She Doesn't Have A Job... AND SHE'S APPLYING FOR CREDIT CARDS??? WTF?

What in the hell is wrong with this crazy-ass greedy blood-sucking money-grabbing broad???

Guys! If you're serious about finding a loyal chick to have on your side as you level-up and grow your empire, then take the time out to ask the proper questions and observe her behavior and actions.

Ladies! Don't let those hoodrat rascals pull a fast one on you and play you out for your hard-earned cash, self-respect, and sanity. Ask the right questions and let his actions speak louder than his lying-ass words.

It's time for these wannabee players and con-artists to be stopped!

Some of us are just "too nice". Some of us fall in love too easy. And, some of us will tolerate all kinds of stupid shit because we don't want to hurt someone's feelings, put them out in the cold, or deal with conflict.

We put up with all kinds of crap.

But, now it's time to nip that shit in the bud - Especially with these gold-diggers, time wasters, and bums, who just want to try to get a free ride and who contribute nothing to a relationship or to your life.

Watch Out!

- Are they living a pitiful lifestyle?
- Do they waste money on non-essential dumb shit and whine about being broke?
- Do they waste their money on weed, cigarettes, and/or alcohol and whine about being broke?
- Are they asking you for favors early on in the relationship after you've slept together?
- Are you spoiling him or her too early in the relationship with your generosity and not allowing him or her to treat you?
- Is she or he using your transportation less than 3 - 6 months into the relationship or begging for rides all over town and at all times of the day and night?
- What does his or her credit look like? And, is he or she building it and protecting it?
- What kind of work ethic does that rascal have?
- Is he or she delusional and believes that everyone else owes him or her a free ride?
- Is he or she always talking about getting help from Mom and Dad?
- Does the bum even have a job? Or, is he or she lounging around in your house watching TV or surfing the Internet all day???

These are just some of questions you need to ask yourself about your prospect or current boyfriend, girlfriend, or Love Interest. Even a friend with benefits or a side-chick (girl or guy) could make your bank account look like a damn dust bowl if you ain't careful.

Sometimes, you just gotta say "no". Sometimes, you gotta walk away - or run. Disappear. Don't answer your phone. Leave town. Whatever.

These people aren't good with their finances and they will drag you down with them - just like this broad is trying to do to me...

I KNEW I shouldn't have helped her repair her credit!

Her damn greedy non-budgeting-ass has already done ran-up my credit and shot my bank account all to hell. Now, she's online trying to apply for credit cards without a job!

Yeah, I know that she can get a credit card without a job, but she better NOT use my name and employment information or else I'm gonna sue her ass for fraud! And, identity theft!

And, I hope they lock her ass UNDER the jail!

I'm sick of this damn chick!

I've been trying to get her to leave without serving her an eviction notice or being a dick about it, but I'm really getting to the point of just not giving a crap.

Every time I turn around she needs something - or wants something... or, she needs money to go somewhere.

You can't be nice to people. All they do is try to take advantage.

I bought her kids some chromebooks for school one Christmas, and then SHE had to have a new computer. I had to keep my new laptop (that I bought before I let her move in) hid for over a year so that she wouldn't try to claim it or put a virus on it like she did her old "Vista" laptop. She kept asking me about my laptop so much that I finally had to buy her a new one so she'd shut the hell up.

But, was she grateful??? Hell naw! She wasn't happy with it because she wanted one like mine with a touchscreen. So, I bought her a wireless keyboard and mouse to go along with it. She loves it. I love mine. I use it every single day. I'm in bed typing with it right now. And, she's in the family room on hers RIGHT NOW. She's not even thinking about a touchscreen!

Hell, I don't care about a touchscreen. It's just a feature that comes with this particular laptop. But, she still isn't completely satisfied.

Why??? Simply because she wants something else to show-off to her mom, cousins, and friends.

Her nephew visited us last year and he had an Apple Ipad. Those greedy rascals couldn't stand it and they all wanted one. So, I went online to order them as Christmas presents for the kids... and, she had to have one. But, not a regular Ipad. No, She had to have to have the Ipad Pro! I said, "WHAT THE HELL???" I shouldn't have got it, but I did. And, they STILL wanted me to get them Apple Watches! Not the pens that make the Ipads complete, but the pens AND the watches!

Hell Naw! Get y'all asses outta here!

But, she still nickeled and dimed me to damn death.

Every time I damn turn around... Oh my God, I can't stand it!

I had to stop blogging, because every time she sees me on the computer, she wants me to go to some website to look at something. Or, she's looking at me parlay and manage my finances and stocks.

