Be Careful Who You Make Love To - They'll Work Your Ass To Death

I remember a few months back when people where asking me about becoming a room mate and where I lived and this and that, and I'd have to tell them I already had a roommate. Almost all of them would ask if I lived with a girl or a guy. And, whenever I told them it was a girl (a woman) their eyeballs would damn near pop out of their sockets.

I said, "Damn... Do I look that bad that I can't have a woman for a roommate?"

A couple of them saw this chick and went nuts.

Now, my roommate isn't a beauty queen but she has style and a nice phat ass. I mean, her booty is round and plump. Almost perfect. Men and women are always admiring it and giving her compliments on her body because she stays in shape and she's slim and trim.

So, anyway, she dropped me off at work a few times and a few of my homeboys (or mates) happen to catch a glimpse and ask me why I hadn't tried to tap that ass.

Well, let me just say that tappin' that ass can sometimes lead to a world of trouble...

I've been here for almost a year and I ain't tried to tap that ass yet. And, still, I've been working my ass off!

- washing her car

- killing all kinds of bugs

- vacuuming and cleaning rugs

- cleaning up for HER guests

- running errands

- plumbing work

- picking up her meals when she works from home

- fixing door locks

etc.

Can you imagine all the other kind of chores I'd be doing if I tapped that ass???

I don't care if you're a guy or girl trying to "hook-up" with a guy or girl. If you tap that ass, there will be consequences... You'll have some needy lovesick guy or girl hounding you all the time for companionship. Or, you'll have a manipulating asshole thinking that you're in a "committed relationship" and that you should be devoted to him or her and do whatever he or she asks. It'll be like being in a marriage from hell.

I don't care if everything starts out warm and fuzzy. I don't care if you're friends with benefits. Once you tap that ass, you've committed yourself.

Unless you're a player, you're stuck.

And, do you remember my week-long courtship with the "female player"?

That girl tried to get me in the sack before I could come up with a plan to get HER in the sack!

I knew she was up to something that's why I kept skirting around the issue.

I wasn't about to let that bitch drain my bank account dry!

And, now, this new chick...

I like this girl as a friend. And, really, I want to keep it that way.

I don't want to think about a relationship or any kind of romantic interlude.

I just want us to stay friends and have fun and after we get to know each other - whatever happens - happens.

But...

She's already imposing. If I tell her "no" or not to do something, she doesn't hear me at all. Stubborn as hell. Even if I beg. Hell, I can't put up with that. It'll drive me nuts! And, I don't wanna end up hating this girl.

She's already telling me that she misses me and that she enjoys our conversations and that she thinks about me often.

I was in a state of shock. I said, "Damn!"

I can't lie. I think about her too - Often.

But, I'm not gonna say that! At least not to her. I don't want things to get "hot and heavy" too soon.

This is a strong-willed woman. And already, I'm scared for my freedom.

Man, I think once I tap that ass, I'll never see the light of day again.

I won't be under her spell, but more than likely, under her control.

She's not the type of woman that takes "no" for an answer and that's what I'm afraid of.

She won't listen to reason.

And, she hugs me and holds my hand and cuddles in public and I just don't know what the hell to do. It's cool... but in certain situations it's not cool.

Then, she doesn't want me to ride my bike in the cold and makes a big deal about That. And...

Don't get me wrong. I WANT someone like that. I want a woman who's gonna be "down for me" and have my back and generous and affectionate, but I got a feeling she's gonna take over once I tap that ass.

I got a feeling all of that love and affection I'm getting right now is gonna turn into Demands and hard labor later.

My instincts are seldom wrong! I've been developing them for a few years now and trust me, they have rarely failed to be right.

I've been with other chicks and "tapped that ass", and suddenly became stuck in a relationship.

I'm a pushover and I know it. That's why I have to be extra careful and exercise self-control.

I know this is a risk but I'm gonna take my chances at the friendship route and see how things go from there.

If I miss out on a good thing, then I'll just have to "charge it to the game". But, if she sticks around and we take things to a deeper level, then maybe we're meant to be.

