Why A Girl or Guy Didn't Call After You Gave Your Number

There are a lot of people out there who play games, and, a lot of people out there who don't know what they want.

Some of them get phone numbers for fun (or sport). Some of them get phone numbers and are afraid to call. Some of them will get a person's phone number and don't know what the hell they want to do.

I know dealing with these kind of people are frustrating - especially if you're interested, but don't lose any sleep over these bums. There's nothing wrong with you, it's just that THIS person may be a player or a waffler.

Or, the timing wasn't right and there were no good vibes.

Sometimes people just aren't interested but they'll accept a phone number anyway just to be nice. I'm sure you've been in that position where you might get someone's number so that you don't have to turn the person down and hurt their feelings.

But, there could be any reason.

Maybe there was no connection. Maybe he or she was looking for "Love" or a spark and didn't feel it. Maybe he or she didn't feel you two were compatible. So what. Don't let it get you down. Go on with your life.

Sometimes we take an "encounter" or date WAY too seriously. Some of us "fall in love" WAY too fast.

Some people meet an attractive person who seems sweet, kind, and thoughtful. And, there seems to be a connection, and almost instantly - "it's love".

Half the time, it's only infatuation.

In reality, there's no connection, or chemistry, or we know so little about the person except that they have a good sense of humor. Most of the time, we've only known this person for a few minutes or a few hours. We don't even know him or her on a deeper level. Yet, we're head over heels in love.

Why???

Most of the time it's because there seems to be good vibes going on between us - like there's a true connection.

That first encounter is usually all jokes and laughs the first time we meet. Or, we're turned on by their looks or physical appearance. Or, he or she seems kind and thoughtful and treat us with respect so we think he or she is interested in getting to know us on a romantic level.

But, we don't know this person. We don't know he or she is really about. But, we're swooning over this person like we know all there is know about him or her. He or she could be a total asshole. Therefore, contain yourself.

Get to know this girl or guy and find out what he or she is REALLY about!

How many times have you met someone, fell in love, and later on the person changes and starts acting like a jerk?

It happens all the time.

He or she was probably a jerk all along and we just didn't see it. We only saw what we wanted to see. Or, perhaps, trickery.

What do we REALLY KNOW?

Not much.

So, why should you be so anxious about him or her calling?

I know you want to get to know this prospect better, but don't put your life on hold waiting for him or her to come running to you with open arms.

Move on with your life, keep doing what you do, and "see how things turn out".

I've sen guys and girls give out their phone numbers to people and check their phone every five minutes to see if the person they've given their number to has called. It's a pitiful sight to see.

Now, I'm not saying that you shouldn't put a little bit of effort into the courtship. If you have the guy or girl's phone number, then call. But, if he or she is not showing any interest or making an effort to call you, why sweat it?

Move on.

But, let me list a few reasons why a prospect might not call...

Now, whether he or she is a player, a waffler, or just didn't feel any chemistry is important.

Use your instincts to see who or what you're dealing with.

A man or woman who's genuine and wants to get to know you will find a way to call no matter how busy he or she is.

But, the other types won't call if...

- they met what they believe to be a better option
- they're only getting phone numbers for sport or to impress friends with how many phone numbers they can get
- they heard something negative about you - found out you have baggage or issues
- he or she is a waffler and changed his or her mind about dating or getting involved - prefers to be alone.
- he or she is a cheater and had to destroy or lose the phone number
- the waffler doubts himself or herself as far as offering a good time
- doesn't believe you two are really compatible or felt no chemistry
- he or she found out a friend is also interested in you and doesn't want to ruin that friendship
- he or she is just testing his or her skills to see if you would give him or her your phone number (want to know that they're still desirable)
- they're just flirting for fun (teasing)

And, sometimes phone numbers get lost or don't get saved.

And, there are various other reasons why people don't call when they get a phone number. Every man and woman has their own reasons for doing what they do.

But, again: I wouldn't lose any sleep over it.

Nine times out of ten, there's nothing wrong with you. Sometimes the timing just isn't right. Sometimes the "vibe" just isn't there. Sometimes people expect too much too soon. And, sometimes players and wafflers have a way of creeping into our lives.

Whatever. Move on.

If you see the bum again, act like you never met.

If they want your number again, play hard to get.

You ain't got time for these games and confusion.

Remember: There are plenty of fish in the sea, so why play in the pond with toads?

Tell'em to kiss your ass.

- loveqna