notes - Improving Your Confidence Through Prioritizing and Decision-Making

I have a dilemma...

My instincts or E.S.P must've kicked in strong the other day because I was making notes in my phone on how to improve decision-making skills for a "confidence" post... Well, no sooner had I finished when my homegirl texted me and asked me if I wanted to be her roommate. I said, "damn".

Let me tell you something: My homegirl is cool. But, I don't know if I could handle living in such close proximity to her. She's nuts. And, she does some weird shit sometimes. Like she "has a few screws loose".

Around Thanksgiving, I mentioned to her that my current roommate was worrying me to death about eating healthier, smoking cigarettes (my homegirl doesn't like me smoking either), doing "boyfriend-type" chores, running errands, etc., and that I would probably move out soon. I don't want to be obligated to anyone for anything right now. I enjoy being single and free.

Well, this "nut" suggested that we could be roommates.

I was shocked and leery as hell. I didn't know she was gonna suggest that or I would've never opened my damn mouth.

Somehow, I bullshitted my way out of the conversation and she didn't mention it again - until the other day.

Now, she NEEDS a roommate.

I can't lie. Even though she's crazy as hell, I still think she's cute.

But, my instincts have already told me there will be some drama.

And, I'll miss having my own bathroom and walk-in closet... and carpet under my feet... no loud noises or disturbances.

Without her wearing a straight-jacket ain't no telling how crazy it's going to be living under the same roof with that broad.

I mentioned how crazy she was in another post. And, that wasn't even half of a description of her insanity.

Anyway, she wants (or prefers) me to move in this weekend. I don't know why, but that's what she wants.

For the most part, me and my roommate get along well. It's almost like we're in a good relationship - just without the hanky-panky going on. And, my homegirl - although she's crazy as hell, she's a straight-up "ride or die" chick. (And, I'll tell you about that later.) But, it's almost insane for me to pass up an opportunity to be in a setting with a girl like that. We're like Bonnie and Clyde when we're alone together...

So, I don't know what to do. Hence, this post.

Anyway...

These aren't the actual notes I created in my phone but, if you're reading the posts on building confidence and improving conversation skills, these will also help. And, I'll add from my original notes later.

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notes - priorities and decisions:

If you're trying to get your life together to improve your love-life or relationship, the first thing to remember is: Use Your Instincts when learning from "successful" people (like: celebrities or friends or customers or your boss).

The second thing to remember is: DON'T overload yourself with too much studying and research! Start DOING.

Take Action to change your Life right now.

Don't keep thinking about it.

Don't sit around watching TV trying to be Inspired or to find Motivation. Just start doing it a little bit at a time...

Don't go for the overnight success either! If it happens, cool. But, most improvement takes hard work (including good relationships unless there's Chemistry), and steady growth over a period of time.

You can cut and trim that Time a little bit here and there, when the opportunities and options present themselves. But, take your time and make the necessary personal adjustments without trying to take RISKY shortcuts and it'll happen before you know it.

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learn how to be a leader - accept leadership roles that force you to make decisions and choices.

learn to adapt to situations and sudden events

learn to adjust (or change) your position based on sudden events or circumstances - don't run from opportunities like these which will help you grow and gain personal strength

You should also pay attention to how people with experience deal with situations and challenges in life - BUT! use your instincts to be sure you're not accepting advice or learning from a liar or a fool - it never hurts to get a second or third opinion also

know what you need right now and soon

know what you want right now and soon

know what you don't want and need - cut and trim the "baggage" and unnecessary waste.

Sacrifice and BE WILLING to sacrifice when you KNOW it's necessary

Don't make decisions (for what you want and need) based on how comfortable or UN-comfortable your surroundings will be - BUT! know what's acceptable and unacceptable conditions for you (your safety, stress, intrusions, options, distractions, quality time, rules, etc.)

know what you want out of Life

know what you want to accomplish

know what your dreams and fantasies are (things that ARE possible but not depressing if you don't do them)

Have a back-up plan - prepare for the worst (but, don't dwell on it)

Realize when you have the upperhand and options. You have the power when you have the ability to decide "yes" or "no". Don't relinquish this power when you have it. demand fairness, respect, quality service, and your money's worth. the same things you would give if the shoe was on the other foot.

