We all know that the "love" we feel for our trinkets, parents, friends, careers, and associations are all different, right?
So, why do people keep posting all of that other stuff over and over again. Do they think you're so dumb that you don't have enough sense to know that there are different types and degrees of Love?
And, who can put a limitation on how much you should love your dog, cat, or hobby, or place of congregation over another human being? Love has no limits! Love has no boundaries! You can't CHOOSE who or what to love... If it's REAL Love it consumes you - with or without your consent.
There are people who leave inheritances to dogs, cats, and associations, and leave their children hanging out to dry. WHY??? Because of Love (sometimes, "spite"). You've seen or heard about those types of people in the News. They'll leave millions of dollars to a friend, or lover, or Anything, and won't leave their own flesh and blood a pot to piss in.
Let's be honest. You know when you spread your love around that everybody ain't gonna get an equal portion. You save the big helpings of Love for those you REALLY love and ration off a little love for people you like or care a little bit about. Some of us show love to people we HAVE to "love" because they're a member of the family. Lord knows there are some family members that would starve to death if I had to ration them off some love for any other reason than they were a cousin, aunt, or uncle.
But, most of us want to know what it feels like to experience True Love romantically. That's what the questions on those forums are really about.
What is Real Love?
What does it do to your mind? How does it affect your life? How does it feel to be loved by someone you love?
First, don't misunderstand. I'm no expert. Challenge whatever I say. Research for yourself. Talk to a life coach or preacher. Seek, seek and ye shall find.
But, here's my take on it...
Let me give you several scenarios involving Love that I've experienced and that I'm sure you (or someone you know) has experienced.
One: You love someone and they don't know that you love him/her. You're willing to do anything for this person. You want to help him or her in any way possible. You want to pamper and spoil this apple of your eye. You want to treat this person like they've never been treated before. You want to make him or her fall in love with you. And they'll like you because you're a good friend or nice or caring or whatever. He or she will like you because you're a sweetheart. But this guy or girl doesn't know you're doing all of this because you're in love. And this friendship will last for months or maybe even years.
Two: You love someone and he/she knows it and avoids you. It may make you sad. It may make you angry. You may lose your mind and yourself trying to convince him or her to love you or accept your love, but he or she wants no part of a relationship with you. Maybe he or she wants to be friends OR maybe he or she doesn't want to be involved with you at all.
Three: Someone loves you and you don't love him/her. You want to get away from this person or convince him or her to leave you alone or let you go. But, he or she keeps pursuing you or trying to date you or worse, he/she stalks you. This could be a "fatal attraction". You KNOW this person is crazy in love with you. How would you feel about a love like that? You might spend most of your time trying to avoid this person. You might even have to get a restraining order against this "Nut".
Four: You meet someone you are ready to give your heart and soul to and he or she feels the same way. You can't stay away from each other. You have the same ideals, goals, dreams, interests, etc. You both connect on all levels and you understand each other completely. You're best friends and SoulMates. That's the love we all dream about, right?
All of these people claim they love the object of their desire. And, in every case it could be true.
There's no rule that says BOTH people have to love each other in order for ONE of them to feel Love towards the other. Love doesn't guarantee Happiness. And, it's not based on a mutual understanding... Or, an Agreement.
It would make the Love a lot more special if both people loved each other on the same level, but one can love the other unconditionally without receiving love in return. It's like that in many relationships - including marriage. One wants to stay. The other wants to go. Someone may be in love with you right now, but just because you aren't returning his or her love doesn't mean that his or her love for you isn't real.
There have been men and women who have abandoned their spouse, their friends, their children, their parents - and even their lifestyles - to be with someone ELSE they loved. All of these "loved ones" in their life that love and care for them, yet they choose to leave to be with someone they love more. It happens all the time.
But, that's how potent Love is. Love can make you lose your Mind.
Some people are obsessed by it and don't even know it! They don't know that Love is turning them into a jackass or a jerk. Or, making them good or evil. Or, brainwashing them. It's like being on a Drug and a lot of people can't handle it.
They don't care that they're hurting the people that love them. They can't control their feelings. No one can control something as powerful as True Love.
The only thing in their heart and mind is doing whatever they have to do to keep this person they truly love in their life. And if that means leaving everything else behind, so be it. They'll run off and leave their family and friends high and dry.
And that's the worst thing about Love - Love can make you blind... And crazy. Nothing else in the world can make a person "foolish" like Love can.
How many times have you seen or heard about someone being in an abusive relationship but was too crazy to even CONSIDER leaving? Their partner may be abusive, uncaring, deceitful, and manipulative, but to the person in love, this low-down dirty butthole is a saint. Or, the abused person feels that ONE Day this bum will change and their lives will be great and they'll live happily ever after.
You could talk until you were blue in the face but the person in love won't give up the relationship no matter what you say or do. They'd give up on your friendship first before they let that scoundrel or chickenhead hoodrat go.
Love can make a person do some strange things.
But what makes people so crazy insane with Love?
Who knows how it it happens.
