Be Careful Who You Make Love To - They'll Work Your Ass To Death

I remember a few months back when people where asking me about becoming a room mate and where I lived and this and that, and I'd have to tell them I already had a roommate. Almost all of them would ask if I lived with a girl or a guy. And, whenever I told them it was a girl (a woman) their eyeballs would damn near pop out of their sockets.

I said, "Damn... Do I look that bad that I can't have a woman for a roommate?"

A couple of them saw this chick and went nuts.

Now, my roommate isn't a beauty queen but she has style and a nice phat ass. I mean, her booty is round and plump. Almost perfect. Men and women are always admiring it and giving her compliments on her body because she stays in shape and she's slim and trim.

So, anyway, she dropped me off at work a few times and a few of my homeboys (or mates) happen to catch a glimpse and ask me why I hadn't tried to tap that ass.

Well, let me just say that tappin' that ass can sometimes lead to a world of trouble...

I've been here for almost a year and I ain't tried to tap that ass yet. And, still, I've been working my ass off!

- washing her car

- killing all kinds of bugs

- vacuuming and cleaning rugs

- cleaning up for HER guests

- running errands

- plumbing work

- picking up her meals when she works from home

- fixing door locks

etc.

Can you imagine all the other kind of chores I'd be doing if I tapped that ass???

I don't care if you're a guy or girl trying to "hook-up" with a guy or girl. If you tap that ass, there will be consequences... You'll have some needy lovesick guy or girl hounding you all the time for companionship. Or, you'll have a manipulating asshole thinking that you're in a "committed relationship" and that you should be devoted to him or her and do whatever he or she asks. It'll be like being in a marriage from hell.

I don't care if everything starts out warm and fuzzy. I don't care if you're friends with benefits. Once you tap that ass, you've committed yourself.

Unless you're a player, you're stuck.

And, do you remember my week-long courtship with the "female player"?

That girl tried to get me in the sack before I could come up with a plan to get HER in the sack!

I knew she was up to something that's why I kept skirting around the issue.

I wasn't about to let that bitch drain my bank account dry!

And, now, this new chick...

I like this girl as a friend. And, really, I want to keep it that way.

I don't want to think about a relationship or any kind of romantic interlude.

I just want us to stay friends and have fun and after we get to know each other - whatever happens - happens.

But...

She's already imposing. If I tell her "no" or not to do something, she doesn't hear me at all. Stubborn as hell. Even if I beg. Hell, I can't put up with that. It'll drive me nuts! And, I don't wanna end up hating this girl.

She's already telling me that she misses me and that she enjoys our conversations and that she thinks about me often.

I was in a state of shock. I said, "Damn!"

I can't lie. I think about her too - Often.

But, I'm not gonna say that! At least not to her. I don't want things to get "hot and heavy" too soon.

This is a strong-willed woman. And already, I'm scared for my freedom.

Man, I think once I tap that ass, I'll never see the light of day again.

I won't be under her spell, but more than likely, under her control.

She's not the type of woman that takes "no" for an answer and that's what I'm afraid of.

She won't listen to reason.

And, she hugs me and holds my hand and cuddles in public and I just don't know what the hell to do. It's cool... but in certain situations it's not cool.

Then, she doesn't want me to ride my bike in the cold and makes a big deal about That. And...

Don't get me wrong. I WANT someone like that. I want a woman who's gonna be "down for me" and have my back and generous and affectionate, but I got a feeling she's gonna take over once I tap that ass.

I got a feeling all of that love and affection I'm getting right now is gonna turn into Demands and hard labor later.

My instincts are seldom wrong! I've been developing them for a few years now and trust me, they have rarely failed to be right.

I've been with other chicks and "tapped that ass", and suddenly became stuck in a relationship.

I'm a pushover and I know it. That's why I have to be extra careful and exercise self-control.

I know this is a risk but I'm gonna take my chances at the friendship route and see how things go from there.

If I miss out on a good thing, then I'll just have to "charge it to the game". But, if she sticks around and we take things to a deeper level, then maybe we're meant to be.

Either way, I ain't gonna tap that ass no time soon and give up living the good life!

And, you guys and girls should take heed and do the same!

Hell, now that I think about it: whether you tap that ass or don't tap that ass, either way, you're screwed.

- loveqna

Why A Girl or Guy Didn't Call After You Gave Your Number

There are a lot of people out there who play games, and, a lot of people out there who don't know what they want.

Some of them get phone numbers for fun (or sport). Some of them get phone numbers and are afraid to call. Some of them will get a person's phone number and don't know what the hell they want to do.

I know dealing with these kind of people are frustrating - especially if you're interested, but don't lose any sleep over these bums. There's nothing wrong with you, it's just that THIS person may be a player or a waffler.

Or, the timing wasn't right and there were no good vibes.

Sometimes people just aren't interested but they'll accept a phone number anyway just to be nice. I'm sure you've been in that position where you might get someone's number so that you don't have to turn the person down and hurt their feelings.

But, there could be any reason.

Maybe there was no connection. Maybe he or she was looking for "Love" or a spark and didn't feel it. Maybe he or she didn't feel you two were compatible. So what. Don't let it get you down. Go on with your life.

Sometimes we take an "encounter" or date WAY too seriously. Some of us "fall in love" WAY too fast.

Some people meet an attractive person who seems sweet, kind, and thoughtful. And, there seems to be a connection, and almost instantly - "it's love".

Half the time, it's only infatuation.

In reality, there's no connection, or chemistry, or we know so little about the person except that they have a good sense of humor. Most of the time, we've only known this person for a few minutes or a few hours. We don't even know him or her on a deeper level. Yet, we're head over heels in love.

Why???

Most of the time it's because there seems to be good vibes going on between us - like there's a true connection.

That first encounter is usually all jokes and laughs the first time we meet. Or, we're turned on by their looks or physical appearance. Or, he or she seems kind and thoughtful and treat us with respect so we think he or she is interested in getting to know us on a romantic level.