To find your "Calling In Life", just explore the World and your options. travel, research, be curious, try new things, meet more people, join a social group, volunteer, engage in a new interest or hobby. you'll never know what it might be or what role you'll play until it overtakes you and you fall in love with it. but, most of the time, it's something you'll be obsessed by and want to share with other people.

know what's best for your future (to be self-sufficient - independent)

always remember that Life is hard and the higher you go, the more difficult it will get. it won't get any easier until you discover for yourself what Life is all about to you. the thing is: no matter where you are in life at the moment, don't get discouraged by the distractions, the drama, the confusion, the setbacks, or whenever you lose something (or someone) you really love.

the trick is NOT conquering all of the B.S. but LEARNING how to deal with it. how to HANDLE it. learn, grow, then teach those after you (you kids or whomever) the lessons you've learned. and we continue to advance and evolve.

continue to learn how to do things better and more efficiently - especially managing your time, money, and energy - but, also, creating friendships, choosing a mate wisely, engaging in contracts or bargaining, making deals and promises, investing, dealing with professionals, dealing with ignorant people, etc.

Never be too stubborn to change, compromise, or to stop and think.

know WHO you love (and care about) - but, know who your real friends are also

know WHAT you love - the things that bring happiness, calmness, inner strength, and peace of mind - your PERSONAL entertainment/ FUN

Remember that TOO MUCH of a good thing is USUALLY bad for you - including being too nice, too generous, too much partying, too much relaxing, or too much daydreaming

Have your own rules and philosophies to live by even if you borrow them from someone else or from a book of wisdom or learn them from your parents

Many of your rules and what you BELIEVE is right for you and NOT right for you should focus on helping you grow and should help you stay focused on your goals and priorities

if you want something, just ask (this includes a better deal and the best deal)

know what important questions you need to ask before you see a professional about anything - and don't allow him or her to rush you off or take your concerns lightly - ask as many questions as you need to ask. and remember, it's wise to do your own research or to get a second or third opinion

sometimes you need to talk about what you're going through to other people just in case someone can help you, hook you up, or point you in the right direction

when making day to day decisions - it never hurts to plan out a schedule the day before - in your head or on paper (paper is probably best) make a to-do list. by day and by week. any important deadlines and events should be noted (for business, pleasure, or kindness - like birthdays)

there will almost always be daily chores and social situations you will have to attend to (to show some love or thoughtfulness and bonding), but don't shy away. just say "no" if you can't attend - but don't make it a habit. if you can make time to do it, then do it, just make your friends aware that you can't stay long because you're on a tight schedule and have to "run errands"

learn to save (time, money, energy) so that you can complete your day to day goals and chores easier - not to mention long-term goals - ask questions and EXPLORE to find out if there is a better way or MORE EFFICIENT way of doing things - your main objective is to take care of these smaller goals so that they can help you reach your major goals.

I know that's a lot to swallow, so I'll save the rest for another day.

end of notes.

- loveqna

Be Careful Who You Make Love To - They'll Work Your Ass To Death

I remember a few months back when people where asking me about becoming a room mate and where I lived and this and that, and I'd have to tell them I already had a roommate. Almost all of them would ask if I lived with a girl or a guy. And, whenever I told them it was a girl (a woman) their eyeballs would damn near pop out of their sockets.

I said, "Damn... Do I look that bad that I can't have a woman for a roommate?"

A couple of them saw this chick and went nuts.

Now, my roommate isn't a beauty queen but she has style and a nice phat ass. I mean, her booty is round and plump. Almost perfect. Men and women are always admiring it and giving her compliments on her body because she stays in shape and she's slim and trim.

So, anyway, she dropped me off at work a few times and a few of my homeboys (or mates) happen to catch a glimpse and ask me why I hadn't tried to tap that ass.

Well, let me just say that tappin' that ass can sometimes lead to a world of trouble...

I've been here for almost a year and I ain't tried to tap that ass yet. And, still, I've been working my ass off!

- washing her car

- killing all kinds of bugs

- vacuuming and cleaning rugs

- cleaning up for HER guests

- running errands

- plumbing work

- picking up her meals when she works from home

- fixing door locks

etc.

Can you imagine all the other kind of chores I'd be doing if I tapped that ass???