Or, she's trying to see how much money is in my Paypal account... damn greedy ass.

But, she doesn't want me blogging about her ass or all of the damn drama she causes. Money (or, her lack of money) is just one aspect of her crazy ass problems that I have to deal with.

I bought her and her girls Samsung smartphones the year before last, and she was mad because she wanted a new flagship Samsung phone. That phone was $800 and some change! Is your ass crazy??? You ain't my damn wife! You'd better get the hell out of here!

I was happy with my Tracfone. I don't talk much on the phone - or, search for anything, or engage in social media - hell, I don't even answer my phone when my manager or job calls - so I didn't need a smartphone. But, she insisted on setting up a T-Mobile account and adding my name to it. This was (about 5 years ago) two months after we started kickin' it. A month and a half later, the phone service was shut-off for non-payment. I still had my Tracfone, but I gave her fifty bucks anyway to get her service back on. A couple of months later, it was off again! And, she had a job at the time. But, the second time, I left that shit turned off.

I wasn't mad. I still had my Tracfone and my original phone number. She was the one walking around looking for wi-fi and shit. And, complaining like hell... And, she wasn't living with me at the time. As big as that red flag was, my poor dumbass still maintained a friendship with that hoodrat. But, we were a few months into knowing each other and we DID have a connection.

We have a connection now, but we are also out of sync. No chemistry. No deep level of understanding. No love. I stopped caring about her thoughts, opinions, and plans years ago.

A connection is easy - and, often in the beginning of a relationship it's a facade or a trick. But, I can confirm that it's real between us. But, so what? Without Love or Understanding or Empathy, a connection ain't worth a damn.

Oh my God, the constant nagging and badgering and false accusations.... I know what it is: She REALLY believes she's a housewife. I think that's what a lot of housewives do. I'm serious. She really believes that she's my wife or fiance or something.

That's why she hasn't looked for a job in the last 5 years! She thinks I'm supposed to suffer and break my back while she sits at home on the couch, talking on the phone, and watching TV all day.

Don't get me wrong. I don't care if my wife didn't work or wanted to work or whatever. It would be totally up to her. But, I NEVER told her SHE was my damn wife. I don't know where she even got the idea from.

If she could manage a budget and run a household, I would be totally fine with this situation. But she can't. She's just a nagging, blood-sucking, worrisome, and intrusive... damn honey badger.

I can't do anything without her loud greedy ass wanting to distract me all the time with some b.s. or asking me a bunch of damn questions - or, telling me about somebody else's problems.

Lord, I keep praying that she would meet someone and just leave.

Unfortunately...

I'm trapped like hell in this dump. Since I'm buying this house, I can't escape like a thief in the night the way I did in my last relationship, so I'm stuck like damn chuck.

All my life, I've dreamed of have a sweet young tender sugar-mama... but, I ended up in a nightmare as a hoodrats sugar-daddy. What the hell going on Lord??? Damn! What the hell???

- loveqna

Is Your Mate Getting On Your Damn Nerves? Maybe The Lord Is Testing You.

Good Gracious...

I can't believe what I just heard (a few hours ago). I tried to let it ride and forget about it... but, I can't.

I can't because I'm at the point where I'm sick and tired of doing stuff to help people - including sacrificing my peace of mind - and they don't appreciate it. They just keep on begging and scheming to get more and more out of you. Or, they don't follow-through when you put your trust in them to do something.

When you need help - and, I'm not just talking about bringing me sandwich or glass of water from the kitchen - the person can't do anything for you, or won't do anything to help you. You can't depend on him or her for anything.

So, I was just waking up from a power-nap when the phone rang. It was one of my Ex's friends or relatives and she was saying something about how she was pissed at her parents because they wouldn't allow one of her homeless friends to spend an EXTRA night with her in THEIR house. She was trying to explain to the girl how she needed to help herself first, but the dumb broad wouldn't listen... And then my Ex exploded. She flipped out on the girl. I didn't catch all of what she said, BUT...

I DID hear her say that she "has to put up with someone else's bullshit in order for her and her girls to have a place to stay."

What??? You're interrupting my flow and my peace of mind, and you have to put up with MY bullshit???

No the hell you don't...

I didn't ask her to come here. I didn't ask her to come BACK here. She had her own place both times. It was also her idea to quit her job. And now she's been milking me out of my hard-earned money for the last 3 and a half years. Hasn't worked anywhere and suckin' up all of my resources.