Either way, I ain't gonna tap that ass no time soon and give up living the good life!

And, you guys and girls should take heed and do the same!

Hell, now that I think about it: whether you tap that ass or don't tap that ass, either way, you're screwed.

- loveqna

SoulMate Vs. Dream-mate

There's not a day that goes by when I'm at work that I don't see a beautiful woman. Like I've said before, hundreds of people come into the store every day. And every day, I see a beautiful woman that could potentially be the girl of my dreams. Hell, I see 20 or 30 of them that could potentially be the girl of my dreams... But, could any one of those broads be my soulmate? Or, a candidate for my soulmate?

Whenever I hear people talking about looking for their soulmate or waiting to meet their soulmate, I'm always skeptical.

I'm a firm believer that any ONE of us has thousands or millions of people that we're compatible with. But, most people - including myself - are so picky that we overlook the man or woman that is good for us and that could be a real benefit to our lives.

All of us aren't looking for a soulmate although we claim we are. Most of us are looking for that "Dream Girl" or "Dream Guy" with the good looks, perfect health, handsome smile, nice body, etc. We want this person to be kind, have at least a few interests in common, be madly in love with us, so on and so forth. We want our friends and family to like them, admire, and approve of them. We want them to be (in our eyes) "perfect".

But, although we might meet a person who has most of the qualities we're looking for, we still manage to find something wrong with them or something about them (their habits or personality) that we'd like to change. And, sometimes, when that's not the case, there's something about US they don't like or would like to change.

And even when that's not the case! There's something about the RELATIONSHIP we'd like to change.

We're never satisfied!

What are we REALLY looking for??? What do we really want? Most people don't know. Most people who want to meet or find their soulmate, don't know.

I'm sure that's why there are so many divorces and break-ups and "time-outs". People THINK they know what they want until they get it. Then, realize there's more to the equation!

(some people NEVER seem to realize this)

A lot of people out there look at a man or woman as a 2D or 3D object. An "Accessory" to compliment THEIR appearance or lifestyle or to impress their friends. Or, they look at the person as something of beauty that they can "own" or something exciting that they can experience.

But, after constant interaction, and being around each other for a while, they realize that everything they saw on the surface isn't worth all of the trouble underneath.

Now, when you meet your SoulMate, it's different.

With your Soulmate there is a "connection".

There's not much about each other (probably NOTHING about each other) you'd care to change. You can accept each other as you both are.

It may happen instantly. Or, it may take some time.

But, those who are willing to take the time to get to know a potential mate might discover that their soulmate is staring them right in the face.

Many people DON'T want to take the time (or make the effort) and discover too late that they let a good thing get away!

They don't put in the time necessary to connect with the person. They don't want to compromise or listen to reason.

They'd rather argue and debate about everything, and fantasize about other people's partners while they have a "prize" staring them right in the face.

They allow many of the distractions of Life to get in the way of the Love they've been searching for and need. There weakness an lack of self-control makes it hard for them to realize they have the potential to turn a good thing into something special.

He or she doesn't know how to handle the situation. He or she doesn't know how to support and love another person. Or, he or she isn't wise enough to see his or her faults or the destruction that his or her character or habits are causing.

Now, I'm not saying that you should settle or devote your self to someone just because he or she cares a great deal for you. But, most of us have to take a step back and look at ourselves and evaluate our thinking and wisdom and make sure we're not screwing up our lives by falling under the spell of lust, fantasy, or the status quo.

We've got to open our mouths and make moves if we are to meet that special someone or realize that he or she is sitting right under our very nose right now.

Your current boyfriend or girlfriend or spouse or co-worker or someone you pass on the street everyday could be the person you've been searching for all your life! But, you have to really get to know him or her to find out. You have to know YOURSELF also.

Maybe it's a match made in heaven, maybe not. But, you'll never know unless you make a move to see if there is a real connection.

I was dumb as hell and a total jackass.

