Don't Let A Toxic Relationship Bring You Down

Queen - 'Another One Bites the Dust'



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These mean-ass manipulating men and crazy-ass psychotic women make my blood boil!

I'm sick ovem!

Why in the hell would you let that asshole play games with your mind and emotions???

Why are you allowing that scumbag to manipulate you and abuse you?

Why are you settling for a sub-standard way of surviving when you could be living the life you deserve and enjoying life to the fullest???

You don't have to settle for a life of heartache and pain and loneliness!

This way of life that you're living only robs you of the Joy and Happiness that every man and woman deserves.

Men and Women weren't meant to live in Fear all the days of their life!

You shouldn't be cut off from your Friends and Family!

You deserve to be loved just like everybody else!

Tell that no-good rat-soup eatin' bum to kiss your ass!

Go to the people that REALLY love and appreciate you. People who really care about you. People who want to see you happy.

Why should you stay in a place with a crumbcake-ass loser who doesn't inspire you, who doesn't love you, who gets joy out of using and abusing you, and who's crazy as hell???

I'm sick of these damn tyrants! Lock every last one of their asses up!

Let THEM get abused and mistreated and neglected for a while and see how they like it.

Don't believe their lies and guilt-tripping schemes.

They'll say and do anything to keep you around as their "punching bag".

Face it! The bum is crazy!

Ain't no need in you sticking around and trying to change him (or her).

That lousy-ass rat ain't gonna change until he or she is ready to change.

He or She ain't gonna stop playing games until he or she is Ready to stop playing games.

Sometimes, you've just gotta give people like that their space so that they can see the error of their ways.

You can talk and beg and plead and try to compromise until you are blue in the face and they still won't have a clue about all the wrong they're doing.

Let that guy or girl go. Man-up or Woman-up and move on with your life. The Drama ain't worth it.

Being played and cheated on and berated and cussed out every day ain't worth it.

You HAVE a Higher Power within you. You ARE strong enough to survive on your own.

We all have self-preservation instincts. You just have to have the courage to let yours take over and not fall to your knees and simply accept the abuse that comes your way.

Look for resources and help for a way out of the mess you're in!

Be a Survivor! Be Strong!

Resort to your own bag of tricks, games, and tactics to get yourself out this hell-hole that you've fell in.

You might think you can't move on with your life because you NEED this person financially or for security or because you're in love or because you're afraid to tell him or her that you're NOT in love anymore, but you can do it...

Plan your "escape", Stack your cash, make some connections, and LEAVE.

Now, if this person is REALLY crazy as hell, don't go anywhere that he or she can track you down!

If anything, use reverse psychology! Play the jealous lover role! Or, something. Nag him or her to death. Be a match-maker and hook him or her up with one of your enemies. Let those two bums have each other.

Do anything to make him or her LEAVE YOU (if the bum is crazy as hell).

If you have a good support system like family or friends or a co-worker to stay with for a while until you get back on your feet, that's always a plus. Just make sure you respect their hospitality, their friendship, and their home, so that will be there for you if ever you should need them again.

You should have plenty of people on your side. Everybody knows that's no way for anyone to live or be treated and are willing to help any way they can.

You just have to be willing to have the strength to help yourself.

I know some people feel beat-down so much that they're depressed and lack the motivation to make a move and get out their terrible situation. But, sometimes, you've just got to mad and say "the hell with shit! I'm out!"

And, pack your bags and get gone.

Don't worry about what you're gonna lose or what you're leaving behind... Forget that crap! Half of that stuff you don't need and the other half you probably weren't using anyway!

Some people will stick around in dire situations and suffer themselves to be another person's personal maid or slave just because they enjoy the comforts of the person's home or just because they're able to enjoy free cable and Internet service. WTF???

Man... Screw those luxuries and go and get your own shit!

I know a toxic relationship is a hundred times worse with an abusive psycho and you might fear making a move because you've never been on your own... But, you can Learn.

Screw those luxuries and go and get your own shit!

People out there are willing to help you.

Get out and ask questions and learn and talk to friends and family and whoever else and find you a safe place or a room mate and move on with your life.

You can do it!

Hell, I've made mistakes all my life and look at me now!

I ain't livin' "high on the hog", but guess what?

Life Is Good.

And, it can be good for you too. All you have to do is start making moves.