I don't get to sit around the house and watch TV all day, or have my friends come over and chill, or just jump in cars with my buddies and ride off to stores, restaurants, or chill over their house. I have to work out in the rain, sleet, snow, cold, heat, and move and stack thousands of pounds of crap with my bare hands. And then, I have to come home and fix shit that they tear up.

I have to listen to people - who don't know how to do my job and who have NEVER done my job - try and tell me HOW to do my job. Almost everyday. And then, I have to come home and listen to her crap about what I need to do, and she can't even manage her own life.

She won't even roll the garbage can or recycle can to the curb.

"That's YOUR job. I don't take out trash."

If I'm not there to get it, she'll make the sixteen year-old take it out. All those times she'll run to her friend's cars or family member's cars; She could pass that garbage can a hundred times, and she still won't roll it back from the curb to the house or from the house to the curb.

What the hell???

Ooooh... So, you're too cute to take out trash, huh???

She is one of the most sorriest rascals I've ever met in my life. Have you ever in your life ever met anyone that damn sorry?

Then, every time something goes wrong, they call you to come and fix the problem.

Tearing up every damn thing in the house: the blinds, the carpet, the dryer, everything... And who's gotta pay for it??? That's right: you (or, in this case: me).

Lord, help me...

Do you hate being falsely accused of dumb sh*t?

Do you try to avoid listening to people yap about crap you don't care about, but you can't avoid them because they live in the same bed with you?

She's yappin' all the time (that's why I'm glad she's got a lot of friends) and sometimes she won't leave me alone when I need to take a break - or, when I come in from a hard day of work.

"I need to get..."

"We need a..."

"I need a Lyft to go to..."

"I need money to buy..."

"____ needs money for..."

"Can you go to the store and get..." (She won't call me tell me while I'm already out. She waits until I get home, and then want's me to go back out.)

"We need toilet paper."

Oh My God... The needing-ness folks in the world.

But, it doesn't just stop there. Some mates or Exes or partners are just agitators. They always look for the opportunity to start trouble.

In my defense, that's the main reason I don't like talking to her. But, a lot of the times, I don't even respond. I just act like she's not even here. I think about other things, and eventually, she goes away.

Be aware and realize that some people are (or try to be sadistic) and play mind games AND childish games to get you worked up. Don't just blurt out a response when he or she is trying to get a "rise" out of you with trap questions or sarcasm or by trying to twist your words. Just ignore it or if you need to speak the truth, be cool, be calm, be careful.

A couple of days ago, she tried to come out of left-field by accusing me of having an interest in her one of her friends...

"I want to know why you keep mentioning my friends name. Why are you so concerned about her?? What is this fascination you have with her???"

Her friend is attractive but, she has a lot of issues and baggage too. And, I have no interest in either one of these women. I don't care how pretty a woman is, your peace of mind is worth a lot more. If you're a woman, don't ruin your life and waste your time on a man who can only bring a pretty face to the relationship. If he can't manage a household or his own life, what good is he going to be to you? If a man or woman is full of foolishness, childish boolshit, and games, what benefit can he or she bring to your life?

I get sick of it.

Oh my God, why do I always get falsely accused, misjudged, and misconstrued?

We're not even together and I have to defend myself against outlandish false accusations.

Do friends or family or your partner ever tries to guilt-trip you?

Don't dig the hole any deeper by trying to prove your innocence or cater to an unreasonable request. Just say "no" or walk away and don't say anything at all. They won't let you get off so easy, but keep ignoring them until you feel comfortable enough to say, flat-out, "NO".

Example: "Nope. I'm not listening to the bullshit. I don't care what you say, I'm not responding - unless you want to hear me say: No. I'm not responding to the bullshit."

But, she'll flip-out anyway about anything...

"I'm not cooking anymore, because I made this turkey and greens, and no is eating it!"

Turkey and greens?

She's going crazy over some damn turkey and greens???

It ain't even a complete meal! I had to hunt down some bread just to give the bird the dignity to be called a turkey sandwich!

She already knew - before she cooked - I told her I was trying to eat healthier and that I was going to eat a salad. She knew I started this new health diet three or four days prior to this turkey meal, so she's the one who's trippin'.

And, why in the world would you think a twelve year-old and a sixteen year old - both girls - would want a plate of turkey and greens for dinner-time??? What in the world... come on, man.

I know the twelve year-old grabbed a pack of ramen noodles and hot sauce. I saw the sixteen year-old head for the fridge, and just to keep the peace, I put plenty of turkey and greens on my plate.

Sometimes, you have to make small sacrifices to help other people enjoy a little bit of the good life.

