8 Reasons Why The Love Of Your Life Won't Marry You

Have you ever been surprised by someone who claims to love you but when it comes to showing you that love, you can't get them to put a ring on your finger? What are they really after? Are they trying to "Get the milk for free? And play you out?"

If you've ever wanted to marry someone or have a lover and can't seem to get him or her to the alter, here are one of the reasons why...

* afraid the marriage won't work

* afraid of being controlled, tied down, or losing their freedom

* afraid of losing their possessions, assets, or money

* don't want to struggle - feels he or she needs more money or a higher income

* still looking for Mr. or Ms. Right - saving himself or herself for a soulmate

* afraid things will go downhill once he or she is married

* afraid things will get worse and he or she will be stuck

* doesn't believe you have to be married to be together

Some people are afraid of the unknown. They're afraid of the future. They're afraid of being in a sh*tty situation and trapped in it. I'm afraid myself. And, I plan on holding out for as long as possible.

- loveqna

Why Guys Continue To Pursue A Girl (Woman) Even After She Rejects Them

I remember a time when I really wanted to date this chick (only because she was cute and had a BIG LUSCIOUS PERFECT BOOTY) I couldn't keep my eyes off of it! And no matter what I said or promised, she continued to reject me. i couldn't even get a date with this girl. I wasn't a borderline stalker or anything. She was part of our little clique and I would only approach her when we were hanging out or over at one of our friend's house at a party or cook-out or something. Every once and a while we talked on the phone - mostly "business".

We'd always hug when we saw each other or talk or dance if we were at a club or whatever. She was somewhat of a tease. And, on the dancefloor would be the only time I could get a chance to rub on that phat booty - but, I enjoyed it.

I don't know why she kept turning me down, but I guess I kept pursuing because I always felt there was a chance of us "hooking up" - as a couple. But, I didn't really want a relationship. She was cute but I just liked her butt. It was sexy. And, she had a very seductive walk. That girl KNEW how to work it! Whenever I saw her move across a room, I said, "Damn!"

I'm glad she did reject me though - all that ass - I know I wouldn't have been able to handle it.

But, I sure as heck wouldn't have felt bad about trying!

- loveqna

VIDEO - You Don't Satisfy Me!

Relationship Drama from the Jerry Springer show. Ladies, please pay attention. Here's a guy that has fantasies and fetishes that he wanted to enjoy with his wife, but since he couldn't get them with her, he turned to another woman. I know many women will say there's no excuse for cheating, but some men really do struggle to resist their addictions and most often, the addiction (or fetish) will win.



Video provided by - JerrySpringerShow1

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Pick Up Lines And How To Meet And Greet

I'm not a dating expert, BUT I have had some success at meeting and dating so, what I'm about to show you is from experience. As an added bonus, I'll tell you about the successes of other guys and gals I've witnessed approach and meet potential mates. These people have had a lot of success with dates and a few of them have even wound up married...

Here are the basics:

It's all in your personality and style. You have to care about yourself. You have to have fun and enjoy life. When guys and gals see you having fun and enjoying life, it's attractive. It shows you have confidence and that you love Life. Work out, socialize - a lot, make sure your hair looks good, be self sufficient to get your respect, make sure the clothes you wear look good on you, and don't be afraid to flirt, joke, and compliment. Speak and say "hello" to everyone you meet. Do this and you won't need pick-up lines and "tricks".

Now, what I'm about to tell you happens all the time. You've probably seen it with your own two eyes and not noticed it or laughed it off as a joke, but it has worked for others and it can work for you - if you have the confidence.

First, let me state the obvious: If you want to attract MORE romantic prospects to you, it helps to look attractive, neat, and have some sort of style. But, I'm sure you've seen some of the raggediest looking guys and girls - even thugs or thug wannabees with their pants hanging to the ground - with some attractive mates. You've probably witnessed some fine-looking men with some real skanks or know some who have cheated on their beautiful girlfriends with a female that was a "hot mess" and wondered "why would he cheat on his girlfriend for someone like that?" Sometimes, it's not about how good or sexy you look. I've seen guys at a night club wrinkled from head to toe and still have a bunch of fine babes surrounding them - dancing and having a ball! Seriously. But, you will have a BETTER CHANCE if you are neat and well-groomed.