But, we don't know this person. We don't know he or she is really about. But, we're swooning over this person like we know all there is know about him or her. He or she could be a total asshole. Therefore, contain yourself.

Get to know this girl or guy and find out what he or she is REALLY about!

How many times have you met someone, fell in love, and later on the person changes and starts acting like a jerk?

It happens all the time.

He or she was probably a jerk all along and we just didn't see it. We only saw what we wanted to see. Or, perhaps, trickery.

What do we REALLY KNOW?

Not much.

So, why should you be so anxious about him or her calling?

I know you want to get to know this prospect better, but don't put your life on hold waiting for him or her to come running to you with open arms.

Move on with your life, keep doing what you do, and "see how things turn out".

I've sen guys and girls give out their phone numbers to people and check their phone every five minutes to see if the person they've given their number to has called. It's a pitiful sight to see.

Now, I'm not saying that you shouldn't put a little bit of effort into the courtship. If you have the guy or girl's phone number, then call. But, if he or she is not showing any interest or making an effort to call you, why sweat it?

Move on.

But, let me list a few reasons why a prospect might not call...

Now, whether he or she is a player, a waffler, or just didn't feel any chemistry is important.

Use your instincts to see who or what you're dealing with.

A man or woman who's genuine and wants to get to know you will find a way to call no matter how busy he or she is.

But, the other types won't call if...

- they met what they believe to be a better option
- they're only getting phone numbers for sport or to impress friends with how many phone numbers they can get
- they heard something negative about you - found out you have baggage or issues
- he or she is a waffler and changed his or her mind about dating or getting involved - prefers to be alone.
- he or she is a cheater and had to destroy or lose the phone number
- the waffler doubts himself or herself as far as offering a good time
- doesn't believe you two are really compatible or felt no chemistry
- he or she found out a friend is also interested in you and doesn't want to ruin that friendship
- he or she is just testing his or her skills to see if you would give him or her your phone number (want to know that they're still desirable)
- they're just flirting for fun (teasing)

And, sometimes phone numbers get lost or don't get saved.

And, there are various other reasons why people don't call when they get a phone number. Every man and woman has their own reasons for doing what they do.

But, again: I wouldn't lose any sleep over it.

Nine times out of ten, there's nothing wrong with you. Sometimes the timing just isn't right. Sometimes the "vibe" just isn't there. Sometimes people expect too much too soon. And, sometimes players and wafflers have a way of creeping into our lives.

Whatever. Move on.

If you see the bum again, act like you never met.

If they want your number again, play hard to get.

You ain't got time for these games and confusion.

Remember: There are plenty of fish in the sea, so why play in the pond with toads?

Tell'em to kiss your ass.

- loveqna

What It's Like To Date A Female Player - 6

Thank God...

That broad is gone.

Before I get into the details, I want you to know how I maintained will-power strong enough to resist the mindgames and Jedi tricks of a player so that you can do the same...

It wasn't easy at first because I really thought this chick was something special. She has almost every quality I ever wanted in a woman.

But, the more I saw of her, the more sillier and sillier she appeared to be with those simple-minded mind games. I've never seen a girl who was so smart act so damn stupid.

I guess when you have sex-appeal and get a lot of attention, it kind of makes you lose your mind and imagine you're some kind of god or goddess or something.

That chick could go far in life with her style and charm but compared to a lot of these other ladies out here who are looking for good love and who don't even play these mindgames, she's small potatoes.

She thinks she's got it going on and there she is living with her "roommate" ex-boyfriend (and still having sex with him) and she's still on the job begging for money and food. What kind of sh*t is that???

Her game ain't as tight as she thinks it is that's for damn sure.

Some of these players out here are no joke. They will try anything and say anything to win your trust and friendship so that they can take advantage of you.

They will try to flatter you and "butter you up" with compliments.

They will offer their help and advice.

They will perform favors for you so that you will feel obligated to return certain favors.

They will entertain you and try to impress you with their knowledge, confidence, or intellect. And, we all know some of them like to make jokes and be funny to make you laugh in hopes of you letting your guards down.

They'll get to know you and then try to use "guilt-tripping" tactics!

Don't fall for that sh*t!

Cut those bums off early before they milk your pockets bone dry!

When that bum starts telling you his or her sob-story, acknowledge his or her hard luck and don't say a word otherwise.

Help the needy not the sleazy. And sleazy-ass weasels are as sly as a damn fox!

And, be careful that you don't let one of those controlling bullies take over your life! Get out early! And Get away!

Get as far away from him or her as possible, and avoid the scoundrel whenever you can.

When you see him or her coming, go in the opposite direction. Run.

Everyone of those scoundrels have an agenda - please believe it. They don't try to butter you up and be your friend (out of the blue) for no reason. They want something!

Those sneaky devils are always on the hunt for money, or sex, or status, or transportation, or a free lunch.

They'll approach you disguised as sweet innocent lambs, but in reality they are wolves ready to devour fresh meat!

They'll eat up everything you have and make a joke of you behind your back. And, they'll laugh about it with their friends.

Don't do any favors for them if you can help it! And, don't do a favor more than once if you can't. They're like a hungry stray cat. Once you feed the sorry sap-sucker, he or she will always come to you for something to eat.

They'll run your ass into the ground until you can't afford to buy YOURSELF anything to eat.

"GIVE TO THE NEEDY, NOT THE SNEAKY OR GREEDY."

Some of you may already have good instincts and know about the manipulation tactics of players, playettes, con-artists, tricks, and scammers.

Some of you have probably gained experience because you have been used and played for a sucker in the past.

But there are still millions of people out there getting "pimped" and "played" and don't even know it!

They can't get ahead or move up in life because they keep throwing their blessings (and Time, and money) away on some loser who could care less about where they ARE in life or where they end up in life. Why give your hard-earned money away to a player - a loser - who will only waste it? Or, give it to someone else!

