More scenes from "Don Juan DeMarco".
Don Juan DeMarco - Restaurant Scene
Video provided by - pawzzz
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"Four questions of value in life" by Johnny Depp in "Don Juan DeMarco"
Video provided by - TheNestiutor
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- loveqna
NEW! Simp Or Sucker? You Be The Judge.
Monday, January 30, 2012
VIDEO - Women Don't Like Questions !
Women Don't Like Questions !
Ladies, this is a cute scene... but, remember: guys don't like questions either.
Video provided by - LolaSchmerz
- loveqna
Ladies, this is a cute scene... but, remember: guys don't like questions either.
Video provided by - LolaSchmerz
- loveqna
VIDEO - Scenes From Don Juan De Marco
No, I'm not infatuated with Don Juan or Johnny Depp. However...
I think you'll enjoy these scenes from Don Juan De Marco and find them to be Inspirational.
It never hurts to check your "game" once and a while to make sure it's tight and right.
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Don Juan DeMarco Clip - "Have you ever loved a woman...?"
Video provided by - BestOfDepp
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Don Juan DeMarco - words from the greatest lover
yanchee
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- loveqna
I think you'll enjoy these scenes from Don Juan De Marco and find them to be Inspirational.
It never hurts to check your "game" once and a while to make sure it's tight and right.
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Don Juan DeMarco Clip - "Have you ever loved a woman...?"
Video provided by - BestOfDepp
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Don Juan DeMarco - words from the greatest lover
yanchee
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- loveqna
Sunday, January 29, 2012
notes - A Few Ways To Stop Negative Thoughts
Blahhh, more notes...
I can't help it. Too many ideas; Too much confusion going on inside of my head.
This post is for the timid who are afraid to approach good prospects for fear of rejection. Don't think negative of yourself before you even try. And don't wage all of your bets on one prospect! You don't know if he or she is even the right person for you. Relax. Approach. Say what you have to say. And, if he or she responds, go from there. If not, move on with your next plan.
Don't have high expectations of someone you don't know!
I have also considered these notes for people who are depressed.
BEING ALONE is what is dragging you down! You don't have any other "human energy" to connect with and interact with and to draw from. so, of course, your spirits are gonna be low!
Get out of the house if you can. If you can't, improve your energy through Creating...
Write. Invent. Produce. Design. Use your time to expand your Mind. Don't allow negative thoughts or fear to suppress the energy that's hidden deep inside.
To those who are stuck in these dead-ass piss-ass relationships with these tyrannical bullies and bums:
Don't allow the negativity to conquer your spirit! Keep an open mind and seek ways to allow your inner strength to re-emerge!
Consider the times when you have felt positive, strong, and confident.
Stay away from fear. Be cunning. Use reverse-psychology if you have to. Find ways to deal with that skank or scumbag until you escape your situation. Don't give up and don't get distracted from your goal. A better life awaits you.
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notes - How To Stop Negative Thoughts...
First, Realize that "you're only scared of what you THINK you're scared of."
Look beyond the situation. Take a look at multiple points of view.
Use your Wisdom to see beyond the tricks your mind is playing on you.
Don't drop your head and drag your feet over the challenges Life throws at you! Stand Tall and FACE your demons and enemies head on! Conquer them and wipe them out! Don't allow misery to rule and ruin your life...
Sometimes these "tests" in Life are put there to build our character! To make us Stronger! To prepare us for the REAL Challenges that lie ahead.
Don't let Fear or Doubt or Anger destroy your Instincts or Good Common Sense!
Life is full of B.S. And, you're going to have to deal with now AND later. So, ain't no need in crying about it or lying down and giving up.
Face it. Kick it to the curb. And, move on.
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WHEN YOU START TO HAVE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS...
Say "No" to them.
Turn your attention to your Goals.
