We all have insecurities about one thing or another, so it would be wrong for me to say their insecurities aren't valid. And, being a guy, it would be completely ignorant of me to claim that they shouldn't be insecure about things as a woman that I will never experience and that I don't even have a clue about.
But, I believe that women who are worried about getting back onto the dating scene because of their looks, age, or status, COULD take notes from some of the more adventurous women out there who are meeting and dating quality prospects left and right.
These women who are easily able to get dates and meet quality men aren't hiding themselves or shuffling along with their shoulders slumped and their heads hanging low; feeling like their lives suck.
These ladies are out having fun and enjoying their lives!
Even with a house full of rugrats, these women are meeting people and going out on dates.
Even after a separation, break-up, or divorce, these women have been able to meet better and more compatible partners. You can too!
Your 30th birthday is just a step to becoming wiser not "over the hill". Hell, there are 40 and 50 year-old women out there who are sexy as hell and STILL Hot!
I see guys checkin' those babes out and flirting with them all time. Hell, I flirt with'em too!
Yeah, you may have put on a little weight, acquired a few wrinkles, and feel out of sync with the "new" social circles, but there's no doubt in my mind that you are desirable and attractive. SOMEONE is checking you out.
Half the time, women just aren't aware of guys that have taken an interest in them.
When you hear guys whistling or tootin' their car horns, that ought to tell you something. You still got it! You just need to know how to work it!
You may not be as "fresh" as you once were, but you're fresh to those who have never met you AND to those who appreciate more mature women. You just need to step out and make some friendly connections.
Many women have to remember one important fact: Just as you have insecurity issues, there are many men with insecurity issues as well. And, they are just as nervous about dating and being accepted as you are - even more so.
That's one of the main reasons why good prospects aren't approaching you. It's because they're shy and afraid of rejection. Another reason is because many men out here don't want to be accused of "harassment". It's not always because the woman is unattractive or because she has kids. Hell, some of these rascals out here are "claim-jumpers" and will make a move on another man's babymama in a heartbeat. Quite a few of them don't have any problems dating a woman with kids.
Many of these Cougars out here can attest to that. They have kids and they ain't having any problems attracting YOUNG men or MATURE men.
These M.I.L.Fs out here have "no shame in their game" either! Some of these guys are approaching these MILFs for one-night stands and are ending up falling in love! Damn!
It's a fact that many men prefer older women. Why? The bottom line is this:
Some of these old broads are just as attractive as these younger women. Older women have a sophisticated swagger and sex-appeal that 95% of these young girls can't match. Most of those young fillies won't have that kind of style and swagger UNTIL they reach the age of 30 or so.
And, forget the fact that some of these women are hotter than their daughters, nieces, and younger friends! Most of these older women are attractive because of various intangible qualities. Qualities that give them Grace and Feminine Power!
- they know what they want
- they handle their business
- they're not loud, wild, and immature
- they're confident
- they're hardworking and focused
- they're more stable
- they don't allow themselves to be pushed around or screwed over by con-artists
- they don't base their decisions on their friends' preferences
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Men (especially younger men) are smitten by the grace and sophistication of an older woman. Initially, they have more respect for a woman with those qualities. * If they are compatible, the man will try his best to hang on to that chick for life.
Some of those women have enough charm and wit to seduce almost any guy without even saying a word! Just a simple look; A soft touch; A little bit of romantic banter and giggling; and, he's ready to run away from home and make that sultry siren his queen.
Not to mention that many mature women have an air of mystery about them - which attracts men, because men want to know what those "mysterious women" are REALLY about.
Some younger women have these qualities too. But, if you're an older woman (a mature woman) struggling with the fear of getting back out into the dating scene, you need to realize your advantages and the feminine powers that you possess. Don't let your insecurities eat you alive and keep you from finding a good high quality mate (or date).
I could go on, but I'm saving the rest of this list for "Why Young Men Are Attracted To Older Women".
Now, I'm not saying that all men - or even most men - prefer older women. We all know that men of all ages love these young fresh cutie-pies. But, men of all ages love fine sophisticated Divas too.
The main thing you have to do is get your confidence up. And, you do that by taking action.
Get out there. Make yourself available. Network.
If you're not the type of person to approach a prospect for a date, then meet him through your contacts - friends, family, co-workers, etc. Remember, it's just a date. You don't have to commit yourself. Ask some of your girls if they know some eligible bachelors that have their head on straight and worth your time.
And, when you're looking good, cute, and foxy when you go out, be open to conversation. Don't always judge a man by his looks. Pay attention to his behavior and how he carries himself. Just because he's dressed like a bum doesn't mean he's a slob with no goals, integrity, or ambition. Talk to him and use your feminine instincts to get an idea of what he's really about.
Find a way to strike up a conversation to get him talking. Keep it casual. Men are hunters (as the saying goes), and if he's not too shy or involved, he'll do all the talking once you get the conversation started. Hell, he'll be more than happy that you're even Breathing in the direction of his personal space.
Another way to get a guy's attention is to be a woman in distress. How many times has this tactic worked for women??? This tactic is so famous, it's repeated in movies and books over and over again. And, you don't have be stranded on the side of road for this to work. You can ask for help or advice with anything and a man's "handy-man" instincts will kick-in quick as lightning. And, even if he can't help you with that issue at that time, you can still strike up a conversation about the issue the next time you meet. You can use this tactic at parties, work, social gatherings, wherever.
If you know the guy well, offer him a job to do some repair work around your house. How do you think these rich cougars land some of these young studs??? They hire them for housework!
You can also meet guys at a local college. Take a short course in something fun or creative. Take a course in carpentry, creative writing, how to make apps, landscaping, whatever.
Do some volunteer work. Join a gym. Go to social events.
Work in a high traffic retail store for a season. I know that's extreme, but you can definitely meet some guys that way.
Home Improvement stores and shops are always full of handy-men. Keep your eyes open the next time you're in a Home Depot or Lowes (or some place similar).
You can also meet some ambitious guys at these multi-level marketing seminars.... I know that stooping pretty low to find a date, but some of those all-day suckers probably feel the same way you do about MLM. They just HAD to be there because their brother, cousin, co-worker, or friend, just kept hounding them and hounding them until they finally just said "what the hell, I'll go." So, don't sleep on Multi-Level-Marketing. There are some single guys in there also.
(Just for the record, I have nothing against MLM. I believe MLM works if the company has products or services with value that can be measured.)
Match.com
A lot of men have dating profiles on the Net. Try your search there. Just be careful.
It's amazing how many beautiful single older women there are on the Net looking for dates and partners.
I think what makes finding a good partner so difficult for a lot of women (and men) is pickiness.
Too damn picky.
Some of those women are past middle-age and they are still living off the HOPE of finding some fantasy guy they conjured up in their head when they were 14. What the hell... Stop being so picky and just go out on a date to have fun. You don't have to commit yourself to the guy. Just get out of the house and live a little.
Keep it casual. If the first date leads to a second date or a romance, then fine. If not, at least you're out enjoying life instead of sitting around the house getting old and rusty as time passes by.
Have fun. Go to new places. Experience new things. Hell, that's what it's all about.
- loveqna
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