These poor dumb chumps don't realize that they're just a back-up plan for these miserable wannabee players. When all else fails, these wannabee players know they can manipulate these chumps.

Open your eyes Suckers and take heed!

Beware of their games and Stop letting these bums play you out!

And, for those you who are looking for love, honesty, and loyalty...

You'll never get what you REALLY want out of those heathens by trickin' and allowing them to manipulate you!

Letem go. Even if they go away mad, letem go.

Now, for the latest...

In the last post of this "series", I mentioned that "Slim n Sexy" was going through a bit of family and financial drama.

Well, she had to leave Charlotte and go back to her hometown.

A few days or so before she had given her "notice" to our boss, she was flirting with me again and calling out my name and so forth. I knew she was gonna do this stuff so it really didn't surprise me.

But, I WAS shocked when she informed me that she was quitting her job and going back home, but, I was also glad to see her go. That girl was nothing but a damn moocher. Even one of her "friends" who actually liked her laughed and said she had milked all of us so now she had to go to another job and milk those folks.

That beggin-ass girl had the nerve to ask me if I was gonna give her a going-away present and she never even paid me back the money I loaned her to pay her cellphone bill.

And you know we recently got into that argument and she expects me to swoon over a few flirtatious remarks, kiss her feet, and give her a going-away present???

I wanted to stick up my middle finger at her and say: "Yeah, I have a going-away present for ya, right here... Let me know when you need some more."

I'm serious.

She asked me two or three times about a going away present and I came close to showing her that middle finger.

I had to avoid that chick the rest of the day until she was gone. And, I hated that I had to do it. She looked gorgeous as usual and I wanted to get my hug before she left but, I couldn't stand all of that damn beggin'. Greedy beggin' gold-diggers just turn me off.

I'm about sixty percent sure I might've missed out on "something else" by not acknowledging her, but to hell with it. They're still plenty of other fish in the sea and more sirens await!

Good riddens.

Besides, I haven't run out of Options yet.

- loveqna

What It's Like To Date A Female Player - 5

As soon as I turned into the parking lot yesterday, I someone called out my name.

I scanned the parking lot and saw that it was Slim. That chick was sexy. She wore some tight blue jeans and a form-fitting t-shirt that hugged her breasts. And as she headed my way, I couldn't take my eyes off that broad and her sexy walk. She's not a thick chick but she has a sexy body. And the way those hips swayed when she walked... I said "damn".

But, I knew she was coming over to beg for something. That poor dumb girl is nothing but a damn moocher.

She wanted a cigarette. I gave her two for good measure.

Then she started telling me her sob story...

She was having more family issues and financial issues. I don't want to discuss them because they're personal and a little bit sad. But, she could've been making all of that stuff up to get a few bucks out me.

I told you before that this chick was going to come to me and want to talk. She has a one or two other people there she could talk to but now, she is coming to me also. I don't mind listening and letting her release some of those "demons", but it does pain me to see her hurting like this.

I want to help this broad. I want to chill with her. But, I can't give her the money she needs. I just can't do it.

She's too much of a player. And she could be lying and making all of this sh*t up. You know how beggars do: They'll tell you how hard of a time they're having and how only a few dollars could really help them out, and blah, blah, blah... Crackheads do the same sh*t. I ain't falling for that B.S. She may be trying to trick me out of my money or string me along for financial support for a while. I want to be with her and be there for her but she can kiss my ass. I'm tired of those weak-ass lies and games.

I told you before how the chick was trying to nickel-and-dime me everyday for lunch, breakfast, and gas, like I was her man but when I asked her to price the business cards, or to call me, or if she wanted help with her book project, she ignored me.

Her lying ass probably ain't even working on a book. At best, she's probably got a paragraph scribbled out in a notebook.

And, she still tries to play these "games".

Let me tell you something: I'm not a cold-hearted person. I really would love to be with this girl in a long-term commitment. But, I'm no jackass either. And, I refuse to let her play me out. I don't trust her.

"Never trust a trick and never trust a player."

That's my motto.

If she never sees the light, it will be both of our loss. If she opens her eyes and her mind, I could turn her on to a better lifestyle.

I'm not rich of course, but I'd do more for her than that "roommate" she's living with.

But, I'm not about chasing another man's woman or friend or "roommate", I've got my options open and I won't let one silly girl bring my whole world down.

And, that's what you have to do - whether you're a guy or a girl. Love is strong but you must not let it become selfish Love to the point where you would trick yourself and play yourself out to be with someone who is full of games and drama.

Be in love but stay in the zone.

Keep your mind focused and believe in the dream. Don't always believe in Man or woMan because they can disappoint you, mislead you, or bring you down.

- loveqna

Don't Give Up Your Dreams Due To Love

When I received my first text from that "gangsta chick", Slim, my future flashed before my eyes.

I was uplifted.

I had high hopes.

I thought for sure I had received a blessing from God. I thought I had been blessed with a Queen. The girl of my dreams.

She was everything I wanted.

I like fiery strong-willed women. I like bold women. I like women who are confident and smart - business-minded. I like women who are go-getters - Divas.

I thought she was all of that.

And, every time I thought of her, I could see the both of us rising to the Top and living a good life. A Grand Life.

But, this chick is nothing more than a loud-mouth "show-girl". She's got all of the features and game but she wants to be "player" instead of a "True Player".

She can't see the Big Picture.

She'd rather yap all day on her cellphone about her problems instead of doing something about them.

She'd rather use men for chump-change and favors instead of creating major opportunities for herself.

She uses her game to play games.

I don't need a woman like that in my life.

I HAVE the MasterPlan. I just need someone to help me develop it and sell it.

Sure, there are other chicks out there that are "qualified" but I want someone like this - for Business as well as Love. And, I could love a chick like this. I'm not ashamed to say it. She's like a dream come true.

But, her Mind ain't right.

She's full of B.S. - that's why it won't work. And, I'm not an "all-day sucker". I'll wait or look for another similar type of chick before I let her play with my mind and drain my bank account dry. To Hell with that.