Or, as people in successful marriages would say: You gotta' keep Mama happy - because, if Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.

But, Mama has got to able to manage a household too. She's got to be able to budget, save, keep an eye on utility costs, and restrict unnecessary spending. She's got to help with research on sales, good quality products, and planning expenses.

But, Mama don't believe in that.

A million dollars wouldn't last 30 seconds around this chick. She doesn't have a budget. She has to ride to the grocery store 3 or 4 times a week to get what she needs or wants because she doesn't want to create a list.

She loves spending money on the top-choice highest quality items that she really can't afford. Way out of her lane.

And, almost everything I've asked her to do, she has done the opposite. Irrational and won't listen to reason or to my requests.

If you're going through a bunch of foolishness with a companion, partner, lover, or mate, just focus on keeping your sanity and composure. Think about ways you could respond to the BS. Consider developing or improving your Leadership Skills.

Maybe this test in life is to make you more assertive. Or, to help you understand certain types of people. Or, maybe it's to help you develop better communication and people skills.

Whatever the case may be, you are definitely being prepared to deal with bullshit a lot better.

Your ability to read people may be getting a lot better these days as well due to your life experiences.

Don't think too negative because you don't want to walk around with a head of negative thoughts.

Think about what you can do to change or improve your situation.

What can YOU do different to move the situation in your favor? What do you need?

More patience? Speaking up for yourself? Being more assertive? Being more prepared with your responses? Empathizing? More communication?

I'm not totally sure of what I can change without giving up the things I value. And, that may be my test. A challenge for me to get myself out of this situation unscathed.

Your situation is the same.

Now, I'm not suggesting you break-up or leave your mate. I'm saying that you may have to "step up your game" to improve the quality of life in your relationship and home.

Improving your social and communication skills could be your test. And, it will help in business.

Improving your financial management skills could be your test.

Learning how to negotiate better could be your test. Whatever.

Stress will come, but don't let yourself get too frustrated. Be creative. Think: How are you being tested - or, in what way are you being tested, and what can you do about it?

How can you respond and change this situation to suit you?

Loveqna

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It's A Lie: You Don't Need A Boss On Your Side For Inspiration

The saying: "Teamwork Makes The Dream Work," is without a doubt a truism. The Golden State Warriors dominance over Lebron James proves that. The Patriot's Tom Brady and Coach Bill Belichick's professional chemistry proves it. Teamwork DOES indeed make the dream work.

But...

You don't have to wait until you find a teammate before you start striving for success. Men shouldn't depend on a woman for motivation anymore than a woman should depend on a man for inspiration.

If you're not inspired or motivated, it may be because you're limiting yourself. It may be that you're not sure if you're on the right path and you're subconsciously afraid to invest too much into your idea or plans.

If you're not sure about how to start, surf the web for how to get started on your dream.

And, if you're not sure you want to pursue the idea or "Interest" or business you have in your head, then go to school for Business Administration. Go to school for Business Management.

With Business Management, you can open the doors to a lot of leadership and financial opportunities.

If you don't want to spend a lot of money, look for free and low-cost courses online.Or, sign-up for a community college certification program or something.

If you're considering starting a business or buying a business or real estate, know that a lawyer you can trust would be prime member of Your Team. Research, find a few good ones to interview, and hang on to their numbers, so you'll have that resource ready.

A lawyer will also come in handy if you're an Artist of some sort.

If you're broke as hell and can't save money in your present situation, look for a roommate, keep your Major Goals in mind, and stack (save) your money so you'll have more options in the future.

Don't make this a permanent situation - stack, build your credit, DON'T make a major purchase on credit like a car (unless you absolutely need it) before you start buying a home because they always look at your income-to-debt ratio. And, income-to-debt ratio is more critical when buying a condo or townhouse or single-family home than it is when buying a car.

A home is an asset and good debt. It can grow in value.

A car is a depreciating asset and is bad debt (unless you're using it to make money). Still, it will decrease in value and is considered by many financial analysts just another major liability.

Don't try to make the excuse that the car will some day be a classic, because no lie you could tell yourself could justify the price of most of these cars these days.

If you're going to find an apartment - or you make a hell of a lot of money, then you may not have to worry about debt-to-income ratio, but you can set yourself up for long-term success and properly plan your moves when you sit down and learn about credit and finances first. Manage your money.

