Girl beating boyfriend publicly for cheating on her

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Toxic Relationships, Toxic Relationships, I'm Going Mad

Well, as you can see, I made it back to the crib safe and sound. (?)

I ended going to K-Mart for some new tubes. It was too hot there to be riding an extra hour just to go to Wal-Mart for the same thing. Wal-Mart may have been cheaper but the hell with it. It's not like I'm broke.

Damn... I didn't mean it to sound like that, but I DO feel good saying it.

Life is sweet when you have a little extra change in your pocket, ain't it?

More options, more choices, and less stress. I love it.

I even stopped by the thrift store and picked up a couple of good books: "Oddball Ointments, Powerful Potions, & Fabulous Folk Remedies, That'll Cure Almost Anything That Ails Ya!"

I think it's a good book. I only skimmed through it so I'll have to read it later to be sure. With a long-ass title like that, it had better be good.

The other book I got was "Jesus Freaks". I mainly got this book to help with my writing. I picked it up and was swept away by the writing style so, I'll probably read that one a lot. Even the first book has a good writing style, so I'm sure I'll learn something.

Oh, and I snagged a "National Enquirer" tabloid magazine. The title "PLASTIC SURGERY SHOCKERS!", jumped out at me.

I've been planning on writing a post about "Changing Who You Are For Someone Else" or "Should You Change For Someone Else" or something like that, and I that's why I was interested in this paper. I'll probably post on that topic later this week, because there is something that I really want to discuss about "should a man or woman change to please his or her partner".

A lot of people don't think so. Some people do. And some people just change "naturally". I don't know. I'll have to meditate on that one before I go to my notes.

Anyway...

While I was making my trek cross-country down to my local K-Mart, I thought about something else: Toxic Relationships.

The things that create Toxic Relationships also lead to cheating - indirectly.

The reason why I say that is because: If you have a good relationship - one that is not full of drama - then 99% of the time, you won't have to worry about infidelity (or cheating).

But, if your relationship is full of hate, spite, and drama, somebody is either going to cheat, leave, or get a divorce and take everything in the house.

The only way I see out of a toxic relationship is to avoid one in the first place, but then again... relationships become "toxic" over a period of time. They're always sweet in the beginning.

I may have written down some possible solutions but I'll have to look at my manuscript.

The other reason why I think we need to discuss this is because it will also help improve your Instincts and Intuition about relationships. As a matter of fact, it may enhance what you already know about choosing a mate and resolving relationship conflicts. I don't know.

We'll see...

Anyway, I have an hour and half before I have to go to work tonight. I think the heat has made me delirious.

I'm gonna get some sleep.

Take care, Y'all.

- loveqna

Why Men And Women Cheat - Who Cares

Let me make something clear to all of the "players", pick-up artists, and "wannabee pimps" out there:

The posts on "why men and women cheat" are not being posted to expose anybody. If you get caught in the crosshairs, tuff titty. But, if your game is tight, you don't need to worry about these posts because you'll still come out smelling like a bouquet roses regardless.

My big fat-ass cousin thinks I'm trying to put his ass on blast because I'm jealous of him and his love-life... B*tch, please. I could care less about that fat hairy bastard's love-life and the handful of hoodrat chicks he's been messing around with for the last 7 or 8 years. Please. He ain't showing me nothin' new!

And, I've definitely never been attracted to any girl he's been with... except maybe one. But, she was Hot... I'd give that chick a 25 on a scale of 1 to 10. But, that bum couldn't hang on to that dime-piece for longer than a couple of months. He was scared of the chick. She was too gangsta for him. lol.

This girl looked like she just stepped off the cover of a magazine. Her body was perfect. Her face was beautiful. She was immaculate in every way imaginable... yet her eyes and personality made you think she was dangerous as hell.

And, she DID have a reputation.

She was as "hood" and as sheisty as can be. Criminal. And the crowd she was associated with were a bunch of local-jokers who liked to chill all the time, smoke weed, gamble, and "do dirt" (illegal sh*t). The majority of them were a bunch of damn losers who lived on the delusion that they were hustlers and go-getters.

He probably was afraid to go sleep around that broad. He probably thought that one day she might set him up for the "okey-doke". lol. That's probably what happened. He couldn't go to sleep around that chick because he was scared that she'd set him up to get robbed. And that fat rascal hated it when his nap time was interrupted.

The bad thing about it is, she was a nice girl. Friendly. Down-to-earth. Thoughtful. She was okay in my book. He was just afraid to die. lol.

And then, there's my Ex:

"Nobody wants to read that crap! Nobody cares why darn men cheat!"

B*tch, you ought to care because you've been cheated on in almost every relationship you've had.

At least that's what she told me.

But, you can see why any man would want to "escape" her big-ass damn mouth and grumpy-ass attitude. She raises more hell than damn Godzilla.

Anyway...

I don't care about exposing anybody.

And, contrary to what my Ex believes, I KNOW there are some folks out there who can improve their relationships and love-lives with this information.

All you have to do is learn it for yourselves, improve your intincts, and use your good judgement and suggestions to help those who could use your help.

There are people out there - maybe even one or two of your friends - who want to get to know someone new but they're afraid to get involved because they're afraid of being cheated on. You could use your experiences, your knowledge, and this information and help him or her get past those fears and make better decisions about choosing a mate.

There may be people who are already in a relationship but paranoid about being cheated on or losing the love of their life. You could explain to them why men and women cheat and/or break-up, and advise them of what they may want to do to avoid being cheated on or dumped.

Their mate might not even be thinking about cheating. You could open their eyes to that possibility as well. And, if you know the best way to get someone to open-up, that'll be a big help too.

Who else could we help with this info?

How about those men and women who keep getting cheated on and don't know why?

You could point out the reasons why cheaters cheat and help them narrow the problem down to a possible solution. They might need to evaluate their lifestyle, personality, choices, or appearance, and make some changes.

Maybe they keep choosing bad boys or bad girls.