And, you should follow suit.

Don't give in to a wannabee player who only wants to play games with his or her life and your's.

Don't waste your time crying over a bum who doesn't want to improve his or her life or your relationship. That's what life is about: Growing, Expanding, Improving, Moving Forward.

Don't let a slob or a scrub bring you down and ruin your potential for Happiness.

Don't let a bum bring you down and make your life hard and miserable.

If you can "milk" that rascal or scallywag and save for bigger and better things, do it! Milk him! Milk her! You're doing for your future! You're doing it for the both of you. You're doing it so that you can both live a good life. Or, a better life.

If he or she has dreams, offer your help and/or advice.

Show him or her that you are willing to help anyway you can to build your future together.

And, if he or she doesn't want to cooperate, do it for yourself and your family.

Go to school. Save your money. Get a job. Start a business. Learn a trade. Find a better partner (if possible). Use your game.

And, move on and accomplish your dreams without the scumbucket.

- loveqna

What It's Like To Date A Female Player - 4

I don't have much to say about my involvement with Slim. I really wanted a "ride or die" type of chick in my corner but it's pretty much over. After she cussed me out for calling her a "moocher" (basically), we haven't texted or talked on the phone.

We were talking again after a day or two had passed. And, she has approached me to bum for a cigarette on the third day, but other than that, we really haven't had a conversation.

I know she wants to talk to me because she always greets me and makes it her business to say "hello" even when she has a line of customers or whatever. But, why waste my time? If I tried to win her favor now, she wouldn't respect me. I know she wouldn't. She has too many guys chasing her as it is. If I chased her also, I'd be lumped in with the rest of those poor suckers.

Nahh, I'll keep my distance.

In fact, I know she will pursue me again. But, the next time, she will come with more game. She will TRY to play with my mind, lead me on, and tease me. I'll give it a couple of weeks. That's when she'll get enough nerve to call or flirt with me again.

Please, don't take this as arrogance. I'm only telling you what I BELIEVE may happen based on experience and instinct. I may be wrong because all people aren't the same. It's possible that she may never approach me again. So, romantically, it may be over between us. We'll see.

But, I know she misses talking to me because she can tell me anything. And, I don't judge her, tell her secrets, or repeat what she says to other people.

I could be her "knight in shining armor" and she could be "the girl of my dreams" but her dumbass is too damn dumb to realize it.

Oh well... Ain't no use in daydreaming and crying over something that is probably never meant to be.

I've also been talking to that "other chick" on a regular basis. I'll now refer to her as M&M (muse and mentor). Nahh, I'll call her "Cleopatra" just in case some of your web browsers aren't reading the ampersand symbol.

Cleopatra been going through a little bit of drama lately with her Ex and has been asking for my advice and opinions a lot lately.

Honestly, I don't like to give my opinions "off the cuff" or "on the spot" because I'm often impulsive and irrational. I don't think quick on my feet. So, I may say things I don't mean. Or, say something I shouldn't say (something harmful). Or, say something "crazy". It may be bad advice or a dumb opinion. My mind moves a million miles a minute.

Anyway, I try to take my time when I talk to her and it's been working out swell for the both of us. So, she's been wanting to talk and chill with me a lot lately.

I think she's using game and trying to "reel me in" but I'm not sure. I think she's either unsure about whether she wants to talk to me or unsure about whether or not I would be interested in dating her. I'm interested - but for how long???

Today, she invited me to hang-out with her and another co-worker for drinks at a local bar. I didn't really respond because I really don't like bars. I don't like to drink and sit and sit and drink. I'm an Aries. I'm active. If I drink, I wanna dance, grind, and have fun.

Anyway...

If I got involved with this chick, I really don't think I could ever leave her even if I wanted to. I wouldn't want to see her hurt by anyone - especially me. She's just too nice of a person.

And, the worst part about all of this is: If I did date M&M, I would make sure that Slim knew about it so that she would be angry and jealous.

I know it's disgusting and a terrible thing to do, but it's hard for me to get Slim out of my head. Well, it's hard for me to get Cleopatra out of my head too.

Every time I see her, I'm looking at her features or her lips or her smile or her booty. I like her personality. I don't have to search any deeper. But, I want to be turned on too. I want to look her and say to myself "damn, look at that ass" or "damn, she's got it going on" and right now, all I see is: "she's attractive". But, Where's the "pop"???

Where's the sex-appeal?

Where's that "Boo-Yowww!"?

Now, don't get me wrong, she's got a nice ass - and boobs - but, she's not "workin' it". There's just no excitement.

Now, one day, she stopped by the store to shop and she was looking foxy as hell...

She was dressed in athletic wear but at the same time "rockin' it" "relaxed and casual" in all white and she looked like a million bucks. I was definitely turned on by her that day. I would've kissed that girl from the soles of her feet to every strand of hair on head that day.

But, she doesn't move me like that every time I see her. Even though she dresses nice and neat, it's just not "interesting".

But, it's more than just how a woman (or a man) dresses. It's the walk. The style. The body language. Etc. Some people have sex-appeal and some people don't - No matter how good you look or attractive you are. If you don't have that "IT" factor or "star power", then you're more likely to be passed over for some less attractive looking person who DOES have sex-appeal or the "IT" factor.

***DON'T ASK ME HOW I GOT ON THIS CRAP***

Okay, back to the original ORIGINAL subject: "What It's Like To Date A Female Player"...

The REAL FEMALE PLAYER might be Cleopatra. She may be my true queen, but only time will tell. I'm gonna holla at her and see if she has the time to be involved in a partnership with me. If she makes the time, I know she's down for me. If she doesn't, well... I don't know. We'll see.

- loveqna





This will be a short note - hopefully.

To Those Who Try To Buy Love (or Pay For Sex)

How Tricks Have Ruined The Game Of Love

I know when you're courting a prospect, you may have to spend a little cash on dates and going out to the movies and that sort of thing. And, you'll also have to put in personal time and attention to show you're interested. But, don't overdo it.

