notes - how good women can get more dates

Recently, I've noticed that there are a lot of women out there wanting a relationship but don't know where to start or they aren't sure about how to start.

On top of that, they're shy and afraid to mix and mingle with other folks or approach a man for a date.

They suffer from social anxiety.

They feel they're not interesting enough. Or, pretty enough. Or, have ANY of the good qualities an honest man would want.

These notes will touch on some of the ways you can increase your "stock" and gain some exposure to attract a mate or more dates, but, remember: There are other notes on this blog that touches on the subject so don't hesitate to copy and create your own personal tips for approaching and dating.

Get some tips from your friends or co-workers or acquaintances as well.


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you just have to get out more.

don't daydream about dating. makes some moves to make it happen.

be more complimentary or engaging in small-talk

before you get too deep or waste too much time, use your instincts to see if the guy really has potential or if you would be better off giving a geek or nerd or nice guy a chance.

be sure you're not dealing with players, wafflers, free spirits, and ego-maniacs (bullies).

make some new friends who will have other single friends and single acquaintances in their lives.

you might meet some of these men at a friendly party or get-together or dinner.

your co-workers might know some available men who are looking for love. you could also get a part-time job to meet new guys - if you have time.

if you are lacking in style, get a makeover to attract more prospects.

if done right (and, if you're attitude is inviting), more men will come to you.

learn from other women (or watch them) and improve your charm and feminine power.

be coy sometimes.

never be afraid of asking a guy questions about himself or his past relationships. some of them will lie, but many of them get kind of giddy when a woman asks about stuff like that.

- are you a player
- how do you treat your women
- when was the last time you went out (on a date)
- how often do you go out
- are you faithful man

etc. it's small-talk and there are better questions than these, so take a look around and listen to others and how they get men to engage.

you don't HAVE to know what you're looking for (in a man) but, often it helps. some people have habits and personalities that just suck.

and, you SHOULD know what your ultimate relationship goals are - completely.

- marriage
- where you would like to live
- having children
- will he be a spiritual man
- do you want someone who likes to travel and go out or a home-body
- do you want someone who's good host and family oriented
- do you have a lifestyle preference
- do you have certain sexual lifestyle preferences
- will your career cause you two to be alone often


join some social groups or organizations and you will also make friends and meet new guys.

just remember to take your time about "love" and REALLY get to know the guy - interests, preferences, wants, needs, personality, habits, life goals, fixations, etc. some of these bums don't want anything but a piece of ass. some of them don't know what they want. they want to be single but they want to be free.

BE SURE TO ASK ALL OF THE IMPORTANT QUESTIONS CONCERNING LIFESTYLE AND HIS ABILITY TO STAY FOCUSED ON ONE WOMAN AND ONE RELATIONSHIP.

learn to improve your conversation and social skills. this will help reduce shyness. and, after you've interacted with people for a while and made a few new friends, your confidence will improve.

look at yourself and consider what may be a factor in stopping you from meeting good quality men. it's not going to be the fact that you have no friends or family. or, that you've never been in a relationship. or, that you have no sexual experience.

what will stop men from approaching you is your style, personality, attitude, and appearance.

in reality - and in time - you will meet guys no matter what you are like. but, will you be accepting of the guys who WANT to date you and get to know you? or, will you be too picky and chase after guys who are only "fun" and (seemingly) "interesting"?

get that makeover going and your stock will rise. more men will be attracted to you and interested in you. and, remember to have a positive attitude, charm, wit, to keep their attention. guys like girls who are smart and like to have fun.

don't overdo it but know how to laugh, relax, and have a good time.

notes - A Few Ways To Stop Negative Thoughts

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I can't help it. Too many ideas; Too much confusion going on inside of my head.

This post is for the timid who are afraid to approach good prospects for fear of rejection. Don't think negative of yourself before you even try. And don't wage all of your bets on one prospect! You don't know if he or she is even the right person for you. Relax. Approach. Say what you have to say. And, if he or she responds, go from there. If not, move on with your next plan.

Don't have high expectations of someone you don't know!

I have also considered these notes for people who are depressed.

BEING ALONE is what is dragging you down! You don't have any other "human energy" to connect with and interact with and to draw from. so, of course, your spirits are gonna be low!

Get out of the house if you can. If you can't, improve your energy through Creating...

Write. Invent. Produce. Design. Use your time to expand your Mind. Don't allow negative thoughts or fear to suppress the energy that's hidden deep inside.

To those who are stuck in these dead-ass piss-ass relationships with these tyrannical bullies and bums:

Don't allow the negativity to conquer your spirit! Keep an open mind and seek ways to allow your inner strength to re-emerge!

Consider the times when you have felt positive, strong, and confident.

Stay away from fear. Be cunning. Use reverse-psychology if you have to. Find ways to deal with that skank or scumbag until you escape your situation. Don't give up and don't get distracted from your goal. A better life awaits you.

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notes - How To Stop Negative Thoughts...


First, Realize that "you're only scared of what you THINK you're scared of."

Look beyond the situation. Take a look at multiple points of view.

Use your Wisdom to see beyond the tricks your mind is playing on you.