Get busy and Stay productive and on the path to achieving your Goals. Even if your negative thoughts have nothing to do with your Goals, think of your Goals anyway. Don't overwhelm yourself. That's going to push you back into negativity. Consider the smaller goals. And Remember: you also have to tackle the smaller goals a little at a time.
Engage in activities that require thought and concentration. Calculate. Analyze.
Stay focused on the end results you want. Don't get distracted by negativity, doubt, or pain
Consider the probability of a Good Outcome rather than a negative outcome.
Change your thoughts by making out a "to do" list. Plan the next steps you need to take to get closer to your Goal.
WHEN NEGATIVE THOUGHTS START TO CREEP UP ON YOU...
Learn tactics that will help you make allies and that will help you adapt to your surroundings until you can escape the situation. See yourself as being "tested" and/or "on a mission" because this is also what Life is about - dealing with your tests and challenges and moving forward towards your Goal.
If dream after dream comes crashing down, don't whine about it. There may be another path meant for you to take or another calling in your life. Sometimes it's a good thing when things don't happen the way we want them to happen - or WHEN we want them to happen. Study the situation and look for other ways around the mess and to achieve your ultimate goal.
ANOTHER WAY TO STOP NEGATIVE THOUGHTS...
Don't put yourself down or cause timid thoughts within your mind - plan your actions and know what you have to do. Then, go for it. Release yourself of all resistance and dive in. Let yourself go. Say to yourself that you will deal with the situation as it happens. Plan in advance. Think, Act, and Respond later.
Realize what you have done right, plan what your next step should be, think about what you COULD do to help the situation, then, focus on something else
Challenge what could be making you feel negative or have doubts. Be realistic about your situation and how it can be improved or what you need to do or get to improve it
If you have caused "damage" that cannot be "repaired" or made a mistake that cannot be corrected, it's almost certain that it will be with you for the rest of your life. Realize that reality. But, although you were at fault, you can't stop living. There are at least four good deeds you can do in turn. Apologize. Ask for forgiveness. Forgive yourself for the error. And meditate (or pray) about the entire matter (the error, your apology, and the forgiveness). And a fifth deed will bring you good karma (if it's in your heart to do it) which is: contribute something to show your sincerity. (time; volunteer; testimony; artwork; whatever is in your heart and ability to do) But, don't mull over this forever. We all make errors in our lives, but we must move on. Let the Law Of Karma settle the deed.
TO FIGHT NEGATIVE THOUGHTS, YOU CAN ALSO...
Make moves - engage in an activity or go visit a friend - get out of your current surroundings
If it's late at night - have a release agent (write; make a video; make notes) on your current feelings or how to conquer or deal with your current feelings
Read or watch a movie
Distract yourself with a simple task like analyzing or calculating (working out a simple math problem or forming an opinion of something or planning your schedule for tomorrow)
Read or watch a movie that deals with positive thinking or reflection
Read a book of wisdom to activate inner strength and revelations
Research or study some techniques (constantly) to help you conquer this feeling (in advance)
Don't overwhelm yourself with too many ideas or chores that are unnecessary - some things you're thinking about probably aren't as important to your life as you think
SOMETIMES NEGATIVE THOUGHTS APPEAR OUT OF NOWHERE! BUT, KEEP YOUR COOL...
Don't worry about disappointing people you don't owe or aren't obligated to
Don't worry about people speaking negative of you or talking about you behind your back. people are going to say good and bad things about each other all the time so don't whine about it or concern yourself about it (some exceptions - unless you just have nothing else to talk about and want to make a conversation out of the situation)
SOMETIMES, YOU GOT TO CONQUER THOSE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS BEFORE THEY ENTER YOUR BRAIN...
Call anyone involved and confirm their participation. don't deal with unreliable or floppy people in the first place. if you have a hard time getting people together, find someone who is better at it. make sure you choose an acceptable time and location in the first place.
Don't procrastinate or wait until the last minute and put yourself under pressure (or, anyone else that doesn't deserve it)
Don't multi-task when you don't have to. Cut down on some of your errands, promises, and obligations so that you're not overwhelmed and scatter-brained.