Stay focused on Managing Your Life. Don't waste money. Get the right tools for job. Pay for value. Research before you shop. Spend Wisely. Share Wisely. Don't flaunt your money as you will want to show-off how you can afford to waste money on crap. Learn to parlay with credit, money, assets, equity, loans, etc. Use coupons and cash-back resources. Stop impulsively spending. Order food, snacks, and other good stuff online.

Some people are often sick and need to run to the hospital. Be on top of your game when it comes to your health. Hospital bills are expensive and you don't need them eating up your bank account or putting bad debt information on your credit report - for those of you who go to hospitals then, later on, refuse to pay for services.

If you can stay with Mom and Dad or Grandma or some other relative until you get on your feet, then do it. Stay with them and stack. Play by their rules until you can get your credit up to par and move out. But, keep moving up. Build your credit, get a raise or a higher paying job, and keep going from there.

And, don't be afraid of growth. If you have the opportunity to become a supervisor, go for it. You're going to have to deal with bullshit no matter what level you're on anyway. But, if you have the mental capacity, experience, skills, and stamina to move to management, stop running with the little dogs and be a Boss.

Save money by getting your work clothes and even play clothes from a thrift store or second-hand store. You can get more for your money and save some serious cash. Get your socks and underwear online at good bargains.

Stay away from ordering too much fast-food online. That can be addictive and expensive because of the delivery fee and tip. But, you can find a lot of promo codes too. But, be ready to be pissed off as well because sometimes they take longer than expected. Sometimes, they don't have your order right.

Don't waste a lot of money on "business ideas" or "personal development" media. The key to your success is attitude. You might be one of those people who have read many books and watched hundreds of videos and attended workshops and seminars. If you are, then you already know what to do to succeed. Now, all you need to do is have the courage to do it.

Don't waste a lot of money on other people.

There are some people who beg you to death for money. And, out of the kindness of your heart you will help them. At some point you just have to start saying "No."

The 21st Century is a great time to live in. Find a bank. Get a debit card. Carry minimal cash. When the beggars come running, you can let them know you are limited on cash and don't have a dime to spare.

As long as you let them, people will take advantage of your good heart. Don't be a fool and support someone who is a fool with his or her own money. It's okay to give, but don't be a fool for someone who sees you as nothing more than an easy target for cash. In the end, you're not helping yourself or them.

No matter what, pay your bills early or on time. This will always be a plus on your credit report and give you an advantage when you want to buy a house or get a loan to start (or buy) a business.

Practice moderation of any "bad habits" or "activities".

I won't name any bad habits because that's up to you to do decide what you see as a distraction or disruption in your life that is holding you back or keeping you from stacking.

My Mom and Dad never mentioned anything about personal finances, or investing, or how to bargain and negotiate, so I was literally a helpful dumbass in my early relationships.

I was always looking for that Boss Chick for inspiration because I've often heard of some of the greatest artists have a muse or a good woman behind them to keep them on track and to help them become successful. But, it's a lie.

Everyone doesn't need a romantic co-pilot in the background helping them manage their life and keeping them focused.

Sometimes, people end up with a partner who is in the background stabbing them in the back, worrying them half to damn death, cleaning out their bank account, and trying to work them to death.

Sometimes, you need to be by yourself and "travel light" so that you can maneuver more easily and not have a lot of drama and foolishness in your life.

Write down your goals. Post them on your wall. Work towards completion. And, don't deviate or allow yourself to be taken off-track.

Later on, when the right Boss comes along, you will be ready. And, when you get together, you will have a True Player on your side.

And only a Power Couple who lives and breathes the same values, principles, beliefs, and life goals, can be true assets to the Team. Only then can "Teamwork Make The Dream Work".

Loveqna

Warning! 2019: The Meek And The Homeless Are Inheriting The Earth!

When the Lord said the meek shall inherit the earth, I didn't know MY place would be included in the deal...

Last year, I got a shock when I came home while on my lunch break to find that my Ex had "invaded" my home and was in here cleaning and cooking and chillin'. Now, she has "invited" a relative AND Her Two Kids to live with "US"(?) for a while.

What kind of damn shit is this amiss???

People these days are crazy azz hell...

The woman actually has mail coming here. I found all of this out when I was awakened by her kids crying and my Ex's dogs barking. I overheard them whining about how it's so hard to get help from social services and how that some of the people who answer the phones don't seem to care, and blah, blah, blah.

* I asked them months ago to pull her credit report and start building her credit so that she could stop depending on these "hand-outs" and going through this drama (it's her; it's not these other people), but they STILL haven't brought any of that information to light. They are still talking about the same thing: She can't get any help finding a place.

Lord, these hoodrats are gonna drive me crazy.

