notes - A Few Ways To Stop Negative Thoughts

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I can't help it. Too many ideas; Too much confusion going on inside of my head.

This post is for the timid who are afraid to approach good prospects for fear of rejection. Don't think negative of yourself before you even try. And don't wage all of your bets on one prospect! You don't know if he or she is even the right person for you. Relax. Approach. Say what you have to say. And, if he or she responds, go from there. If not, move on with your next plan.

Don't have high expectations of someone you don't know!

I have also considered these notes for people who are depressed.

BEING ALONE is what is dragging you down! You don't have any other "human energy" to connect with and interact with and to draw from. so, of course, your spirits are gonna be low!

Get out of the house if you can. If you can't, improve your energy through Creating...

Write. Invent. Produce. Design. Use your time to expand your Mind. Don't allow negative thoughts or fear to suppress the energy that's hidden deep inside.

To those who are stuck in these dead-ass piss-ass relationships with these tyrannical bullies and bums:

Don't allow the negativity to conquer your spirit! Keep an open mind and seek ways to allow your inner strength to re-emerge!

Consider the times when you have felt positive, strong, and confident.

Stay away from fear. Be cunning. Use reverse-psychology if you have to. Find ways to deal with that skank or scumbag until you escape your situation. Don't give up and don't get distracted from your goal. A better life awaits you.

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notes - How To Stop Negative Thoughts...


First, Realize that "you're only scared of what you THINK you're scared of."

Look beyond the situation. Take a look at multiple points of view.

Use your Wisdom to see beyond the tricks your mind is playing on you.

Don't drop your head and drag your feet over the challenges Life throws at you! Stand Tall and FACE your demons and enemies head on! Conquer them and wipe them out! Don't allow misery to rule and ruin your life...

Sometimes these "tests" in Life are put there to build our character! To make us Stronger! To prepare us for the REAL Challenges that lie ahead.

Don't let Fear or Doubt or Anger destroy your Instincts or Good Common Sense!

Life is full of B.S. And, you're going to have to deal with now AND later. So, ain't no need in crying about it or lying down and giving up.

Face it. Kick it to the curb. And, move on.

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WHEN YOU START TO HAVE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS...

Say "No" to them.

Turn your attention to your Goals.

Get busy and Stay productive and on the path to achieving your Goals. Even if your negative thoughts have nothing to do with your Goals, think of your Goals anyway. Don't overwhelm yourself. That's going to push you back into negativity. Consider the smaller goals. And Remember: you also have to tackle the smaller goals a little at a time.

Engage in activities that require thought and concentration. Calculate. Analyze.

Stay focused on the end results you want. Don't get distracted by negativity, doubt, or pain

Consider the probability of a Good Outcome rather than a negative outcome.

Change your thoughts by making out a "to do" list. Plan the next steps you need to take to get closer to your Goal.

WHEN NEGATIVE THOUGHTS START TO CREEP UP ON YOU...

Learn tactics that will help you make allies and that will help you adapt to your surroundings until you can escape the situation. See yourself as being "tested" and/or "on a mission" because this is also what Life is about - dealing with your tests and challenges and moving forward towards your Goal.

If dream after dream comes crashing down, don't whine about it. There may be another path meant for you to take or another calling in your life. Sometimes it's a good thing when things don't happen the way we want them to happen - or WHEN we want them to happen. Study the situation and look for other ways around the mess and to achieve your ultimate goal.

ANOTHER WAY TO STOP NEGATIVE THOUGHTS...

Don't put yourself down or cause timid thoughts within your mind - plan your actions and know what you have to do. Then, go for it. Release yourself of all resistance and dive in. Let yourself go. Say to yourself that you will deal with the situation as it happens. Plan in advance. Think, Act, and Respond later.

Realize what you have done right, plan what your next step should be, think about what you COULD do to help the situation, then, focus on something else

Challenge what could be making you feel negative or have doubts. Be realistic about your situation and how it can be improved or what you need to do or get to improve it

If you have caused "damage" that cannot be "repaired" or made a mistake that cannot be corrected, it's almost certain that it will be with you for the rest of your life. Realize that reality. But, although you were at fault, you can't stop living. There are at least four good deeds you can do in turn. Apologize. Ask for forgiveness. Forgive yourself for the error. And meditate (or pray) about the entire matter (the error, your apology, and the forgiveness). And a fifth deed will bring you good karma (if it's in your heart to do it) which is: contribute something to show your sincerity. (time; volunteer; testimony; artwork; whatever is in your heart and ability to do) But, don't mull over this forever. We all make errors in our lives, but we must move on. Let the Law Of Karma settle the deed.