I don't care if you're a guy or girl trying to "hook-up" with a guy or girl. If you tap that ass, there will be consequences... You'll have some needy lovesick guy or girl hounding you all the time for companionship. Or, you'll have a manipulating asshole thinking that you're in a "committed relationship" and that you should be devoted to him or her and do whatever he or she asks. It'll be like being in a marriage from hell.

I don't care if everything starts out warm and fuzzy. I don't care if you're friends with benefits. Once you tap that ass, you've committed yourself.

Unless you're a player, you're stuck.

And, do you remember my week-long courtship with the "female player"?

That girl tried to get me in the sack before I could come up with a plan to get HER in the sack!

I knew she was up to something that's why I kept skirting around the issue.

I wasn't about to let that bitch drain my bank account dry!

And, now, this new chick...

I like this girl as a friend. And, really, I want to keep it that way.

I don't want to think about a relationship or any kind of romantic interlude.

I just want us to stay friends and have fun and after we get to know each other - whatever happens - happens.

But...

She's already imposing. If I tell her "no" or not to do something, she doesn't hear me at all. Stubborn as hell. Even if I beg. Hell, I can't put up with that. It'll drive me nuts! And, I don't wanna end up hating this girl.

She's already telling me that she misses me and that she enjoys our conversations and that she thinks about me often.

I was in a state of shock. I said, "Damn!"

I can't lie. I think about her too - Often.

But, I'm not gonna say that! At least not to her. I don't want things to get "hot and heavy" too soon.

This is a strong-willed woman. And already, I'm scared for my freedom.

Man, I think once I tap that ass, I'll never see the light of day again.

I won't be under her spell, but more than likely, under her control.

She's not the type of woman that takes "no" for an answer and that's what I'm afraid of.

She won't listen to reason.

And, she hugs me and holds my hand and cuddles in public and I just don't know what the hell to do. It's cool... but in certain situations it's not cool.

Then, she doesn't want me to ride my bike in the cold and makes a big deal about That. And...

Don't get me wrong. I WANT someone like that. I want a woman who's gonna be "down for me" and have my back and generous and affectionate, but I got a feeling she's gonna take over once I tap that ass.

I got a feeling all of that love and affection I'm getting right now is gonna turn into Demands and hard labor later.

My instincts are seldom wrong! I've been developing them for a few years now and trust me, they have rarely failed to be right.

I've been with other chicks and "tapped that ass", and suddenly became stuck in a relationship.

I'm a pushover and I know it. That's why I have to be extra careful and exercise self-control.

I know this is a risk but I'm gonna take my chances at the friendship route and see how things go from there.

If I miss out on a good thing, then I'll just have to "charge it to the game". But, if she sticks around and we take things to a deeper level, then maybe we're meant to be.

Either way, I ain't gonna tap that ass no time soon and give up living the good life!

And, you guys and girls should take heed and do the same!

Hell, now that I think about it: whether you tap that ass or don't tap that ass, either way, you're screwed.

- loveqna

"Zip It Up, and Zip It Out."

"How To Be 'Just Friends' With A Hot Chick"

Some people fall in love (or lust) with their friends and want to date them, or have sex with them, or have a romantic relationship with them. Sometimes it works out to the good. Sometimes it can be the worst mistake of your life.

I know some of your mouths may be watering like hell from admiring some of that fine booty of a friend who's hotter than "all get-out", but you have restrain yourself so that you don't go down a treacherous path.

When you're friends with a nice guy or nice girl, much of the time, you'll do a little extra to show you're a good friend. You'll put up with idiosyncrosies, bad habits, poor personality traits, certain social skills that irritate you, and their complaints. You'll even avoid arguing about their opinions versus your beliefs. You'll empathize with each other. Do favors for each other that you won't even do for your own family members.

Since this is your Best Friend (or Close Friend), you'll do whatever possible not to ruin the relationship. But, once you hook-up...

Most, if not All, of that sh*t goes out the window.

The person who was once your Best Friend but who's now your lover, will start to "bug" you and get on your nerves. He or she will start talking out the ass. He or she gets lazy as hell and never wants to go anywhere or do anything fun. He or she starts to ignore you and often is yappin' on the phone with a NEW Best Friend or Close Friend. And you get peeved and perturbed with each other to the point of losing interest and wanting to get away from each other.