Be realistic.
- is it YOUR problem or is it someone else's problem? Are you meddling in something that's not your responsibility? Are you meddling in someone else's life who doesn't want you in their business in the first place?
- how much will this really affect your progress or life? Can you correct this mistake if things don't turn out right the first time? What's the big deal? More work? Will take longer than necessary? Is it really just more "junk" or another "chore" in your life that you will have to deal with on a regular basis?
end of notes
loveqna
Thursday, January 26, 2012
Jerome in the house!!
Jerome in the house!!
Old School Comedy TV Show - "Martin" featuring Martin Lawrence as "Jerome".
Video provided by - karlmaximus
- loveqna
Old School Comedy TV Show - "Martin" featuring Martin Lawrence as "Jerome".
Video provided by - karlmaximus
- loveqna
notes - Improving Your Confidence Through Prioritizing and Decision-Making
I have a dilemma...
My instincts or E.S.P must've kicked in strong the other day because I was making notes in my phone on how to improve decision-making skills for a "confidence" post... Well, no sooner had I finished when my homegirl texted me and asked me if I wanted to be her roommate. I said, "damn".
Let me tell you something: My homegirl is cool. But, I don't know if I could handle living in such close proximity to her. She's nuts. And, she does some weird shit sometimes. Like she "has a few screws loose".
Around Thanksgiving, I mentioned to her that my current roommate was worrying me to death about eating healthier, smoking cigarettes (my homegirl doesn't like me smoking either), doing "boyfriend-type" chores, running errands, etc., and that I would probably move out soon. I don't want to be obligated to anyone for anything right now. I enjoy being single and free.
Well, this "nut" suggested that we could be roommates.
I was shocked and leery as hell. I didn't know she was gonna suggest that or I would've never opened my damn mouth.
Somehow, I bullshitted my way out of the conversation and she didn't mention it again - until the other day.
Now, she NEEDS a roommate.
I can't lie. Even though she's crazy as hell, I still think she's cute.
But, my instincts have already told me there will be some drama.
And, I'll miss having my own bathroom and walk-in closet... and carpet under my feet... no loud noises or disturbances.
Without her wearing a straight-jacket ain't no telling how crazy it's going to be living under the same roof with that broad.
I mentioned how crazy she was in another post. And, that wasn't even half of a description of her insanity.
Anyway, she wants (or prefers) me to move in this weekend. I don't know why, but that's what she wants.
For the most part, me and my roommate get along well. It's almost like we're in a good relationship - just without the hanky-panky going on. And, my homegirl - although she's crazy as hell, she's a straight-up "ride or die" chick. (And, I'll tell you about that later.) But, it's almost insane for me to pass up an opportunity to be in a setting with a girl like that. We're like Bonnie and Clyde when we're alone together...
So, I don't know what to do. Hence, this post.
Anyway...
These aren't the actual notes I created in my phone but, if you're reading the posts on building confidence and improving conversation skills, these will also help. And, I'll add from my original notes later.
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notes - priorities and decisions:
If you're trying to get your life together to improve your love-life or relationship, the first thing to remember is: Use Your Instincts when learning from "successful" people (like: celebrities or friends or customers or your boss).
The second thing to remember is: DON'T overload yourself with too much studying and research! Start DOING.
Take Action to change your Life right now.
Don't keep thinking about it.
Don't sit around watching TV trying to be Inspired or to find Motivation. Just start doing it a little bit at a time...
Don't go for the overnight success either! If it happens, cool. But, most improvement takes hard work (including good relationships unless there's Chemistry), and steady growth over a period of time.
You can cut and trim that Time a little bit here and there, when the opportunities and options present themselves. But, take your time and make the necessary personal adjustments without trying to take RISKY shortcuts and it'll happen before you know it.