Maybe they're not confident enough.

Maybe they really don't put a lot of time into a relationship because they're always on the go.

Maybe they're too antagonistic or bossy or self-centered.

Maybe they have poor hygiene.

There may be a combination of reasons why they keep getting cheated on. But, you'll be able to see most of these things and help them improve their love-life after you discover more reasons why men and women cheat.

And as I've stated a million times before, once you know many of the reasons why men and women cheat, YOU'LL be able to improve YOUR Instincts on the subject.

AND... You'll be able to recognize the games and tricks these wannabee pimps, gimps, players, and "tricks", will try to play on you for money, sex, convenience, or entertainment.

Everyone is NOT going to take heed to your advice, but you never know who will. So, it's best to be ready with some GOOD advice if you're going to give any advice at all.

Like I've said before, don't just go by what I post. I HAVE experience but I'm no expert. Get a second and third and fourth opinion AND observe all things well before you make any suggestions to your friends or anybody. Learn from other sources.

Hopefully, we can open people's eyes and wipe out a lot of this B.S. and Drama before it's too late.

I'm sick of it.

- loveqna

Why Men And Women Cheat - It's Complicated

As you improve your Female Intuition or Male Instincts about relationships and cheating, remember, this is a very complicated issue.

A lot of people believe it's a simple issue because the 10 or 15 reasons most people hear or give for cheating seem like logical explanations. But, although we have all of this "logical" information, it still doesn't seem to help us avoid being cheated on, does it?

Man, these experts are full of sh*t.

I'm gonna post 50 reasons and I'm by no means an expert on this subject.

Never believe that you're a total expert on this subject. But, with these notes, you WILL know more than most. There are just too many factors and variables that come into play. And, some societies and communities do things different so... you'd have to learn their culture and how their relationships work to further enhance your knowledge of infidelity.

Now, let's dig in...

First, Cheating is a complicated issue because no answer is right 100% of the time. Remember: Each couple's situation is different. All cheaters don't cheat for the same reason or reasons.

Second, Cheating is complicated because many cheaters don't admit the truth. But, when they do, most victims don't want to hear the truth. And, there are two sides to every story. Furthermore, sometimes "experts" put words in the cheaters' mouths. So, some of those cheaters will say anything to get those experts to shut-up and leave the issue alone.

Third, most of us are blinded by what people SHOULD or SHOULDN'T do instead of looking at the Reality of the situation - even when we believe the "reality" is wrong. Ain't no need in arguing that people shouldn't cheat or that cheating is stupid. It's a waste of time. There will always be cheaters. Let's find out WHY people are cheating and help REDUCE the chances of it happening to the people we know.

Fourth, many people put too much trust into surveys and theories. Don't be fooled by theories, statistics, surveys, and one or two events as most peopole are. Use them but use good judgement too.

Use your experiences, observations, and good sense. Be MORE aware of what you actually observe, learn, and experience from patterns of deceit, situations, and habits.

So, you have to get all of the facts and information before you jump to any conclusions or make any hasty suggestions to your friends who have been cheated on.

I know I'm over-explaining this but let me give you a few real life scenarios that show how cheating is complicated. And, on the next post, I'll dive right into the sexual reasons why men (mainly men) and women cheat.

Okay...

For instance, let's say you have three friends suffering from infidelity.

Now, we know every cheater doesn't cheat for sex, but let's just say these cheaters are sexually involved with someone else on the side.

Here are THREE REASONS alone why people would cheat for sex.

Cheater #1 may be turned-off by his or her partner's style, weight, lack of attractiveness, personality, etc.

Your friend may be a great person doing all the things a good man or woman would do, but still, he or she gets no love or appreciation in return for all of the hard work, devotion, and dedication that he or she puts into the relationship.

And guess what? He or she will NEVER get the appreciation he or she deserves until the cheater "sees the light" and recognize what a good thing he or she has.

OR....

your friend must lose weight, improve his or her appearance, looks, or style, or develop a "new attitude" to enhance his or her personality.

We can say that people shouldn't change, but the reality is: if they want to keep this relationship, one of them (or BOTH) will have to make changes or it will go on like it is - full of lies and heartache.

Cheater #2...

Now, I don't want to say anything against any of your friends, but let's say you have a friend that's always on the go. Active, out and about. He or she loves chillin' with you and some of your other friends. And, you all spend a lot of time together. And, he or she is always busy with social events or school or work or whatever...

But, your friend hardly has any time with his or her partner - or their family if they have one. And, when they ARE together, your friend is still busy or always on the phone.

Sure, your friend buys gifts and celebrates birthdays and holidays with the cheater and calls and texts but, the cheater feels he or she is never around enough - physically or mentally - so, the cheater feels neglected and lonely.

You see your friend as a swell guy or girl because you really don't know how much time they're spending together or how they interact when they do spend time together. But, in reality, your friend could be neglecting his or her relationship.

Now... Some cheaters are just spoiled and want all the attention they can get so that's a possibility too. But! We still don't know what's really going on unless we know how the cheater feels about their situation or what his or her personality is really like.

So, that cheater could be having sex outside of the relationship because he or she is lonely or because he or she is flattered by the attention from someone new. Or, it could be both reasons.

Cheater #3.

We'll make this last one simple so that we can move on.

A lot of people (maybe most) consider Sex the second most important thing in a relationship with the MOST important thing being Love.

A lot of people believe you have to have sex on a regular basis to have a happy and loving relationship.

So, why would a man or woman cheat if he or she is getting plenty of "loving" at home?

Experts say that most cheaters cheat because they aren't getting enough sex... but what about the cheaters who are getting more than their fare share? What about those bums who are getting more than the rest of us? And, they're still cheating to get more. Why are they cheating for sex?

How do you explain that?

Your friend could be puttin' out plenty. And, giving his or her partner all the sex he or she can handle and the cheater STILL might cheat for sex.