Personality matters a lot. You need confidence in yourself. You need to be somewhat outgoing or at least "open" and conversational to attract MORE prospects. Like I said before: If you're attractive, you won't have to do much talking - most prospects will approach you. But let's put the shoe on the other foot and place you in the position of having to make the first move and approach them.

A lot of people will tell you cheesy pick-up lines don't work. But... depending on the situation and your delivery or pitch, anything works. Some pick-up lines are so silly that you can use them as jokes to break the ice. If your delivery is right, the prospect knows you're being funny and may laugh. And, you can move on from there with small-talk.

A lot of people will tell you hollering out of the window of a moving car won't work, but a lot of guys know that this is B.S. and that it DOES work. That's why a lot of them still do it! Some women WILL respond. Some will tell you to pull over for a conversation. Some will stop and get your phone number or give you their's. It all depends on the girl and her perception of you (and sometimes, if she likes what you're driving or riding in). There are times when it may be a group of girls in a car and you can "holla" and they'll stop so that the one girl who's interested can talk to you.

Now, I'm not suggesting that you only use pick-up lines to get a potential date's attention or cruise around town looking for girls or guys walking the streets, I'm just saying, you don't have to be nervous or think TOO hard about how to meet people to date. Just get out, relax, and enjoy yourself. Enjoy your surroundings, enjoy the moment, or just enjoy your day. Find ways to enjoy life and have a good time. When you're in the zone, and feeling good about life and yourself, it makes everything a lot easier - especially talking, socializing, and connecting with other people.

You've heard it before...

IT'S ALL A NUMBER'S GAME - The more people you approach, the better your chances of meeting someone new. And, someone you like.

To men: I know a few guys I can tell you right off the bat who have the same pick-up line when it comes to meeting women and these guys meet and date a LOT of women regularly. This one guy ALWAYS says, "Hello Gorgeous. Do you have a man?" And depending on what the response was, he had a few other lines ready so that he could keep some dialogue going. And a good percentage of the time, he would end up with the girl's phone number and/or engage her in conversation that led to a date. Another one of these guys uses this line: "Oh you're so pretty. You almost look as good as me." And women laugh at this crap! I'M SERIOUS! I used to get sick of hearing it, but it always seems to work to break the ice. Another guy used to use ask women, "Hey Ma, where's your man at?" If they said "At home". Then, he would say "Well, can I be a friend?" If they kept walking, he would say, "Hold up. Let me ask you something." And often, they would stop.

Now, there's nothing magical about those pick-up lines, but they work. I've seen them in action. And these guys have used them on hoodrats, administrative assistants, school teachers, customer service reps, nurses, managers, all types of women. And, in different types of situations. And, if those dry-ass lines will work for those types of women, they'll work with almost anybody. It all depends on your self-confidence and delivery. Romantic banter and pick-up lines work when you realize the name of the game is to show that you are not uptight and can have fun.

For women, the game of romance favors you greatly since men are supposed to be the hunters and women are supposed to be the treasure that men seek to obtain. But, Women can use cheesy pick-up lines or romantic banter too. Just have fun. But most women are usually more tactful and get the information (the 411) on potential prospects upfront before making a move. Usually, they know these guys from work, school, church, some group or organization they belong to, or through a friend. They may ask him if he goes out on dates or they'll find out first if he's married or seeing someone. Some women WILL flirt and/or give the man compliments in hopes that he will open up and respond to their advances. Some will make small-talk and offer their help and/or favors in hopes that he will realize that they like him and that it's okay for him to make a move. Any one of these feminine tactics can get a woman a date, but she must remember that most men love eye-candy and that she has to have a little bit of style and cuteness along with a confident personality to attract most of her desired prospects.

Keep this in mind: Approaching a prospect for romance or a date is just like approaching a customer to win a sale. BUT... DON'T BE AN AGGRESSIVE SALESMAN. Don't think of it as selling. Keep it casual. The key is to show that you are TRULY interested. Ask a question. Ask for an opinion. Open with an observation. Enjoy the moment.

