What If You're Loving And Caring And Your Partner Still Cheats On You?

Beg you sorry rascal! Beg for forgiveness! lol...

What we are REALLY talking about here is Honesty, Trust, And Respect.

We are also talking about people who are weak-minded.

But be warned also: Love is not always a two-way street.

You can love someone and devote yourself to him or her, but that doesn't mean or guarantee that they will even have a second thought about you.

Scam artists and players make unsuspecting suckers - I mean, Good men and women - fall in love with them all the time. They do it so that they can con these good people out of their money, their credit, a place to live, a car, favors, access to something, whatever.

Look at these people who "catfish" people online. Sometimes the "stalker" (or the one doing the catfishing) is in love whereas the good person who THOUGHT they were in love, realize that they weren't in love when they finally meet the person that "catfished" them.

So, Love is not always a two-way street.

Some people try to force their love on another person who could never feel love.

It doesn't matter how good you cook.

It doesn't matter how good you look.

It doesn't matter if you're loving, caring, honest, or faithful and in love, that doesn't mean your romantic interest HAS to feel the same way. They feel the way they feel and that's that.

Sometimes, two people start out on great terms, and feel like they are compatible and that they will be together forever. But...

Sometimes, one partner loses interest. It happens.

Sometimes, a couple gets into a heated argument, say things they don't mean, and one partner never forgives the other partner. They are so ticked off, they don't want to be in the relationship anymore. What was love turns into disgust and they're just hanging around until they can find a way out.

Sometimes, one of the partners may find a true connection with someone else, or BELIEVE that they have a connection or chemistry with someone else and feels compelled to start a relationship with that person.

Unfortunately, nothing ever stays the same. People change. Situations change. Feelings sometimes change. Love can be tested. True feeling can be exposed. And, true character - and motives (as hurtful as they may be) - at some point will be brought to light.

So, if your partner cheats after you have been honest, loving, and caring, your only resolution is going to be how you deal with what has happened.

And, no matter how you deal with it, you still have to learn from it and change.

You might have to change how you interact with your partner - or, your next partner.

You might have to change how you choose your partners.

You might have to change your style, attitude, behavior, or beliefs (if they keep getting you into disagreements with your partners).

You know what you have to do.

But, it's up to the both of you to settle this - IF you want to hold on to the cheater.

Talk to him or her. Only he or she can tell you WHY he or she cheated. No one else. Not me. Not your friends. Not the author of a book. No one. The cheater has to tell you why he or she cheated.

Then, YOU have to decide if it's worth the risk to hang on and involve yourself with this person again or move on.

The deceit has happened. Now, investigate and try to make sense of it all. Don't go berserk because of it. Let the bum speak (or lie) and try to understand what went wrong. Learn from the experience no matter what you do.

But, here's another fact that a lot of people are aware of:

Even if you move on and find someone else, it could happen again. Honest and Faithful people are rare these days so, think it through and look at both sides of the story.

Your friends and counsel can tell you a lot of "feel-good" crap to console you and try to help your self-esteem, but ultimately, you will do what you want to in spite of what they advise.

You're going to go with how you feel and what you believe the future may hold.

But, either way - even if you DID become boring or Un-interesting to this jerk - don't blame yourself. The Truth was brought to light.

You ARE who you are. They ARE who they are. And, they may be weak, deceitful, or lack character.

They may have fetishes or fantasies.

They may get caught-up (emotionally) while talking to an old friend or Ex.

Anything can happen at anytime.

You can only try to find someone who's honest, trustworthy, and devoted, from the start...

But, you STILL don't know!

No one knows what the future holds or what's going to happen except The Supreme. That's just Life.

Meet someone and keep getting to know them as long as you're together. That's the key. Get into their head and stay there. Open up to them and have fun with them. It's a good way to keep them interested.

Once your minds are connected and you believe in each other, you will never ever have Anything to worry about.

Loveqna

Are Your Kids And/Or Significant Other Driving You Crazy?

It's raining damn cats and dogs outside yet these kids wanted to go to a strip-mall to look around, eat at a restaurant, and visit a few clothing stores.

They literally just left 20 minutes ago. Now, the 12 year-old is constantly calling her mom and wants to come back home.

I just spent over $24 for a Lyft XL (this includes the tip), and now, they want me to send another Lyft to go back and pick them up.

I'm in here trying to sleep, because I have to go to work (3rd Shift) in a couple of hours.