And what makes it so complicated is that it's hard for the cheater to open-up and be honest about what the issue really is and why he or she would cheat for sex when he or she is getting sex regularly at home.

I don't wanna say too much about this now because these are part of our "50 Reasons Why Men And Women Cheat" but more than likely it's boredom, or routine, or the cheater is a player or sex-addict. It may be an issue with the cheater or it may be that your friend is not that good in bed. I'm not hatin'. I'm juss sayin' - maybe there aren't fireworks poppin' when the lights pop off.

But, who knows?

You might have to call in Dr. Phil to squeeze the truth out of this mongrel. And, he or she STILL might not admit or tell everything.

You'll probably never hear the truth from ANY of these cheaters.

And, your friend may not give you the whole story. He or she may only mention the bad things that the cheater has done and never mention what he or she failed to bring to the table in the relationship. And, there you are again with a one-sided story. A complicated mess.

But, don't be too critical or over-analyze - especially if you're not getting paid for it.

Sometimes, it's better to just sit and listen to your pal rant, rave, and whine, about how he or she has been done wrong. Often, people don't want an opinion or advice. They just want someone to listen.

And sometimes, that's better than knowing why men and women cheat.

- loveqna

Reasons Why Men And Women Cheat - Hidden Major Factors

Some "experts" touch on these Factors of Cheating, but usually, they only include "upbringing" and...

Well, I can't think of what other theories they have, but often when a cheater cheats, there's more than one reason. And much of the time, the idea to cheat isn't something that just happens overnight although cheating is bound by no rules.

Usually there are combination of reasons that develop over time while in the relationship.

It may start off as ONE thing, but as the relationship goes on and starts to fizzle, one partner notices OTHER things that turn him or her off - habits, appearance, personality, style, etc.

Or, he or she might notice other things OUTSIDE OF THE RELATIONSHIP that turn him or her on like sexy men or women. Or, people with more attractive personalities and styles. Or, someone who is more understanding and kind to them.

Anyway, take a look at these notes. Keep an open mind. Get a second or third opinion if you need to. And continue to develop your Female Intuition or Male Instincts.

I think I might make a move on this chick at work today, but with my bad luck, she'll probably "chop my head off" and turn me down before I can get a word out. We'll see what happens.

I HAVE the courage. I just have to look for the opening and make a move.

Stay tuned!

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(notes from "Double-Life" - a book I was working on at one time)

“The Major Factors of Cheating”

Back in the day, many people believed that the cause of infidelity was due to sex or neglect. But that was just the tip of the iceberg.

Today, as we see more and more troubled relationships and marriages, we now know that there are other factors involved.

The reason (or reasons) for cheating may be based on internal factors such as:

- Character and Personality (level of honesty; ethics; integrity; commitment)
- Desires, Goals, Dreams (what he or she wants or hopes to experience)
- Needs (such as emotional, physical, social, or financial needs)
- Fears and Insecurities (such as the fear of commitment, responsibility, or being stuck in a dead-end relationship; fear of his or her partner cheating or leaving)
- Disappointments (let-downs; depressed or unsure of his or her life and wanting a change in lifestyle)
- Preferences (things he or she likes and dislikes; turn-offs and turn-ons)
- Habits and Addictions
- Beliefs based on Upbringing and the Influential People in his or her life (state of mind; opinions; actions and re-actions)

Or external factors such as:

- Peer Pressure to do wrong or to deceive
- Lifestyle Choices
- Changes in partner or lifestyle
- Time and Circumstances
- Compatibility (or Incompatibility)
- Interests
- Home Environment (conflicts; radical changes; stress)
- Work Environment (temptations; stress)


How we act, react, perceive, and feel about these things makes each of us who we are.

Any of these things can have a negative (or positive) affect on a person’s personality, attitude, decisions, and commitment depending on how the person perceives and deals with life, relationships, and views his or her current situation.

But the only way to know what’s really on your partner's mind is through interaction and communication.

You can tell if your partner is happy to be in the relationship or if he or she wants out - or, if he or she is the type to lead people on and play games.

If the two people have good communication, a good “connection”, understanding, and “chemistry”, all pieces of the “puzzle” seem to fall into place and the relationship is something special. But, if things aren’t going so well in his or her life – or, if he or she feels trapped or dissatisfied in a dead-end relationship – he or she might turn to someone else for comfort, attention, excitement, or escape.

Each man and woman is different, thinks different, views life differently, living under different circumstances, and dealing with totally different situations and people everyday.

And since we all don’t (or can’t) deal with pressure, stress, or disappointment the same, our reactions to all of this drama in our lives won’t be the same.

Some people will even get angry about their situation and try to block out everything around them in order to find peace. Under stress (or disgust), their mind will become focused on one thing and that's getting out of the situation they're in.

So, a potential cheater (in a moment of weakness or due to poor character) will cheat or leave his or her relationship depending on what turns him on, what turns him off, his environment, his partner’s attitude, his influences, the current circumstances in his relationship and lifestyle, his personal preferences, desires, fears, fantasies, and most importantly: his character.

There may be an issue he or she has with the relationship. There may be an issue with him or her (such as loneliness, lack of respect for commitment, greed for sex, the need to be understood, or whatever). Or, he or she may be susceptible to peer pressure from family and friends - or flattery from a co-worker, friend, or acquaintance.

So, there could ANY reason (or combination of reasons) that a man or woman might cheat or leave a relationship.

- loveqna

Why Men And Women Cheat - Common But Secret Factors

I have several topics I want to discuss today, but unfortunately, the job I love is now running my life, and I don't have much time to do anything except work, sleep, and ride my bike.

Man, what a sucker-ass life.

Damn...

I promised myself I would cut down on my cussin' and profanity and work on improving my vocabulary, but it's hard as hell - just like trying to quit smoking. (I'm not doing so good with that either.)

Anyway...

I wanted to move on to the next "chapter" in our "Reasons Why Men And Women Cheat" series but I wasn't sure where to start next. I wanna write in a "logical" order but I have an issue with rambling and staying focused on the topic. My mind wanders, I daydream, thoughts come and go as they please...

