Good Vibes - The Real Confidence Booster - notes

I'm gonna try to keep this short because I want to post other notes to help you just in case you decide to go out partying this weekend...

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Macy Gray - Beauty In The World



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In one of the previous posts (How To Improve (or Boost) Confidence - Tactics and Techniques - notes) I suggested that you should want to tap into your psyche and realize any activity, situation, object, or idea that might help you boost your confidence and to use it as a catalyst or a vehicle to ignite AND maintain your confidence in social situations.

If money gives you swagger, stack some cash.

If you feel better when your hair and nails are done, go to the beauty shop and tell them to fix you up.

If having a nice car makes you feel better about yourself, focus on treating yourself to that.

But, what if you're broke (poor) and can't afford to get your hair and nails done? Or, you can't afford the payments on a hot car???

What do you look to or WHERE do you look for confidence then?

One way is through achievement of your goals.

Think about it...

When you accomplish ANY goal, no matter how large or small, you feel better when you've gotten the thing taken care of and done with. You feel better because you don't have to worry, stress, or attend to it any more.

You might even feel proud about it and tell people all you had to go through to get the goal accomplished.

But, you really feel good because you now move on with your life and work on something new or chill. And, you have more time to do other things than to mess with THAT goal anymore. You're Free from what EVER it was you HAD to do.

Who likes running errands?

Who likes doing home repairs?

Who likes going waiting in lines?

Nobody!

But, once you get those chores done and out of the way, you feel a heck of a lot better because you feel free!

Your wife (or husband) is happy. You don't have to fight traffic or waste your time stopping by the store when you could be spending valuable time working on your golf swing.

You now have your life back and you can relax and do whatever you like because you don't have to plan or work and re-work your schedule to attend to those goals.

Imagine that feeling for a moment...

Being free.

You don't owe anyone anything.

You're not obligated to anyone to do anything.

There's no place you have to be at a certain time.

No deadlines.

You can go wherever you want to go and come and go as you please.

No questions asked.

Imagine having that much freedom when you go out and socialize...

You can stay as long as you like and have as much fun as you want to have.

Now, let's dig a little bit deeper.

Let's imagine that you don't owe anyone anything.

You're not obligated to anyone for anything.

You don't need anything from anyone.

You don't have to impress anyone.

Again, you're free.

Your only goals are to follow your own rules, do what you like, and to have a good time.

You can strike up a conversation with whomever you want and talk about whatever you like.

The idea is to be free and to enjoy life.

It's all about having a good time no matter what material possessions you have or don't have.

It's all about having fun and enjoying life no matter how you look or how much money you've got.

People criticize and judge, but everybody is not judging You.

And, if they are, so what? Who cares???

You're your own Man or Woman.

You know what you want and you that eventually you will get it. And, deep down, you know HOW to get it. Nothing can stop you except You. And, because you know what you're about; and you know your heart, and what you have to offer to the World; Now is the time to relax, let your hair down, and have fun.

Keep that in mind.

Live Free and Enjoy Your Life.

- loveqna

How To Improve (or Boost) Confidence - Tactics and Techniques - notes

Another Great Ric Flair Interview



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Here's a good tip that you can use to improve your confidence and reduce shyness...

First, look deep inside yourself and realize what your confidence boosters are.

For some people, it's money. For others, it's their skills. Knowledge is a confidence booster also. Some people are confident and proud because of status or their achievements.

What makes you confident around certain people or in certain situations?

What makes you forget your problems?

What makes you forget your fears?

What makes you forget feeling bashful?

When you discover what your confidence boosters are, you have to apply them to other aspects of your "game" in order to improve your confidence and overall swagger. Especially if you want to improve your Life and success at getting what you want, need, and deserve.

If you see a hot guy or girl standing over there (waiting in a line, or in their locker, or looking at foodstuff at the grocery store, or waiting in line at a fast-food restaurant) what are you gonna do if you don't have the confidence to say something???

You ain't gonna do jack-shit except let that opportunity pass you by.

That "prize" is gonna walk right out of your life... And, you might not ever see him or her again...

This might be a good week to start up a conversation with that co-worker you've been checking out. But, you won't know if it's a good week or not if you don't have the balls to flirt a little or make SOME kind of move.

So, find your confidence boosters and that will help reduce your shyness.

Now, everybody is Not confident all the time. I've seen some brave men and strong women get nervous and sweat in some situations. I've seen them ask other people for their opinion or advice about what they should do and what actions they should take to succeed in a situation. So, everybody isn't confident all the time.

And, that's not always a bad thing. You can miss out on a good thing sometimes but you can also learn from the experience. And, that's what Life is all about: Learning and Growing...

Anyway,

There are some situations where we will lack confidence.

There are some situations where we are over-confident.

There are some situations that we fear.

Shyness, of course, is a form of fear.

Daydreaming instead of "Doing" (or taking action) can ruin your confidence. Some people love to daydream and imagine things that they COULD get if they only TOOK action instead of sitting around thinking about what action to take.

It's all about "making moves" and being good at what you do. And, the more you do something the better you get at it and the more confident you feel about IT and yourself.

You have to learn it, work it, and keep doing it until you move from a rookie to a veteran at it.

It doesn't matter if it's flipping burgers, playing professional football, approaching a man or woman, or interacting with others in a social environment. You have to learn how to do it and do it often to feel good about it.

But, if you learn what boosts your confidence and keep that feeling with you at all times that will also help you stay in a positive mood and radiate good vibes.

You'll be more eager to learn and to act.

You will be more comfortable.

You will improve your inner peace and peace of mind.

And, most of the time, you will feel good and enjoy the positive social situations that you find yourself in.

I'll update these notes later. I have to go out and find a hat and wig for a Halloween Costume Party.

I'll tell you about it when I update later!

- loveqna