Broken Heart Testimony: Mary - 2

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If you have experience in love and with break-ups, then I'm sure you know how to cure yourself of the drama and B.S. that one can encounter in some of these toxic relationships.

I published this testimony because I want other people - men, women, single mothers, single fathers, and the broken-hearted - to be inspired and to keep moving forward in life and not to give up due to the drama caused by a deceitful mate or unloving partner.

Don't let that drama keep you down. Keep on pressing forward and go on with your life!

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I received a testimony from a woman named "Mary" who went through a similar situation that my good friend, "Anastasia" went through.

Mary had been married for a almost ten years when she found out her husband was cheating on her with one of her friends.

The woman was one of her neighbors.

She saw the woman often because she passed the woman's house often on the way to the store and one day they started talking and just "clicked".

They both had children and other common interests, beliefs, and responsibilities, so they had a lot to talk about.

They began talking often.

She visited the woman sometimes. Sometimes, the woman visited her. Sometimes, they talked on the phone.

They laughed and joked and had a good time whenever they had conversations.

Now, she and her husband were charitable people and often helped out old folks by picking up food for them or cleaning their house or cutting their lawns. Sometimes, they just went by these elders' homes and chatted with them for a while just to keep them company.

Well, she went to go visit one of these old folks and give her a ride to the store and while she's there, her husband and her "friend" walks in - hand in hand.

She was shocked.

And, speechless.

She couldn't believe her eyes.

She thought her husband loved her. She thought this woman was a true friend who respected her. And, she just couldn't believe what she was seeing.

She said she was too broken-hearted to flip-out. She said her mind just went blank. And, she was in something WORSE than a daze or confusion.

She was in love, but she wanted her husband to go. She had been traumatized and couldn't deal with the pain.

She loved this dude and cried day and night because of what he and her "friend" had done. She cried day and night because they had deceived her and made her feel violated.

Then, that sorry rascal had the nerve to keep going back to the house to apologize and to sweet-talk her - torturing her heart more and more. And, he was still with the other woman!

He even wanted "Mary" to be his "chick on the side".

She couldn't take it and told him to stop coming over and that the children could come to see him at his place.

Later on, "Mary" took on another job to pay her bills and to help keep her mind off of her broken marriage.

After almost a year, she was still in love with the guy, but wanted all of him or no part of him at all.

Then, she had more "bad luck".

First, she lost both of her jobs - one laid her off and the other went out of business.

Then, when she took her daughters in for their physicals, she found out that BOTH of them were pregnant!

(I said, "DAMN!")

She fainted right there in the doctors office.

She said she cried even more because she didn't know how she was going to survive. Plus, her daughters were angry with her for not allowing their father to visit them at home. And, that hurt her even more because they didn't seem to care how he had treated her and cheated on her behind her back.

Right away, she went into another depression. But, she knew she had to snap out of it and take care of those two young girls with children on the way.

At this time, the economy was on its way downhill and sucking like hell, and she was out of work for almost a year. Later, she was able to find the job she has now.

She said she went in there and they asked her to "tell something about herself" and as she got deeper into her history, she began to breakdown and cry and share all that she had been through with her husband, children, friend, looking for work, etc.

They told her everything would be alright and that she would never have to worry about being out of work again and she's been at her job ever since.

Now, her kids are in college. Her grandchildren are six years old. And, she's been with a guy who loves her (although she is still somewhat bitter and wary) for the last four years.

I asked her about her Ex and she said she has never forgiven him but she no longer hates him.

As you might have imagined, he eventually cheated on the other woman also and left her for another woman.

He has been with this other woman for a couple of years but he claims to be miserable with her and still tries to sweet-talk his way back into "Mary's" life.

She doesn't know if it's because he wants her love or if it's because he wants her to take that child support bounty off of his head, but either way, she's happy with her life now and she ain't trying to hear it.

I forgot to mention that she prayed for her life to get better and that she prayed against all of the adversity and "demons" in her life, but it's a fact that prayer does help.

It can help you see things clearer. It can open your eyes to the steps you need to take and the direction you need to go.

Prayer, Faith, and Conviction can help you overcome any obstacle.

It causes your face to shine because it's the Power of the Supreme flowing through you and radiating from you.

"But, you can't have a shred of doubt, or it won't work for you."

So, don't keep walking around with your head hanging low and your feet dragging on the ground! Stand Tall! Make moves! Don't beg for the love of a bum or hoodrat who don't know a "good thing" when it's staring them right in the face!

This person ain't meant for you! This bum is a test for the Real Love to come!

This adversity is more than likely a "test" and "an experience" to prepare you for what's to come!

Have your Mind right and your Life ready for that moment! Be Ready!

Get yourself together and stop carrying around all of that "baggage" and dead weight. It ain't doing you any good!

Your Life ain't over!

You have more than enough time to discover real love and your true purpose in life.

Focus on it - and the things you want to do, need to do, and would like to do, to make your world a better place.

Don't put yourself down! Pick yourself up and Get Going!

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- loveqna

Broken Heart Testimony: Mary

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One of my friends is going through a terrible time in her life right now. She suffers from a broken heart, loneliness, and a mind full of confusion.