There were girls that I knew I had chemistry with and I enjoyed being around but I couldn't stop partying and hanging out with the fellas.

I was going through a bit of depression at the time and didn't try to fight it, but some of these girls knew it and tried to help me as best they could. But, I wouldn't listen. I was stubborn and just tried to deal with it by drinking and partying and chasing women almost every night.

Don't be like me!

Sit down and consider your situation and your future. Realize a good thing when you've got it! Build on it and turn it into something special.

USE YOUR GOOD INSTINCTS!

If this person is your soulmate, you'll realize it early on. You'll feel it. The chemistry will BE there. Don't take it for granted. Don't let your relationship get stale and boring.

Don't get caught-up in the distractions of the World.

If that person is giving you the gift of his or her heart, love, and support, do the right thing and return the favor.

Again, use your instincts and make sure that he or she is The One. Don't waste your time and energy on something that is going nowhere. Because if that girl or guy is not The One and not accepting you or showing you love and support properly, do the right thing for yourself! And kick that ass straight to the curb.

- loveqna

Computer Love - Dating And Finding Love Online

Do you have a hard time meeting new prospects because you don't go out that often or because you don't have time to look (because you're too busy)?

Maybe you haven't found the love of your life because you don't know where to look or because you keep meeting poor prospects when you DO go to the places where all the good prospects are. That happens. Accept it.

The bums and bad apples are always gonna go where the action is so, you're always gonna have a mix of good, bad, and sorry-asses no matter where you go. You're always gonna have to sift through the lot of profiles to find someone you think may be compatible to you and worth getting to know better. It doesn't matter if you meet prospects through friends or if you meet prospects online.

It's like trimming the fat off of meat or separating good fruits and vegetables from bruised and damaged fruits and vegetables. You keep the good stuff and leave the bad stuff out. That's just how it is.

Have you ever thought about finding love online?

I know it can be scary. I know some people would be embarrassed to do it.

There are a lot of people that look down on those who look for love online. They think it's weird, pitiful, stupid, and dangerous.

I agree that it can be dangerous. But hell, meeting people offline is dangerous also.

Either way, you have to take your time and get to know the person you're talking to and take the necessary safety precautions.

And even after you get to know this person, you STILL have to continue to use your instincts and be careful because he or she could be living a double-life or playing you for a fool. There are some nuts out there. And liars. Online and Offline. So, you've got be cautious. Use your instincts. Watch closely and listen carefully.

A few years ago (before I met my last girlfriend), I met a few chicks online. I was a little bit wary in the beginning, because I didn't go through a dating service. I met them in chatrooms and I was new to the chatting experience.

I only met two of those girls in person. I could feel that some of the others were playing games. Some of them were liars. Some weren't girls at all. And, some were just as wary of me as I was of them.

One of the girls I met was a dingbat and wild as hell. I could tell right away she was a hoochie and only online looking for sex. I only talked to her for a few minutes in a convenience store parking lot.

The other chick was a slob. But, I should've known that by looking at her room in the background while we chatted.

We met at a restaurant then at a nightclub. She was thick and cute, but her and her girlfriend were flirts who loved to get drunk and party all the time. And, she had a little boy. And, after we talked on the phone a couple of times, I found out she was having baby-daddy drama. She was cute but I wasn't even about to get involved in that mess.

But, I know people who have been more fortunate.

Some people I've worked with at past jobs have met their sweethearts online and have gotten married. I know police officers who've dated women online. I know people who have traveled hundreds of miles to stay the weekend with their online lovers. I have a cousin who regularly meets, dates, and hangout with women he meets online. He lives in D.C.

He has even taken these women to his Mama's house! And, other relatives' houses. He's brought them over to the house where I used to live.

My Ex's daughter and her friends used to meet guys on Facebook and MocoSpace and hang-out with them.

I have another cousin who goes on dates with chicks he meets on Facebook as well. He also uses the phone chat lines.