A lot of people don't realize it but we all automatically size-up and judge the prospect to get an idea of how to break the ice and start up a conversation. You HAVE to know how to do it. And, it shouldn't require a lot of thought with hidden agendas. The prospect probably already suspects why you're talking to them (out of the blue) anyway. Just be cool, confident, and relevant to the situation. Don't worry about losing the sale or failing to "close the deal". There are many opportunities for love - and dates.

And, I'll tell you something else people don't think about: Before you go out, think of yourself as "the product". What are your features and benefits? A great personality, wit, good conversation, classy, you like to have fun and try new things... This is what you have to feel confident about in yourself when you meet new people. This is what you have to offer to a potential mate or date! And, if you have all the little extras that they want and appreciate, then consider those to be bonus features. But you should feel great that you can make others feel at ease and that you know how to show them a good time - or keep them entertained with deeper conversations. Don't look at the negatives. Don't worry about your size, height, looks, what you're wearing, or how much money you have. They may not even matter to the person. They may only matter to you. Think About It! You really don't know what matters to the person or what their interests are until you get to know him or her AND until he or she gets to know You.

I look at this way: If you expect rejection, you're probably going to be rejected, because weakness and lameness will show all over your face and in your posture and style. It'll look like you have no enthusiasm for life. You'll look unsure of yourself. You might even look like some boring shy guy or shy girl. And there's nothing "cute" about it. Some people will look over this as shyness but most people won't.

I strongly advise anyone who has a hard time meeting people, to strive to have fun, enjoy life, and improve their conversation skills by interacting and engaging in conversations with more people more often. Talk to people you feel comfortable with. Listen to how people talk and listen to what they talk about. Listen to their responses and how they start up a conversation. Be aware of their "technique" and body language.

If you have NO IDEA of how to spark up a conversation or if it makes you extremely nervous (even though you've tried "being yourself"), then PLAN and PREPARE a couple of ice-breakers that you can use over and over again in almost any situation.

Keep it simple. Don't try to be fancy or use some line you've heard in a movie unless it's simple and realistic. Listen to other people and snag one or two GREETINGS that you can use to get in the habit of being social with the people you want to socialize with.

If you're okay with simple greetings then, listen for ice-breakers. And learn more of them - AND USE THEM. Practice using them all the time and on everyone! Friends, family, co-workers, children, customers, clerks, and strangers. And enjoy your day no matter what response you get. Remember: It's just practice.

Here's what works...

Be confident, aware of what's going, and truly interested and you can get a person's attention with small-talk if you're in the same room or space - shopping, waiting, or watching TV, or whatever. Just stay alert and READY to comment or ask a question about what's going on while you're there.

Don't put too much pressure on yourself to be "exciting", "suave", or "perfect". This will only make you more nervous. Hell, if you have THINK about how you should feel, it's fake. And, ain't no use in faking the funk! Most people can see it. Some ovem' can SMELL it. If your day is going great and you feel good about it, that's enough. That's all you need. Feel that goodness in the pit of your stomach... Put a smile on your face - sly or otherwise. Walk Tall. And, have a good time.

If you're passing them on the street or it's a chance meeting, most of time you have to be quick and just go for it. Here are a few quick lines:

"Excuse me, I'd love to talk to you sometime. Can I give you my number?"

"Hello. My name is ---. I know you're probably have somewhere to be right now. So, let me give you my number so that we can talk later."

"Excuse me, I usually don't approach the average guy/girl like this, but you just stood out and I had to come over and say something. Do you mind if I give you my number/email so that we can have a conversation later?"

"Hello. I like your ---. Where did you get it/them?"

"Do you mind if I treat you to lunch?" (if you can afford it, this works)

* If you know where the person works, you can send flowers - even if it's a man, he'll appreciate it - but you'd better be cute or have some sex-appeal.

Those are a few conservative lines to use if you have to say something in passing. I've heard (and used) crazier lines than this that have worked, BUT... they have all been spontaneous and always playful.