And if you have kids and then can't stand each other, forget about it. You might as well kiss your dreams, happiness, and peace of mind goodbye. That chick might make your life a living hell for 18-plus years.

It's a situation very similar to a couple who gets married and hate each other (or have a hard time living with each other) BUT, they make great friends and have lasting friendships - Even after divorce.

So, sometimes it's not the end of the World, but you may have to suffer a little bit.

Some friends just stop talking all together after an intimate encounter. Usually, this is because one of them is turned off by the other one sexually. Or, there's no "Chemistry". And, one friend can't tell the other one he or she sucks in bed or laugh the situation off, so it becomes awkward.

The one friend who's turned off feels awkward/strange because he or she has to reject the other and that's what make things even more complicated. When the rejecting friend feels like this, he or she will completely avoid the other friend. They may have a conversation or two afterwards, but usually, the friendship just fades away.

If you're thinking about dating a close friend or a roommate, don't jump in right away. Take your time and get to know him or her first. Learn to control them hormones and look out for bullsh*t and foolishness that you KNOW will piss you off in the long run if you ever decided to hook-up with this person.

After you become a true friend and you're able to "tell it like is" and be straight-up and honest with each other in all matters and situations without "falling-out" or getting angry, THEN you may be ready for a more intimate relationship. But, only if you can also laugh, have fun, and be turned-on by each other mentally, physically (of course), and even spiritually. Having a spiritual connection - not necessarily a religious connection - is the bomb, trust me.

But, work on the friendship first.

You know, Some people will be "friends" with you ONLY if they believe they have a shot at being in a relationship with you.

Some people get attached to their friends because their friends treat them with respect and take an interest in them.

Some people are attracted to their best friend because the Best Friend has a great personality, or he or she is intelligent or suave and stylish, or just plain cute and sexy.

Once "the seed is planted", it's hard to conquer the desire.

So, before you start swooning and going "gah-gah" over a hot honey dip who's supposed to be good friend, take a look at these suggestions, have patience and reserve, and no matter what happens, if you took your time and thought the situation through, at least you will have made a good decision either way it goes.

REMEMBER: 90 Percent of it is mental. Self control is the key to a grander life.

All right. Here we go...

When you feel yourself fantasizing about her, do Something Else that doesn't include masturbation or looking at OTHER Hot Chicks. Run some errands, go to the store, mow the lawn, trim hedges, or create a list: "10 Things I Hate About You".

Search for another Hot Chick to admire and swoon over.

Never mention her or talk about her unless you're using her as a reference, an example, or telling a story.

If anyone asks "what's up with you two", reiterate the fact that you're "just friends" or "roommates". Let it be known that you think of this chick as a sweet girl and nothing more. If a relationship develops later on down the road, good. If not, that's okay too.

Don't ogle her or admire her "assets" when she's not looking. You'll only make yourself hornier and more frustrated. Plus, one day she might catch you and realize what a pervert you really are.

Don't help her groom or pamper her. If she asks you to help her wash her hair or massage her back or feet, just say "no". Tell her you're tired or that your back is aching and you can't bend. Or, tell her that you don't know how. Don't do anything that might turn you on and ruin your friendship.

Become a eunich. (just kidding - unless you think it'll help)

Don't get drunk together. If the both of you drink, plan in advance to stay on "your side" of the room (front room, family room, game room, den, whatever). If she crosses the line, go get a snack or something to munch on. When you come back, sit in another chair, go pee, or wash your face, or go to bed. She may be as horny as a wildcat so you must avoid her or she will eat you for lunch.

Consider the repercussions of your actions. After a hardy romp in the sack, she will change towards you. And it might not be a good thing. You will see her in a different light. She won't be same sweet ray of sunshine you had for a friend. She will be a jerk. And eventually, she will ruin your life. These are just thoughts now. Trick the Mind. Keep the friendship. Don't hate on the woman for real.

Okay...

Remember: She doesn't look "hot" all the time. Take notice of her those days when she turns you off and disgusts you too. If you criticize out loud, be playful. And, don't take yourself or the situation too seriously. It's great when we can let our hair down, chill, and be bummy for a day.

