Broken Heart Testimony: Mary

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One of my friends is going through a terrible time in her life right now. She suffers from a broken heart, loneliness, and a mind full of confusion.

She "felt empty inside" and "worthless".

She got hold of a gun and was on route to attempt suicide but another friend of ours was able to intervene just in time and talk her out of it.

This poor girl is being tormented by all kinds of demons. She isn't just having "man troubles" and relationship drama, she is confused about life and where she is going in life. She is afraid of her future. She is afraid she will be alone forever. She is afraid she is going to be stuck living this monotonous mundane lifestyle.

The craziest thing about it is: She has TONS of friends. She has a great personality. She's attractive. She has guys lined up wanting to be with her. She has her own house. She has her own car. She makes her own money...

And, the girl has been "saved" and goes to church. (I think she did this to try to "cure" the pain she has inside of her. I kind of doubt she "committed herself to God" with a whole heart. I'm not a religious person. This is just my thoughts on her situation.)

Yet, she is still lonely, empty, and feels worthless. Nothing in life matters. Nothing is important to her - not even her friendships; not even her life.

Her mom is with her right now and her "companion" (a "friends with benefits" lover who helped ignite all of this crap by treating the broad like dirt).

He doesn't have to love the girl.

It's not his fault if he doesn't care for her in that way. He told her he didn't want a relationship. So, he's not blamed for that.

But, he belittles her, criticizes her, and dumps on her without any consideration for her feelings as a human being. He's a liar, a sneak, and a jerk. Those are his faults. And, that's what pushed her over the edge.

He KNEW she had been treated like this in past because we've all sat around talking about relationship experiences before. So, he knew all about what she went through and was going through. He just wanted to tap that ass and have no commitments. He knew she was vulnerable.

This babe was picking from the bottom of the barrel when it came to prospects. You should've seen the guys she went out with or was interested in.

Now, I've told you in previous posts that I've seen some Beasts come into the store with some beautiful women, but these guys she's been hanging out with lately, look like they jumped right out of a cartoon. I'm talking about a collection of some of the wackiest looking scumbags I've ever seen in my life.

And, she was ready to commit to any one of these bums! lol.

They were some good-hearted guys though.

Hell, I know I'm no "Prince Charming", but you would've fell on your ass laughing after you took one look at some of these gorillas.

Anyway...

She was still feeling the pain as she told me her story a few nights ago. And, I didn't want to tell her what everyone else was telling her about "focusing on herself" and how "she needs to get her life together first" before she starts trying to love anyone because I know those words aren't helping her. They haven't helped her yet. And, she been dealing with this pain for a while. I've known her for at least a year, so I know it's been at least that long.

So, I listened as she spoke and cried and let all of her emotions out. Actually, I didn't know what to say to her at the time so, I clowned around a bit.

She cried and laughed and cried some more.

It was almost one o'clock in the morning when I left her but I texted her the next day after she took me to work. She wanted me to take the day off but I suggested she spend it with her mom or a girlfriend because I'm not too good at situations like this yet.

So, she dropped me off and later the real advice I needed to give to her came to me.

I can't remember the message I texted her but it was basically about "perspectives".

She was looking at this guy as someone who rejected her love, but really, he's a dumbass who doesn't know how good of a woman he has. And, he WON'T know until this "good thing" is gone out of his life.

And, it will be great if he NEVER discovers how great she is because he's a fucking jerk.

Her last love was a jerk also. And, she was mean to him because he wouldn't cooperate. But, maybe they weren't compatible. He wasn't "feeling it" and she couldn't accept it. So, she thought she wasn't good enough.

Some people look at things all wrong... And, pray for the wrong things selfishly.

They look at people, situations, and things, and believe that those people, situations, and things will bring them happiness, but all the while that "stuff" and those people are making them anxious and miserable as hell.

They don't realize that without that crap in their lives, they could grow and prosper and find true happiness.

Their true love or SoulMate could be a foot away!

This un-compatible person may be a "test" for a love that IS compatible.

This un-compatible person and the drama they bring to your life is helping you for when you really have to deal with the drama that is yet to come - from the haters and from situations that could try to separate you from someone who will truly make your life complete!

That girl think she is cursed, and in reality, she's blessed to be untied to these guys. All they did was chastise her and put her down and she got so low, she couldn't get up! And, she almost killed herself! For what??? Selfish Love.

"You can do bad by yourself!" Life is tough enough. You don't need any extra drama in your life bringing you down.

Men, stop chasing these mean-spirited nagging ill-mannered deceitful broads.

Ladies, stop crying over these no good lying cheating neglectful douchebags.

They don't want the love you have to give. They don't deserve the love you have to give. They can't handle the love you have to give.

Do both of you a favor and let them go! Get away from them and accept your true purpose in life. Even if they argue and tell you they want to stay. Actions speak louder than words. Let them go.

Endure the pain.

You can still be friends - or not.

Get out and date. Find a new hobby. Spend more time with your family and friends. Join a church. Whatever. Get your mind off of a situation that (more than likely) will amount to nothing.

Stop being selfish and stop trying to force them to love you! It won't work.

Let them go.

Wish them well, and hope that they find whatever it is they're looking for. Stop trying to keep someone that doesn't want to be kept.

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- loveqna

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Three or four times during the past week the same bit of wisdom has been passed onto me by some older men and women. And this video I ran across tonight while searching for something else has confirmed it. Why the Lord has led me to it is beyond me but maybe it's a message for someone else. ??? Who knows...

But, the message and the philosophies that these people had is this:

Don't stress yourself so much over whether your man or woman is cheating or whether or not he or she might cheat on you. Don't chase him or her - or beg for his or her Love; Or, try to keep the guy or girl locked up in the house away from the World...

Because, "IF a man or woman wants to cheat, he or she is gonna cheat.

And, there's nothing you can do to stop it if he or she wants it bad enough.

So, why worry yourself about it? Why stress over it? And, if it happens, don't ruin your life over it!"

Don't go out there blastin' up the town or commit any heinous crime! Don't jeopardize your future! You have too much to live for! Goals to accomplish. Dreams to live for. Friends and family who need your love and support. Why destroy your life because of this bum???

I know a situation like this can send any man or woman into a rage but why throw YOUR life away over a hoe??? (whether it's a man or a woman)

"Suffer the broken heart and when you've healed, find someone else." Someone better.

I know that's easier said than done, but I agree.

Say "good riddens" to that jackass, and kick him or her straight to the damn curb!

If he or she doesn't know a good thing when it's staring them right in the face, screw-em!

Save yourself and give all of your good lovin' to someone else. Someone more deserving and worthy.

Don't ruin your life over someone who's not worth it! And, especially when there are plenty of other fish out there in the sea who are MORE worthy of your love. Suffer the broken heart and allow the storm to pass.

And, when Time has healed those wounds and the pain and hurt is gone, move on.

Don't let this episode stress you out or bring you down.

You might not ever forget - or even be able to forgive, but, Learn from the experience.

Allow it to make you stronger and wiser. And, move on.

I know some people out there might have kids involved or they've built an Empire with that person, but many people have been in the SAME situation and have survived the same drama. You can do it too!

And, you don't have to shut the cheater out of the children's lives - even if he or she left you for someone else! Don't make the kids suffer or keep the drama going! Find a new love, strive for happiness, and move on.

And, if you can't move on, (and decide to work things out) STILL, let the past go and work on your "new" life. Communicate and discover what you two can do different to make things better.

But, the main thing is: Get away for a while or leave or do whatever you have to do to keep from breaking that hoe's neck and cutting your life short. You have too much to live for.

- loveqna