So, engage in small-talk first, because it helps to break the ice. Small-talk topics include things like:

* news
* what's on sale and where
* bad service
* problems on the job
* last night's most popular TV show
* the weather
* traffic and accidents
* the economy or high prices
* food, cooking, and restaurants
* waiting in lines
* new products like cellphones, computers, games, TVs
* new movies or music or music artists
* celebrity gossip (or political scandal but not necessarily Politics)
* travel and vacation spots

Think general topics that everyone can relate to but not too personal. And think NEWS. Get their attention by sharing something they probably don't know or something they can agree with you on - or offer something fun or information they can use.

Some common openers are:

"Did you hear about..."
"Have you seen..."
"That's some good stuff." (whatever they're eating, using, or looking at)
"Did you see ---- on TV last night?"
"I like your shoes (hair, outfit, ring, glasses)."
"Are you going to the ----?"
"I want to give you an invitation. I'm having a party/event at ----- tonight."
"I can't believe what happened to --- yesterday."
"Did you know..."
"I can't believe these prices."
"Are you looking for ---s too?
"This is a great place to get/buy ----."
"How long have you been working at ----?" (if they are wearing something that tells where they work or if they are at the place working)
"Are you going to the ----?"
"Are you going to (the Panthers Game) tonight?"
"I have tickets to the ---- but no date. Would like to be my date tonight?" (this worked out very well for me one day with a banker)
"Have you tried ----. You should try the -----. It's great. It has/is..."
"This is the worst way to spend your afternoon/a good day."
"Are you a (nurse)?"
"Today must be my lucky day. I went everywhere trying to find ---- and none of the stores had it."

There are millions of openers you can use.

Then learn how to move from small-talk to social interest conversations by telling a little more about your minor personal experiences with the subject and/or asking questions about the other person's minor personal experiences with the subject.

And don't forget to work on your responses!

Some of your responses may lead you to tell a short personal story to emphasize your point, or to get the prospect curious, or to make the prospect laugh. Use this moment to trade experiences. Now is the time you want to comment and ask questions and let them comment and ask questions. Be prepared and don't ramble on and on.

Remember! You're still talking about GENERAL TOPICS. You've just moved a little deeper into them.

* I've tried...
* My experience with that is...
* I used to have...
* I've been there.
* I have a friend who experienced that...
* Just the other day, I saw...
* I used to live there.
* I've been there before. Isn't that near...
* I couldn't believe what I heard about...
* Have you tried... What did you think about it?
* Have you ever been to... How did you like it?
* I used to go to --- all the time with my --- back when...
* What do you think of...
* What do you think is the best way to...
* The best thing to get rid of that is...
* How do you prepare your (chicken)?
* I had some --- yesterday.
* Let me tell you what I got from ----s yesterday.

There are millions of ways to get personal without getting too personal. At this point, you're still making small talk but you will learn a little more about the person and be able to work your way to personal preferences, find out what interests you have in common, and set up a date for future conversation.

After you've made a connection, and you're talking on the phone, the main thing to realize is that you must get to know the person and develop a deeper connection. At this stage, it's all about having fun, sharing history, and enjoying each other's company. Share funny experiences and stories about each other's day and past.

Other important topics include:

* Beliefs
* Rules and Philosophies for living and why
* Ambitions
* Future Plans and Goals
* Hopes and Dreams
* Hobbies and Interests
* Where you most want to live and why
* Favorite Things
* Past Relationships and what you've learned
* Family Matters

Try to stay on positive topics. Don't focus on all the drama you're dealing with or constantly criticize others. Some of the girls I've talked to (my girlfriend included) will often speak negative or criticize almost everybody - including people they don't even know. It's like they have a list of people to "hate on". This can be a turn-off because it gives the impression that you're arrogant, a possible hypocrite, negative, pessimistic, or angry at the world.

Also, stay away from friendship and/or family drama. When you start to have issues with friends or family members, the new person in your life will want to defend you but it may possibly put him or her at odds with people he or she doesn't know simply because he or she wants to protect you. On the other hand, he or she may see you as having drama and baggage that he or she wishes to avoid. But, if your life is in turmoil, you may want to wait anyway.