If you have to BUY a prospects love and/or attention, you don't need the bum. Wait or find someone else.

Don't let a prospect work you like a dog in order for you to win his or her interest or affections. Be strong and avoid being used, abused, and played for a sucker. Realize your true worth. Realize what real LONG-TERM VALUE you bring to the table.

Don't let that prospect turn you into a "trick" and have you jumping through hoops to prove your interest and admiration. And, to be honest, in long run, he or she will never respect you for it. He or she won't respect you for waiting on him or her hand and foot. He or she won't respect you for being an ass-kisser or a doormat. He or she will never respect you if you are not confident and strong enough to stand up for yourself and say "No" sometimes.

Don't follow him or her around like some poor little lap-dog and beg for his or her attention. Be a "real man" or a "real woman" and show that you're in control of your Destiny and your life and that you don't need anyone to make you feel good about yourself or to bring you complete happiness.

Don't let that prospect control your mind or rule your world. If you get him or her - if he or she chooses to be with you, fine. If not, YOU need to move on. Don't waste your time, energy, and hard-earned money trying to BUY Love. It won't work. Either they're gonna love you for who you are or they aren't. Don't wait for the person to "come around" and "see the light". Or, see what a good man or woman you really are. It may take a very long time. Holla at some other prospects. Put your bid in elsewhere. Don't put all of your eggs in one basket and hope to win this person's love if they're playing too too hard to get. Move on.

Some of those people are nothing more than con-artists anyway.

There are many tests in Life. Some are important. Some are B.S. and a waste of time and effort - and money. And, the test to see how far you're willing to go to win someone's attention is one those B.S. tests.

There are plenty of fish in the sea. Don't let an asshole make a fool of you by turning you into a "trick" for his or her entertainment or interest.

Now, with that being said, let's dig deeper and clarify what a "trick" is in layman terms...

First, a "trick" is commonly known in the Sex Industry as a man (John) or woman (Jane) who pays for sex.

In The Game Of Love/ Game Of Romance, a trick is a man or woman who spends a lot of his or her money on a prospect (or love-interest) in hopes gaining love, "friendship", affection, or sex. That trick will try almost anything and do whatever he or she has to do to entice the prospect and try to win his or her heart.

Trickin' is as old as prostitution. Probably older. I'm sure of it.

I can imagine how it was thousands or millions of years ago...

The first cavewoman that came up with the brilliant idea of having those wild cavemen trick for her had to see beforehand that there were lonely tricks willing to trade furs, Crocosaurus meat, yams, and fish for her attention, intimacy, and affection.

She had to see that there was an opportunity to live good off of at least one or two of those localjokers. She could have one of them getting her food, another building her hut or digging her a cave, and another for pleasure. She HAD to see their tricks afoot. If she didn't recognize the opportunity, why did she go into business for herself? She had to see that those tricks were willing "pay" in order to play.

There were probably so many poor lonely slobs running around that stone age community building huts and digging out caves to satisfy those luscious cavewomen and their little cave-kids, that marriage was the next logical step in Evolution. I'm sure of it. Then came the "mutual agreement". Those tricks had to keep other tricks from stealing the women they loved and the cavewomen had to keep other vixens from stealing their tricks, "benefits", and favors. So, a few of those tricks and cavewomen got together one day and promised to be faithful to each other and thus, the invention of Marriage.

Well, it could've happened like that. Whaddaya think? Do you think that's how Marriage was invented? I bet it was.

And, I bet some of those cavewomen and tricks didn't want to get married - just like a lot cavewomen and tricks today don't want to get married.

Some of these women today realize how much power they have over these poor losers. The power to manipulate and to control.

Some of these prospects today are really players and hoes with 3, 4, or 5 tricks in their stable!

Those poor dumb tricks don't know they're being played for fools. Each one thinks he or she is in an exclusive relationship. But, they're being cheated and played out by these sirens...

Aha, but men aren't the only one's trickin'. We know there are many females out here trickin' too. They'll do all kinds of favors and spend money and buy gifts in order to keep from losing their prospects too. They want to keep him (or her) interested and hanging around also.

All of these tricks are driving the costs of courtship up to unsightly proportions!

These prospects and players see that these tricks out here are willing to do almost anything for their love, "friendship", or attention and they make these tricks pay royally.

Tricks have ruined the game of love with all of their begging and overly generous ways.

The trick will "loan" a lot of his or her money to the prospect.

The trick will pay some or all of the prospects bills to keep the prospect hanging around.

The trick will perform all kinds of special favors for the prospect like

running errands,

fixing his or her car,

exterminating mice and ants,

doing home repairs for the prospect,

taking the prospect (and the prospect's family) out to eat,

helping the prospect move from one house or apartment to another,

surprising the prospect with gifts and trinkets,

etc, etc, etc.

A lot of tricks will do this stuff on their own without any encouragement from the prospect. And, the reason why tricks do this is because they are afraid of losing the prospect to someone else. They also do this to try to keep the prospect from losing interest. Sometimes tricks do these things because they're afraid of being rejected.

But, when the money runs out or the tricks stop spending or stop doing favors, the prospect is gone. Then, it's up to someone like you or me to fill that void. They expect US to pay and compensate them for their time and affections. But, this is what I say: Either you like me for me or you don't. And, if you don't, you're ass can keep moving. I don't give a sh*t if you talk to me or not.

The problem is: A lot of tricks out here have no confidence in themselves. They don't believe a man or woman could like them for who they are. So, they try very very very hard to establish a relationship quickly.

They try to rush through the courtship before the guy or girl gets away.

These tricks out here are doing WAY too much for a hook-up.

And worst of it is: the world is full of more tricks than you can shake a stick at.

There are a lot of tricks out here trying to buy love and/or a relationship and driving the price of romance through the roof!