Being treated like you've never been treated before?
Being with someone you've fantasized about? Or someone who's just amazing?
Being with someone who makes you forget all of your problems?
Being with someone who makes you laugh?
Being with someone who makes you look at Life and World diffently?
Being with someone who's powerful?
Experiencing something and someone on a level you've never imagined?
Who knows why people fall in love. Everybody has their own reasons.
It could start out as lust, infatuation, or a crush (things that revolve around beauty and/or a fantasy), but certain events and new situations can turn two people completely around and transform their lives.
Even two people who didn't like each other in the beginning somehow end up dating and fall in love.
Sometimes you see beautiful women and handsome men fall in love with mud-ducks, hoodrats, nerds, and scrubs. These people may have thought they had nothing in common, but once they got to know each other - BAM - it was on and poppin'. Now, they can't stay away from each other.
I was bitten by the "love-bug"...
I don't remember WHEN or HOW I fell in love, it just snuck-up on me. In the beginning we hung out occasionaly. Maybe once or twice a week. But, the more I got to know Her, the more I wanted to spend time with Her.
She was fun to be with. She made me happy. Whenever I was stressed out, She knew how to make me feel calm and relaxed. Sometimes She even made me laugh at myself. But, She was always an inspiration to me. She was like my muse and my mentor. I felt open enough to share everything I was feeling inside with Her. She was like Therapy. No one ever made me feel like that.
Don't get me wrong, She pissed me off many times too, and we had our disagreements but no matter how bad things got, I was glad She was a part of my life and I didn't know what I'd do without Her. She meant the World to me.
I loved Her so much, I started hanging out with Her EVERY single day.
Everything about our relationship seemed normal to me. But, really, I had became obsessed with Her.
I gave Her my money. I neglected my other interests. I neglected my friends. I thought about Her when I was at work. I thought of Her just before I fell asleep. I fantasized about our relationship. I daydreamed about spending the rest of my life with Her and was afraid of what would happen to me without Her. Almost everything I did in life was for Her. And, I was more than happy to do it.
She meant everything to me.
So, this is what I have to say about Love...
To me, Love is Devotion - Being devoted to someone without concern for anything else in Life. You go to sleep and your mind is on him or her. You wake up and your first thought is this person you love. Everything you do is for this guy or girl. All of your time and energy is devoted to this ONE person and relationship. You start your family and work towards certain goals in life because of this person. Thoughts of him or her consume you everyday, every hour, almost every minute of your life. You can't help it. This man or woman amazes you. Everything about him or her is beautiful and turns you on. At times you may even fear losing this person and you pray to God that he or she - this person you love - is okay or that YOU will always be there to make sure he or she is okay.
Some people say that True Love motivates you and inspires you, and I believe that as well, but I've also seen that (sometimes) Love comes with the wrong KIND of inspiration and motivation.
I don't think you ever really know what Love is like or if you're in love until you're tested by the "temptations of Life". What are you willing do FOR this person? How far are you willing to go to KEEP this person in your life? What are you willing to do to BE with this person? What are you willing to do to PROVE your Love? You never know until you're living a life of Love and Love seems to be all around you.
You can't control it. It controls You.
That's why it amazes me that people who cheat can say they're in love.
How can a cheatin-ass man or woman claim to be in love - and devoted - when he or she is out chasing hoes and hoodrats in the streets??? What's lovely about that?
Don't get me wrong, I know Temptation is hell and Addictions are hard to fight, but a lot of people are out there playing games and waffling - claiming to be in love - and making up all kinds of excuses (lying like hell) because they're ashamed they got caught.
On the OTHER hand...
I've known some people who HAVE cheated but who never thought of giving up what they had at home to devote their lives to someone else. Some of these people were married, some were just dating, some had children, some didn't, some lived together, some didn't. But some of those cheaters got into arguments with their "friends" because they flat out refused to leave the person they truly loved.
So, it's all a mystery.
I guess there are certain levels of Devotion since there are certain levels of Love.
Some people know how to share love and some don't. Some people are selfish, jealous, and destructive when it comes to love. And, some are inspired to do good when they feel it. Like everything else in Life, you just never know what you'll get.
This is probably why some people have said you shouldn't look for Love or that it's dangerous to look for Love - You might end up with a type of love you'll regret.
It's possible that the man or woman you love may never REALLY know how much you love him or her until you take your very last breath - and vice versa. Sometimes it takes tragedy to open our eyes and realize how much we're loved.
That's a shame but most of the time, that's the way it is.
The proof could be staring the one you love right in the face. You could speak with words and actions, and they STILL won't believe it, appreciate it, or show you how much THEY care.
I have two beliefs about Love...
With the right Love in your Life, you can conquer The World. With the wrong Love in your Life, you can destroy your own.
But, this is how I feel about Love.
What about you?
- loveqna
1 comment:
entonces el amor que tu decias tener hacia mi ya lo habias vivido con alguien mas wow que sorpresas tiene loveqna
yo ni fui la unica ni la primera ni fui nada
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