What Men REALLY Want In A Woman

It's automatic for most women to believe that all men want a woman who's Hot and Sexy.

I hear women all the time snapping or complaining that men only want eye-candy, a "trophy wife", or a chick with a phat ass.

While it's true that we appreciate beautiful women with attractive hairstyles, cute smiles, a nice shape, and a sexy booty, those are not the only things men are looking for in a woman. Those are the "basics". We all want someone who is (in our eyes) cute or nice to look at.

But, it's not all about Beauty.

That's not all that men want in a woman.

You could be the finest chick in the World and a man might still might leave you or cheat on you for a mud-duck, a hoodrat, or a skanky broad.

Let me tell you something that most women don't know...

Men use their Instincts or Male Intuition to "read" women just like most women use their Female Intuition to "read" men. Just as your Female Intuition might tell you whether or not a guy is "on your level", or a "player", or a loser, or a "good man", a man uses his Male Intuition to see the same things.

He sees the woman is attractive but he's also looking beyond her beauty. He's looking at the "Total Package"...

"Is she a hoe?"

"Is she arrogant and domineering?"

"Is she a Leader or a follower?"

"Is she shy?"

"Does she have class and style?"

"Is she loud and obnoxious?"

He doesn't want to get involved with a woman who's going to be a headache and a lot of trouble - IF he's thinking of the long-term.

A lot of women don't know it but many men (men who use their "Male Instincts") are looking at that "Total Package" within a matter of seconds!

He sees that you're cute but he wants to know if you possess other qualities that he wants.

Besides his INDIVIDUAL PREFERENCES - which only He could describe - and the Beauty that you possess, let me tell you about some of the other qualities that a man really wants in a woman...

(Many of them might SAY they want a "Best Friend", but they don't act like it do they? That's because those guys really want more from a woman than friendship.)

- She has to have class, style, and grace at appropriate times. She has to radiate a vibe of success in Life.

- Many men appreciate a woman who's witty or at least a woman who knows how to laugh and have a good time. That's always a plus whether you're a man or woman.

- A lot of men appreciate a bold woman who is confident (but NOT ARROGANT or too aggressive). No man likes a pushover. It makes him proud to have a woman who can handle herself and who's not afraid to get things done.

- If a woman shows she appreciates the man's talent and capabilities, he's going to be attracted to her more. You know you have feed a man's ego to keep him interested and happy - even if you've just recently met. Most men are suckers for flattery.

- Also, if she shows that she is a supportive woman who has her man's back, "down" for him, and always on his side no matter the circumstances or situation, this will also make him think twice before looking at another woman.

Why?

Because this shows that the woman cares about him. She cares about his safety and well-being. She'll kick ass for him if she has to.

To him, it shows that he means more to her than the fact that he's just her lover. He knows She believes in him, wants to see him succeed, and is willing to go the extra mile for him. He can trust her. Pour out his heart to her. Reveal his soul to her. There's no doubt in his mind that a woman like this is loyal and faithful. And, I promise you, he'll not only go the extra mile for this broad - He'll open up to her, defend her also, and tell her anything and everything that's on his mind.

A good woman like that will defend him and help him when he's down and can't focus or find direction...

A chick like that is a strong woman who will push her man to make things happen because she won't let him feel sorry for himself. She won't let him believe that he is weak, a failure, or be subject to will of others. She'll make him "see the light" even if she's gotta get him pissed-off at the World to do it.

But, I think we're getting off the subject... This is a rare breed of woman who deserves her own post. And even this type of woman must possess other qualities to keep her man loving and faithful.

So, let's get back on track.

A man wants a woman who isn't judgmental or criticizing. Usually, a criticizing woman like this is just loud, arrogant, bossy, unreasonable, irrational, and nagging. A hater and a gossip who carries bad vibes. A complete turn-off. Only an idiot would take a chance with this kind of woman. And after he does, his life will be ruined.

This is the last one I'm gonna do:

Almost all men appreciate a positive woman - a woman who is doing something for herself and making her mark in life. Many men don't want a woman who is lazy, pessimistic, or one who carries around negative vibes.

But! Be careful!

Be sure to get to know the man before you get in too deep. Don't get brainwashed.

There are some nuts out there who want a woman who is just as negative and just as crazy or trifling as they are. And to those men, this is a "positive" thing.

And that's it.

Now...

What I'm saying here is: Beauty (or cuteness) is important to most men. This is true. We all love eye-candy. We all want it. But, you must be able to reveal other important qualities about yourself as well.

And, believe it or not, MANY men are looking for those Other Important Qualities - especially the "good men"!

A good man will be trying to perceive those qualities in you within the first five or ten seconds of the moment of attraction. Why? Because he appreciates a pretty face but he's not necessarily looking for a beauty queen. He wants a woman of quality and character.

He's not a player. He's not greedy for beauty or sex.

He's not a moocher or con-artist. He's not looking for a woman who has money and a lot of material possessions.

He's not a trick who's looking for a woman to satisfy his fetish.

The World is full of all types of men who want many different things. There isn't a one-type-fits-all kind of woman.

If you stereotype men and think we all one thing in woman or a certain type of woman, you'll keep ending up in bad relationships and keep dealing with drama and break-ups forever and ever.

When you hear people making jokes about "what men want" don't take it seriously!

When people are angry and proclaim that "the only thing men want is sex", don't believe it!

