Enjoy The Moment - Accept The Bad And The Good

The Script - Before The Worst



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Just got home from a Thanksgiving Dinner hosted by a friend and I'm a little tipsy, but I was just thinking...

This year has been great (one of the best years of my life).

But, it hasn't been all "peaches and cream".

I've been stressed out, disappointed, confused, depressed, overworked, almost ran-down by crazy drivers on the road, dealt with irate customers, seen some of my friends fired, missed opportunities... I've suffered some Trials and Tribulations! And, I'm sure there will plenty more where all that came from!

But, if I didn't have the blessings of making new friends and finding that job and having the health and strength that I have to write or ride my bike, I'd probably have a lot more trials and tribulations than what I've suffered thus far. I'd be broke as hell, homeless, and wouldn't have a friend in the world.

I know I talk crap about bad relationships. And, I can't stand drama. But, sometimes, the drama that you suffer is nothing compared to all the good and all the blessings that one has by being in a relationship.

These past few weeks, I've talked to quite a few old couples (mostly the men) who've been with their wives for at least 20-something years or more (up to 48 years), and almost every time I've asked these guys how long they've been in their relationship, they've responded with: "Too long." But then, they laugh. Most of them have admitted that their relationship has had its ups and downs, but all-in-all, they felt they had done the right thing by getting married.

Now, I know some men (and women) don't see any benefits of being in a relationship because of all the B.S. they go through with a tyrant, or a nagging loudmouth, or a lazy bum, or a manipulating jerk, but it's because sometimes these scumbags weasel their way into people's lives or because we Bring them into our lives. We don't see the potential drama or the negative side of this person until it's too late and we've committed ourselves. BUT! if there is real compatibility - and a connection - love and good times and real benefits can be had. But, I see from observing many of these younger couples that it requires patience and sometimes biting your tongue to avoid turning a difference of opinion (or an angry woman) into all-out War.

Now, I'm not saying that anyone should be a "kept man" or "submissive woman", but you have to realize that there is gonna be drama at some point when you're interacting with other people. Hell, you're gonna have drama in your life as long as you live on this earth. There's just no way around it. No matter who you're involved with! Even your SoulMate is going to rub you the wrong way every now and then and get on your nerves - or, do something you don't like. But, some things aren't worth fighting for or getting into an argument over. Some things are best to accept as B.S. or foolishness and just move on.

Now, Abuse! I don't think ANYONE should tolerate. If you're being abused and severely mistreated, Hell yeah, I think you should dump the relationship and leave the abuser as quickly as possible. Or, if you're not compatible and this person constantly gets on your nerves, maybe you should leave. But, if you can make your relationship better by putting a little more effort into it or by comprising or by being a little more patient, then you should give a little to get the love and benefits that you deserve. In the long run, it's worth it to have someone by your side that cares for you and wants to see you advance and succeed in life.

This year, I've been to several parties hosted by co-workers. And, at each of these parties there have been older couples in their 30s, 40s, and 50s (some in their sixties), and almost all of them live (or seemingly live) good lives. They have nice homes, cars, toys, hobbies to keep them busy, gadgets, good friends, good vibes going on, they travel, and some even have devoted kids. These are just a few of the benefits they've acquired by being together. I'm sure they have their ups and downs and drama in their relationship, but by sticking together, it's teamwork that has gotten them where they are.

Some people can't get those simple benefits by being alone. They spend their whole lives going in circles or going downhill because they don't have the love and inspiration (or Motivation) they need to move up in life.

Hell, even these single folks who are doing well in life might as well commit to someone... They can't escape the drama either! They get played, dumped, and have to deal with arguments and drama in their dating and on-again-off-again relationships.

Why grow old without Love and companionship only to have the state or someone strip all that you own from you and put you some old folks home where you'll probably end up all alone and "captive" anyway?

At least enjoy all that you can out of life besides a dog or a few cats or flowers...

Those people ain't getting no real Benefits!

Some of these people don't even grow spiritually. You can look at them and see it in their eyes and faces. They don't care about anything else except staying alive and keeping the world out of their lives. But, they're lonely as hell. That's why they desperately cling to those pets.

Don't DO that to yourself!

Sometimes you've got to walk through the Valley of Shadows Of Death to get to the Land Of Milk and Honey!

Don't be afraid of the drama. Hate it but learn to deal with it and conquer it, because you're gonna have drama in your life whether you want it or not and whether you're single or not. So, accept it. Be prepared for it. Fight it.

Hardly anything good in life comes without hard work and pain, we all know this, so don't fool yourself. Be prepared to take the bad along with the good, and get all the Love and Benefits that you deserve.

- loveqna

How To Improve (or Boost) Confidence - Tactics and Techniques - notes

Another Great Ric Flair Interview



Video provided by - merriman24

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Here's a good tip that you can use to improve your confidence and reduce shyness...

First, look deep inside yourself and realize what your confidence boosters are.

For some people, it's money. For others, it's their skills. Knowledge is a confidence booster also. Some people are confident and proud because of status or their achievements.

What makes you confident around certain people or in certain situations?

What makes you forget your problems?

What makes you forget your fears?

What makes you forget feeling bashful?

When you discover what your confidence boosters are, you have to apply them to other aspects of your "game" in order to improve your confidence and overall swagger. Especially if you want to improve your Life and success at getting what you want, need, and deserve.

If you see a hot guy or girl standing over there (waiting in a line, or in their locker, or looking at foodstuff at the grocery store, or waiting in line at a fast-food restaurant) what are you gonna do if you don't have the confidence to say something???

You ain't gonna do jack-shit except let that opportunity pass you by.

That "prize" is gonna walk right out of your life... And, you might not ever see him or her again...

This might be a good week to start up a conversation with that co-worker you've been checking out. But, you won't know if it's a good week or not if you don't have the balls to flirt a little or make SOME kind of move.

So, find your confidence boosters and that will help reduce your shyness.

Now, everybody is Not confident all the time. I've seen some brave men and strong women get nervous and sweat in some situations. I've seen them ask other people for their opinion or advice about what they should do and what actions they should take to succeed in a situation. So, everybody isn't confident all the time.

And, that's not always a bad thing. You can miss out on a good thing sometimes but you can also learn from the experience. And, that's what Life is all about: Learning and Growing...

Anyway,

There are some situations where we will lack confidence.

There are some situations where we are over-confident.

There are some situations that we fear.

Shyness, of course, is a form of fear.

Daydreaming instead of "Doing" (or taking action) can ruin your confidence. Some people love to daydream and imagine things that they COULD get if they only TOOK action instead of sitting around thinking about what action to take.

It's all about "making moves" and being good at what you do. And, the more you do something the better you get at it and the more confident you feel about IT and yourself.

You have to learn it, work it, and keep doing it until you move from a rookie to a veteran at it.

It doesn't matter if it's flipping burgers, playing professional football, approaching a man or woman, or interacting with others in a social environment. You have to learn how to do it and do it often to feel good about it.

But, if you learn what boosts your confidence and keep that feeling with you at all times that will also help you stay in a positive mood and radiate good vibes.

You'll be more eager to learn and to act.

You will be more comfortable.

You will improve your inner peace and peace of mind.

And, most of the time, you will feel good and enjoy the positive social situations that you find yourself in.

I'll update these notes later. I have to go out and find a hat and wig for a Halloween Costume Party.

I'll tell you about it when I update later!

- loveqna