What It's Like To Date A Female Player - 4

I don't have much to say about my involvement with Slim. I really wanted a "ride or die" type of chick in my corner but it's pretty much over. After she cussed me out for calling her a "moocher" (basically), we haven't texted or talked on the phone.

We were talking again after a day or two had passed. And, she has approached me to bum for a cigarette on the third day, but other than that, we really haven't had a conversation.

I know she wants to talk to me because she always greets me and makes it her business to say "hello" even when she has a line of customers or whatever. But, why waste my time? If I tried to win her favor now, she wouldn't respect me. I know she wouldn't. She has too many guys chasing her as it is. If I chased her also, I'd be lumped in with the rest of those poor suckers.

Nahh, I'll keep my distance.

In fact, I know she will pursue me again. But, the next time, she will come with more game. She will TRY to play with my mind, lead me on, and tease me. I'll give it a couple of weeks. That's when she'll get enough nerve to call or flirt with me again.

Please, don't take this as arrogance. I'm only telling you what I BELIEVE may happen based on experience and instinct. I may be wrong because all people aren't the same. It's possible that she may never approach me again. So, romantically, it may be over between us. We'll see.

But, I know she misses talking to me because she can tell me anything. And, I don't judge her, tell her secrets, or repeat what she says to other people.

I could be her "knight in shining armor" and she could be "the girl of my dreams" but her dumbass is too damn dumb to realize it.

Oh well... Ain't no use in daydreaming and crying over something that is probably never meant to be.

I've also been talking to that "other chick" on a regular basis. I'll now refer to her as M&M (muse and mentor). Nahh, I'll call her "Cleopatra" just in case some of your web browsers aren't reading the ampersand symbol.

Cleopatra been going through a little bit of drama lately with her Ex and has been asking for my advice and opinions a lot lately.

Honestly, I don't like to give my opinions "off the cuff" or "on the spot" because I'm often impulsive and irrational. I don't think quick on my feet. So, I may say things I don't mean. Or, say something I shouldn't say (something harmful). Or, say something "crazy". It may be bad advice or a dumb opinion. My mind moves a million miles a minute.

Anyway, I try to take my time when I talk to her and it's been working out swell for the both of us. So, she's been wanting to talk and chill with me a lot lately.

I think she's using game and trying to "reel me in" but I'm not sure. I think she's either unsure about whether she wants to talk to me or unsure about whether or not I would be interested in dating her. I'm interested - but for how long???

Today, she invited me to hang-out with her and another co-worker for drinks at a local bar. I didn't really respond because I really don't like bars. I don't like to drink and sit and sit and drink. I'm an Aries. I'm active. If I drink, I wanna dance, grind, and have fun.

Anyway...

If I got involved with this chick, I really don't think I could ever leave her even if I wanted to. I wouldn't want to see her hurt by anyone - especially me. She's just too nice of a person.

And, the worst part about all of this is: If I did date M&M, I would make sure that Slim knew about it so that she would be angry and jealous.

I know it's disgusting and a terrible thing to do, but it's hard for me to get Slim out of my head. Well, it's hard for me to get Cleopatra out of my head too.

Every time I see her, I'm looking at her features or her lips or her smile or her booty. I like her personality. I don't have to search any deeper. But, I want to be turned on too. I want to look her and say to myself "damn, look at that ass" or "damn, she's got it going on" and right now, all I see is: "she's attractive". But, Where's the "pop"???

Where's the sex-appeal?

Where's that "Boo-Yowww!"?

Now, don't get me wrong, she's got a nice ass - and boobs - but, she's not "workin' it". There's just no excitement.

Now, one day, she stopped by the store to shop and she was looking foxy as hell...

She was dressed in athletic wear but at the same time "rockin' it" "relaxed and casual" in all white and she looked like a million bucks. I was definitely turned on by her that day. I would've kissed that girl from the soles of her feet to every strand of hair on head that day.

But, she doesn't move me like that every time I see her. Even though she dresses nice and neat, it's just not "interesting".

But, it's more than just how a woman (or a man) dresses. It's the walk. The style. The body language. Etc. Some people have sex-appeal and some people don't - No matter how good you look or attractive you are. If you don't have that "IT" factor or "star power", then you're more likely to be passed over for some less attractive looking person who DOES have sex-appeal or the "IT" factor.

***DON'T ASK ME HOW I GOT ON THIS CRAP***

Okay, back to the original ORIGINAL subject: "What It's Like To Date A Female Player"...