It's sad, but the hard truth is: those poor folks want the type of men that don't want them. They keep getting involved with "wafflers" and players. Or, their lover has lost interest.

Women who wonder what men look for in a woman need to realize that men aren't just looking for a hot chick or sex. Look around. Hot chicks these days come a dime a dozen. Hell, you could turn a plain chick into a hot chick with a little make-up and the right clothes! Look at all these "ugly ducklings" and trifling chicks getting all of these good men and "handsome hunks"...

You have to give the man MORE!

Men are going to look at your beauty AND Style - Your "Sex-Appeal".

Men are going to try to use their INSTINCTS (or intuition) to read your character and personality - to find out if you have what they want.

And, realize that men have individual tastes and preferences and you need to get to know the man (your prospect or love-mate) to find out what HE wants and needs in a woman. He's not the same as everybody else.

So, Beauty will get Attention. Your persona (and style) will keep his Attention. And, when you discover what he wants as an individual, you won't ever lose his Attention.

So, the bottom line is: A man wants a woman who will be able to "turn him on" on all levels - physically, socially, mentally, financially, etc, etc, and so on...

- loveqna

Reasons Why Men And Women Cheat - Hidden Major Factors

Some "experts" touch on these Factors of Cheating, but usually, they only include "upbringing" and...

Well, I can't think of what other theories they have, but often when a cheater cheats, there's more than one reason. And much of the time, the idea to cheat isn't something that just happens overnight although cheating is bound by no rules.

Usually there are combination of reasons that develop over time while in the relationship.

It may start off as ONE thing, but as the relationship goes on and starts to fizzle, one partner notices OTHER things that turn him or her off - habits, appearance, personality, style, etc.

Or, he or she might notice other things OUTSIDE OF THE RELATIONSHIP that turn him or her on like sexy men or women. Or, people with more attractive personalities and styles. Or, someone who is more understanding and kind to them.

Anyway, take a look at these notes. Keep an open mind. Get a second or third opinion if you need to. And continue to develop your Female Intuition or Male Instincts.

I think I might make a move on this chick at work today, but with my bad luck, she'll probably "chop my head off" and turn me down before I can get a word out. We'll see what happens.

I HAVE the courage. I just have to look for the opening and make a move.

Stay tuned!

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(notes from "Double-Life" - a book I was working on at one time)

“The Major Factors of Cheating”

Back in the day, many people believed that the cause of infidelity was due to sex or neglect. But that was just the tip of the iceberg.

Today, as we see more and more troubled relationships and marriages, we now know that there are other factors involved.

The reason (or reasons) for cheating may be based on internal factors such as:

- Character and Personality (level of honesty; ethics; integrity; commitment)
- Desires, Goals, Dreams (what he or she wants or hopes to experience)
- Needs (such as emotional, physical, social, or financial needs)
- Fears and Insecurities (such as the fear of commitment, responsibility, or being stuck in a dead-end relationship; fear of his or her partner cheating or leaving)
- Disappointments (let-downs; depressed or unsure of his or her life and wanting a change in lifestyle)
- Preferences (things he or she likes and dislikes; turn-offs and turn-ons)
- Habits and Addictions
- Beliefs based on Upbringing and the Influential People in his or her life (state of mind; opinions; actions and re-actions)

Or external factors such as:

- Peer Pressure to do wrong or to deceive
- Lifestyle Choices
- Changes in partner or lifestyle
- Time and Circumstances
- Compatibility (or Incompatibility)
- Interests
- Home Environment (conflicts; radical changes; stress)
- Work Environment (temptations; stress)


How we act, react, perceive, and feel about these things makes each of us who we are.

Any of these things can have a negative (or positive) affect on a person’s personality, attitude, decisions, and commitment depending on how the person perceives and deals with life, relationships, and views his or her current situation.

But the only way to know what’s really on your partner's mind is through interaction and communication.

You can tell if your partner is happy to be in the relationship or if he or she wants out - or, if he or she is the type to lead people on and play games.

If the two people have good communication, a good “connection”, understanding, and “chemistry”, all pieces of the “puzzle” seem to fall into place and the relationship is something special. But, if things aren’t going so well in his or her life – or, if he or she feels trapped or dissatisfied in a dead-end relationship – he or she might turn to someone else for comfort, attention, excitement, or escape.

Each man and woman is different, thinks different, views life differently, living under different circumstances, and dealing with totally different situations and people everyday.

And since we all don’t (or can’t) deal with pressure, stress, or disappointment the same, our reactions to all of this drama in our lives won’t be the same.

Some people will even get angry about their situation and try to block out everything around them in order to find peace. Under stress (or disgust), their mind will become focused on one thing and that's getting out of the situation they're in.

So, a potential cheater (in a moment of weakness or due to poor character) will cheat or leave his or her relationship depending on what turns him on, what turns him off, his environment, his partner’s attitude, his influences, the current circumstances in his relationship and lifestyle, his personal preferences, desires, fears, fantasies, and most importantly: his character.

There may be an issue he or she has with the relationship. There may be an issue with him or her (such as loneliness, lack of respect for commitment, greed for sex, the need to be understood, or whatever). Or, he or she may be susceptible to peer pressure from family and friends - or flattery from a co-worker, friend, or acquaintance.

So, there could ANY reason (or combination of reasons) that a man or woman might cheat or leave a relationship.

- loveqna