TO FIGHT NEGATIVE THOUGHTS, YOU CAN ALSO...

Make moves - engage in an activity or go visit a friend - get out of your current surroundings

If it's late at night - have a release agent (write; make a video; make notes) on your current feelings or how to conquer or deal with your current feelings

Read or watch a movie

Distract yourself with a simple task like analyzing or calculating (working out a simple math problem or forming an opinion of something or planning your schedule for tomorrow)

Read or watch a movie that deals with positive thinking or reflection

Read a book of wisdom to activate inner strength and revelations

Research or study some techniques (constantly) to help you conquer this feeling (in advance)

Don't overwhelm yourself with too many ideas or chores that are unnecessary - some things you're thinking about probably aren't as important to your life as you think

SOMETIMES NEGATIVE THOUGHTS APPEAR OUT OF NOWHERE! BUT, KEEP YOUR COOL...

Don't worry about disappointing people you don't owe or aren't obligated to

Don't worry about people speaking negative of you or talking about you behind your back. people are going to say good and bad things about each other all the time so don't whine about it or concern yourself about it (some exceptions - unless you just have nothing else to talk about and want to make a conversation out of the situation)

SOMETIMES, YOU GOT TO CONQUER THOSE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS BEFORE THEY ENTER YOUR BRAIN...

Call anyone involved and confirm their participation. don't deal with unreliable or floppy people in the first place. if you have a hard time getting people together, find someone who is better at it. make sure you choose an acceptable time and location in the first place.

Don't procrastinate or wait until the last minute and put yourself under pressure (or, anyone else that doesn't deserve it)

Don't multi-task when you don't have to. Cut down on some of your errands, promises, and obligations so that you're not overwhelmed and scatter-brained.

Be realistic.

- is it YOUR problem or is it someone else's problem? Are you meddling in something that's not your responsibility? Are you meddling in someone else's life who doesn't want you in their business in the first place?

- how much will this really affect your progress or life? Can you correct this mistake if things don't turn out right the first time? What's the big deal? More work? Will take longer than necessary? Is it really just more "junk" or another "chore" in your life that you will have to deal with on a regular basis?


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loveqna

hot chicks: they're simple girls looking for love too - notes

I was going to post notes on "being misunderstood because of shyness" but, somehow, I got side-tracked and ended up talking about "hot chicks" who are misunderstood because of their beauty. If I figure out what I was trying to say, I'll update this post later.

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If you lack confidence when meeting, dating, and/or socializing with "hot" and sexy prospects, it may be because you're putting them on too high of a pedestal.

I know some guys who'll take one look at a beautiful girl and immediately think she's out of their league.

And, the brave few who will attempt to approach this girl will often do so half-heartedly because they feel they're going to be rejected once she gets a good look at them.

They'd have a better chance if they would just simply relax and enjoy the moment.

In their minds, they've already predicted gloom and doom before they've even made a move.

Of course you're gonna be rejected if your weird-ass approaches a girl like you're freakin' Frankenstein's monster - mumbling and dragging your heels.

You've got to approach that babe with confidence.

Be cool about it. Give yourself a chance. Give her a chance.

many people think that hot chicks are conceited and focus only on their good looks but that's not always true. Some of those girls are sweet as pie.

even hot sexy chicks are shy and afraid of rejection.

hell, they have a hard time finding dates too

they are misunderstood all the time

people think all hot chicks are the same or have the same opinions of themselves - that all these fine babes out here are super-proud of their looks and use their beauty as a weapon to get whatever they want. But, average men and women do this as well. Hell, if the right fool comes along, ANYONE could milk him or her out of anything they wanted.

The truth is: SOME of these "hot chicks" don't realize how beautiful they are.