Who in the world has the gall - when they're homeless - to invite another homeless person into someone else's home???

I want my Ex to go back to her home. She had a place when she left. All she had to do was move the rest of her stuff into it.

I think she stayed there for a couple of days (if that) and then hauled her junk right back over here. I was so ticked off, I worked a double shift. I went in at 2pm that day and left 10am the next day. I was doing everything I could not to go home ever again.

But, anyway... Damn, I got waaay off-track...

So, anyway... I get up (because I'm about to put a stop to this whining and blaming everybody boolshit), and I go in there and shut the conversation down. I ask my Ex to grab her computer... I talk to her and ask her what is trying to do, and what does she want. She explains...

Now, I don't know how long this has been going on with the lady having mail delivered here, but I found out because they asked me to help her with her credit so that she can find a place to live.

We set-up a credit monitoring account with Credit Sesame. For some strange reason, the Credit Karma website was down. But, it didn't matter, I just wanted her to see her credit scores. We would go to the Official Credit Bureau sites later.

So, after we get the scores, I let her know that she has a strong chance of qualifying for an FHA Loan for first-time home-buyers. The minimum credit score requirement for the program was 580, and she was above 600. There are other FHA loan services/programs, but I wanted her to check this out. We talked about NACA also.

Then, I take her to an online bank that has a no-fee "interesting" checking account. We also add a savings. There is no minimum deposit for required for either. But, she needs the checking account in order to get in the "game".

For most banks you need a checking account to get a credit card - which she will also need to boost her credit score. The higher the score the lower the interest on the home loan, so you save more money and get more for your dollars.

Anyway, while setting up the checking account, the website field to enter the address came up. So, I ask her for her address, and she starts giving me MY address! What the hell??? And, then, my Ex says, "Well, I've been letting her use this address because she doesn't have a physical address she can put down." (I knew something was going on when they started giving me my mail before I could get to the mailbox myself.)

Okay. I enter in my address and all the other info.

We move on to Paypal so she can receive money if she needs help. But, she has a job. She just doesn't spend wisely. I've seen her in action, and it's pitiful.

Anyway, we're all in there talking about credit and teamwork in relationships (and they're not focused), and I barely catch it, but she says something like: Well, just put your work clothes in the laundry room, and I can wash them everyday when you get off of work.

And, another time, she asks about where the girl's boyfriend is going to be staying. So now... I know I'm not trippin', but I thought I told this chick I come from a history of over-crowded houses and I was sick of it. I know I told her I don't want to ever live like that again with 7 or 8 people living in a small house built for a single family.

But, she doesn't listen.

She don't care.

Whatever I say, it goes in one ear and out the damn other.

Four months after she moved in, her brother, his wife, and their baby crashed here for Thanksgiving.

FOUR TWO AND A HALF WEEKS! lololol...

What the Hell?

Then, he was talking about how he was sending the family back and how he was going to stay here and look for a job, and get his place.

I said, "Oh hell naw. You're welcome to stay in Charlotte, but your ass ain't about to stay here."

Trying to run that lame-ass game on me on the low. Do you know what I'm saying? He tried to sneak his intentions by me in a casual conversation.

I knew what was up when he actually let them travel back up North alone and he stayed and "hung around" for a few days... On the third day, I told him he had to bounce. His sister and her kids were already costing me an arm and a leg, and I couldn't afford to take on any more expenses - not even short term.

Their younger brother crashed on the couch off and on for few days for about two months at one point. He's a smart guy, but can't quite get it together mentally. He just can't seem to grasp the fact that he's no longer in high school (or perhaps middle school). I think he's fighting being a grown-up. Seriously.

Anyway, I'm going to help them all as much as I can, but I'm also going to help myself by finding a way out of this dump. I'm sick of it. If I had a larger 4 or 5 bedroom home it would be different. But here, toys are all over the floor, there are clothes in the living room, the kitchen, the hallway, everywhere.

Shoes all over the place.

Papers everywhere.

All these women are using so much toilet paper it's a damn shame. I'm always having to run to the store for big bundles of tissue paper.

Now, more dishes everywhere because they're in the living room yappin' loud as hell and watching TV and chillin' and not concerned about dirty dishes.

And, it's just people everywhere.

I'm sick of it.

I've been tempted to sell my home on OfferPad or Opendoor, but my house is in a prime location, and if I want to stay in this neighborhood, I'll have to pay a higher premium price. All of our homes have gone up in value over here. So, I'm not sure what to do.

If I stay, they'll ruin me.