I also see some of my former schoolmates (guys and girls) with dating profiles online. And, some of them are good men and women. Most of them have good jobs. A couple of them have their own business. They're good quality prospects. I went to school with these people. I've been to some of these people's houses. I've socialized with these people and know they wouldn't harm a flea. They're just looking for real love like everyone else.

And, these online dating services seem to be working out for many people as well. Eharmony says a lot of their "matches" end up getting married after dating each other for a while. And, there are other online dating sites that proclaim such success as well. Hell, I can't turn on the TV nowdays without hearing or seeing an ad for an online matchmaking dating service. I've probably seen "Christian Singles" two or three times today. So, this form of looking for love online MUST be working out for a lot of people.

Someday, it's probably going to be as common as shopping for a new suit or a new outfit. Those dating sites and agencies will be everywhere - online and offline.

The only online matchmaking services I REALLY worry about are those that "sell" mail-order brides. You really have to be careful on both ends with that type of service. You have brides that are scammers and con-artists and you have potential husbands that are domestic abusers. Or, they might lose interest. And, it could be reversed. Maybe the man is a scammer and the woman is an abuser. I don't know but anything's possible.

You have men out here who live thousands of miles away marrying women then harassing the hell out of the woman for her dowry. Some of those guys are con-artists with other wives they've scammed out of a dowry.

You have women that marry men so that they can get out of their country, then the woman runs away.

It happens.

Stop wasting time. Get out and meet people.

 But, worse stuff than this can happen offline in the "real world" (beta-space) too.

Any of this stuff (all of it) - this online love - you HAVE TO BE CAREFUL with, because it's like everything else in Life. It's all a risk. It's just like eating food: You don't know if it's good until you eat it, digest it, and live to tell about it later.

I fell in love with a girl online once.

She was a Filipina.

At the time I wasn't looking for anyone online. I was looking for business opportunities when my messenger rang.

I didn't even know I was connected, but I responded. And, we just started chatting.

She asked me why my status was "single but not looking" Then I told her about my recent break-up. The drama. And, how boring things had gotten.

She told me about her past relationship and how her Ex was leading her on and never intended to marry her. Then we began talking about relationship drama and sharing stories about our lives and our families. We talked about books, movies, news, interests, everything. We opened up to each other really fast.

Soon after that, we were calling each other on the phone.......

Okay, I don't wanna think about this anymore.

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If you decide to pursue an online relationship make sure you're ready for it emotionally and mentally.

Don't waste your time with it if you aren't going to (or can't) take it to the next level of physical contact and interaction.

If you're only going to be friends, you really don't ever have to meet. But, if you fall in love, you'll want to feel that person close to you. And, he or she will want the same.

Oh, let me warn you about this...

One thing I ALWAYS keep in mind: Make sure the prospect you're talking to is a person who is old enough to legally date you. I swear I think the cops were trying to set me up to talk to some kid in a chatroom. There were a few of us joking around in there, then one of the chatters started getting flirty and asking me where I lived and all that.

And like I said before, in the beginning I was always wary of people so I immediately said "I don't give out my personal info on the Net". But, this person was asking me about music and my age and if I were single. I didn't know about setting up my profile so it was blank. But, when I looked at hers, she was 14. I put her ass on "ignore". I didn't think about it being a "dangerous" situation. I just ignored her because what reason would I have to talk to a girl that young? And, it probably was the cops. So, make sure you're meeting guys and girls who are legally able to date you.

And these are just a few reminders:

Don't go online looking for love if you're lonely and desperate because you could fall prey to mind games and trickery from con-artists, players, manipulators, and bad people in general.

Don't go online looking for love unless you're prepared to be open and honest about what you want and need from a lover. And, make sure they're honest. Don't let him or her lead you on.

Don't pursue love with someone online if you and that person has different relationship goals. Some people are looking for sex, some for marriage, some for a friend to hang-out with (or so they say).