She "felt empty inside" and "worthless".

She got hold of a gun and was on route to attempt suicide but another friend of ours was able to intervene just in time and talk her out of it.

This poor girl is being tormented by all kinds of demons. She isn't just having "man troubles" and relationship drama, she is confused about life and where she is going in life. She is afraid of her future. She is afraid she will be alone forever. She is afraid she is going to be stuck living this monotonous mundane lifestyle.

The craziest thing about it is: She has TONS of friends. She has a great personality. She's attractive. She has guys lined up wanting to be with her. She has her own house. She has her own car. She makes her own money...

And, the girl has been "saved" and goes to church. (I think she did this to try to "cure" the pain she has inside of her. I kind of doubt she "committed herself to God" with a whole heart. I'm not a religious person. This is just my thoughts on her situation.)

Yet, she is still lonely, empty, and feels worthless. Nothing in life matters. Nothing is important to her - not even her friendships; not even her life.

Her mom is with her right now and her "companion" (a "friends with benefits" lover who helped ignite all of this crap by treating the broad like dirt).

He doesn't have to love the girl.

It's not his fault if he doesn't care for her in that way. He told her he didn't want a relationship. So, he's not blamed for that.

But, he belittles her, criticizes her, and dumps on her without any consideration for her feelings as a human being. He's a liar, a sneak, and a jerk. Those are his faults. And, that's what pushed her over the edge.

He KNEW she had been treated like this in past because we've all sat around talking about relationship experiences before. So, he knew all about what she went through and was going through. He just wanted to tap that ass and have no commitments. He knew she was vulnerable.

This babe was picking from the bottom of the barrel when it came to prospects. You should've seen the guys she went out with or was interested in.

Now, I've told you in previous posts that I've seen some Beasts come into the store with some beautiful women, but these guys she's been hanging out with lately, look like they jumped right out of a cartoon. I'm talking about a collection of some of the wackiest looking scumbags I've ever seen in my life.

And, she was ready to commit to any one of these bums! lol.

They were some good-hearted guys though.

Hell, I know I'm no "Prince Charming", but you would've fell on your ass laughing after you took one look at some of these gorillas.

Anyway...

She was still feeling the pain as she told me her story a few nights ago. And, I didn't want to tell her what everyone else was telling her about "focusing on herself" and how "she needs to get her life together first" before she starts trying to love anyone because I know those words aren't helping her. They haven't helped her yet. And, she been dealing with this pain for a while. I've known her for at least a year, so I know it's been at least that long.

So, I listened as she spoke and cried and let all of her emotions out. Actually, I didn't know what to say to her at the time so, I clowned around a bit.

She cried and laughed and cried some more.

It was almost one o'clock in the morning when I left her but I texted her the next day after she took me to work. She wanted me to take the day off but I suggested she spend it with her mom or a girlfriend because I'm not too good at situations like this yet.

So, she dropped me off and later the real advice I needed to give to her came to me.

I can't remember the message I texted her but it was basically about "perspectives".

She was looking at this guy as someone who rejected her love, but really, he's a dumbass who doesn't know how good of a woman he has. And, he WON'T know until this "good thing" is gone out of his life.

And, it will be great if he NEVER discovers how great she is because he's a fucking jerk.

Her last love was a jerk also. And, she was mean to him because he wouldn't cooperate. But, maybe they weren't compatible. He wasn't "feeling it" and she couldn't accept it. So, she thought she wasn't good enough.

Some people look at things all wrong... And, pray for the wrong things selfishly.

They look at people, situations, and things, and believe that those people, situations, and things will bring them happiness, but all the while that "stuff" and those people are making them anxious and miserable as hell.

They don't realize that without that crap in their lives, they could grow and prosper and find true happiness.

Their true love or SoulMate could be a foot away!

This un-compatible person may be a "test" for a love that IS compatible.

This un-compatible person and the drama they bring to your life is helping you for when you really have to deal with the drama that is yet to come - from the haters and from situations that could try to separate you from someone who will truly make your life complete!

That girl think she is cursed, and in reality, she's blessed to be untied to these guys. All they did was chastise her and put her down and she got so low, she couldn't get up! And, she almost killed herself! For what??? Selfish Love.

"You can do bad by yourself!" Life is tough enough. You don't need any extra drama in your life bringing you down.

Men, stop chasing these mean-spirited nagging ill-mannered deceitful broads.

Ladies, stop crying over these no good lying cheating neglectful douchebags.

They don't want the love you have to give. They don't deserve the love you have to give. They can't handle the love you have to give.

Do both of you a favor and let them go! Get away from them and accept your true purpose in life. Even if they argue and tell you they want to stay. Actions speak louder than words. Let them go.

Endure the pain.

You can still be friends - or not.

Get out and date. Find a new hobby. Spend more time with your family and friends. Join a church. Whatever. Get your mind off of a situation that (more than likely) will amount to nothing.

Stop being selfish and stop trying to force them to love you! It won't work.

Let them go.

Wish them well, and hope that they find whatever it is they're looking for. Stop trying to keep someone that doesn't want to be kept.

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- loveqna