If I leave, I'll have to move out of my neighborhood (and zip code for that matter) to be able to afford a new home.

I guess it's crunch time... I'm gonna have to step up my game before these people make me homeless.

Y'all pray for me. I'm goin' in.

Loveqna

What If You're Loving And Caring And Your Partner Still Cheats On You?

Beg you sorry rascal! Beg for forgiveness! lol...

What we are REALLY talking about here is Honesty, Trust, And Respect.

We are also talking about people who are weak-minded.

But be warned also: Love is not always a two-way street.

You can love someone and devote yourself to him or her, but that doesn't mean or guarantee that they will even have a second thought about you.

Scam artists and players make unsuspecting suckers - I mean, Good men and women - fall in love with them all the time. They do it so that they can con these good people out of their money, their credit, a place to live, a car, favors, access to something, whatever.

Look at these people who "catfish" people online. Sometimes the "stalker" (or the one doing the catfishing) is in love whereas the good person who THOUGHT they were in love, realize that they weren't in love when they finally meet the person that "catfished" them.

So, Love is not always a two-way street.

Some people try to force their love on another person who could never feel love.

It doesn't matter how good you cook.

It doesn't matter how good you look.

It doesn't matter if you're loving, caring, honest, or faithful and in love, that doesn't mean your romantic interest HAS to feel the same way. They feel the way they feel and that's that.

Sometimes, two people start out on great terms, and feel like they are compatible and that they will be together forever. But...

Sometimes, one partner loses interest. It happens.

Sometimes, a couple gets into a heated argument, say things they don't mean, and one partner never forgives the other partner. They are so ticked off, they don't want to be in the relationship anymore. What was love turns into disgust and they're just hanging around until they can find a way out.

Sometimes, one of the partners may find a true connection with someone else, or BELIEVE that they have a connection or chemistry with someone else and feels compelled to start a relationship with that person.

Unfortunately, nothing ever stays the same. People change. Situations change. Feelings sometimes change. Love can be tested. True feeling can be exposed. And, true character - and motives (as hurtful as they may be) - at some point will be brought to light.

So, if your partner cheats after you have been honest, loving, and caring, your only resolution is going to be how you deal with what has happened.

And, no matter how you deal with it, you still have to learn from it and change.

You might have to change how you interact with your partner - or, your next partner.

You might have to change how you choose your partners.

You might have to change your style, attitude, behavior, or beliefs (if they keep getting you into disagreements with your partners).

You know what you have to do.

But, it's up to the both of you to settle this - IF you want to hold on to the cheater.

Talk to him or her. Only he or she can tell you WHY he or she cheated. No one else. Not me. Not your friends. Not the author of a book. No one. The cheater has to tell you why he or she cheated.

Then, YOU have to decide if it's worth the risk to hang on and involve yourself with this person again or move on.

The deceit has happened. Now, investigate and try to make sense of it all. Don't go berserk because of it. Let the bum speak (or lie) and try to understand what went wrong. Learn from the experience no matter what you do.

But, here's another fact that a lot of people are aware of:

Even if you move on and find someone else, it could happen again. Honest and Faithful people are rare these days so, think it through and look at both sides of the story.

Your friends and counsel can tell you a lot of "feel-good" crap to console you and try to help your self-esteem, but ultimately, you will do what you want to in spite of what they advise.

You're going to go with how you feel and what you believe the future may hold.

But, either way - even if you DID become boring or Un-interesting to this jerk - don't blame yourself. The Truth was brought to light.

You ARE who you are. They ARE who they are. And, they may be weak, deceitful, or lack character.

They may have fetishes or fantasies.

They may get caught-up (emotionally) while talking to an old friend or Ex.

Anything can happen at anytime.

You can only try to find someone who's honest, trustworthy, and devoted, from the start...

But, you STILL don't know!

No one knows what the future holds or what's going to happen except The Supreme. That's just Life.

Meet someone and keep getting to know them as long as you're together. That's the key. Get into their head and stay there. Open up to them and have fun with them. It's a good way to keep them interested.

Once your minds are connected and you believe in each other, you will never ever have Anything to worry about.

Loveqna

Are Your Kids And/Or Significant Other Driving You Crazy?

It's raining damn cats and dogs outside yet these kids wanted to go to a strip-mall to look around, eat at a restaurant, and visit a few clothing stores.

They literally just left 20 minutes ago. Now, the 12 year-old is constantly calling her mom and wants to come back home.

I just spent over $24 for a Lyft XL (this includes the tip), and now, they want me to send another Lyft to go back and pick them up.