Focus on being positive and keep your confidence intact and you will be at ease commenting on current events and the people, places, ideas, and things you see out in public. Watching some good humor on TV or going to a movie or comedy show works well too. Focus on topics that you enjoy talking about or CAN talk about in a positive or humorous light.

What if the connection is "slow" or you're having a hard time getting the date to open up? Some of the things I've said and have had said to me by women would probably shock you, so I won't post them here. But, I will say that this is the time for you to "open up" if you want him or her to open up. Speak your mind. Be bold. Don't beat around the bush with your comments, news, revelations, or opinions. Ask straightforward questions.

Now, is the time to talk about stuff that you probably didn't get to talk about on the first date. Or, stuff that you SHOULDN'T talk about on the first date. And, it doesn't have to be anything too sexy or risque... but, here are a few examples:

* An embarrassing moment
* A ticket you recently got
* A situation that was funny but scary as hell
* Something that happened to you that was funny later but had you mad at the time
* What your horoscope said for today
* Something your horoscope said about you "meeting someone new" or "new love"
* Something your Mom or Dad made you do when you were younger that you hated
* Missing high school
* How often you work out
* Your diet
* Your New Years Resolution or what you have planned for an upcoming holiday
* What you look for in a man or woman
* What turns you on
* How many people you've dated
* What attracted you to the person you're talking to
* How you felt when you two first met
* Does size really matter (tallywacker, booty, boobs, hands, or feet)
* Plastic boobs versus natural boobs
* Long hair versus short hair
* Make-up versus no make-up
* Tall versus short
* Is he or she high maintenance or low maintenance
* What is his or her best quality
* Has he or she ever been cheated on or has he or she ever cheated
* What's his or her style
* Has he or she ever been deeply depressed
* The worst date he or she has ever been on
* The last time he or she was in a relationship

And don't just ask, ask, ask. Be open. Just have some class about yourself. And above all, have FUN.

There are thousands of things you could dive into that will move you to a deeper conversation and possibly a connection if you work your way to it by being open, honest, and showing genuine interest.

Women can always feed a man's ego and tell him how she swooned when she first laid eyes on him, but the conversation might stay only on romance. Or, the guy might think the woman is a sex-kitten and not looking for anything serious. Only a quick romp in the sack.

Some people will connect right away and stay on the phone for hours and hours. I can't count the number of times I've started out laughing and talking on the phone nine o'clock at night and didn't get off until daylight - or ended up over at the girl's house. It was never planned. We just felt comfortable enough with each other that I went if they wanted me to come. That's something you can't explain. I don't think it's love. Maybe just a deep infatuation. Some people will just hit it off like that. BUT...

Please don't get on the phone begging or giving the impression that you're desperate or needy or clingy. Go out and have fun so that you'll have something to talk about when you see or talk to the person again.

The main thing is: Learn to laugh and play and that will build a stronger bond and usually move things beyond the friendship stage. It really helps if you can "entertain" and engage the person you're talking to. Make them feel comfortable.

If you really want to meet a new love and you're having a hard time with your conversation, learn more about conversation skills and search "HOW TO PICK-UP" on the Web. Most of this information is for men, but women can use some of the same tactics.

It may take a while, but all you really need is practice and exposure with more people to develop confidence. Get that, and you'll get the dates and possibly the love of your life.

2 Weeks In Lust

I walked to the store the other day to steal a smoke and to purchase some energy drinks. On my way, I decided to stop in at this fast food joint and grab a burger and fries. When I got in line, I saw this foxy chick standing at the counter placing her order. I admired her hair for a second or two. It looked nice and shiny like she had just came from the beauty shop. I didn't want to ogle the girl and look at her booty although I could see from her tight jeans that she was slim but thick in all the right places.

Anyway, her food came and she took a seat at one of tables.

This restaurant I went to is always on point so it didn't take long for me to get my meal and off I went. The place was basically desolate so I grabbed a booth near a window so that I see what was going on outside.

The Fox had taken a seat on the other side of the restaurant near a wall and watched the news on TV. But, we could still see each other very clearly. This made me very uncomfortable.

Have you ever been somewhere and felt someone was staring at you? It makes you uneasy, like: what are they looking at? You, or something else?