The REAL FEMALE PLAYER might be Cleopatra. She may be my true queen, but only time will tell. I'm gonna holla at her and see if she has the time to be involved in a partnership with me. If she makes the time, I know she's down for me. If she doesn't, well... I don't know. We'll see.

- loveqna





This will be a short note - hopefully.

What It's Like To Date A Female Player - 2

Dammit!

I have one more night of 3rd shift.

I thought I would be off tonight and have Monday off too! What the Hell???

I should've kept up with the latest events in my life.

I'm just gonna skip over all of the stuff and dive right into what's going on with me and this gangsta chick at work... this female manipulator.

I made a mistake.

Let me be honest as I always try to be.

This chick is not what I thought she was. She is, but she isn't...

She has the potential to be very financially successful. She has the potential to be a great teacher for many women out there who struggling with their confidence, trials in life, and relationships. She is very smart and very wise - and a HELL of a lot smarter than these relationship gurus out here. She KNOWS how to attract a man. I bet there are a lot of good men out there that would love to be with this little fox.

Men of every persuasion are always gawking (or sneaking a peek) and commenting on how fine this lady is and how stylish she is. Women also tell her how much they love her figure and how sweet she is. She's charming, but she ain't sweet.

Ladies, if you REALLY want to know how to get good prospects to chase you, this chick has the answer. And, I'll talk about that later. But for now...

Let me tell you what this sexy seniorita's downfall is and will be:

She's a sexpot. She's a wannabee player. She has no vision. She can't see The Big Picture. She's too greedy for chump-change and power over men. She wants to nickel-and-dime you to death and waste your time by having you running errands. This is the type of B.S. that'll drive most men off. I'm not a damn "gopher". I don't have time to be running around and around running errands for other people - especially people I'm not committed to or responsible for.

And everyday, she's got a sad story (a sob story) to tell so she can bum a few bucks - a dollar for this, two dollars for that, five bucks for a meal, cigarettes. Don't let these slobs use you up and play you for a sucker! Their mind is on some bull-sh*t. Petty sh*t. Crackhead type of sh*t.

Who in the hell does this chick think she's dealing with??? She's buying lotto tickets with that damn money. She plays almost everyday and can't win for sh*t.

This is the type of crap that let's you know you're dealing with a bum who has no high standards or goals. They live just for the day. They live off of Hope. They'll spend all of their money and YOUR money on knick-knacks instead of trying to stack their cash and save. Or, they're spending their money on bills and food and spending someone else's money on "entertainment" (like lotto tickets).

And, I see that she has all of these guys swooning over her and trying to talk to her in secret and doing all of these little secret favors for her and it pisses me off. But not because of the other guys. I'm jealous a little bit (to be honest) but that's not the real issue.

This chick has all of this potential. She could build an Empire - or, at least, make a nice life for herself, but she would rather play mind games and tease these poor suckers who are attracted to her. And, I can see that she really doesn't even care about the attention. She only wants money and favors. Well, she DID say she was "High Maintenance".

But, where has this gotten her so far? She's still a damn bum.

I mentioned that I would "chill" with this chick on a regular basis - and she is still trying to "hook-up" with me. She keeps asking when are we going to get together one evening and "do it".

At first, I thought this was just a ploy to excite me and charm me out of money. But, I haven't told her how fat my bank account is. When we met, she knew I worked part time and was broke (and she still believes I'm broke) and she kept pursuing me anyway. Now, she keeps trying to find out where I live and what days I have off and how risque I am in bed and all that.

But, she also keeps bumming me chump-change, so what in the world does this broad want???

Now...

Without a doubt, I AM turned on by her boldness and aggressiveness. More than likely, if I spent a night with this chick, I would do whatever it took to make her fall for me. At least, I'd try. But, what if she is just as skilled in bed as I am??? What if she has MORE sexual prowess in bed than I do? She might turn me out. She'd have me jumping through hoops and swooning over her like the rest of those dumbasses. Mmmmmmm.

I have to keep reminding myself that we could be nothing more than friends, but she keeps begging for money like we're committed to each other or sleeping together. Well, I'm about to cut that short. She might not talk to me anymore but I really don't care. I never pursued her in the first place. And, I'd rather spend my money on me than give it all to some bum to throw away or spend it all up trying to nickel and dime me to death. And some of those other guys are probably giving her money too! Aha!