Honestly, I don't think I'll ever be a "real" writer, but why quit now? lol

Look at me - I'm rambling again.

Anyway, here are some notes I made last night while I was on break - PLUS!

I have some old notes from when I thought about writing a book a few years ago.

Okay, here we go.

The other day, we established that people have different opinions about what constitutes cheating.

But -

We also established (or, if we didn't, we gonna do it now) that cheating begins at the moment of Deception.

If you want to get "technical", we could say at the moment of "Deceptive Interaction" or "Deceptive Engagement" with someone other than the cheater's partner.

But, let's just keep it simple. We all know that the cheater is cheating, trying to cheat, or going to cheat, if he or she is lying and "sneaking around", so the bottom line is cheating is based on Deception.

So, our next discussion is: Why cheat in the first place? Why don't cheaters leave the relationship BEFORE they cheat? Why "live a lie" if they're not satisfied in the relationship?

Now, let's be honest. How many partners would want to hear that their partner isn't satisfied and wants out of the relationship? Very few.

How many people would try to talk their partner into staying in the relationship and "work things out"? A WHOLE BUNCH.

It happens all the time.

Hell, I've begged for a second chance before! A couple of times!

And, I've been on the one wanting to end the relationship as well. I'm sure you've been in that position before also. And, if you haven't, one day, you WILL be in that position. One day, You WILL have to break somebody's heart.

And it'll pain you to do it. Well, unless you're cold-blooded. But, it won't be easy for you every time. Trust me.

And, the person who wants to leave the relationship doesn't want to go through that drama. He or she doesn't want to Reject his or her lover, or wife, or husband, or boyfriend, or girlfriend. So, this is ONE reason why a man or woman might cheat!

And, guess what?

Here's a whole slew of others...

(Remember! These are old notes. And, I'm still only considering these ONE or maybe two or three reasons why men - AND women - cheat.)

· He may be afraid of the woman’s reaction. Many men (and women) believe that a lover or partner is so in love that he or she may go into extreme depression or even get suicidal if he or she is dumped. But he may also be afraid of her getting extremely angry too. Either way, he wants to avoid confrontation and/or a possible dangerous situation.

· He knows the woman is “Something Special” and deserves better than him. Depending on the man’s character, he may or may not feel guilty. BUT... He sincerely doesn’t want to hurt her feelings. This is why a lot of people waste months or years in a relationship that they don’t like. They settle for a relationship that they don’t want because they don’t want to hurt their partner’s feelings by kicking him or her to the curb. He doesn’t like the woman but, he doesn’t want her to feel rejected or like there is something wrong with her (although there may be), so he is afraid to tell her that he is interested in someone else.

· He might not be able to explain how he really feels about what’s turning him off or making him miserable. Or, he may have a secret fetish or desire that he’s afraid she won’t understand or approve of. Other than that, he’s happy with his relationship.

· He wouldn’t have a place to live or go if the relationship ended.

· He didn’t feel that he was cheating because his partner never made it clear that they were a couple. Yet, he will hide it.

· He’s a “player”. He thinks he’s slick and won’t get caught. This man knows he’s wrong but he doesn’t care or he can’t help himself. He’s a player who cheats for the thrill of mystery and deceit.

· He may be a player or waffler and enjoys having more than one woman. Variety.

· He may like being known as a player or “ladies man” and receiving attention from his family and friends. This type of player will usually have two main girls and “acquaintances” or “friends with benefits”.

· He has too much to lose if he tells her he wants out.

· He’s a waffler who likes or loves both women and doesn’t want to lose or give up either one.

· He is afraid to tell her that he wants out of the relationship so he cheats and hopes that she realizes this and leaves him. He wants to get caught and dumped. (A good sign he wants out is: he has also been showing lack of interest and has been distant). He is planning on telling her he wants out but he’s waiting for the right time. Plus, he is still building up courage.

· He didn’t intend for things to go this far with the other woman and now he doesn’t want to hurt the OTHER WOMAN’S feelings. Or, he’s afraid to explain to her that he was already in a relationship. So, now, he’s in a relationship with two women.

· He only considers the relationship an “arrangement” (friends with benefits) and therefore feels he doesn’t have to explain that he’s seeing someone else on the side. But, he forgot to tell the woman that they were “just friends with benefits”. She’s running around believing that they’re a monogamous couple. Note: Sometimes the woman will feel like the relationship is “more than friends” if she and the man have been seeing and dating each other exclusively for a while. But, unless you actually discuss it, or he says, “I don’t want to see anyone else, but you,” and you agree, then it’s a “friends with benefits” arrangement. It’s not “official”.

· He might not like the woman (his "Main Girl" or "Main Squeeze"), but he doesn’t want anyone else to have her either. So, he won’t let the relationship be over and let the woman go. He’ll neglect her most of the time. Cheat. And string her along by being romantic and showing her some attention every once and a while. So she may be mentally trapped in the relationship. The guy may make her miserable. They may have constant fights or arguments, and she may not trust him or maybe she knows he cheats, but she’ll hang on to him or “settle” for a bad relationship because of her kids, or because she’s lonely, or because she is in love. She may be “sick and tired, and have doubts, but she also has hope that one day, the guy will straighten up and change his ways.

Those are just a few of the examples why a cheating man won’t or can’t end the relationship with the woman.

But…

Although he may low down dirty snake in the grass, it may honestly be “true love” (real or imagined) that’s keeping him in the relationship. He may even realize that he has a good woman and doesn’t want to lose her. Even if he’s not in love with her, they may still have a “special bond”, and he knows that she is the best thing for him. He’s not going to give her up for any woman or anybody because he knows that she’s honest, loyal, and reliable. He can trust her, and he can depend on her for anything. But for some reason, he just can’t stop himself from flirting or chasing other women. He might try to fight this feeling or he might “play around on the side” and do his best not to get caught, but if the woman found out and tried to kick him to the curb, he would do whatever he could to try and win back her love and trust.