Don't expect much out of a man or woman with thousands of friends on a social network. Especially if that person is up there everyday. That's all some people care about - collecting "friends". They don't have time to talk to all of those people. What makes you think he or she has time to talk to you? YouTube is different because a lot of those people actually WANT to help others - with products or advice. And a lot of them DO respond to individual requests and messages. But STILL... They are busy as well or possibly already taken. Or, not interested in a relationship.

Depending on how far your love-interest lives from you, take into consideration how often you will get to see him or her. And, can he or she handle the distance as well.

Consider that you might have to travel by plane to see your online love interest. So think about saving and stacking some money.

There may come to a point where you think you've found your SoulMate and want to settle down. This may require a better job and money as well.

Well, there are all kinds of variables and things that could and will happen and things that you should be wary of.

The best thing is too research and use your good instincts so that you don't get played, used, and abused.

A lot of these online (Cyberspace) relationships don't work out - just like in "real life" (or Beta-space). Don't let it depress you, frustrate you, or deter you from using all venues - online and offline - to find the love of your life.

Don't worry about what other people think about you looking for love online - especially if they're single and don't have anyone to love. Nine times out of ten, the one who doubts is at home wacking-off because he or she doesn't have a partner to kiss and cuddle-up with.

It's a shame and a scandal some people have to live like that. Hypocrites.

Let me tell you this: I was in an online relationship and it could've turned into something special if I had been a little smarter and bolder. I regret a lot of things, but losing that girl is in my top 5 things I hate I ever did in my life.

Don't rush but don't ignore your options either.

What you're looking for is out there. You've just gotta keep "clicking" away.

And, whether you find it online or offline, the best of luck to ya'.

- loveqna

Don't Give Up Your Dreams Due To Love

When I received my first text from that "gangsta chick", Slim, my future flashed before my eyes.

I was uplifted.

I had high hopes.

I thought for sure I had received a blessing from God. I thought I had been blessed with a Queen. The girl of my dreams.

She was everything I wanted.

I like fiery strong-willed women. I like bold women. I like women who are confident and smart - business-minded. I like women who are go-getters - Divas.

I thought she was all of that.

And, every time I thought of her, I could see the both of us rising to the Top and living a good life. A Grand Life.

But, this chick is nothing more than a loud-mouth "show-girl". She's got all of the features and game but she wants to be "player" instead of a "True Player".

She can't see the Big Picture.

She'd rather yap all day on her cellphone about her problems instead of doing something about them.

She'd rather use men for chump-change and favors instead of creating major opportunities for herself.

She uses her game to play games.

I don't need a woman like that in my life.

I HAVE the MasterPlan. I just need someone to help me develop it and sell it.

Sure, there are other chicks out there that are "qualified" but I want someone like this - for Business as well as Love. And, I could love a chick like this. I'm not ashamed to say it. She's like a dream come true.

But, her Mind ain't right.

She's full of B.S. - that's why it won't work. And, I'm not an "all-day sucker". I'll wait or look for another similar type of chick before I let her play with my mind and drain my bank account dry. To Hell with that.

And, you should follow suit.

Don't give in to a wannabee player who only wants to play games with his or her life and your's.

Don't waste your time crying over a bum who doesn't want to improve his or her life or your relationship. That's what life is about: Growing, Expanding, Improving, Moving Forward.

Don't let a slob or a scrub bring you down and ruin your potential for Happiness.

Don't let a bum bring you down and make your life hard and miserable.

If you can "milk" that rascal or scallywag and save for bigger and better things, do it! Milk him! Milk her! You're doing for your future! You're doing it for the both of you. You're doing it so that you can both live a good life. Or, a better life.

If he or she has dreams, offer your help and/or advice.

Show him or her that you are willing to help anyway you can to build your future together.

And, if he or she doesn't want to cooperate, do it for yourself and your family.

Go to school. Save your money. Get a job. Start a business. Learn a trade. Find a better partner (if possible). Use your game.

And, move on and accomplish your dreams without the scumbucket.

- loveqna

Mariah Carey - Dream Lover

Mariah Carey has a Beautiful Voice, doesn't she? Wow.