Trickin' has become a booming business for some of these True Players and hoes out here. They're getting all kinds of freebies, favors, perks, and benefits. No wonder so many women out here are "High Maintenance" and delusional about their role in a relationship.

Trickin' is definitely big business for the retail and moving industry! I'm in retail so you know I'm thankful to those tricks out there who give their support.

But, as I've said, some of those tricks out there do WAY too much...

There are tricks out there selling their souls to the Devil just to have a nice warm cuddly babe on their side. It's sad and pitiful...

There ain't no telling how many tricks there are out there giving all they can give for "friendship". Ain't no telling how many tricks there are out there that are giving excessively to win someone's love. But let me tell you the difference between the two and how each one has hurt the game of Love.

I hate to do it, but I've got to expose these tricks right now and put those poor lost souls and suckers back on the good path. Well, some tricks you can't convert. But, if you've recently started trickin' or HAVE been trickin' and didn't know it, this might open your eyes.

There are actually THREE types of tricks - maybe more if you want to get into details but three basic ones.

The first trick is a sucker. He or she probably has low self-esteem. He or she may be shy and lack confidence. This trick believes he or she HAS to give money and gifts to keep the prospect satisfied and interested. He or she knows no other way of courting a prospect.

The second trick is manipulator. Sometimes (maybe often) a player or a hoe. This trick knows what his prospects like and what motivates them and uses it to get what he/she wants from them. These types of tricks give in order to receive. Usually, they trade money and/or gifts for intimacy.

The third trick is a benefactor. This trick is usually lonely and wants to help his prospects in anyway he or she can - with money, shelter, transportation, advice, food, or whatever he (or she) can give. This trick is also known as "Captain Save-A-Hoe".

***NOTE***

Not all tricks have low confidence or low self-esteem. There are confident tricks out there with plenty of money who spend royally and shower prospects with gifts and trinkets. These tricks do this out of pride. Pride for their Success. Pride for what they have, what they've accomplished, and what they are able to do - which is spend Big Money. This is what gives them the most pleasure out of life. These types of tricks usually are cheaters and benefactors to other prospects.

So, trickin' goes on all the time. Sometimes, there is trickin' going on in an established relationship when one partner is desperately trying to hold on to the other partner or trying to buy his or her love.

If you use your "third-eye" you can see it. Trickin' is everywhere.

I know in some cultures and countries that some brides and grooms are required to pay a dowry. But, that dowry should be for the sake of the relationship. It should be a "safety net" in case of emergencies or hard times. It should be used to build the union between the couple so that they can grow and expand their "empire". It should be for the BOTH OF THEM. And, if one gives a dowry, the other should be smart enough to help manage it and not waste it. One shouldn't have to pay for Love.

Tell those tricks to cut it out - or, at least, slow down. They're gonna drive us all into the poor house. Tell them "they can't buy Love". Tell them they won't win their lover's heart or respect by being a doormat or a lap-dog. Kissing their prospect's ass won't work.

Trickin' can get you sex - sometimes. But, it will never buy you True Love.

I can't lie. I've done some trickin' myself. But, I'm a changed man. I don't mind giving. But, ain't no way I'm gonna give all I've got - especially to a prospect or a hoe.

And, if you've been trickin', don't be ashamed - step up your game.

Give a little. Save a lot. And beware of players and tricks. They might try to con you out of everything you've got.

- loveqna

What It's Like To Date A Female Player - 3

Take heed and beware of the ways of the "player"... Those manipulating scumbags and hoodrats are out here everywhere! Watch out and be wary of their ways. Use your good instincts and intuition so that you can weed out those who are true and those who are fake and want to play games.

Without a doubt, a player is fox. And clever when it comes to the game of romance. Have fun. Play the game. But whatever you do, understand the rules and play the game well so that you don't get used, abused, and played out.

And, if you're in a relationship like this right now that's full of games and drama and you're begging your lover for attention and affection - and you're always giving and giving and never receiving - get your mind right and take hold of yourself. Don't keep chasing a dream! Live your life and let him or her do his or her own thing. All the begging in the world won't help.

Don't let that bum bring you down or ruin your pride, happiness, or self-esteem!

Have your own life and goals outside of that toxic relationship and move toward your own dreams...

If he or she loves you (or cares about you) and the relationship was meant to be, then it will be.

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This may be the last post on what it's like to date a female player. Things aren't looking too good between us right now. I'm an Aries. And since Aries-folks can be blunt and say things without thinking sometimes, you know I was bound to offend her. So far, I've offended her twice.

The post I submitted earlier today was based on events that had taken place a few days after Sexy Slim and I started communicating. I fell asleep and never finished that post. I still didn't finish but the clock is ticking so I posted what was on my mind. Time moves on and so must we.

Anyway. Slim and I were doing okay. Everything wasn't "peaches and cream" but we had potential. She still kept after me about "hooking-up" and having a sexual escapade. I found out a few days later that she is actually living with her boyfriend or "friend" or whatever the hell he is to her.

It didn't surprise me. She's a player. I knew that going in. But, I was hoping she WOULD surprise me and that my instincts were wrong.

I was hoping that she was living alone or with a relative or something.

Honestly, I didn't think she lived WITH the guy.

Anyway...

That was a turn-off.

Then, she said that they slept in separate rooms and never had sex. But, she could never talk on the phone while he was in the same room.... ???

What? Are you serious?

Who does this chick think she's playing with?

You two are just friends, you're not having sex, but you can't talk to other guys around him...? player, please. That's the worst bullsh*t story I've done heard. Oh, and he's helping her out on some of her bills. ???

Come-on, man... Either he's fool or he's pussywhipped or she thinks I'm stupid.

I thought that chick had some "game". She must think I'm a fucking "square". Or, simple-minded or something.

I didn't believe that sh*t and after a few days, the subject came up again because we were flirting hard with each other and talking about sex. And, once again, this broad asked me about my girlfriend (my roommate)...