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learn how to be a leader - accept leadership roles that force you to make decisions and choices.
learn to adapt to situations and sudden events
learn to adjust (or change) your position based on sudden events or circumstances - don't run from opportunities like these which will help you grow and gain personal strength
You should also pay attention to how people with experience deal with situations and challenges in life - BUT! use your instincts to be sure you're not accepting advice or learning from a liar or a fool - it never hurts to get a second or third opinion also
know what you need right now and soon
know what you want right now and soon
know what you don't want and need - cut and trim the "baggage" and unnecessary waste.
Sacrifice and BE WILLING to sacrifice when you KNOW it's necessary
Don't make decisions (for what you want and need) based on how comfortable or UN-comfortable your surroundings will be - BUT! know what's acceptable and unacceptable conditions for you (your safety, stress, intrusions, options, distractions, quality time, rules, etc.)
know what you want out of Life
know what you want to accomplish
know what your dreams and fantasies are (things that ARE possible but not depressing if you don't do them)
Have a back-up plan - prepare for the worst (but, don't dwell on it)
Realize when you have the upperhand and options. You have the power when you have the ability to decide "yes" or "no". Don't relinquish this power when you have it. demand fairness, respect, quality service, and your money's worth. the same things you would give if the shoe was on the other foot.
To find your "Calling In Life", just explore the World and your options. travel, research, be curious, try new things, meet more people, join a social group, volunteer, engage in a new interest or hobby. you'll never know what it might be or what role you'll play until it overtakes you and you fall in love with it. but, most of the time, it's something you'll be obsessed by and want to share with other people.
know what's best for your future (to be self-sufficient - independent)
always remember that Life is hard and the higher you go, the more difficult it will get. it won't get any easier until you discover for yourself what Life is all about to you. the thing is: no matter where you are in life at the moment, don't get discouraged by the distractions, the drama, the confusion, the setbacks, or whenever you lose something (or someone) you really love.
the trick is NOT conquering all of the B.S. but LEARNING how to deal with it. how to HANDLE it. learn, grow, then teach those after you (you kids or whomever) the lessons you've learned. and we continue to advance and evolve.
continue to learn how to do things better and more efficiently - especially managing your time, money, and energy - but, also, creating friendships, choosing a mate wisely, engaging in contracts or bargaining, making deals and promises, investing, dealing with professionals, dealing with ignorant people, etc.
Never be too stubborn to change, compromise, or to stop and think.
know WHO you love (and care about) - but, know who your real friends are also
know WHAT you love - the things that bring happiness, calmness, inner strength, and peace of mind - your PERSONAL entertainment/ FUN
Remember that TOO MUCH of a good thing is USUALLY bad for you - including being too nice, too generous, too much partying, too much relaxing, or too much daydreaming
Have your own rules and philosophies to live by even if you borrow them from someone else or from a book of wisdom or learn them from your parents
Many of your rules and what you BELIEVE is right for you and NOT right for you should focus on helping you grow and should help you stay focused on your goals and priorities
if you want something, just ask (this includes a better deal and the best deal)
know what important questions you need to ask before you see a professional about anything - and don't allow him or her to rush you off or take your concerns lightly - ask as many questions as you need to ask. and remember, it's wise to do your own research or to get a second or third opinion
sometimes you need to talk about what you're going through to other people just in case someone can help you, hook you up, or point you in the right direction
when making day to day decisions - it never hurts to plan out a schedule the day before - in your head or on paper (paper is probably best) make a to-do list. by day and by week. any important deadlines and events should be noted (for business, pleasure, or kindness - like birthdays)
there will almost always be daily chores and social situations you will have to attend to (to show some love or thoughtfulness and bonding), but don't shy away. just say "no" if you can't attend - but don't make it a habit. if you can make time to do it, then do it, just make your friends aware that you can't stay long because you're on a tight schedule and have to "run errands"
learn to save (time, money, energy) so that you can complete your day to day goals and chores easier - not to mention long-term goals - ask questions and EXPLORE to find out if there is a better way or MORE EFFICIENT way of doing things - your main objective is to take care of these smaller goals so that they can help you reach your major goals.