This is one the songs that play a gazillion times while we work at night. One of my co-workers suggested that our employer was trying to brainwash us with sibliminal messages hidden in music.

lol.

That fool is nuts... Or, is he?

(Isn't it strange that I enjoy being single, yet, I'm always looking for the Girl Of My Dreams?

Is the Illuminati secretly controlling our love-lives???

Things that make you go "Mmmmmmm... What's REALLY going on?")

...keep your eyes open and watch your back.



Video provided by - MariahCareyVEVO

- loveqna

"Zip It Up, and Zip It Out."

"How To Be 'Just Friends' With A Hot Chick"

Some people fall in love (or lust) with their friends and want to date them, or have sex with them, or have a romantic relationship with them. Sometimes it works out to the good. Sometimes it can be the worst mistake of your life.

I know some of your mouths may be watering like hell from admiring some of that fine booty of a friend who's hotter than "all get-out", but you have restrain yourself so that you don't go down a treacherous path.

When you're friends with a nice guy or nice girl, much of the time, you'll do a little extra to show you're a good friend. You'll put up with idiosyncrosies, bad habits, poor personality traits, certain social skills that irritate you, and their complaints. You'll even avoid arguing about their opinions versus your beliefs. You'll empathize with each other. Do favors for each other that you won't even do for your own family members.

Since this is your Best Friend (or Close Friend), you'll do whatever possible not to ruin the relationship. But, once you hook-up...

Most, if not All, of that sh*t goes out the window.

The person who was once your Best Friend but who's now your lover, will start to "bug" you and get on your nerves. He or she will start talking out the ass. He or she gets lazy as hell and never wants to go anywhere or do anything fun. He or she starts to ignore you and often is yappin' on the phone with a NEW Best Friend or Close Friend. And you get peeved and perturbed with each other to the point of losing interest and wanting to get away from each other.

And if you have kids and then can't stand each other, forget about it. You might as well kiss your dreams, happiness, and peace of mind goodbye. That chick might make your life a living hell for 18-plus years.

It's a situation very similar to a couple who gets married and hate each other (or have a hard time living with each other) BUT, they make great friends and have lasting friendships - Even after divorce.

So, sometimes it's not the end of the World, but you may have to suffer a little bit.

Some friends just stop talking all together after an intimate encounter. Usually, this is because one of them is turned off by the other one sexually. Or, there's no "Chemistry". And, one friend can't tell the other one he or she sucks in bed or laugh the situation off, so it becomes awkward.

The one friend who's turned off feels awkward/strange because he or she has to reject the other and that's what make things even more complicated. When the rejecting friend feels like this, he or she will completely avoid the other friend. They may have a conversation or two afterwards, but usually, the friendship just fades away.

If you're thinking about dating a close friend or a roommate, don't jump in right away. Take your time and get to know him or her first. Learn to control them hormones and look out for bullsh*t and foolishness that you KNOW will piss you off in the long run if you ever decided to hook-up with this person.

After you become a true friend and you're able to "tell it like is" and be straight-up and honest with each other in all matters and situations without "falling-out" or getting angry, THEN you may be ready for a more intimate relationship. But, only if you can also laugh, have fun, and be turned-on by each other mentally, physically (of course), and even spiritually. Having a spiritual connection - not necessarily a religious connection - is the bomb, trust me.

But, work on the friendship first.

You know, Some people will be "friends" with you ONLY if they believe they have a shot at being in a relationship with you.

Some people get attached to their friends because their friends treat them with respect and take an interest in them.

Some people are attracted to their best friend because the Best Friend has a great personality, or he or she is intelligent or suave and stylish, or just plain cute and sexy.

Once "the seed is planted", it's hard to conquer the desire.

So, before you start swooning and going "gah-gah" over a hot honey dip who's supposed to be good friend, take a look at these suggestions, have patience and reserve, and no matter what happens, if you took your time and thought the situation through, at least you will have made a good decision either way it goes.

REMEMBER: 90 Percent of it is mental. Self control is the key to a grander life.