If you're both sitting on the same couch/sofa watching TV and YOU get bored, the best thing you could do is leave the room. Even better: go to sleep. Why? I don't know but whenever two people are sitting around in the dark watching TV and they get bored with the show, horny-ness starts to creep in and they somehow end up in "steamy" "no-holds-barred" situations. Sometimes, butt-naked.

Don't get involved with her emotionally. Avoid conversations about relationships or issues she's having with her dates or prospects. If she traps you and you HAVE to talk about stuff like that, don't feel sorry for her or get too emotional when you comfort her. This can lead to an immediate kiss and intimacy. Or, it will break down the wall/barrier you've built-up and you'll be more susceptible to "falling in love".

Be effeminate. (i'm just kiddin'. But get in touch with your "softer side") Learn how to enjoy gossiping and talking about soap operas and other dramatic TV shows and all of the people and funny situations at work. Learn to talk about ailments and fashion. Don't be afraid to give your opinion about style. Be supportive of female causes - if they're fair and not full of propaganda. Learn how to be enthusiastic and how to hug without getting a boner (just kiddin' again). But, I'm sure you get the point.

There's more I could say, but I hate to go ON and ON and ramble.

The gist of it all is: Keep sex, fantasies, and fetishes out of your Mind when it comes to a friend. Zip it up and Zip it out.

Remember: This is only a Test... This test in Life is a challenge of your inner strength and will-power. If you can "survive" and conquer this test, you will have a lot more female friends, more options, and an even hotter chick to call your own. And You will have better relationships with women like many other guys out here. Some have scores of good relationships with women on a platonic level.

It may take a little time, but you can be the same way and eventually be a great catch for the "Girl Of Your Dreams".

Rationale: You will be more relaxed around women, gentler with women, more understanding of female issues, a sweeter person, more sociable with women, and have more meaningful (deeper) conversations with all - men and women.

And the best part is...

You'll be single. So, you won't feel guilty about looking at all of that OTHER hot fine tender booty out there.

- loveqna

I Apologize... One Reason Why Men Cheat

Okay...

First: Let me offer my apologies for the previous post, "Women Are Annoying". I was a little upset. And sleepy. And groggy.

You know I really don't mean ALL women are annoying.

The World is full of some real "Cupcakes" who are sweet, understanding, AND who work just as hard as men do. We all know that. I just flipped out that's all.

But, I've been having bad luck interacting with women lately - my Ex and my roommate. Either Karma or the Devil is making me pay for my past sins and I just lost my cool. So, I apologize for acting like a madman.

But, let me tell you something.

When a woman makes a lot of accusations and false assumptions (that are just plain dumb), it really gets a man steamed up and turns him off.

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who constantly says things that don't make ANY sense? It's like stupid sh*t just swirls around inside their brain like some sort of helter-skelter like soup. Like Vomit for brains.

I'm not the brightest guy in the world but some of the stupid conclusions people come up with just amaze me. Have you ever heard someone say something so stupid that it Stupified you? Like, right after they said it, you say to yourself "wtf???" - and your mind goes blank. It's like you all of a sudden you're staring out into space. Like: "I can't believe he just said that." Or, "What in the hell is this asshole talking about?"

And the thing I hate worse is when a dumbass talks to you like you're a dumbass. Man, that pisses me off. You can't tell those kind of people anything. You have to show them or wait for a situation to completely "play out" before they realize you were right all along. And, I never say "I told you so", but I DO Think it.

I know women get turned off by dumb men - and, in fact, most of them have no patience or respect for dumb men. Well, men feel the same way about dumb women. Who wants to be with an "air-head" or a "bimbo"? Well, some men (maybe most) probably wouldn't care as long as the woman is Hot. And, if they DID care, they'd get over it.

But...

Look at how they treat those types of women. Listen to way they talk to them. Yelling at them. Bossing them around. Calling them names. Being sarcastic with them. Laughing at them... Those poor bubble-headed broads don't stand a chance at a happy relationship with those brutes in their lives. The guy is frustrated as hell, but won't end the relationship because he likes bossing the woman around or because he likes having sex with a hot chick on a regular basis. Or, He's "trapped" in the relationship for some other reason.