Guys (AND girls), use your instincts and learn from this experience. Beware of players. Beware of manipulators. Beware of people with sex-appeal, charm, and boldness. They are like vampires. More than likely they will try to use you up and suck the life right out of you! They drain you of your time, energy, money, and opportunities. Don't waste your life chasing after one of these con-artists. Don't give in to his or her personality. Avoid the bum if you can. Once you become hypnotized and charmed by this snake, it may be too late. You'll play yourself out and they'll milk you for all you're worth!

Look at me. Learn. I know this chick is no good, but I can't resist her sexiness. I can't resist her personality. I want to turn her life around. I want to win her heart. But, I don't want this broad only for sex. I could really care less about that. Underneath all of this B.S. she is made of is a treasure trove of Diamonds. This chick has everything any man could want - except Vision. And, that's a damn shame.

- loveqna

What It's Like To Date A Female Player

I'm the type of guy that loves all kinds of women. It doesn't matter to me about their size, height, eye color, skin complexion, nationality, breast size, butt size, whatever. I don't have a real preference. It doesn't even matter to me what their zodiac sign is, I still have love for all ovem.

But, there is one type of woman with certain qualities I admire a little more than rest.

I like women who are strong-minded yet charming. Funny. A woman with a Diva-like style but who often dresses in tight jeans and revealing clothes. I like bold women. A woman who's confident, feisty, and fearless. Even a little bit eccentric. And, she doesn't have to be a beauty queen either. Her overall sex-appeal is more than enough to keep me mesmerized.

Well, I've met a chick like that. She's all that and more. She's a real vixen. And, a hellcat.

Those wolves that come around can't keep their tongues from dragging the ground when they see this sexy little fox wagging her plump little tail. I must admit it: She had my mouth watering too.

And, the crazy thing about it is, this chick has been trying to holla at me ever since I started working at our store.

Well, I gave her my number. I asked her to call me. I got her number. We'll talk and see how things go from there.

She's high maintenance and only interested in men with money. I know that. And, she knows I ain't got no money, so we'll see what's really going on inside her head as we get to know each other better.

What could I possibly get out of this relationship?

What do I see in a woman of this caliber?

Why would any man be interested in pursuing a woman like this?

Is this the same as dating a hoe?

Won't I get jealous?

Won't I get lonely?

What does SHE want from me? Money? Entertainment? Sex? Friendship?

How long will this last?

I know this chick is a player. I know she's high maintenance. What's worse is: she's high maintenance and going through a bit of financial drama. That means she might pick my pockets or milk my bank accounts dry!

If her game is tight, she could possibly clean me out and move on to the next sucker or local-joker!

She knows I'm not a "Baller" with a big bank account. She knew I was broke when I first arrived, yet she has pursued me. Why?

What does this chick see in me? What in the hell does she want???

I definitely admire her and respect her, but, I could only see myself being with her as a "friend" - for a little while. A long term relationship with a player can never last too long. Don't even plan on it. It would drive you crazy - especially if you fell in love. It would break your heart.

A player's definition of Love is always different from everyone else's. A player can claim to love you even though he or she spends time with someone else: "I love you baby. Those other hoes mean nothing to me."

A player is never devoted to anyone except himself - or, herself. And, she's a Pisces. I know there are some faithful Pisces out there, but I've personally never known a Pisces I could trust.

I see us more as "business partners". She has a lot of "game". She has no fear. Gangsta. She's smart. She's sexy. She makes me laugh. She likes to write. And, she's organized. Women are almost always better organized than men, so that's always a winner.

She's top-notch all the way around.

And, she has a sexy-ass walk... I"m like: Damn. This fine-ass...

So, you know I'm impressed. Actually, I feel a little bit intimidated by the situation because I'm not sure what to make of all of this. Her talk-game is strong. She's got me thinking about her...

I hope this b*tch ain't trying to play me for my money. "Playing with my money is like playing with my emotions." And, I don't play that sh*t.

lol. I'm just kiddin'.

Another thing I like about her is she's outspoken, frank, and sensuous. Those gangsta chicks really know how to charm a guy. Soft arms. Nice warm hugs. She's slim and sexy. She smells good... Mmph! I can't stop thinking about this chick.

Anyway... I'm gonna chill with this fine mamacita for a while and see how things go. Maybe we can benefit each other. ??? Who knows, there may be a "connection" or "chemistry" between us. We'll see.

The bad thing about this is: I think about that OTHER chick sometimes too.

Lord, I hope I ain't making a bad decision.

- loveqna