She calls her "friend" her room mate and since I call my roommate "my roommate", she thinks me and my roommate are really girlfriend and boyfriend. Do you follow me? She's basing my situation off of her situation - and they're completely different. I'm not sleeping with my roommate or dating my roommate. Anyway...

She says, "What side of town do you live on?"

I tell her and then she asks, "And who do you live with?"

Without hesitation I say, "My Ex." BECAUSE SHE KEEPS RIGHT ON ASKING THE SAME DAMN QUESTION. Is she on meds or have amnesia or what???

Then, she asks me, "Are you still hittin' that?"

She asked me this twice and I blushed a little bit. (You couldn't see it, but I did.) I laughed and told her she was loco (crazy). She kept asking me similar questions, so, I ask her, "Why? Is your "friend" still hittin' that?" And, the chick said "sometimes". Sometimes she needs it. I knew she was lying earlier when she told me they weren't having sex anymore. And, I wouldn't be surprised if she was or has been or is currently being intimate with someone on the side too.

You can't ever put anything past a player. They lie like hell. They're always greedy for sex, money, and the opportunity to manipulate.

Anyway, that was also a turn-off.

Then, I asked the chick about getting me some prices on some business cards since she knew someone who had their own printing business and made business cards and flyers at a great price. She never got back in touch with about that and I've asked her about it three times. She doesn't have ANY information about those business cards but she's always asking for money.

She can't help me but everyday she wants me to help her with lunch or breakfast. And why in the hell can't she get up early enough to go buy her own breakfast and make it to work on time? Lazy-ass.

Turn-off.

Now, I had already went over my limit of being sick and disgusted with chick, but she has potential. Deep down, I know she's a Winner. I have a REAL GOOD vibe about this chick and I don't wanna lose her, but I texted her twice and she didn't text me back (and I'm not into this texting crap) that pissed me off because now, she had me worrying about her.

When we finally talked, I told her not to do that again. Number one: It was about business so she didn't have to hide the text from her "friend". And two: The response could've been a simple "yes" or "no". So, she could've responded anytime within the twenty-four hours.

She did it again. It was cool with me. I was done with her from that point.

Then, the next day, the FIRST THING she does is texts me and says is "can you help me with some gas. I'm so sad this morning."

Bitch, you damn right you're sad. And you ain't hitting on jack-sh*t! Hit the road you damn begging-ass bum!

Who in the hell does this chick think she's dealing with???

Okay, so I gave her little poor ass ten bucks and told her not to talk to me again. She looked surprised at first, then smiled and said "okay" as she waved and walked away - with my ten dollars. lol

I said to myself: "I'll fix that."

I texted her and asked her why does she waste her time begging for handouts and playing games when she could do better in life.

That b*tch got fired up!

She tried to text me but it was a mess. She sent the text but she had to call me personally to cuss me out...

"Why you send me a text like that??? And yakity yak... And, you live with your girl... And, blah, blah, blah... Tell me what do you mean by that.... And jibba-jabba..."

I didn't really pay much attention to what she was saying because what I said was true. She's a lazy-ass bum who thinks she's some kind of master manipulator vixen or something.

She said she would call me back but she hasn't. And, I really don't care if she does or doesn't. It'll be one less hand in my pocket. And, one less person I'll ever have to worry about.

We've seen each other at work since then. I said "hello" and she gave me some fake-ass smile like she was disgusted by presence but, who cares. She'll get over it. And, if she doesn't, it won't break my heart. You know me - I could care less.

- loveqna

What It's Like To Date A Female Player - 2

Dammit!

I have one more night of 3rd shift.

I thought I would be off tonight and have Monday off too! What the Hell???

I should've kept up with the latest events in my life.

I'm just gonna skip over all of the stuff and dive right into what's going on with me and this gangsta chick at work... this female manipulator.

I made a mistake.

Let me be honest as I always try to be.

This chick is not what I thought she was. She is, but she isn't...

She has the potential to be very financially successful. She has the potential to be a great teacher for many women out there who struggling with their confidence, trials in life, and relationships. She is very smart and very wise - and a HELL of a lot smarter than these relationship gurus out here. She KNOWS how to attract a man. I bet there are a lot of good men out there that would love to be with this little fox.

Men of every persuasion are always gawking (or sneaking a peek) and commenting on how fine this lady is and how stylish she is. Women also tell her how much they love her figure and how sweet she is. She's charming, but she ain't sweet.

Ladies, if you REALLY want to know how to get good prospects to chase you, this chick has the answer. And, I'll talk about that later. But for now...

Let me tell you what this sexy seniorita's downfall is and will be:

She's a sexpot. She's a wannabee player. She has no vision. She can't see The Big Picture. She's too greedy for chump-change and power over men. She wants to nickel-and-dime you to death and waste your time by having you running errands. This is the type of B.S. that'll drive most men off. I'm not a damn "gopher". I don't have time to be running around and around running errands for other people - especially people I'm not committed to or responsible for.

And everyday, she's got a sad story (a sob story) to tell so she can bum a few bucks - a dollar for this, two dollars for that, five bucks for a meal, cigarettes. Don't let these slobs use you up and play you for a sucker! Their mind is on some bull-sh*t. Petty sh*t. Crackhead type of sh*t.

Who in the hell does this chick think she's dealing with??? She's buying lotto tickets with that damn money. She plays almost everyday and can't win for sh*t.

This is the type of crap that let's you know you're dealing with a bum who has no high standards or goals. They live just for the day. They live off of Hope. They'll spend all of their money and YOUR money on knick-knacks instead of trying to stack their cash and save. Or, they're spending their money on bills and food and spending someone else's money on "entertainment" (like lotto tickets).

And, I see that she has all of these guys swooning over her and trying to talk to her in secret and doing all of these little secret favors for her and it pisses me off. But not because of the other guys. I'm jealous a little bit (to be honest) but that's not the real issue.

This chick has all of this potential. She could build an Empire - or, at least, make a nice life for herself, but she would rather play mind games and tease these poor suckers who are attracted to her. And, I can see that she really doesn't even care about the attention. She only wants money and favors. Well, she DID say she was "High Maintenance".