Don't drop your head and drag your feet over the challenges Life throws at you! Stand Tall and FACE your demons and enemies head on! Conquer them and wipe them out! Don't allow misery to rule and ruin your life...

Sometimes these "tests" in Life are put there to build our character! To make us Stronger! To prepare us for the REAL Challenges that lie ahead.

Don't let Fear or Doubt or Anger destroy your Instincts or Good Common Sense!

Life is full of B.S. And, you're going to have to deal with now AND later. So, ain't no need in crying about it or lying down and giving up.

Face it. Kick it to the curb. And, move on.

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WHEN YOU START TO HAVE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS...

Say "No" to them.

Turn your attention to your Goals.

Get busy and Stay productive and on the path to achieving your Goals. Even if your negative thoughts have nothing to do with your Goals, think of your Goals anyway. Don't overwhelm yourself. That's going to push you back into negativity. Consider the smaller goals. And Remember: you also have to tackle the smaller goals a little at a time.

Engage in activities that require thought and concentration. Calculate. Analyze.

Stay focused on the end results you want. Don't get distracted by negativity, doubt, or pain

Consider the probability of a Good Outcome rather than a negative outcome.

Change your thoughts by making out a "to do" list. Plan the next steps you need to take to get closer to your Goal.

WHEN NEGATIVE THOUGHTS START TO CREEP UP ON YOU...

Learn tactics that will help you make allies and that will help you adapt to your surroundings until you can escape the situation. See yourself as being "tested" and/or "on a mission" because this is also what Life is about - dealing with your tests and challenges and moving forward towards your Goal.

If dream after dream comes crashing down, don't whine about it. There may be another path meant for you to take or another calling in your life. Sometimes it's a good thing when things don't happen the way we want them to happen - or WHEN we want them to happen. Study the situation and look for other ways around the mess and to achieve your ultimate goal.

ANOTHER WAY TO STOP NEGATIVE THOUGHTS...

Don't put yourself down or cause timid thoughts within your mind - plan your actions and know what you have to do. Then, go for it. Release yourself of all resistance and dive in. Let yourself go. Say to yourself that you will deal with the situation as it happens. Plan in advance. Think, Act, and Respond later.

Realize what you have done right, plan what your next step should be, think about what you COULD do to help the situation, then, focus on something else

Challenge what could be making you feel negative or have doubts. Be realistic about your situation and how it can be improved or what you need to do or get to improve it

If you have caused "damage" that cannot be "repaired" or made a mistake that cannot be corrected, it's almost certain that it will be with you for the rest of your life. Realize that reality. But, although you were at fault, you can't stop living. There are at least four good deeds you can do in turn. Apologize. Ask for forgiveness. Forgive yourself for the error. And meditate (or pray) about the entire matter (the error, your apology, and the forgiveness). And a fifth deed will bring you good karma (if it's in your heart to do it) which is: contribute something to show your sincerity. (time; volunteer; testimony; artwork; whatever is in your heart and ability to do) But, don't mull over this forever. We all make errors in our lives, but we must move on. Let the Law Of Karma settle the deed.

TO FIGHT NEGATIVE THOUGHTS, YOU CAN ALSO...

Make moves - engage in an activity or go visit a friend - get out of your current surroundings

If it's late at night - have a release agent (write; make a video; make notes) on your current feelings or how to conquer or deal with your current feelings

Read or watch a movie

Distract yourself with a simple task like analyzing or calculating (working out a simple math problem or forming an opinion of something or planning your schedule for tomorrow)

Read or watch a movie that deals with positive thinking or reflection

Read a book of wisdom to activate inner strength and revelations

Research or study some techniques (constantly) to help you conquer this feeling (in advance)

Don't overwhelm yourself with too many ideas or chores that are unnecessary - some things you're thinking about probably aren't as important to your life as you think

SOMETIMES NEGATIVE THOUGHTS APPEAR OUT OF NOWHERE! BUT, KEEP YOUR COOL...

Don't worry about disappointing people you don't owe or aren't obligated to

Don't worry about people speaking negative of you or talking about you behind your back. people are going to say good and bad things about each other all the time so don't whine about it or concern yourself about it (some exceptions - unless you just have nothing else to talk about and want to make a conversation out of the situation)

SOMETIMES, YOU GOT TO CONQUER THOSE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS BEFORE THEY ENTER YOUR BRAIN...

Call anyone involved and confirm their participation. don't deal with unreliable or floppy people in the first place. if you have a hard time getting people together, find someone who is better at it. make sure you choose an acceptable time and location in the first place.

Don't procrastinate or wait until the last minute and put yourself under pressure (or, anyone else that doesn't deserve it)

Don't multi-task when you don't have to. Cut down on some of your errands, promises, and obligations so that you're not overwhelmed and scatter-brained.

Be realistic.

- is it YOUR problem or is it someone else's problem? Are you meddling in something that's not your responsibility? Are you meddling in someone else's life who doesn't want you in their business in the first place?

- how much will this really affect your progress or life? Can you correct this mistake if things don't turn out right the first time? What's the big deal? More work? Will take longer than necessary? Is it really just more "junk" or another "chore" in your life that you will have to deal with on a regular basis?


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