All right. Here we go...

When you feel yourself fantasizing about her, do Something Else that doesn't include masturbation or looking at OTHER Hot Chicks. Run some errands, go to the store, mow the lawn, trim hedges, or create a list: "10 Things I Hate About You".

Search for another Hot Chick to admire and swoon over.

Never mention her or talk about her unless you're using her as a reference, an example, or telling a story.

If anyone asks "what's up with you two", reiterate the fact that you're "just friends" or "roommates". Let it be known that you think of this chick as a sweet girl and nothing more. If a relationship develops later on down the road, good. If not, that's okay too.

Don't ogle her or admire her "assets" when she's not looking. You'll only make yourself hornier and more frustrated. Plus, one day she might catch you and realize what a pervert you really are.

Don't help her groom or pamper her. If she asks you to help her wash her hair or massage her back or feet, just say "no". Tell her you're tired or that your back is aching and you can't bend. Or, tell her that you don't know how. Don't do anything that might turn you on and ruin your friendship.

Become a eunich. (just kidding - unless you think it'll help)

Don't get drunk together. If the both of you drink, plan in advance to stay on "your side" of the room (front room, family room, game room, den, whatever). If she crosses the line, go get a snack or something to munch on. When you come back, sit in another chair, go pee, or wash your face, or go to bed. She may be as horny as a wildcat so you must avoid her or she will eat you for lunch.

Consider the repercussions of your actions. After a hardy romp in the sack, she will change towards you. And it might not be a good thing. You will see her in a different light. She won't be same sweet ray of sunshine you had for a friend. She will be a jerk. And eventually, she will ruin your life. These are just thoughts now. Trick the Mind. Keep the friendship. Don't hate on the woman for real.

Okay...

Remember: She doesn't look "hot" all the time. Take notice of her those days when she turns you off and disgusts you too. If you criticize out loud, be playful. And, don't take yourself or the situation too seriously. It's great when we can let our hair down, chill, and be bummy for a day.

If you're both sitting on the same couch/sofa watching TV and YOU get bored, the best thing you could do is leave the room. Even better: go to sleep. Why? I don't know but whenever two people are sitting around in the dark watching TV and they get bored with the show, horny-ness starts to creep in and they somehow end up in "steamy" "no-holds-barred" situations. Sometimes, butt-naked.

Don't get involved with her emotionally. Avoid conversations about relationships or issues she's having with her dates or prospects. If she traps you and you HAVE to talk about stuff like that, don't feel sorry for her or get too emotional when you comfort her. This can lead to an immediate kiss and intimacy. Or, it will break down the wall/barrier you've built-up and you'll be more susceptible to "falling in love".

Be effeminate. (i'm just kiddin'. But get in touch with your "softer side") Learn how to enjoy gossiping and talking about soap operas and other dramatic TV shows and all of the people and funny situations at work. Learn to talk about ailments and fashion. Don't be afraid to give your opinion about style. Be supportive of female causes - if they're fair and not full of propaganda. Learn how to be enthusiastic and how to hug without getting a boner (just kiddin' again). But, I'm sure you get the point.

There's more I could say, but I hate to go ON and ON and ramble.

The gist of it all is: Keep sex, fantasies, and fetishes out of your Mind when it comes to a friend. Zip it up and Zip it out.

Remember: This is only a Test... This test in Life is a challenge of your inner strength and will-power. If you can "survive" and conquer this test, you will have a lot more female friends, more options, and an even hotter chick to call your own. And You will have better relationships with women like many other guys out here. Some have scores of good relationships with women on a platonic level.

It may take a little time, but you can be the same way and eventually be a great catch for the "Girl Of Your Dreams".

Rationale: You will be more relaxed around women, gentler with women, more understanding of female issues, a sweeter person, more sociable with women, and have more meaningful (deeper) conversations with all - men and women.

And the best part is...

You'll be single. So, you won't feel guilty about looking at all of that OTHER hot fine tender booty out there.

- loveqna