They already woke me up after I only had two and a half hours of sleep (babies crying, she and her friends laughin' and yappin' loud as hell, some kid was bouncing a ball, doors opening and closing...) what the hell???.

But, this chick doesn't care...

She came into the room with her phone set on "speaker" blaring in my ears anyway - asking me if I would send some money for them to take a Lyft back home.

What in the hell???

Hellll Naw! They have bank accounts and their debit cards. Get cash back and order a taxi! I'm trying to sleep.

But, they don't care.

Why does she keep waking me up for that boolshit???

Why does she not have my back? She's supposed to be my gatekeeper when someone comes out of "left-field" with dumb shit. I don't care who it is.

Get the hell on with that phone!

This is what I have to deal with all the time.

This is why my life sucks.

When you get involved with someone - or, if you're involved with someone right now - make sure they have enough sense enough to know NOT to let other people bother you with this type of foolishness.

Make sure they are not the type of person who is going to volunteer YOU to answer ridiculous questions about ridiculous situations that OTHER people get themselves into.

I have my own problems. I'm not the damn Godfather. I don't want to deal with other people's problems or try to solve them - especially when I'm trying to sleep and rest up for work!

I don't get to sit on my ass for 9 to 12 hours (most of the time) when I walk out the door, so I need a mental and physical break.

But... Nobody cares.

Lord, Please help me. I just have to get out of here.

Loveqna

Trapped In A Hurricane With A Dumbass

Just for the record: I'm the "Dumbass". In fact...

I have to be the dumbest dumbass in the whole wide world to be putting up with this crappy-ass "relationship".

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Notes for an old post that I never published.

I'll have to find the video/audio for this post and listen to it so that I can blog about it later.

I can't remember if this was the time she kept calling me at work while I was loading generators to tell me the power was off, or if this is the time she called me to tell me that someone was walking past the house outside... What the hell??? It's a public street and sidewalk! I don't own it! So, she tried to "threaten" me.

"Well, if you don't come home, I'm calling the police."

"Call them. That's what they get paid for. I'm at work. It would take me more than twenty minutes to take off my gear, clock out, get a manager to unlock the doors and let me out, and ride home. Call the police and let them check it out."

It was 1AM and, she knows I can't see well in minimal light. I'm going blind - which I'll talk about later.

Anyway... I knew she was lying just to get me to leave work so, I finished up early and left around 1:30AM so she'd stop calling me.

She told me about the police coming and not finding anything (or anyone), and began pestering me AGAIN about an alarm system.

She knew damn well she didn't see anyone walking past the house! She had already called my job 3 TIMES trying to get me to come home. It's not because she feels unsafe. Not really. She's been doing this crap ever since she weaseled her way back into my life. She just loves spending my money!

She honestly thinks she's a housewife!

And, she just wants to build a "smart home". We have Alexa in every room that she kept hassling me for. There are "smart lights" and "hubs" and crap everywhere. Then she wanted me to add a thermostat. Now, she wants an alarm system - That I'LL have to pay a monthly bill for - not to mention the initial set-up and equipment.

It's all a sham.

"I told you WE need an alarm system! It's not safe for me and the girls here alone while you're working so late!"

Oh my god, this chick is getting on my nerves...

First of all, I want to be by myself, and I've told her that countless times.

Second, I didn't ask her to come back except to get her stuff, and she moved back in without asking.

Third, I can't afford an alarm system because her ass is always NEEDING money for shit. And, I give it because I try to help people and look-out for people - with my dumbass.

Fourth - should I go on? Fourth... If there WAS an alarm system with cameras, her ass would be calling me every five minutes about what she was seeing on video and worrying half to damn death. I don't have time for that shit.

The worst was when she called me to tell me the power was off at the house, and she wanted me to come home for safety reasons.

I looked down at the phone number again... It was the "house phone" - which is wi-fi or voip (voice over internet protocol). This means that it is connected to the router and wi-fi. Which means it is plugged into a socket. Which means the electricity had to be working in order for her to make the call...

I was pissed off... because she kept calling and calling and calling.

It wasn't the first "hurricane" she'd ever been in.

In fact, it never turned into a hurricane. It was barely a tropical storm in this area.

And, it didn't last long!

I stayed out of the work that day just to keep her quiet.

And, nothing happened. It was very windy for several hours, and on this day the power went out, but was on by 10:30pm.

Being in a relationship is just a nuisance and a headache, damn.

Loveqna