Why A Girl or Guy Didn't Call After You Gave Your Number

There are a lot of people out there who play games, and, a lot of people out there who don't know what they want.

Some of them get phone numbers for fun (or sport). Some of them get phone numbers and are afraid to call. Some of them will get a person's phone number and don't know what the hell they want to do.

I know dealing with these kind of people are frustrating - especially if you're interested, but don't lose any sleep over these bums. There's nothing wrong with you, it's just that THIS person may be a player or a waffler.

Or, the timing wasn't right and there were no good vibes.

Sometimes people just aren't interested but they'll accept a phone number anyway just to be nice. I'm sure you've been in that position where you might get someone's number so that you don't have to turn the person down and hurt their feelings.

But, there could be any reason.

Maybe there was no connection. Maybe he or she was looking for "Love" or a spark and didn't feel it. Maybe he or she didn't feel you two were compatible. So what. Don't let it get you down. Go on with your life.

Sometimes we take an "encounter" or date WAY too seriously. Some of us "fall in love" WAY too fast.

Some people meet an attractive person who seems sweet, kind, and thoughtful. And, there seems to be a connection, and almost instantly - "it's love".

Half the time, it's only infatuation.

In reality, there's no connection, or chemistry, or we know so little about the person except that they have a good sense of humor. Most of the time, we've only known this person for a few minutes or a few hours. We don't even know him or her on a deeper level. Yet, we're head over heels in love.

Why???

Most of the time it's because there seems to be good vibes going on between us - like there's a true connection.

That first encounter is usually all jokes and laughs the first time we meet. Or, we're turned on by their looks or physical appearance. Or, he or she seems kind and thoughtful and treat us with respect so we think he or she is interested in getting to know us on a romantic level.

But, we don't know this person. We don't know he or she is really about. But, we're swooning over this person like we know all there is know about him or her. He or she could be a total asshole. Therefore, contain yourself.

Get to know this girl or guy and find out what he or she is REALLY about!

How many times have you met someone, fell in love, and later on the person changes and starts acting like a jerk?

It happens all the time.

He or she was probably a jerk all along and we just didn't see it. We only saw what we wanted to see. Or, perhaps, trickery.

What do we REALLY KNOW?

Not much.

So, why should you be so anxious about him or her calling?

I know you want to get to know this prospect better, but don't put your life on hold waiting for him or her to come running to you with open arms.

Move on with your life, keep doing what you do, and "see how things turn out".

I've sen guys and girls give out their phone numbers to people and check their phone every five minutes to see if the person they've given their number to has called. It's a pitiful sight to see.

Now, I'm not saying that you shouldn't put a little bit of effort into the courtship. If you have the guy or girl's phone number, then call. But, if he or she is not showing any interest or making an effort to call you, why sweat it?

Move on.

But, let me list a few reasons why a prospect might not call...

Now, whether he or she is a player, a waffler, or just didn't feel any chemistry is important.

Use your instincts to see who or what you're dealing with.

A man or woman who's genuine and wants to get to know you will find a way to call no matter how busy he or she is.

But, the other types won't call if...

- they met what they believe to be a better option
- they're only getting phone numbers for sport or to impress friends with how many phone numbers they can get
- they heard something negative about you - found out you have baggage or issues
- he or she is a waffler and changed his or her mind about dating or getting involved - prefers to be alone.
- he or she is a cheater and had to destroy or lose the phone number
- the waffler doubts himself or herself as far as offering a good time
- doesn't believe you two are really compatible or felt no chemistry
- he or she found out a friend is also interested in you and doesn't want to ruin that friendship
- he or she is just testing his or her skills to see if you would give him or her your phone number (want to know that they're still desirable)
- they're just flirting for fun (teasing)

And, sometimes phone numbers get lost or don't get saved.

And, there are various other reasons why people don't call when they get a phone number. Every man and woman has their own reasons for doing what they do.

But, again: I wouldn't lose any sleep over it.

Nine times out of ten, there's nothing wrong with you. Sometimes the timing just isn't right. Sometimes the "vibe" just isn't there. Sometimes people expect too much too soon. And, sometimes players and wafflers have a way of creeping into our lives.

Whatever. Move on.

If you see the bum again, act like you never met.

If they want your number again, play hard to get.

You ain't got time for these games and confusion.

Remember: There are plenty of fish in the sea, so why play in the pond with toads?

Tell'em to kiss your ass.

- loveqna

It's Okay To Flirt, Baby, But Don't Tease Me

I know it SEEMS I've been doing a lot of female bashing lately in these last few posts, but I'm not angry at women. Topics come to me all the time. and when I'm not being lazy or feeling overwhelmed (mentally), I write about whatever seems to stay in my head the longest - Like this current thought about "why guys hate it when chicks TEASE entirely too much".