Some men out there won't put up with this crap for more than a year or two. Then, they're trying to find a way out of the relationship. If they CAN'T find a way out, they'll cheat. Hence, the quote "I can't believe he cheated on her. She is so friggin' hot. She could be a model. She's a great girl. Any man would consider her a prize. She's this. And, she's that..."

Yeah, but the worrisome broad is dumb as a damn brick and she's a pain in the ass. Men get sick and tired of those "Princess" types.

Some men would rather have a woman with average beauty and class than to have a hot chick who's mind is "all over the place" asking dumb-ass questions and making false accusations and stupid-ass comments.

That's one reason why Cougars are so popular. These women are hot. Plus, it seems like they have their sh*t together. They're experienced, smart, and confident.

But, Some of those guys are in for a rude awakening, because some of those women are "off their rocker" too.

My Ex is a few years older than me. And the relationship was not the dream I expected. It was a damn nightmare.

I never cheated on her but who knows what I would've done if pushed over the edge.

But, I'm not saying that all men - or even most men - appreciate a smart woman, Or a woman who's more intelligent than them. God knows most men don't want that. But, men DO appreciate a woman who has some common sense and who isn't on their back Everyday about some bull-crap.

It's like some people can't function if they don't have some sort of drama in their lives. No matter how small it is. That's why half the sh*t they say don't even make any damn sense - because they're talking out of their ass.

Lord, I'm gettin' riled up again...

I can't even finish this post.

That's what I hate about ranting and complaining: Once you start, it's hard to stop. And, I'm actually a sweet guy.

- loveqna

Women Are Annoying

I Apologize; One Reason Why Men Cheat

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I'm beginning to see why a lot of relationships don't last long when you live with a woman...

They get on your damn nerves.

Fix this. Fix that.

"Why did you do this."; "Why did you do that."; "You shouldn't have done this."; "Please do that."

Good Lord.

I love women, but dammit, they'll worry your ass to death - over some bull-sh*t.

Let me tell you something about me.

I was born into a "Baptist family". Baptists - and other hardcore religious folks - don't believe in "shacking-up". Well, some religions turn a blind eye to it, but I don't know what they are. Anyway...

A couple living together before marriage, "shacking-up", is taboo in my family. And, when I was in my earlier teens, I felt the same way. But, now, I don't think I could marry ANY woman without living with her for a while first. I know I know: That's Blasphemy! And, I wouldn't encourage anyone to follow in my footsteps. In fact, I was going to put up a post on this topic a months ago but changed my mind. But, Then something happened between me and roommate, so now I have to address this issue.

We didn't have "relations". Nothing kinky. No fooling around or anything like that. But, she's been "testing the waters".

What I mean by that is:

After the first couple of weeks or so of me being here, she kept asking me if I missed my Ex. Of course, I said no. And, I still don't.

Right around the third week or so, she stunned me by asking me if I could wash her hair for her. told her I'd never done anything like that and I didn't want to mess up her hair. Or worse, cause it to fall out. She passed.

Then, she was always cooking and asking me what kind of foods I liked. But she always cooked chicken because she likes to healthy. If she didn't cook, she would call me and ask if I wanted something while she was out. Or, if I wanted to ride with her to the store or out to eat (fastfood).

Then she's offering to take me to work - sometimes.

After that...

I'm taking out the garbage,
Washing dishes,
Moping the floors (kitchen and baths),
Vacuuming,
Cleaning the spare bathroom,
Bringing in the newspaper,
Scraping ice off the windshield in the cold,
Giving my opinion on shoes and purses,
Sitting around yappin' about "Basketball Wives", "The Housewives of Atlanta", "The Game", "The Bachelor", and other chick-flick TV shows.

And, we don't share this list. This is what I have to do. Luckily, she already has a "yard man" to cut the grass and trim the hedges.

And, my list of responsibilities don't stop there. There are other "little things" you may have to fix and repair when "tragedy" strikes.

Like:

a broken toilet
a broken hinge on a cabinet door
a leaking washing machine
killing bugs
checking for strange noises
calling and waiting for the cable guy to come and repair the cable TV
a warped backsplash in the kitchen

And don't forget the "favors"!

Like: washing the car while she's getting dressed to go to a banquet or hang-out with the girls.