I didn't look directly at her but I did catch her a couple of times looking at me in my peripheral vision.

After a few minutes, she was done, thanked the girl behind the counter and left. I had also finished my meal and continued on my journey to the convenient store in hopes of getting a good deal on a couple of energy drinks. My destination was next door. I went in and there was the Fox standing at the counter puchasing some gum and some other knick-knacks. She looked into my face and said, "Don't I know you?"

Now, let me tell you what happened...

I didn't realize it at first but, yes, I had met this girl before at a night club a few years ago. I guess it was a girl's night out and she was with a friend. Anyway, we danced and chatted a little bit, I got her phone number, and a few days later, I ended up over at her crib. It was cool. We laughed, talked, and had a romantic interlude, and before I knew it I dozed on off to sleep. I usually don't spend the night at a stranger's house (for safety reasons) but the previous days, we talked on the phone for hours and hours and got to know each other really well, so I felt comfortable with her. Plus, we both had a few drinks and were kind of tipsy. Anyway, we had a good time. But, when I woke up...

Man, there were kids running around all over everywhere! Three or four of them! I said, "Damn!" What the Hell???

It was like a kiddie-bomb had went off! I said: Where the hell did all of these kids come from??? She never mentioned she had kids! And I guess I was so in lust that I forgot to ask! Anyway...

Me and this chick had fell asleep on the couch, so we were exposed except for a sheet that hid our nakedness. I had my shirt and pants and shoes off - laying somewhere on the floor and those "bay-bay chaps" were just having a ball like I wasn't even there!

I didn't know what to think. All the kids looked like her, so I couldn't tell if they had different daddy's or the same daddy or what. But, I DID know they were used to her bringing different guys over because they didn't acknowledge me, ask questions, or approach me or anything. I kind of felt bad for those kids, but I wasn't about to be their "uncle" or their "daddy", so I got the hell out of there!

I said to myself: Man, ain't no telling how many dudes have done been up in this crib.

AND THIS GIRL WAS FINE! Well, she wasn't THAT fine, but she WAS sexy - and cute.

Now, to be honest, I DID go back a couple of more times, but the girl has it going on in the bedroom. And her body doesn't look like she has had any kids - no stretchmarks, bulges, etc. She was hot, so can you blame me?

Anyway, I think she knew who I was - or maybe not (since she's probably been with a lot of guys) - but I pretended that I didn't recognize her. It was rude, but didn't want to be tempted. There's nothing that would come of it anyway except for memories of two great weeks of sex and good conversation - things we can't really talk about now since I AM involved. And who knows, maybe she is too.

I still think about that chick sometimes - even before I saw her the store the other day.

- loveqna

VIDEO - That's Bad - Hee Haw

I was tickled to death when I discovered this little gem while on YouTube searching for... Hell, I forgot what I was searching for, but anyway, it's funny. I love it. Some of you guys might enjoy it too. It's a skit from an old Hillbilly TV show called "Hee Haw". They have other episodes and music online also. Check'em out.



Video provided by - Almosen

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Why Single Women Rarely Get Approached By Good Men

There are a lot of good women out there looking for love (or at least a date), but they rarely get approached by men who are truly interested in them - if they get approached at all. Let me tell you why this is happening and why all these good women - and good-looking women - don't get the opportunities for love and romance that some other women get...

I'm going to try to make this as simple as possible because for too long now, women have been kept in the dark about this, but I'm going to reveal a few possible reasons why men don't approach certain women.

It's true that some women are intimidating because of their beauty or sex-appeal. From the guy's perspective, the woman may look like she could be a supermodel. Or, she may be dressed so sexy that he's shocked and flabberghasted by her sex-appeal. After just one look at that woman, he might immediately believe that he wouldn't stand a chance of getting to know her. And even if she would give him a chance, chances are he would hardly know what to say because he would be too afraid of coming on too strong or too afraid of boring the woman to death. He'd make small-talk for hours, days, weeks, or months, before he'd even offer his number or ask her if they could go out for coffee or whatever.

