50 Reasons Why Men And Women Cheat - Intro

Before we create the list of "Why Men (And Women) Cheat", what we need to establish first is: "what is considered cheating".

The reason why we need to do this is so that WE will be on the same page about this topic and be able to discuss it with better clarity and avoid confusion.

And, we don't want to be misled by Myths, Theories, and Angry Opinions, so this list is comprised of only the most common reasons that we can ALL agree on. So keep an open mind. This Knowledge WILL keep your mind and instincts from being clouded by nonsense.

Okay, enough.

Now, check this out...

Let's look at a few things people consider cheating.

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- Having sex with someone other than your partner.

- Being affectionate with someone other than your partner (kissing, hugging, holding, massaging, etc.)

- Emailing, texting, and/or chatting with someone other than your partner.

- Having lunch, dinner, or breakfast with a "potential" love-interest.

- Flirting with other sexy or attractive men or women.

- Engaging in secret rendevous or going on dates with a love-interest or prospect. This is done usually during the NEW courtship when the two are getting to know each other.

- Giving gifts to (or Receiving gifts from) an Admirer.

And, there are probably a few other things we could add to this list but let's stop right here.

I have to mention something else before I drop this bombshell that just came to mind...

If you'll notice, I didn't mention things like: ogling other women (or men), or, watching "filthy obscene adult flicks", or fantasizing about being with other people (or idols).

The reason why I didn't mention these things in the list is because, MOST people (and, I'm sure I can say "most") don't consider those actions cheating although SOME people do.

Some partners don't care if you look at other men or women as long as you don't touch "the merchandise" or "order what's on the menu".

Some partners don't care if you look at "adult" movies as long as you're at home watching them.

Some people trust their partners to go out with friends and co-workers as long as they know there is no "love-connections" going on AND provided the partner doesn't stay out all night.

So, some of this stuff is annoying and disrespectful to be sure but for many people, these non-intimate acts are not considered "hard-core" cheating.

So, here's the conclusion (the bombshell):

Cheating is NOT about Sex as many people believe because sex is not always involved.

Furthermore, everyone doesn't cheat for sexual gratification. Some people are lonely and want attention. Some people enjoy the thrill of flirting. Some people like to know that they're still desired.

You can't have sex through email and text. You can't make love to someone through a computer (yet) who lives thousands of miles away. And, just because you admire someone and have fantasies about him or her doesn't guarantee you will be romping around in the sack with that person (or idol) anytime soon.

Ask anyone you know who has been cheated on and see if they've actually caught their Cheater in bed or in a sexual act with another person. Many victims have not.

So, cheating is NOT about sex.

Think about it:

A lot of these people who have been accused of cheating haven't been caught in the act.

What makes most of them guilty are the paper trails and electronic trails and messages that they leave behind.

And then, there's the infamous witness who saw the lying scoundrel (or scoundrelette) coming and going from his or her love-interest's home in the middle of the night.

But, they didn't get caught on film or at home by their partner. They were accused and convicted of cheating - and admitted to it - because all of the signs that SUGGESTED they were cheating.

So, here's what Cheating REALLY IS...

Cheating (infidelity) is about Deception whether it involves sex or not.

If your partner has to cover his or her tracks, or lie about his or her whereabouts, then that's a violation of the relationship right there.

If there's nothing going on, what does the scum-bucket have to hide?

If there's trust and understanding in the relationship, why lie?

Once someone deceives you, or disrespects you, or humiliates you, it's like a slap in the face.

It shows how much they value the relationship.

It shows they don't appreciate you or care about you.

It shows that he or she is selfish, greedy, and doesn't consider you to be an important part of his or her life.

It shows that he or she is just damn dumb and don't know a good thing when he or she's got it.

Just from Deception alone, a good relationship can go straight to Hell.

You look at the relationship in a whole new light and it's hard for things to go back to the way they were.

You're suspicious.

You're paranoid.

You're spiteful.

You're angry.

You want to leave but you want things to work because you don't know if the dummy has been cheating, or thinking about cheating, or if you're just jumping to conclusions.

It's hell.

So, anyway...

Since people don't always cheat for sex, the cheating topics will not be based on Sex alone.

Keep this in mind so that you will further develop your Female Intuition or Male Instincts. Don't be blinded by Myths and angry folks who want to use "Sex" as a scapegoat.

- loveqna