Or, running an errand. Or, making a special trip to the store.

Women will work your ass half to damn death.

But, that's how it is when you're living with someone and you want to maintain a "happy home" and neat and clean environment.

I swear, it's like we're in a relationship.

When I mentioned to my homeboy at work that I had been playing tennis with my roommate and how good She was, you could see his eyes light up. "Did you tap that yet?"

A week later... "Have you tried to tap that yet?"; "Have you tapped that?";

A month later... "Have you hit it yet?"; "If that was MY roommate, I would've done tap that ass."

I was like, "Damn. I should've never opened my damn mouth."

It really is hard for most guys to be friends or roommates with a woman without trying to have sex with her.

My roommate has a phat ass, a nice body, and great style, but I'm not interested. I like being single. And, I enjoy my freedom. Besides, I know my list of chores and rules will get long as hell if we ever got intimate.

No thank you. My "honey-doo" list is long enough now.

Damn. I just realize something...

I got WAY off topic. I never told you what the reason was for me writing this post.

So, the other day, I get here and I see a dead cockroach or "water-bug" at the bottomm of the staircase. My roommate killed it.

Now, she could've gotten it up but intead, she left it for me.

Then she had the nerve to suggest that the cockroach came from out of my clothes or one of my bags that I have my notes, some newspaper articles, and books in.

I've been here for four months. She's NEVER seen a cockroach or any OTHER bugs (except a centipede) so, how in the hell does she figure the cockroach belongs to me. Those things will start creeping into house as soon as the weather begins to warm-up and the spring season starts. Any jackass knows that.

Then, she had to kill a centipede in the laundry room and suggested it came from my daily work clothes that leave in the garage to dry.

I have to ride my bike 11 miles (one way) to work and back. Plus, I smoke. And, since she doesn't like the smell of cigarettes - and I don't want to bring my sweaty dusty clothes in the house, I'll let them air-out first, then put them in a bag so that I can wash them later in the week.

Anyway...

She said this little one inch centipede came from my clothes. It's warming up outside. The spring season has begun. There are all kinds of bugs creeping around and will get into your house one way or the other.

But, not only the bugs...

Before I started washing the dishes, I noticed a bit of rust in the bottom of the sink. She approached me and suggested that I was leaving food in the sink. This damn dumbass broad... SHE'S the one leaving food on her plates. She's the one who told me originally that she doesn't wash dishes everyday. And she's the one who had the rust in the sink because when I first started washing those filthy piles of dishes I noticed the rust and tried to get rid of it with Comet and a scouring pad.

Then, she'll wake me up in the middle of my sleep and ask me if I'm going to sleep all day...

wtf???

I work third shift.

I ride my bike 11 miles (to and from work) up and down hills and across town.

I get to work and have to lift heavy-ass merchandise and race against the clock all night.

I get back to the house and can't fall asleep until 12 o'clock or sometimes 2 or 3. So, I only get 3 to 5 hours of rest per day.

And it's not like I'm in excellent shape to deal with this sh*t. Hell, I smoke cigarettes everday.

And she wants to wake me up asking me if I'm going to sleep all day... So, she can get me to do something for her or because she wants to talk and chit-chat about a TV show or something.

One day, I had a slight cough. I think I got it from riding to work during a drizzle of rain. But it was a little congestion in my chest. In fact, I could clear my throat to get rid of it. And she hollers out, "Do you have a cold?" I said, "No. It's a little congestion in my chest."

But she tells me to spray some Lysol to kill the germs...

This b*tch has been damn near about to choke to death from coughing from a cold for the last 2 or 3 months after playing tennis in damn 30 degree freezing weather - at night - and she ain't been spraying no damn Lysol to kill Her damn germs... But, she wants me to spray Lysol all around in this room and choke to death from the fumes.

I told that b*tch to kiss my ass.

Well, I didn't actually say it but I didn't get any Lysol either. Hell, the cough I had didn't even last a full day.

She's a "trip".

Some of these women will try to run your ass ragged.

And, I'm lucky. Some men have to deal with a lot more crap than this. Do you think I would trade this life in to be back with my Ex??? Ain't no way in Hell. So, I can't complain too much. But still... This sh*t gets on my damn nerves.

- loveqna