Enjoy The Moment - Accept The Bad And The Good

The Script - Before The Worst



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Just got home from a Thanksgiving Dinner hosted by a friend and I'm a little tipsy, but I was just thinking...

This year has been great (one of the best years of my life).

But, it hasn't been all "peaches and cream".

I've been stressed out, disappointed, confused, depressed, overworked, almost ran-down by crazy drivers on the road, dealt with irate customers, seen some of my friends fired, missed opportunities... I've suffered some Trials and Tribulations! And, I'm sure there will plenty more where all that came from!

But, if I didn't have the blessings of making new friends and finding that job and having the health and strength that I have to write or ride my bike, I'd probably have a lot more trials and tribulations than what I've suffered thus far. I'd be broke as hell, homeless, and wouldn't have a friend in the world.

I know I talk crap about bad relationships. And, I can't stand drama. But, sometimes, the drama that you suffer is nothing compared to all the good and all the blessings that one has by being in a relationship.

These past few weeks, I've talked to quite a few old couples (mostly the men) who've been with their wives for at least 20-something years or more (up to 48 years), and almost every time I've asked these guys how long they've been in their relationship, they've responded with: "Too long." But then, they laugh. Most of them have admitted that their relationship has had its ups and downs, but all-in-all, they felt they had done the right thing by getting married.

Now, I know some men (and women) don't see any benefits of being in a relationship because of all the B.S. they go through with a tyrant, or a nagging loudmouth, or a lazy bum, or a manipulating jerk, but it's because sometimes these scumbags weasel their way into people's lives or because we Bring them into our lives. We don't see the potential drama or the negative side of this person until it's too late and we've committed ourselves. BUT! if there is real compatibility - and a connection - love and good times and real benefits can be had. But, I see from observing many of these younger couples that it requires patience and sometimes biting your tongue to avoid turning a difference of opinion (or an angry woman) into all-out War.

Now, I'm not saying that anyone should be a "kept man" or "submissive woman", but you have to realize that there is gonna be drama at some point when you're interacting with other people. Hell, you're gonna have drama in your life as long as you live on this earth. There's just no way around it. No matter who you're involved with! Even your SoulMate is going to rub you the wrong way every now and then and get on your nerves - or, do something you don't like. But, some things aren't worth fighting for or getting into an argument over. Some things are best to accept as B.S. or foolishness and just move on.

Now, Abuse! I don't think ANYONE should tolerate. If you're being abused and severely mistreated, Hell yeah, I think you should dump the relationship and leave the abuser as quickly as possible. Or, if you're not compatible and this person constantly gets on your nerves, maybe you should leave. But, if you can make your relationship better by putting a little more effort into it or by comprising or by being a little more patient, then you should give a little to get the love and benefits that you deserve. In the long run, it's worth it to have someone by your side that cares for you and wants to see you advance and succeed in life.

This year, I've been to several parties hosted by co-workers. And, at each of these parties there have been older couples in their 30s, 40s, and 50s (some in their sixties), and almost all of them live (or seemingly live) good lives. They have nice homes, cars, toys, hobbies to keep them busy, gadgets, good friends, good vibes going on, they travel, and some even have devoted kids. These are just a few of the benefits they've acquired by being together. I'm sure they have their ups and downs and drama in their relationship, but by sticking together, it's teamwork that has gotten them where they are.

Some people can't get those simple benefits by being alone. They spend their whole lives going in circles or going downhill because they don't have the love and inspiration (or Motivation) they need to move up in life.

Hell, even these single folks who are doing well in life might as well commit to someone... They can't escape the drama either! They get played, dumped, and have to deal with arguments and drama in their dating and on-again-off-again relationships.

Why grow old without Love and companionship only to have the state or someone strip all that you own from you and put you some old folks home where you'll probably end up all alone and "captive" anyway?

At least enjoy all that you can out of life besides a dog or a few cats or flowers...

Those people ain't getting no real Benefits!

Some of these people don't even grow spiritually. You can look at them and see it in their eyes and faces. They don't care about anything else except staying alive and keeping the world out of their lives. But, they're lonely as hell. That's why they desperately cling to those pets.

Don't DO that to yourself!

Sometimes you've got to walk through the Valley of Shadows Of Death to get to the Land Of Milk and Honey!

Don't be afraid of the drama. Hate it but learn to deal with it and conquer it, because you're gonna have drama in your life whether you want it or not and whether you're single or not. So, accept it. Be prepared for it. Fight it.

Hardly anything good in life comes without hard work and pain, we all know this, so don't fool yourself. Be prepared to take the bad along with the good, and get all the Love and Benefits that you deserve.

- loveqna