But, where has this gotten her so far? She's still a damn bum.

I mentioned that I would "chill" with this chick on a regular basis - and she is still trying to "hook-up" with me. She keeps asking when are we going to get together one evening and "do it".

At first, I thought this was just a ploy to excite me and charm me out of money. But, I haven't told her how fat my bank account is. When we met, she knew I worked part time and was broke (and she still believes I'm broke) and she kept pursuing me anyway. Now, she keeps trying to find out where I live and what days I have off and how risque I am in bed and all that.

But, she also keeps bumming me chump-change, so what in the world does this broad want???

Now...

Without a doubt, I AM turned on by her boldness and aggressiveness. More than likely, if I spent a night with this chick, I would do whatever it took to make her fall for me. At least, I'd try. But, what if she is just as skilled in bed as I am??? What if she has MORE sexual prowess in bed than I do? She might turn me out. She'd have me jumping through hoops and swooning over her like the rest of those dumbasses. Mmmmmmm.

I have to keep reminding myself that we could be nothing more than friends, but she keeps begging for money like we're committed to each other or sleeping together. Well, I'm about to cut that short. She might not talk to me anymore but I really don't care. I never pursued her in the first place. And, I'd rather spend my money on me than give it all to some bum to throw away or spend it all up trying to nickel and dime me to death. And some of those other guys are probably giving her money too! Aha!

Guys (AND girls), use your instincts and learn from this experience. Beware of players. Beware of manipulators. Beware of people with sex-appeal, charm, and boldness. They are like vampires. More than likely they will try to use you up and suck the life right out of you! They drain you of your time, energy, money, and opportunities. Don't waste your life chasing after one of these con-artists. Don't give in to his or her personality. Avoid the bum if you can. Once you become hypnotized and charmed by this snake, it may be too late. You'll play yourself out and they'll milk you for all you're worth!

Look at me. Learn. I know this chick is no good, but I can't resist her sexiness. I can't resist her personality. I want to turn her life around. I want to win her heart. But, I don't want this broad only for sex. I could really care less about that. Underneath all of this B.S. she is made of is a treasure trove of Diamonds. This chick has everything any man could want - except Vision. And, that's a damn shame.

- loveqna

What It's Like To Date A Female Player

I'm the type of guy that loves all kinds of women. It doesn't matter to me about their size, height, eye color, skin complexion, nationality, breast size, butt size, whatever. I don't have a real preference. It doesn't even matter to me what their zodiac sign is, I still have love for all ovem.

But, there is one type of woman with certain qualities I admire a little more than rest.

I like women who are strong-minded yet charming. Funny. A woman with a Diva-like style but who often dresses in tight jeans and revealing clothes. I like bold women. A woman who's confident, feisty, and fearless. Even a little bit eccentric. And, she doesn't have to be a beauty queen either. Her overall sex-appeal is more than enough to keep me mesmerized.

Well, I've met a chick like that. She's all that and more. She's a real vixen. And, a hellcat.

Those wolves that come around can't keep their tongues from dragging the ground when they see this sexy little fox wagging her plump little tail. I must admit it: She had my mouth watering too.

And, the crazy thing about it is, this chick has been trying to holla at me ever since I started working at our store.

Well, I gave her my number. I asked her to call me. I got her number. We'll talk and see how things go from there.

She's high maintenance and only interested in men with money. I know that. And, she knows I ain't got no money, so we'll see what's really going on inside her head as we get to know each other better.

What could I possibly get out of this relationship?

What do I see in a woman of this caliber?

Why would any man be interested in pursuing a woman like this?

Is this the same as dating a hoe?

Won't I get jealous?

Won't I get lonely?

What does SHE want from me? Money? Entertainment? Sex? Friendship?

How long will this last?

I know this chick is a player. I know she's high maintenance. What's worse is: she's high maintenance and going through a bit of financial drama. That means she might pick my pockets or milk my bank accounts dry!

If her game is tight, she could possibly clean me out and move on to the next sucker or local-joker!

She knows I'm not a "Baller" with a big bank account. She knew I was broke when I first arrived, yet she has pursued me. Why?

What does this chick see in me? What in the hell does she want???

I definitely admire her and respect her, but, I could only see myself being with her as a "friend" - for a little while. A long term relationship with a player can never last too long. Don't even plan on it. It would drive you crazy - especially if you fell in love. It would break your heart.

A player's definition of Love is always different from everyone else's. A player can claim to love you even though he or she spends time with someone else: "I love you baby. Those other hoes mean nothing to me."

A player is never devoted to anyone except himself - or, herself. And, she's a Pisces. I know there are some faithful Pisces out there, but I've personally never known a Pisces I could trust.

I see us more as "business partners". She has a lot of "game". She has no fear. Gangsta. She's smart. She's sexy. She makes me laugh. She likes to write. And, she's organized. Women are almost always better organized than men, so that's always a winner.

She's top-notch all the way around.

And, she has a sexy-ass walk... I"m like: Damn. This fine-ass...

So, you know I'm impressed. Actually, I feel a little bit intimidated by the situation because I'm not sure what to make of all of this. Her talk-game is strong. She's got me thinking about her...

I hope this b*tch ain't trying to play me for my money. "Playing with my money is like playing with my emotions." And, I don't play that sh*t.

lol. I'm just kiddin'.

Another thing I like about her is she's outspoken, frank, and sensuous. Those gangsta chicks really know how to charm a guy. Soft arms. Nice warm hugs. She's slim and sexy. She smells good... Mmph! I can't stop thinking about this chick.

Anyway... I'm gonna chill with this fine mamacita for a while and see how things go. Maybe we can benefit each other. ??? Who knows, there may be a "connection" or "chemistry" between us. We'll see.

The bad thing about this is: I think about that OTHER chick sometimes too.

Lord, I hope I ain't making a bad decision.

- loveqna