I'm in here trying to sleep, because I have to go to work (3rd Shift) in a couple of hours.

They already woke me up after I only had two and a half hours of sleep (babies crying, she and her friends laughin' and yappin' loud as hell, some kid was bouncing a ball, doors opening and closing...) what the hell???.

But, this chick doesn't care...

She came into the room with her phone set on "speaker" blaring in my ears anyway - asking me if I would send some money for them to take a Lyft back home.

What in the hell???

Hellll Naw! They have bank accounts and their debit cards. Get cash back and order a taxi! I'm trying to sleep.

But, they don't care.

Why does she keep waking me up for that boolshit???

Why does she not have my back? She's supposed to be my gatekeeper when someone comes out of "left-field" with dumb shit. I don't care who it is.

Get the hell on with that phone!

This is what I have to deal with all the time.

This is why my life sucks.

When you get involved with someone - or, if you're involved with someone right now - make sure they have enough sense enough to know NOT to let other people bother you with this type of foolishness.

Make sure they are not the type of person who is going to volunteer YOU to answer ridiculous questions about ridiculous situations that OTHER people get themselves into.

I have my own problems. I'm not the damn Godfather. I don't want to deal with other people's problems or try to solve them - especially when I'm trying to sleep and rest up for work!

I don't get to sit on my ass for 9 to 12 hours (most of the time) when I walk out the door, so I need a mental and physical break.

But... Nobody cares.

Lord, Please help me. I just have to get out of here.

Loveqna

Trapped In A Hurricane With A Dumbass

Just for the record: I'm the "Dumbass". In fact...

I have to be the dumbest dumbass in the whole wide world to be putting up with this crappy-ass "relationship".

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Notes for an old post that I never published.

I'll have to find the video/audio for this post and listen to it so that I can blog about it later.

I can't remember if this was the time she kept calling me at work while I was loading generators to tell me the power was off, or if this is the time she called me to tell me that someone was walking past the house outside... What the hell??? It's a public street and sidewalk! I don't own it! So, she tried to "threaten" me.

"Well, if you don't come home, I'm calling the police."

"Call them. That's what they get paid for. I'm at work. It would take me more than twenty minutes to take off my gear, clock out, get a manager to unlock the doors and let me out, and ride home. Call the police and let them check it out."

It was 1AM and, she knows I can't see well in minimal light. I'm going blind - which I'll talk about later.

Anyway... I knew she was lying just to get me to leave work so, I finished up early and left around 1:30AM so she'd stop calling me.

She told me about the police coming and not finding anything (or anyone), and began pestering me AGAIN about an alarm system.

She knew damn well she didn't see anyone walking past the house! She had already called my job 3 TIMES trying to get me to come home. It's not because she feels unsafe. Not really. She's been doing this crap ever since she weaseled her way back into my life. She just loves spending my money!

She honestly thinks she's a housewife!

And, she just wants to build a "smart home". We have Alexa in every room that she kept hassling me for. There are "smart lights" and "hubs" and crap everywhere. Then she wanted me to add a thermostat. Now, she wants an alarm system - That I'LL have to pay a monthly bill for - not to mention the initial set-up and equipment.

It's all a sham.

"I told you WE need an alarm system! It's not safe for me and the girls here alone while you're working so late!"

Oh my god, this chick is getting on my nerves...

First of all, I want to be by myself, and I've told her that countless times.

Second, I didn't ask her to come back except to get her stuff, and she moved back in without asking.

Third, I can't afford an alarm system because her ass is always NEEDING money for shit. And, I give it because I try to help people and look-out for people - with my dumbass.

Fourth - should I go on? Fourth... If there WAS an alarm system with cameras, her ass would be calling me every five minutes about what she was seeing on video and worrying half to damn death. I don't have time for that shit.

The worst was when she called me to tell me the power was off at the house, and she wanted me to come home for safety reasons.

I looked down at the phone number again... It was the "house phone" - which is wi-fi or voip (voice over internet protocol). This means that it is connected to the router and wi-fi. Which means it is plugged into a socket. Which means the electricity had to be working in order for her to make the call...

I was pissed off... because she kept calling and calling and calling.

It wasn't the first "hurricane" she'd ever been in.

In fact, it never turned into a hurricane. It was barely a tropical storm in this area.

And, it didn't last long!

I stayed out of the work that day just to keep her quiet.

And, nothing happened. It was very windy for several hours, and on this day the power went out, but was on by 10:30pm.

Being in a relationship is just a nuisance and a headache, damn.

Loveqna