Or, he might look at her and immediately assume that she only dates certain types of guys like: pretty boys, bad boys, big boys, or men with a lot of money.

Then, there are some women who are intimidating because of their demeanor or attitude. These "strong women" are just unapproachable. They may want a good conversation or date with a gentleman but their demeanor says otherwise. These women want to display confidence and grace, but they really appear to be arrogant, anti-social, and grumpy as hell. These women might have everything a good man wants - beauty, brains, ambition, confidence, and goals, but if her facial expressions and body language says, "don't invade my space" or "don't F with me", then she is not going to be sought after by too many men and possibly miss out on the "high quality man" she seeks. They're gorgeous, but who needs the drama?

Then there's the woman with status and grace - usually a mature woman. This woman intimidates some men because most of these women are all business almost all the time - whether they're working, gardening, socializing, or shopping. And men either think she's already married, or involved, or too busy for romance. Men are shy when it comes to this type of woman because they feel in order to get the woman's attention or to break whatever spell she's under and get to know her, he has to be very witty or somewhat "successful". The average blue-collar man won't approach this type of woman as fast as a middle-class man would. More than likely, she'd have to ask either of them out on a date before they'd have the courage to ask her.

Let's speed this up. Here's a quick list you can read.

Other reasons why men don't approach good single women:

* The guy is too shy (and doesn't know what to say)
* The guy doesn't want to appear desperate
* The guy doesn't want to risk the embarrassment and heartbreak of rejection
* The guy doesn't know HOW to approach women or flirt (not sure what to say - or do)
* The guy doesn't want to come on too strong and be charged with sexual harrassment
* The guy may feel that the woman wouldn't date a guy his age (too old or too young)
* The guy may have been in a long-term relationship and now that he's single, he's nervous about dating and shy about meeting new women (these guys may only have a chance of meeting a woman through a mutual friend, or work, or church. The only other way would be if the woman finds a way to arrange a date)
* The guy assumes that he would not be what the woman is looking for
* The guy is turned-off by the woman's personality or style
* The guy is not attracted
* The guy only sees the woman as a friend
* The guy doesn't feel he and the woman would be a good match or compatible
* The guy isn't sure if he wants to date or be single
* The guy is interested in the woman's friend
* The guy believes the woman may want a long term relationship
* The guy believes the woman may be a player
* The guy believes the woman is immature (or is still loves to party)
* The guy believes the woman may be High Maintenance
* The guy doesn't want to date a woman with children (wants his "own" family or a "fresh" start)
* The guy doesn't want to date a woman who has been married or recently separated (the woman may have a psycho boyfriend or obsessed ex-husband)

And there could be other reasons. These are the most common that I know of.

But hold up! Remember! This list doesn't apply to every guy! All of this depends on the type of guy, the guy's perspective, and the situation. Some guys need a little push or help from a friend to get a date with the woman. Some guys - especially badboys, pick-up artists, and players will approach a woman no matter What the situation. These are the guys who usually have a main squeeze and one or two babes on the side.

And, I didn't want to leave out "Nice Guys"...

Here's something you probably didn't know about Nice Guys.

Nice Guys aren't going to approach unless they KNOW the woman or unless the timing is right... MAYBE. Most Nice Guys will talk and talk and talk and never get around to asking a girl out. They're almost always late to the punch!

Most Nice Guys approach women who are already DATING someone else! It's true.

Approaching a woman is like a roll of the dice for those guys. Those types of guys live on the hope that they'll get lucky. They make so much small-talk that they don't even know if the woman they're talking to is "Available" or not. They've probaby been checking out a certain lady for days, weeks, or months - dreaming about her, thinking about her, fantasizing about their future together - and have turned a simple request for a phone number or a date into an event they're afraid won't turn out positive. Their main concern is to be respectful and nice and take things slow. But, they're so respectful and nice that they're stagnant!

I know some women believe that a man who's afraid to approach women ain't a real man, but those women either don't have a man - or, in their relationship - they ARE the "Man". Don't let them talk you into missing out on some good men. If you're interested in a guy and have the courage or connections to arrange a date with him, then do it. He may be interested in you and simply don't know what to say.

- loveqna