a boyfriend. He was angry and broken-hearted. This keeps happening to that poor sap over and over again. He admitted it. I know it's true because it has happened at work too...

We have some of the finest chicks that you'd ever want to see working with us. I'm talkin' "Dime Divas". Hotties. Tenderonies. Mamacitas... Exotic Women from Brasil and Colombia. Bodacious Blondes. Chocolate Cutie Pies. Sizzlin sistas of all races, shapes, and sizes.

He approached one of them. They talked for a few weeks but he made his move too late. Some other Cat came in and snatched that chick up right up from under him and he was left out in the cold with the po-mouth again. But, he didn't chalk it up to him being a "nice guy" and "too slow" at making a move on the girl. He rationalized his misfortune by saying that the girl was "out of his league".

Out of his league???

He practically had the chick eating out of his hands for 5 or 6 weeks. They must've known each other's life story and history. They talked so much and spent so much time together that some of us thought they were a "couple". But, he NEVER asked the chick out on a date or for her phone number! wtf??? You're interested in getting to know the girl, you talk to her for 5 or 6 weeks and you NEVER ask for her phone number??? Of course she's gonna walk out of your life. He should've been asking for that babe's cell number within the first week - at least by the SECOND week! Hell, she was probably tired of him yappin' about nothing after the first couple of days and wanted some Action! Or, at least a conversation that was more flirtatious and "playful". Damn.

When that Other Dude came in and started talking to the girl, he said, "I think I'm just gonna give up on her. I think I know the type of guys she like. She might be out of my league anyway." He just gave up.

According to him, most of the girls he like are out of his league. But, he can't help himself. He's attracted to popular girls who are slim petite "model" types - attractive "Nice Girls" who are "clean-cut", always neatly dressed, pristine, and somewhat preppy. He says he's attracted to these girls but they aren't attracted to him.

He ruins his self-esteem and good vibes before he even approaches any of those sweet lambs.

Don't fall into that trap. Be realistic. True, there are people out there that believe in "levels" and "leagues" and all that B.S. but... that's dillusional thinking. Look at all these riff-raff local jokers and pot-head hoodrats hooking up with all of these fine cutie-pies out here...

Too many people put too much value on looks, fame, money, and all of "junk" they own or all of the "junk" that OTHER people own and the bottom line is: It doesn't matter! If this pretty-boy or pretty girl won't talk to you, there are thousands out there who will.

If you keep getting your heart broken or afraid to talk to someone because he or she is out of your league, then the simple formula for you is to conquer shyness and learn how to loosen up and appreciate who you are and SOMETHING about your life.

Don't EVER think you're not worthy of another person because he or she may surprise you. In the long run, he or she may not be worthy of you.

All types of people mix, mingle, and start a relationship. Look at some of those hoodrats Tiger Woods hooked up with! Look at what "level" he was on. And Tiger isn't a bad-looking guy. And his wife (at the time) was a "beauty queen"! Do you think many of those women were on HER "level"??? Tiger didn't care about what "level" they were on.

It's not always about how good the other person looks or how popular he or she is, or how much money and popularity he or she has. It's about you. It's about your personality. It's about how interesting you are. It's about how much fun you are to be with. It's about NOT letting the friendship or courtship get stale and monotonous. It's about being assertive and asking for what you WANT - whether it's a phone number, a date, or a kiss, or whatever. You've got to make your move or else you're gonna end up in the "friend zone".

You'll know within a week or two if the person you're interested in is already spoken for or NOT looking for a relationship because he or she will make it clear if you ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS.

You don't have to come right out and ask: "Do you have a girlfriend?" - or, "Do you have a boyfriend?"

You don't have to ask for a date or a phone number right off the bat. You can be tactful and flirtatious and see where it goes from there.

Most important: You have to enjoy yourself and enjoy the moment and just let yourself go! Use your good instincts. When YOU feel the Time is right, make your move.

Be assertive and ask for what you want. Don't wait or else it might be too late!

- loveqna