Sometimes a man may have some sort of secret fetish, phobia, or addiction he’s hiding and having a hard time dealing with or controlling (and he may even want to get it out in the open), but he’s afraid it could cost him all that he has. And, it’s not worth losing everything he’s got or giving up his current lifestyle for. So, he won’t leave (or be honest with his woman) because he has too much to lose.

A few other specific examples:

· He doesn’t want to ruin or give up his marriage

· He doesn’t want his children to get emotionally hurt and he doesn’t want to lose them

· He cheated on his woman, but he doesn’t want to leave because they’ve known each other for a very long time and are very close – maybe even best friends

· His Main Squeeze has done a lot to make the relationship work and he will feel guilty if he leaves

· He can’t get along with the woman but she is too beautiful to let go

· He tries to leave the other woman but he can’t resist having sex with her or going back to her. She’s a lot of fun. This type of man usually runs back and forth between two women. Sometimes, the two women know each other and that the guy is cheating with both of them.

· He’s cheating but he hasn’t met a woman with adequate looks or personality - no “quality” prospects to take the place of his current “main squeeze”

· He feels that he and the woman are compatible, so he doesn’t want to leave, but he just can’t resist other women

· He’s doesn’t want to have to search for another woman or go back out into the dating scene

· He’s afraid he might not find another woman as good to him as his current woman

· He feels he’s getting too old to go back out into the dating scene

· He may have been seduced or enticed to cheat. It only happened once. He’ll hide it and try very hard not to let it happen again. He may even avoid the other woman to make sure that nothing “on the side” develops. He doesn’t love the other woman at all.

· It was spontaneous. It only happened once and he really didn’t mean for it to happen. He’s not even sure how it happened. It was a “moment of weakness”, “animal instinct”, or “animal attraction”. Or, just a "reaction".

· He loves his woman and doesn’t want to lose her because of his addictions to women, flirting, or sex. He wants to keep his woman so that he will have a companion, but he also likes being free

· He believes that things will change (or his woman will change) and his relationship will improve so he doesn't want to completely give it up or end it.

· He doesn’t want to fail at his relationship. He really does believe in living “happily ever after”. He wants to be the knight who rides off into the sunset and live the good life with the beautiful princess. He doesn’t want to bounce around from relationship to relationship, date, cheat, or be a player. To him, it was just a "moment of weakness". He may even have felt guilty and admitted his infidelity

· He may cheat and not leave because he’s worried about what his friends or relatives might say or think. He doesn’t want to be embarrassed by his own scandalous behavior. He’s not totally happy, but he knows he has a good thing and that it’s better than most relationships. Also, his family and friends may be constantly trying to get him to straighten up and to stop cheating on his woman because she’s such “a good girl”. They may even try to convince HER to leave him to find someone better

· He’s afraid that he can’t make it on his own without the woman. The woman gives him money, takes care of him, always lets him borrow her car, or is always blessing him with gifts and favors. Or, if they live together, she may be the one “in charge” and the head of the household. He may not know what to do or how to budget without her. He may need her support or income to live comfortably.

· He has gained too much to lose. He and his wife, girlfriend, fiancée, or friend, have been very successful together. They have nice cars, a beautiful home, money, children, a business, or whatever, and he doesn’t want to give it all up

Every man has his own reason for being unable or unwilling to talk to his woman and telling her that he wants out of the relationship or that he is interested in someone else, but usually it’s because the risk of losing what he has is greater than the “rewards” he could gain.

Damn, I still didn't include "The Major Factors". Maybe we can pick that up on one of the next posts.

- loveqna

50 Reasons Why Men And Women Cheat - Intro

Before we create the list of "Why Men (And Women) Cheat", what we need to establish first is: "what is considered cheating".

The reason why we need to do this is so that WE will be on the same page about this topic and be able to discuss it with better clarity and avoid confusion.

And, we don't want to be misled by Myths, Theories, and Angry Opinions, so this list is comprised of only the most common reasons that we can ALL agree on. So keep an open mind. This Knowledge WILL keep your mind and instincts from being clouded by nonsense.

Okay, enough.

Now, check this out...

Let's look at a few things people consider cheating.

---------- THE LIST -----------

- Having sex with someone other than your partner.

- Being affectionate with someone other than your partner (kissing, hugging, holding, massaging, etc.)

- Emailing, texting, and/or chatting with someone other than your partner.

- Having lunch, dinner, or breakfast with a "potential" love-interest.

- Flirting with other sexy or attractive men or women.

- Engaging in secret rendevous or going on dates with a love-interest or prospect. This is done usually during the NEW courtship when the two are getting to know each other.

- Giving gifts to (or Receiving gifts from) an Admirer.

And, there are probably a few other things we could add to this list but let's stop right here.

I have to mention something else before I drop this bombshell that just came to mind...

If you'll notice, I didn't mention things like: ogling other women (or men), or, watching "filthy obscene adult flicks", or fantasizing about being with other people (or idols).

The reason why I didn't mention these things in the list is because, MOST people (and, I'm sure I can say "most") don't consider those actions cheating although SOME people do.

Some partners don't care if you look at other men or women as long as you don't touch "the merchandise" or "order what's on the menu".

Some partners don't care if you look at "adult" movies as long as you're at home watching them.

Some people trust their partners to go out with friends and co-workers as long as they know there is no "love-connections" going on AND provided the partner doesn't stay out all night.

So, some of this stuff is annoying and disrespectful to be sure but for many people, these non-intimate acts are not considered "hard-core" cheating.

So, here's the conclusion (the bombshell):

Cheating is NOT about Sex as many people believe because sex is not always involved.

Furthermore, everyone doesn't cheat for sexual gratification. Some people are lonely and want attention. Some people enjoy the thrill of flirting. Some people like to know that they're still desired.

