Find Your Alter-Ego And Get Rid Of Shyness

One of the best ways to improve confidence is through preparation for an event or situation. When you know (or sort of know) what to expect or what might happen, you don't have to think and worry about the unexpected. Your brain and instincts takeover and allow you to enjoy the moment. You know what's coming and what's about to happen so you don't feel anxious and nervous.

You become more engaged with your date (or friends)... And you're able to relax and have a good time.

Or, show off your "skills" and wit.

Or, ask better questions to get others engaged and talking.

Preparation is something you should practice often. It will make social situations become a lot more natural to you. And, you'll feel just as comfortable and have a good time like everyone else.

But, another way to improve your confidence and to get rid of shyness is by DISCOVERING and USING your Alter-Ego. We all have one - a fierce and courageous personality that roams on a higher level within our psyche.

A higher level of Energy.

A higher Force.

A higher Power.

A higher level of strength and confidence that we are able to tap into IF we are willing to move out of our comfort zone and face our challenges and tests in life.

Beyonce talked about having an alter-ego: "Sasha Fierce".

Other celebrities use their alter-egos to conquer stage fright or to deal with the public.

Some salespeople rely on their alter-ego to deal with strong-willed customers in negotiations.

Many ordinary people (especially the ones who go out to night clubs) have alter-egos that they call upon before they go out at night, because they want to feel confident and have a good time.

Actors, I'm sure, have an alter-ego (or maybe even multiple personalities) to get into their acting roles as superheroes or action heroes or as sex symbols.

There's nothing wrong with that. You should dig deep and discover yours.

Sometimes you have to get in the Zone and take your mindset to that next level if you want to conquer your fears - or a particular situation.

I'm convinced that a lot of guys and girls (women) out there could discover who they are in life or what they really want to do in life if they weren't afraid to be WHO THEY REALLY ARE. They've always been what OTHER people wanted them to be. They've always done what OTHER people have wanted them to do. Their True Self (maybe their true Ego) is hidden way way Way down deep within their psyche (or subconscious). And, they're afraid to let it out!

These shy and awkward-feeling folks are "out of touch" and afraid to approach and meet new people.

They're afraid to face certain challenges in life.

They only dream about the life they want and don't believe in themselves enough to make that life come true.

They need to say "Fuck it", and just go for what they want out of life.

Don't worry about being rejected or failing or making mistakes. Just do it.

Everybody makes mistakes.

Learn. Use your instincts. Do your due diligence and research so that you can minimize mistakes. But, don't let Fear keep you from moving forward or growing or meeting new people.

Use your Alter-Ego and boost your Confidence!

Sometimes it may take another person to bring out that extra boost and confidence you need.

It's possible a mentor can help you find your true self or your alter-ego.

Sometimes it might take a certain situation to bring out these emotions or the character and Power you need to change your life or boost your Confidence.

Don't fall into the "cookie-cutter" model...

Alter-Egos come in all shapes and sizes and colors.

Some are like Bill Gates, the founder of Microsoft.

Some are like Edward Cullen, the vampire character of the Twilight Series.

Some are like Oprah Winfrey, the media mogul.

Some are like RockStars.

Some have the coolness and suaveness of the actor Denzel Washington.

Yours will be unique to You and give you the strength you need to be a true Leader.

You only have to find ways to draw it out.

And, it will be unique and stronger than you ever imagined.

Walk tall and let it overtake your senses, emotions, character, and personality. And when it does, hold fast to it and do the right thing for your life and for love.

- loveqna

5 Reasons Why An Ego-Maniac Will Cheat

The World is full of cheaters who are full of themselves. They have a huge ego. They are thoroughly proud of themselves and think highly of their beauty, mind, abilities, and accomplishments.

There's nothing wrong with that.

But, some of these jerks take it too far. They are narcissistic and arrogant as hell. I don't know how some people put up with those assholes.

They really do think they're better than everyone else.

They even believe that the way they dress and what they have is a character statement and shows that they have Class. ???

I'm serious....

But, don't get me wrong. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with looking good and having nice things but it definitely doesn't define or hide one's true character.

Chicken shit is chicken shit no matter if it comes from a buzzard or a damn peacock.

Am I lyin'???

Don't try to hide your "true colors" ego-maniac, we know what an asshole you really are...

Have you ever noticed how some of these types belittle their mates and sometimes try to make them inferior or stupid? They boss those poor little devils around and talk to them like they have no brains.

I couldn't live with anyone like that for too long without snapping.

Not all ego-maniacs cheat, but the ones that do usually consider their mates as nothing more than an "accessory". Like a piece of jewelry.

If the mate is Hot, they'll appreciate him or her more and show him or her off to their family and friends. This is the type of mate they'll cheat on but don't want to lose because of how good he or she makes the ego-maniac look. But, the ego-maniac will still keep his or her eyes and "options" open just in case someone better comes along.