- loveqna

Why A Girl or Guy Didn't Call After You Gave Your Number

There are a lot of people out there who play games, and, a lot of people out there who don't know what they want.

Some of them get phone numbers for fun (or sport). Some of them get phone numbers and are afraid to call. Some of them will get a person's phone number and don't know what the hell they want to do.

I know dealing with these kind of people are frustrating - especially if you're interested, but don't lose any sleep over these bums. There's nothing wrong with you, it's just that THIS person may be a player or a waffler.

Or, the timing wasn't right and there were no good vibes.

Sometimes people just aren't interested but they'll accept a phone number anyway just to be nice. I'm sure you've been in that position where you might get someone's number so that you don't have to turn the person down and hurt their feelings.

But, there could be any reason.

Maybe there was no connection. Maybe he or she was looking for "Love" or a spark and didn't feel it. Maybe he or she didn't feel you two were compatible. So what. Don't let it get you down. Go on with your life.

Sometimes we take an "encounter" or date WAY too seriously. Some of us "fall in love" WAY too fast.

Some people meet an attractive person who seems sweet, kind, and thoughtful. And, there seems to be a connection, and almost instantly - "it's love".

Half the time, it's only infatuation.

In reality, there's no connection, or chemistry, or we know so little about the person except that they have a good sense of humor. Most of the time, we've only known this person for a few minutes or a few hours. We don't even know him or her on a deeper level. Yet, we're head over heels in love.

Why???

Most of the time it's because there seems to be good vibes going on between us - like there's a true connection.

That first encounter is usually all jokes and laughs the first time we meet. Or, we're turned on by their looks or physical appearance. Or, he or she seems kind and thoughtful and treat us with respect so we think he or she is interested in getting to know us on a romantic level.

But, we don't know this person. We don't know he or she is really about. But, we're swooning over this person like we know all there is know about him or her. He or she could be a total asshole. Therefore, contain yourself.

Get to know this girl or guy and find out what he or she is REALLY about!

How many times have you met someone, fell in love, and later on the person changes and starts acting like a jerk?

It happens all the time.

He or she was probably a jerk all along and we just didn't see it. We only saw what we wanted to see. Or, perhaps, trickery.

What do we REALLY KNOW?

Not much.

So, why should you be so anxious about him or her calling?

I know you want to get to know this prospect better, but don't put your life on hold waiting for him or her to come running to you with open arms.

Move on with your life, keep doing what you do, and "see how things turn out".

I've sen guys and girls give out their phone numbers to people and check their phone every five minutes to see if the person they've given their number to has called. It's a pitiful sight to see.

Now, I'm not saying that you shouldn't put a little bit of effort into the courtship. If you have the guy or girl's phone number, then call. But, if he or she is not showing any interest or making an effort to call you, why sweat it?

Move on.

But, let me list a few reasons why a prospect might not call...

Now, whether he or she is a player, a waffler, or just didn't feel any chemistry is important.

Use your instincts to see who or what you're dealing with.

A man or woman who's genuine and wants to get to know you will find a way to call no matter how busy he or she is.

But, the other types won't call if...

- they met what they believe to be a better option
- they're only getting phone numbers for sport or to impress friends with how many phone numbers they can get
- they heard something negative about you - found out you have baggage or issues
- he or she is a waffler and changed his or her mind about dating or getting involved - prefers to be alone.
- he or she is a cheater and had to destroy or lose the phone number
- the waffler doubts himself or herself as far as offering a good time
- doesn't believe you two are really compatible or felt no chemistry
- he or she found out a friend is also interested in you and doesn't want to ruin that friendship
- he or she is just testing his or her skills to see if you would give him or her your phone number (want to know that they're still desirable)
- they're just flirting for fun (teasing)

And, sometimes phone numbers get lost or don't get saved.

And, there are various other reasons why people don't call when they get a phone number. Every man and woman has their own reasons for doing what they do.

But, again: I wouldn't lose any sleep over it.

Nine times out of ten, there's nothing wrong with you. Sometimes the timing just isn't right. Sometimes the "vibe" just isn't there. Sometimes people expect too much too soon. And, sometimes players and wafflers have a way of creeping into our lives.

Whatever. Move on.

If you see the bum again, act like you never met.

If they want your number again, play hard to get.

You ain't got time for these games and confusion.

Remember: There are plenty of fish in the sea, so why play in the pond with toads?

Tell'em to kiss your ass.

- loveqna