You can't have sex through email and text. You can't make love to someone through a computer (yet) who lives thousands of miles away. And, just because you admire someone and have fantasies about him or her doesn't guarantee you will be romping around in the sack with that person (or idol) anytime soon.

Ask anyone you know who has been cheated on and see if they've actually caught their Cheater in bed or in a sexual act with another person. Many victims have not.

So, cheating is NOT about sex.

Think about it:

A lot of these people who have been accused of cheating haven't been caught in the act.

What makes most of them guilty are the paper trails and electronic trails and messages that they leave behind.

And then, there's the infamous witness who saw the lying scoundrel (or scoundrelette) coming and going from his or her love-interest's home in the middle of the night.

But, they didn't get caught on film or at home by their partner. They were accused and convicted of cheating - and admitted to it - because all of the signs that SUGGESTED they were cheating.

So, here's what Cheating REALLY IS...

Cheating (infidelity) is about Deception whether it involves sex or not.

If your partner has to cover his or her tracks, or lie about his or her whereabouts, then that's a violation of the relationship right there.

If there's nothing going on, what does the scum-bucket have to hide?

If there's trust and understanding in the relationship, why lie?

Once someone deceives you, or disrespects you, or humiliates you, it's like a slap in the face.

It shows how much they value the relationship.

It shows they don't appreciate you or care about you.

It shows that he or she is selfish, greedy, and doesn't consider you to be an important part of his or her life.

It shows that he or she is just damn dumb and don't know a good thing when he or she's got it.

Just from Deception alone, a good relationship can go straight to Hell.

You look at the relationship in a whole new light and it's hard for things to go back to the way they were.

You're suspicious.

You're paranoid.

You're spiteful.

You're angry.

You want to leave but you want things to work because you don't know if the dummy has been cheating, or thinking about cheating, or if you're just jumping to conclusions.

It's hell.

So, anyway...

Since people don't always cheat for sex, the cheating topics will not be based on Sex alone.

Keep this in mind so that you will further develop your Female Intuition or Male Instincts. Don't be blinded by Myths and angry folks who want to use "Sex" as a scapegoat.

- loveqna

VIDEO - ANTM - 2 The Girl Who Cheated

If you've ever seen "America's Next Top Model" on TV then you've probably witnessed this heart-breaking scene before. If you haven't, get your "hanky" ready. It's a tear-dropper...



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5 Reasons Why You Keep Getting Your Heart Broken

Sometimes, the "love" in a relationship won't last no matter HOW hard you try. And, there could be any number of reasons why a lover or partner wants to end his or her relationship. The only one who truly knows what the reason (or reasons) may be is the person who wants to move on. BUT...

The partner who was "dumped" in the relationship should have SOME idea why this happened also.

Read on, and let me explain why.

During the relationship, there are always telling signs that the relationship is going downhill when it's going downhill.

A man doesn't have to be told he isn't spending enough time with his woman or that he isn't romantic enough. He knows it! He can make excuses about having to work all the time and having to do this and that around the house and being tired and all, but he's still going to hear some complaints from the woman that they don't do anything and that she's bored with their lifestyle. And, if he isn't hearing it, she's probably on her way out the door and out of his life. She's not going to feel sorry for him.

I can guarantee you this also...

A woman doesn't have to be told that she isn't showing enough affection or that she's "letting herself go" and losing her sex-appeal. She knows it. She can take the advice of all of those gurus and TV psychologists who say that the man should love her for her personality, but some guys don't want to hear that crap! They want a woman that's sexy and passionate when they're in the mood for love.

If the two are arguing all the time, they should know there's a problem. If one of the partners is calling less or not making an effort to see his or her mate, you know there's a problem. And you have to address it or it could mean the end of the relationship.

Hell, I got "the boot" several times! And, I know why! Almost every time a broad kicked my ass to the curb, it was because I wasn't showing her enough attention. (My mind was elsewhere.) I guess I just didn't care enough. Or, at least I didn't show it. They'd complain that I wasn't around enough or that I didn't call, or that I never made an effort to spend quality time with them. I knew they were right. I wasn't a player or anything. I was just lazy as hell when it came to making the effort to be romantic and attentive. I didn't try hard enough.

But, you live and you learn...

Now, let me give you five reasons why some people get dumped and abandoned in their relationships so that you can use this information to reduce the chances of it happening to you - especially if you find the love of your life.

* Not taking enough time to get to know the person you're dating or trying to get involved with. You're moving TOO fast and you end up choosing the wrong mate - one who likes to play games, or a waffler, or one who can't stay out of the streets or out of the clubs (they'd rather party and have fun than commit to a serious relationship).

* Your personality or habits turn him or her off. This person might be really "into" at first but once he or she got to know you, he felt you two weren't compatible. Or, it was something about your looks, habits, personality, style, hygiene, priorities, or interests, that turned him or her off. This often happens to nice guys and girls but it is also the downfall of many people with a strong character who are serious-minded that they give you the creeps.

* You neglect your lover and don't show him or her enough attention. If you neglect with love, conversation, affection, support, or time, these things will definitely cause a lover to leave the relationship or even cheat.

* You have too much baggage. Your love interest may have known this before you got together but thought that he or she could deal with it.

* You have or cause too much drama. Do you remember how quick J-Lo left Diddy's ass after that clubbing incident? That's one way to get rid of a hottie. A nagging or controlling lover or spouse can turn a lover off too. And jealousy is probably at the top of the list. So, if you're a jealous psycho, a nagging love-bird, or a control-freak, you can hang it up. Until you control your ways, you ain't gonna NEVER keep good love in your life.

Now, of course, there are more reasons why lovers leave, but the best thing to do is to get to know the lover and strive to keep getting to know him or her, so you'll know what his or her needs, preferences, desires, and fantasies are AND whether or not YOU want to fulfill them.