I know that's a lot to swallow, so I'll save the rest for another day.
end of notes.
- loveqna
My instincts or E.S.P must've kicked in strong the other day because I was making notes in my phone on how to improve decision-making skills for a "confidence" post... Well, no sooner had I finished when my homegirl texted me and asked me if I wanted to be her roommate. I said, "damn".
Let me tell you something: My homegirl is cool. But, I don't know if I could handle living in such close proximity to her. She's nuts. And, she does some weird shit sometimes. Like she "has a few screws loose".
Around Thanksgiving, I mentioned to her that my current roommate was worrying me to death about eating healthier, smoking cigarettes (my homegirl doesn't like me smoking either), doing "boyfriend-type" chores, running errands, etc., and that I would probably move out soon. I don't want to be obligated to anyone for anything right now. I enjoy being single and free.
Well, this "nut" suggested that we could be roommates.
I was shocked and leery as hell. I didn't know she was gonna suggest that or I would've never opened my damn mouth.
Somehow, I bullshitted my way out of the conversation and she didn't mention it again - until the other day.
Now, she NEEDS a roommate.
I can't lie. Even though she's crazy as hell, I still think she's cute.
But, my instincts have already told me there will be some drama.
And, I'll miss having my own bathroom and walk-in closet... and carpet under my feet... no loud noises or disturbances.
Without her wearing a straight-jacket ain't no telling how crazy it's going to be living under the same roof with that broad.
I mentioned how crazy she was in another post. And, that wasn't even half of a description of her insanity.
Anyway, she wants (or prefers) me to move in this weekend. I don't know why, but that's what she wants.
For the most part, me and my roommate get along well. It's almost like we're in a good relationship - just without the hanky-panky going on. And, my homegirl - although she's crazy as hell, she's a straight-up "ride or die" chick. (And, I'll tell you about that later.) But, it's almost insane for me to pass up an opportunity to be in a setting with a girl like that. We're like Bonnie and Clyde when we're alone together...
So, I don't know what to do. Hence, this post.
Anyway...
These aren't the actual notes I created in my phone but, if you're reading the posts on building confidence and improving conversation skills, these will also help. And, I'll add from my original notes later.
-----------------------------------------------------------
notes - priorities and decisions:
If you're trying to get your life together to improve your love-life or relationship, the first thing to remember is: Use Your Instincts when learning from "successful" people (like: celebrities or friends or customers or your boss).
The second thing to remember is: DON'T overload yourself with too much studying and research! Start DOING.
Take Action to change your Life right now.
Don't keep thinking about it.
Don't sit around watching TV trying to be Inspired or to find Motivation. Just start doing it a little bit at a time...
Don't go for the overnight success either! If it happens, cool. But, most improvement takes hard work (including good relationships unless there's Chemistry), and steady growth over a period of time.
You can cut and trim that Time a little bit here and there, when the opportunities and options present themselves. But, take your time and make the necessary personal adjustments without trying to take RISKY shortcuts and it'll happen before you know it.
.....
learn how to be a leader - accept leadership roles that force you to make decisions and choices.
learn to adapt to situations and sudden events
learn to adjust (or change) your position based on sudden events or circumstances - don't run from opportunities like these which will help you grow and gain personal strength
You should also pay attention to how people with experience deal with situations and challenges in life - BUT! use your instincts to be sure you're not accepting advice or learning from a liar or a fool - it never hurts to get a second or third opinion also
know what you need right now and soon
know what you want right now and soon
know what you don't want and need - cut and trim the "baggage" and unnecessary waste.
