How To Really Love Yourself And Appreciate Who You Are

I may be way over my head with this post but I'm gonna try to tackle it anyway since I need to appreciate myself more and stop being so humble.

*** I WAS GOING TO TRY TO UPDATE THIS POST TODAY BUT I MY MIND IS ROAMING. WILL UPDATE LATER ***

notes..... I will relate these notes to relationships;

don't let a bully bring you down; don't let cruel love bring you down

stop kissing ass and trying to please someone who has no respect for you - people admire courage and strength but they can be mean, evil, and devious when it comes to weakness

true friends - no matter how close you are or long you've known each other, friends are not real friends if they are devious and manipulative

don't fall for that guilt-tripping b.s. don't hold your head down in shame! don't throw up your hands in exasperation! realize if a reptilian scumbag is trying to manipulate you with guilt-tripping, then that means you have a choice. you have a choice to do something you don't want to do or need to do and feel weak and bad about yourself. Or, you have the choice to do what YOU want to do and feel more powerful and confident for standing up for yourself. you don't have to mean about it. just say "no". you can't do it. it doesn't work for you. you've already made other plans. not today, maybe next time. whatever... it's up to you. YOU DECIDE.

leave the relationship if it's making you crazy or ruining your self esteem and confidence

meet someone new

you're not gonna make a man or woman fall in love with you by kissing their ass. don't be an approval-seeker.

if you are worried so much about what your friends and family think and it's making you self-conscious, get away from them - at least until you have the courage to stand up and be who and what you really are.

no one can live your life. people have a hard enough time to living their own life and many of them aren't doing so great at it. many of them are miserable. so, don't worry about what others think you should do. follow your dreams. use your instincts!

as long as living a good life and not trying to mess up or destroy anyone else's life, people shouldn't try to control you. they can advise you but it's your decision to do what you believe is right for you.

being self-sufficient is one of keys to great confidence. when you don't have to depend on anyone else for anything, you can make your own rules and live by your own philosophies and beliefs.

you can't please everyone. do what's best for you and not what makes other people happy. because the truth is, if they aren't happy with the way you live your life, chances are they aren't happy about most things in life.

i know parents want the best for their children. and will try to guide them to make good decisions, but most children are gonna do what they want to do in the end anyway. many of them even abandon their parents to an old folks home or nursing home and rarely visit them. so, live your life and give good wisdom but don't make yourself miserable by trying to control or live someone else's life.

a relationship is about being a team - some people are only out for themselves

there are those who only care about what they can get from you or what you can do for them.
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they're only nice to you or want to see you when they want something or need a favor

they only come around when they want or need something

it's like this in many relationships - including marriages

some people don't know how to be team players and supportive. all they know is how to use people and manipulate people. some will try to dominate the relationship and rule it - get away from these types of people. a person like that has a hard time of seeing anyone else as his or her equal and should be left alone.

you're not being selfish or self-centered by loving yourself! you can love yourself and love others - taking care of yourself so that you can take care of your family is a good thing

avoid lovers who are always begging for money and favors. they'll put you in the poor house and make your life miserable. they are not friends! think of your goals and priorities and have the courage to say "no".

get to know a man or woman well before allowing him or her to come into your World. don't just be mesmerized by what you see on the surface.

don't allow loneliness and social fears to conquer you and make you desperate for companionship! stay busy or find something to do.

if you have a hard time meeting potential mates, take a step back and look at your appearance and personality to make yourself more attractive and desirable. ask for help from friends or co-workers if you need to. find love on your terms. don't beg for it. be desirable.

stop trying to please everybody - especially people who are not on your team or who won't help you in your time of need when it's in their power to do it

realize that a lot of people are only out for themselves and their families - this is not always a bad thing but is a reality that you should be aware of

don't take food out of your family's mouth to put food in someone else family's mouth when he or she works just as you do and is not wise with his or her life.

some people will run to you all the time like a stray cat after you help them once. remember that you have mouths to feed and bills just as they do.

it's a good thing to help the poor, it's a tragedy to help fools.

be aware of what you want

realize that if you've already allocated time, money, and energy to do something for yourself, then you shouldn't change it

people won't always get angry or feel disappointed if you say "no". and if they do, they'll get over it. and if they don't, then they're selfish

after you decide your priorities, stick to them.

realize that everyone in the world has something that they're good at or CAN be good at - it all starts with a spark of interest

don't put too much pressure on yourself to please other people or to save the World. NOBODY has been able to end violence, pain, suffering, or death. it is a natural part of The System of the Universe. It will always continue as long as their are humans on this planet.

so don't strain your emotions. stay alert and vigilant so that you help reduce the pain and suffering

improve your instincts and recognize the distractions in your life so that you don't get sidetracked on your goals

distractions come in the form of situations, ideas, and people. learn to avoid them and to maneuver around them

work on what really matters to you and to your growth in life.

we admire some celebrities - not because they are famous but, because of the work and service they do for others. we admire them because they inspire us to be great and to achieve

don't fight for these people but learn from them so that you can inspire others as well. remember, there will always be people who are silly and "blind" and you should not waste your time or energy fighting them - especially when the battle is so small that it is really insignificant to your life.

haters are trapped in a world of confusion and misguidance. they are ignorant and have only learned foolishness. they add no value to society or to the world.

some of them are miserable because they view their life as one dumbass mistake. they see no success or growth in their future so they are negative about everything else.

some of them are self-conscious and have to have attention all the time.

some of them have been brainwashed into believing they are better than everyone else because of their position, status, caste, appearance, affiliations, etc. they'll all be dead and forgotten one day, so it's best just to forget them now and do what you can do to bring value and real benefits into your life.

fight for what you deserve!

walk tall and stand tall

speak up for your benefits and to help yourself!

speak up to help your family and friends who are dependent on you!

what do you want to happen? What do you need? what do you want to achieve?

Go for it!

What is the worst that can happen?

if you get rejected, be thankful and move on.

don't stop to think about how bad you feel. life isn't about analyzing your negative emotions. realize what you have to do to get the answer you want or to achieve your goal.

Work on improving yourself so that you can be of value - learn a language, improve your skills, learn a skill, teach

realize you are of value because the longer you live the more you learn about human nature and life and you could pass down what you know and help others who will be going through the same stress

you can inspire someone else to be great.

realize the benefit you are to others.

a fool may not recognize your talent and potential but someone will if you work on it make your skills and ideas shine

realize that you are blessed with potential.

you can do something to contribute to science, social work, spirituality, philosophy, whatever. use your mind. it's more important than your body.

you can help fight depression, add, or some other mental disease.