Also, try to keep yourself looking good. Stay sexy. Be what you were when you two first met. You know the old saying: "whatever you did to getem' that's what you have to do to keepem'." It's true. It doesn't matter if you're getting old. That's no excuse. You still have to step your game up and turn on the charm.

The effort you put into a relationship won't ever guarantee that you'll get what you deserve out of it, but it WILL reduce your chances of losing what you've got.

- loveqna

VIDEO - Prank Phone Call Gone Wrong - Cheating Boyfriend

A creative way to find out if your boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating...



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- loveqna

VIDEO - Wife Prank Gone Wrong

Sometimes it is best not to prank the mother of your expected child , because in the heat of anger she may just say something you don't want to hear! I'm sure some of you may not approve of this video, but remember it can go both ways... Be careful of the games you play.



Video provided by - Javier1171

- loveqna

How Do You Get Over A Break-Up?

I read a post tonight on a Q and A site (questions and answers) about a guy who was recently divorcd and depressed because his ex-wife had a new boyfriend, and it made me think: What would I do if my girl broke up with me for good and found someone new?

Mmmmm... This chick?

I admit, I'd be a little bitter about being kicked to the curb, but at the same time, I'd feel very much at ease. Relieved.

Right now, I'm used to her. I'm used to her ways. I know her well.

I like most things about her, and I know she cares for me - just a little. And there are certain things I would miss - like the way she kisses, her sexy legs, her crazy personality and the crazy things she'll sometimes say. She's honest and the fact that she is a strong woman and not weak-minded or dainty is a plus. Also, she is not reserved with her affections or timid in bed, so a passionate woman like this would be missed.

BUT... On the other hand, beauty is only skin deep. And, a man (or woman) can only take so much aggravation and pressure, no matter how good the love is and looks are. So, If you're not happy, what's the point? So, right now, I think I could handle being dumped.

If the situation was different - if I was in love - maybe I'd feel different. Maybe I'd bawl, beg, and cry my eyes out, because when I first laid eyes on her, I really felt she was "the one".

I've known people who have gotten dumped and they just fell to pieces.

I had two very close friends break-up once because the girl cheated with a DJ she met at a party. She knew this guy (the DJ) and flirted with him on several occasions. One night, after a party, they hooked-up, and she got pregnant. This girl told her boyfriend that it was his baby - BUT! She thought it would be best if they had an abortion because she wasn't ready for a baby. The truth was: She knew that if she HAD that baby, that there was a very, very, very, very, VERY, strong chance that it would not come out looking like it was THEIR baby (she and her boyfriend). There was probably a 100% chance that it would come out NOT looking like it was their baby. So, she desperately wanted an abortion for fear of breaking his heart.

So, she lied and told her boyfriend it was his, but said she wasn't ready to be a mom because she was in college, so he agreed to pay for the abortion.

Before he did, another friend in our little clique told her man what was REALLY going on. Now, she was afraid. She was afraid of being dumped. But, this guy loved this girl. He was distraught, heartbroken, and torn to shreds over this, but he didn't want to break up with her.

He was sad as hell and asked some of his close friends what he should do. He was asking people he never trusted or liked about this situation. That's when I KNEW he was off his rocker. I felt really bad for this guy and all I could say was: "Man, I don't know." I would've dumped that broad. But, you can't tell a guy who's deeply in love to give up on someone he really cares about. It'll make you angry that he didn't take heed to your advice and if they get back together, they'll hate you or you won't be as close as friends.

Well, some of his cousins were also good friends and were in our clique and they cussed the girl out and cussed him out for dating her in the first place. Some of them never liked her.

They called the girl a skank and every other name in the book. They were sure he was going to break-up with her, but they ended up being even more pissed...

He paid for the abortion, she promised never to cheat on him again, and they stayed together.

A few months passed and everything seemed cool.

But, after a while, he couldn't take it... The trust was gone. And he kept hearing rumors. And his cousins were still on his ass about dating her. So, the relationship just wasn't the same. Even their personalities seemed different. You could tell it was over.

When he broke up with that girl, I thought she was going to kill herself. She was crying and screaming and falling out all over the place - going around in circles and holding her chest. I was almost afraid because of the expressions on face. She really did not look like herself. I thought she was literally going to cry her lungs out. And, he was about to cry. He was REALLY sad about breaking up with this girl. I said, "Damn."

The reason I was shocked at this entire scenario was because I had never been in love. And to see the love and hurt in both of their eyes really amazed me. I didn't understand it. After all that had happened, I could tell he still wanted her and that it was killing him to let her go.

She came on our job with all of that drama and someone had to call one of her girlfriends to drive her home. It was crucial.

We all used to hang out together - weekends, weekdays, holidays...

Things got kind of slack for a while after that. You would've thought she was the one who broke-up with him.

The point is: How do you tell someone who is in love to get over it and move on? A half-ass relationship, you could make plenty of suggestions and tell the person to stay busy, volunteer, take up a new hobby, get out and date, etc... But, if the person is in love - and you don't know how deep that love is - what can you really say to help them? "Only Time heals all wounds?" It may be true, but sometimes, too much Time - to think and reminisce - can drive you insane. What do you think?

I don't know what else to say...

- loveqna

VIDEO - Danny Dumps: Angie. Cheating girl dumped live on radio

Another episode of the extremely popular "Danny Dumps", a program hosted by GalaxyFM, a local FM radio station in Yorkshire, England.

This time we meet Craig. A chap who wanted to ask his girlfriend to marry him on Christmas Day, after a four year relationship. Only to find out his girlfriend was doing her married boss at the company's Christmas party, which he found out through his friends and her colleagues. He then asked radiohost Danny to dump her, live!




http://www.galaxyfm.co.uk/

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- loveqna

20 Signs That Tell You He (or She) Is Cheating

I didn't want to post this, and I'll tell you why.

I see relationship "gurus" and advisors present some of this information on their "top 10 lists" all the time. And, it's always the same. Nothing new. Some of it is extra crap they chuck in just to make their list longer. If your "Male Instincts" or "Female Intuition" is fine tuned, most of you may know this information already, but, if you've recently experienced the deceitfulness of a cheater OR suspect that you're being cheated on, this post may open your eyes.