I see this crap all the time. And, men do it too. They'll flirt and lead you on like they like you, get you interested, then give you the run-around and play games with your mind and so forth. Or, they'll get your phone number and say they're gonna call you but then they don't. (Guys and Girls do this.)

But why?

Observe closely, use your instincts, and you'll see the reason a lot clearer...

Some people are players and do it just for amusement... or, entertainment. They just love to flirt and they love the attention.

It's an ego-boost for some of these "flirty-birdies" out here.

They just like the feeling of being desired or hot or attractive. It proves to them that they are sexy and JUST AS SEXY as the next hot chick or handsome guy.

Some people are players and do it just to pass the time and because there's "nothing better available" at the moment. When "something better" comes along they forget about the first person's number they got.

Some people out there might meet a good girl or guy and have the intentions on getting to know them better but then - the same day - they might meet someone else and change their mind about getting to know the first prospect.

And, some people are wafflers and don't know if they want to talk to you or not. Hell, they don't know if they want to be single or dating or in a long-term commitment. They want to be involved but they want the fantasy also. Someone "perfect". Those bums analyze too much.

Then, you have the "natural flirts". They love to flirt and make romantic banter because they just love having a good time. It's just something fun to do with these people. Don't ever take them seriously - even if they genuinely like you. Keep playing the game until they start chasing you. That's when you know the game is over. But, don't expect them to stop flirting with others.

But, the most disgusting flirt is the girl (or guy) who leads you on and then, when you approach or ask her (or him) out on a date or over for a romantic interlude, THEN she (or he) starts to avoid you or act differently towards you. Like you're some kind of stalker or something!

I even hear some of these girls talk trash about these guys who show a little interest after the girl has led them on!

These dudes think they have a shot with these chicks and these broads are laughing at them and making fun about them behind their backs!

And, I've had male friends and relatives do things like this to women as well.

These poor suckers are letting these guys drive their cars, eat up their food, and spend their money, and these guys know these poor dumb broads don't have a chance in hell of being their girlfriend.

They're just leading those chicks on! Selling them a dream! That's what you call it! Selling their poor dumbasses a dream...

Some people do it to themselves.

They can't accept a sweet conversation and a little bit of flirting for what it is. They see a sweet face and hear a few kind (or flirty) words, and they fall in lust or in love instantly and think they REALLY have a chance at getting to know that girl or guy on a romantic level.

Just because that girl or guy is telling jokes and talking to you for 15 minutes and you're laughing and joking around, DOESN'T mean that he or she is interested! The conversation just may be interesting.

Now, don't get me wrong. IT NEVER HURTS TO ASK. "A closed mouth won't get fed", so it's always a good idea to speak up if you feel a good vibe from someone and want to "hollah". But, don't imagine it to be more than what it is. Chances are, it's not "love at first sight", so be cool and take your time about it.

Get to know that flirty bird first! Take that small-talk to deeper levels and find out what he or she is REALLY about.

Is this person just a "flirt"? Does he or she simply like attention? Is he or she a waffler? Or, does he or she REALLY want to get to know you on a deeper level? Make a friend first then take the conversations to deeper levels and find out "what's up".

Do you know what guys REALLY hate???

It's when a chick invites them for a romantic interlude, lead them on with all of the hugging, kissing, and smooching, and get the guy all "riled up" and "excited" and then, tells the guy they can't go any farther because she "wants to take things slow". WTF???

That's why some guys never go back! It's not because they only want you for sex! For some guys that may be the case. But, some guys believe that the woman is a tease and just leading them on! They don't want to go through the humiliation again! So, they go and look for someone else! And, usually, their mind is set on a "nice girl" who won't play games!

Now, in all fairness, guys do this too.

The only difference is: If a CHICK wants you - she will try to TAKE IT by force! lol.

She'll grope and grab and pull and tug and try make you "give it up"!

"Hey, Wait a minute! Take it easy lady! "No" means "No"!

(THAT is NEVER talked about in the media or anywhere else. But, it DOES happen. A girl WILL try to take "it" if she is "hot and bothered" and wants it.)

Mmph! Good gracious... I lost my train of thought... lol.

I love aggressive women.

Anyway...

Just be careful of your emotions and money with these overly flirtatious people. Many of them don't want anything. Some of them are more trouble than they're worth. Keep your heart and mind in check and just enjoy the moment.

Don't let those "teasers" play you and don't play yourself!

Use the situation to improve your romantic conversation skills - and also, your approach skills and Confidence!

It's all practice. That's all it is...

- loveqna