If the mate is average but has above average "Benefits" (like a great job, money, or lots of material possessions), the ego-maniac will want to keep him or her around until he can find someone better. If he or she is stuck in a marriage with this person, the ego-maniac will cheat often.

If the mate is weak - no matter how good he or she looks - the ego-maniac will verbally and emotionally abuse that poor little pip-squeak to no end.

If you EVER get into a relationship with someone like this - who feels that you're not really on their level or that he or she is better than you - stack your cash and get out. This person will waste your damn time. They'll only be faithful to you when their options start to run out. And, that may be years down the road because they think they're top-notch and desired by every one they see.

They think that they can have You and anybody else that they want. And, they always want attention. They always want to attract other prospects although they're involved in a relationship. Why???

Because they think they're God's Gift to the World.

They think that they can have their cake and eat it too.

And, in most cases, they ARE eating it too!

They're in a relationship and they're still playing the field - and cheating like hell.

I'm not hatin' on the player. I just wanna put you up some game...

So, here are five reasons why those delusional hanky-ass greedy-ass bums might cheat:

- Some ego-maniacs cheat to feed their ego. It's a self-test to achieve something that would be normally hard to do - like to get a certain good-looking guy or girl. Women will do this when they're "in competition with other women. Men will do this when their "pick-up skills" are challenged by another guy or a GROUP of guys.

In either case, the man or woman (boy or girl) wants to show that his or her "game" is tight and that he or she can have anyone he or she wants. This hoe doesn’t want to be average (romantically). He or she HAS to impress the group, a rival, or him or herself.

He or she may enjoy the challenge of being able to seduce and manipulate others. He or she is impressed with the power or charm that he or she can hold over another.

This sorry-ass bum doesn't care if he or she is in a relationship.

BUT!!! Be careful...

You could be involved with a person like this and THINK you're in a relationship with him or her and really, he or she only considers you two "friends with benefits". Therefore, he or she considers the relationship "open" and that he or she is free to have sex with whomever he or she wants.

- Another ego-maniac that will cheat is one who likes his or her freedom and the ability to come and go as he or she pleases. This cheater is not really free-spirit. He or she just doesn’t want to have to answer to anyone. He doesn’t want anyone trying to tell him what to do or where he can go. He's a rebel. He doesn’t want restrictions in his life. He’s a waffler. He wants a relationship, yet he wants to live by his own rules instead of living by the unwritten rules of a relationship.

- Then, there is the defiant ego-maniac. He or she is searching for Perfection. This guy or girl thinks that he or she is Perfect and wants someone "on his or her level. He or she is superficial – a waffler. He or she is picky because he or she wants the total package - but mostly, they want someone with the perfect looks, style, and finances. To him or her, this perfect person is their SoulMate. And, they're always searching for this SoulMate whether they're in a relationship or not.

- He cheats to spread his seed. I use the word "he" because it's usually a man who does this. This is the type of guy who can barely take care of one baby - let alone 5 or 6 - and he cheats and/or sleeps with women in order to get them pregnant and build his "legacy". You see a lot of crap like this on those TV shows like "Maury" or "Jerry Springer" and shows like that.

- I don't know if there are women who sleep around for this reason (I've never heard of it), but I DO know some women will cheat in order to find a man who's more willing to settle down, have kids, and build a future together. She'll even backstab her friend for a shot if she thinks he's a guy with potential. Nine times out of ten he's a dirt-bag too.

- Some male and female ego-maniac cheat to prove to others or to him or herself that he or she is independent and free to do whatever he or she wants. This is a rebellious cheater (usually a player in disguise) who wants to make it known that he or she is not tied down or in love or devoted to one person. He wants to show that he isn’t stuck with one woman (or one guy). This cheater cheats to avoid commitment and boost his reputation or show that she's a "free-spirit" with no limitations or restrictions. Usually, their mantra is: "I can do whatever I want! Ain't no ring on my finger!"

- Some men who cheat while their baby momma is pregnant or having the baby will cheat because they don't care but also because they just don't want to be responsible. They don't want to be tied down to one person. They want to be free to be young and enjoy life and roam the streets. They want to continue to hang with their friends and pursue their dreams. They don't want to grow-up. They're on the run and trying to avoid what they feel is "entrapment".

Use your instincts and avoid ego-maniacs if you can. If you can't resist those blood-suckers, then make sure you are strong enough to stand up for yourself. Be bold and talk sh*t (in a joking way) right off the bat the first time they "test" your confidence, because once you start letting them run over you, they won't stop.

They'll abuse you, use you, screw you, and cheat on you if they don't dump you. And, who needs to put up with crap like that from a delusional asshole who's living in a fantasy world???

- loveqna