I know it SEEMS I've been doing a lot of female bashing lately in these last few posts, but I'm not angry at women. Topics come to me all the time. and when I'm not being lazy or feeling overwhelmed (mentally), I write about whatever seems to stay in my head the longest - Like this current thought about "why guys hate it when chicks TEASE entirely too much".
I see this crap all the time. And, men do it too. They'll flirt and lead you on like they like you, get you interested, then give you the run-around and play games with your mind and so forth. Or, they'll get your phone number and say they're gonna call you but then they don't. (Guys and Girls do this.)
But why?
Observe closely, use your instincts, and you'll see the reason a lot clearer...
Some people are players and do it just for amusement... or, entertainment. They just love to flirt and they love the attention.
It's an ego-boost for some of these "flirty-birdies" out here.
They just like the feeling of being desired or hot or attractive. It proves to them that they are sexy and JUST AS SEXY as the next hot chick or handsome guy.
Some people are players and do it just to pass the time and because there's "nothing better available" at the moment. When "something better" comes along they forget about the first person's number they got.
Some people out there might meet a good girl or guy and have the intentions on getting to know them better but then - the same day - they might meet someone else and change their mind about getting to know the first prospect.
And, some people are wafflers and don't know if they want to talk to you or not. Hell, they don't know if they want to be single or dating or in a long-term commitment. They want to be involved but they want the fantasy also. Someone "perfect". Those bums analyze too much.
Then, you have the "natural flirts". They love to flirt and make romantic banter because they just love having a good time. It's just something fun to do with these people. Don't ever take them seriously - even if they genuinely like you. Keep playing the game until they start chasing you. That's when you know the game is over. But, don't expect them to stop flirting with others.
But, the most disgusting flirt is the girl (or guy) who leads you on and then, when you approach or ask her (or him) out on a date or over for a romantic interlude, THEN she (or he) starts to avoid you or act differently towards you. Like you're some kind of stalker or something!
I even hear some of these girls talk trash about these guys who show a little interest after the girl has led them on!
These dudes think they have a shot with these chicks and these broads are laughing at them and making fun about them behind their backs!
And, I've had male friends and relatives do things like this to women as well.
These poor suckers are letting these guys drive their cars, eat up their food, and spend their money, and these guys know these poor dumb broads don't have a chance in hell of being their girlfriend.
They're just leading those chicks on! Selling them a dream! That's what you call it! Selling their poor dumbasses a dream...
Some people do it to themselves.
They can't accept a sweet conversation and a little bit of flirting for what it is. They see a sweet face and hear a few kind (or flirty) words, and they fall in lust or in love instantly and think they REALLY have a chance at getting to know that girl or guy on a romantic level.
Just because that girl or guy is telling jokes and talking to you for 15 minutes and you're laughing and joking around, DOESN'T mean that he or she is interested! The conversation just may be interesting.
Now, don't get me wrong. IT NEVER HURTS TO ASK. "A closed mouth won't get fed", so it's always a good idea to speak up if you feel a good vibe from someone and want to "hollah". But, don't imagine it to be more than what it is. Chances are, it's not "love at first sight", so be cool and take your time about it.
Get to know that flirty bird first! Take that small-talk to deeper levels and find out what he or she is REALLY about.
Is this person just a "flirt"? Does he or she simply like attention? Is he or she a waffler? Or, does he or she REALLY want to get to know you on a deeper level? Make a friend first then take the conversations to deeper levels and find out "what's up".
Do you know what guys REALLY hate???
It's when a chick invites them for a romantic interlude, lead them on with all of the hugging, kissing, and smooching, and get the guy all "riled up" and "excited" and then, tells the guy they can't go any farther because she "wants to take things slow". WTF???
That's why some guys never go back! It's not because they only want you for sex! For some guys that may be the case. But, some guys believe that the woman is a tease and just leading them on! They don't want to go through the humiliation again! So, they go and look for someone else! And, usually, their mind is set on a "nice girl" who won't play games!
Now, in all fairness, guys do this too.
The only difference is: If a CHICK wants you - she will try to TAKE IT by force! lol.
She'll grope and grab and pull and tug and try make you "give it up"!
"Hey, Wait a minute! Take it easy lady! "No" means "No"!
(THAT is NEVER talked about in the media or anywhere else. But, it DOES happen. A girl WILL try to take "it" if she is "hot and bothered" and wants it.)
Mmph! Good gracious... I lost my train of thought... lol.
I love aggressive women.
Anyway...
Just be careful of your emotions and money with these overly flirtatious people. Many of them don't want anything. Some of them are more trouble than they're worth. Keep your heart and mind in check and just enjoy the moment.
Don't let those "teasers" play you and don't play yourself!
Use the situation to improve your romantic conversation skills - and also, your approach skills and Confidence!
It's all practice. That's all it is...
- loveqna
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