But, let me tell you this...

Your mate, or partner, or husband, or wife, or girlfriend, or boyfriend, could have ALL the signs and symptoms on this list and it still doesn't mean he or she is cheating on you. Well... some of those signs would be a no-brainer and a definite indication of infidelity, but MOST signs - as incriminating as they may be - aren't GUARANTEES of cheating.

Unless...

Your sweetheart just doesn't seem interested in you or the relationship.

OBSERVE AND USE YOUR INSTINCTS.

Now, if he or she is depressed (or got a lot on his or her mind), that may make him or her seem uninterested in being in a relationship with you. The only thing you can do about that is: try and help them through it and see what happens from there. If you can't deal with the lack of interest and attention, then talk about it and go from there. Or, try counseling. Some people can handle being with someone who's suffering from depression and some people can't. But, don't overlook it and mistake it for cheating or thinking that he or she doesn't care. All you'll do is make yourself angry and make him or her more frustrated and unable to solve the mental or emotional issues that he or she is trying to cope with. So, observe carefully before you suspect or accuse him or her of cheating.

Another type of person a lot people mistake for a cheater is someone who is unwilling or un-motivated, to enjoy the relationship. And, if this is the case, you might want to think about leaving anyway, because a pessimistic person who isn't happy with himself (or herself) will have a hard time being happy about being with you. He or she will only make you miserable. Don't even let someone like bring you down. Run - whether they're cheating or not.

If you KNOW your partner, you'll know when something ain't right. People who are "connected" have stronger instincts about each other. If they're lying or cheating, the majority of the time, you'll know it. Your "spidey senses" will kick in like a damn lightening bolt!

Let me tell you how I know this from first-hand experience...

I was cleaning out my "In Box" one day and ran across some emails from an Ex that I dated way before I met my current girlfriend. After I started reading those old emails I had saved, I kind of wanted to see what my Ex was up to and viewed her profile and the pictures she had posted on her page. And you won't believe this when I tell you but, later that day, my girlfriend called me up and started interrogating me and asking me if I was busy talking to someone else! I was shocked. I KNEW she couldn't have been spying on me but at the same time, I was so sure. Then it hit me! Female Intuition!

Her damn "female instincts" had kicked in and she wanted a Confession!

I didn't tell her sh*t. I said, "What the hell are you talking about? I've been cleaning up all day." (which was partly true).

SHE ALMOST GOT ME! I didn't know we were "connected" like that. I damn near found out the hard way...

Your "romantic instincts" may be that depending on your experience with relationships and how well you know your mate.

So, before you get paranoid and start believing all the crap those quacks put on these lists, get to know your partner and get connected.

But, there's something else I gotta say...

There are a lot of things people can do to avoid being caught cheating. Some people can lie their way out of the drama. Some people can twist the situation and avoid a "break-up". Some people have more than enough time to cheat and hide their tracks. Some people read this same list you're reading (because every quack and her dog has created one) and use them as a guide to avoid getting caught. And, some people will cheat just long enough NOT to get caught cheating.

So, the primary thing is: KNOW YOUR MATE.

Now, here's the crap you've been waiting for...

And, I'm not going into detail. This is Only A List. (I have MORE of this crap in the "top secret" book I'm working on.)

- Smelling strange perfume or body fragrance – usually from “smooching” and making out· Lurking around the house – creeping around and trying to keep up with your location so he or she can make moves

- Smelling fresh and clean - like he or she just took a bath (but not at home) - with "cheap" soap

· Hiding or lying about his or her whereabouts (if you're "connected", you can tell if he or she is lying)

· Not wanting to "make-out" as much; decrease in sex-drive; lack of affection

· Changing or avoiding the steps toward total commitment with his woman/her man – avoids talk about the relationship (or marriage); not wanting to talk about "the next step/level of their relationship

· Making excuses to leave after receiving a phone call

· Always busy and unavailable; always having to do a favor for friends or hang out with them

· Often criticizes you, nags, or complains about how you look, think, or act

· Doesn't talk much or acknowledge you early in the day but later on after work or after you've been apart, he or she is bubbling with enthusiasm

· Lack of interest in the relationship, home-life, or you

* Trying to change the subject when you want to talk about your doubts/fears or trying to change the subject when you question him or her about his or her feelings, suspicious behavior, suspicious actions, or whereabouts

* Trying to turn the tables (accuse you of possible cheating or losing interest) when you question him or her about cheating or your suspicions of cheating (WARNING: If you only SUSPECT him or her of cheating - and don't know for sure - I would not make false accusations or assume, because if he or she isn't cheating, it may seem to him or her that YOU COULD BE CHEATING

· Only sees you at night or for booty calls; you never go out on dates or spend quality time away from either person's house - usually happens in a "new" relationship

· Missing money from joint accounts or from paycheck

· Always VERY concerned about his or her appearance when leaving the house

· Unwilling to answer or accept calls in the your presence (if he or she DOES accept calls, he or she will talk low, mumble, in code, or not look at you but remain aware of how close you are so that you don't over-hear the conversation)

· Constant lying, excuses, and broken promises

· Strange behavior or doing things out of character

· Finding condoms – if you two don’t use them

· Finding another woman’s panties, jewelry, lip gloss, or other type of “accessory” in your home/in his car (she may have a love note, gift, card from a "friend")

· A strange or crazy person continuously calling and often hanging up

 - Constantly seen riding around in a car with an unfamiliar man or woman

- Often starts arguments so that he or she can leave


Now, like I said before, not all signs are guarantees that he or she is cheating. Maybe a combination of signs might suggest cheating, but the only way you will know for sure is if you're connected and it's "obvious". Or, if you catch him or her cheating. Or, if you ask and he or she admits it. Good luck. And, I hope your relationship is well. 

- loveqna