Some of them are self-conscious about how they look and consider themselves "average" - or even, BELOW average.

i see them come in the store all the time dressed like bums and looking sloppy as hell. they don't know they're being admired or swooned over by all of those eyeballs in there. they could care less about how they look. they aren't concerned with their appearance or impressing anyone. some of my Exes had similar attitudes.

many women - whether they're hot or not - want to be appreciated for what they are on the "inside". and for what they have to offer to another besides good looks.

you might think a lot of these sweet dumplings are cold-blooded but many of these hot chicks out here have a heart. they participate in fundraising, they fight for human rights, they are scientists and activists who want to make the world a better place for all people, and they are teachers.

I've seen mud-ducks who have worse attitudes than hot chicks.

No class whatsoever. And, arrogant as hell. It's disgusting.

Anyway...

every hot chick isn't looking to be a model or an actress or someone's trophy wife.

all of them don't want to be put on a pedestal and admired for their beauty. some of them don't care about beauty. some of these babes want the world to know that they're intelligent and goodhearted

the reality is: many of these hot chicks out here are lonely and feel inadequate in their lives without a true purpose in their lives or Love or the ability to make a difference in the world.

really, it's society and everyone else who's putting so much emphasis on how hot these chicks are because most of us love and appreciate beauty and eye-candy.

Hell, I know I'm guilty. I've dated all types of chicks but it took me a while to appreciate a chick for more than just her beauty.

we're the ones who are making these "average girls" live up to certain ideas and philosophies we have about "hot chicks" and how they should act, walk, and talk

so, of course many of them are concerned about their style and "fitting in" with their friends and peers or living up to the expectations of their parents, relatives, or to society.

but they're like everyone else...

some are crazy as hell

some are nerds

some like to act silly or goofy and make people laugh

some like to get dirty and build things, or fix things, or work in a garden

some of them are worried that they're not interesting enough

some hot chicks are introverts

some of them are socially clumsy and this makes them shy because they feel anxious about striking up a conversation or sharing their thoughts or opinions

all of them aren't stuck-up or uppity or self-centered or prissy

all of them aren't narcissistic

all of them aren't like these so-called "strong women" with attitudes and high opinions of themselves

quite a few of them are "down-to-earth" and they're looking for a nice "down-to-earth" prospect to date and get to know on a deeper level

some of them are begging and praying to find a sweet guy.

Why, this past year, I've seen some of the prettiest girls come into the store with some real gorillas. I mean these guys looked so beastly they could give Shrek or King Kong a run for their money.

I've seen short guys in there walking hand-in-hand with some fine tenderonies as well. So, don't be so quick to negatively judge these hot chicks. All of them are interested in guys based on their looks.

true, some of them are still picky as hell but most people are picky as hell too. So, you still just have to go for it if you're "feeling" her and want to get to know her on a deeper level.

sometimes, they let their friends influence them or guide them about who they should choose to date or what they should strive for in a mate - or, what their relationship goals and life goals should be

and this is what gives many hot chicks a bad reputation. many of them allow their friends or relatives to think for them instead of thinking for themselves

sometimes their friends or some "match-maker" will takeover and pick a prospect for them based on how much money the prospect has or how attractive the prospect is. this could leave you out in the cold if you don't make your move quickly

some hot chicks have no preference or concerns about dating a super-hot buff guy with major cash. she's looking for someone who's honest, respectful, kind, and sweet. all of them aren't superficial.

so your chances are just as good as anyone as long as you're not shy also - or overwhelmed by her looks

give the girl a chance. don't be so quick to judge or to think negative. find a way to approach her so that she knows you're interested and interesting.

don't sit back and let a scrub or a drunkard make a move before you do! that bum will ruin it for everybody! she'll think she's surrounded by losers and clam-up! or, even worse, she'll think that drunkard is funny and exciting and fall in love with him! or HER!

and, it could be days, weeks, months, or years, before that babe realizes her mistake! in the meantime, you're still single and lonely because you've let that opportunity walk right out of your life...

don't be afraid of rejection. you can't win them all but you can't win AT ALL if you don't play. it never hurts to ask. how else could you stand a chance of meeting her?

wouldn't it be funny if both of you were interested in each other but were too shy to approach? it's happened to me before. And, I've missed out on a good thing because of it. Don't let that happen to you.

- loveqna