Sacrifice and BE WILLING to sacrifice when you KNOW it's necessary
Don't make decisions (for what you want and need) based on how comfortable or UN-comfortable your surroundings will be - BUT! know what's acceptable and unacceptable conditions for you (your safety, stress, intrusions, options, distractions, quality time, rules, etc.)
know what you want out of Life
know what you want to accomplish
know what your dreams and fantasies are (things that ARE possible but not depressing if you don't do them)
Have a back-up plan - prepare for the worst (but, don't dwell on it)
Realize when you have the upperhand and options. You have the power when you have the ability to decide "yes" or "no". Don't relinquish this power when you have it. demand fairness, respect, quality service, and your money's worth. the same things you would give if the shoe was on the other foot.
To find your "Calling In Life", just explore the World and your options. travel, research, be curious, try new things, meet more people, join a social group, volunteer, engage in a new interest or hobby. you'll never know what it might be or what role you'll play until it overtakes you and you fall in love with it. but, most of the time, it's something you'll be obsessed by and want to share with other people.
know what's best for your future (to be self-sufficient - independent)
always remember that Life is hard and the higher you go, the more difficult it will get. it won't get any easier until you discover for yourself what Life is all about to you. the thing is: no matter where you are in life at the moment, don't get discouraged by the distractions, the drama, the confusion, the setbacks, or whenever you lose something (or someone) you really love.
the trick is NOT conquering all of the B.S. but LEARNING how to deal with it. how to HANDLE it. learn, grow, then teach those after you (you kids or whomever) the lessons you've learned. and we continue to advance and evolve.
continue to learn how to do things better and more efficiently - especially managing your time, money, and energy - but, also, creating friendships, choosing a mate wisely, engaging in contracts or bargaining, making deals and promises, investing, dealing with professionals, dealing with ignorant people, etc.
Never be too stubborn to change, compromise, or to stop and think.
know WHO you love (and care about) - but, know who your real friends are also
know WHAT you love - the things that bring happiness, calmness, inner strength, and peace of mind - your PERSONAL entertainment/ FUN
Remember that TOO MUCH of a good thing is USUALLY bad for you - including being too nice, too generous, too much partying, too much relaxing, or too much daydreaming
Have your own rules and philosophies to live by even if you borrow them from someone else or from a book of wisdom or learn them from your parents
Many of your rules and what you BELIEVE is right for you and NOT right for you should focus on helping you grow and should help you stay focused on your goals and priorities
if you want something, just ask (this includes a better deal and the best deal)
know what important questions you need to ask before you see a professional about anything - and don't allow him or her to rush you off or take your concerns lightly - ask as many questions as you need to ask. and remember, it's wise to do your own research or to get a second or third opinion
sometimes you need to talk about what you're going through to other people just in case someone can help you, hook you up, or point you in the right direction
when making day to day decisions - it never hurts to plan out a schedule the day before - in your head or on paper (paper is probably best) make a to-do list. by day and by week. any important deadlines and events should be noted (for business, pleasure, or kindness - like birthdays)
there will almost always be daily chores and social situations you will have to attend to (to show some love or thoughtfulness and bonding), but don't shy away. just say "no" if you can't attend - but don't make it a habit. if you can make time to do it, then do it, just make your friends aware that you can't stay long because you're on a tight schedule and have to "run errands"
learn to save (time, money, energy) so that you can complete your day to day goals and chores easier - not to mention long-term goals - ask questions and EXPLORE to find out if there is a better way or MORE EFFICIENT way of doing things - your main objective is to take care of these smaller goals so that they can help you reach your major goals.
I know that's a lot to swallow, so I'll save the rest for another day.
end of notes.
- loveqna
Sunday, January 22, 2012
10 Reasons Why Some People Prefer A "Friends With Benefits" Relationship
I could already predict what most people's reaction would be after they read that topic sentence. And, if you've been reading this blog and developing your instincts and intuition - as you should be - then, You also know what most people's reaction is after reading that topic sentence.
BUT! Let me say this:
Not all people who are involved in a "friends with benefits" relationship (FWB) "wants to have their cake and eat it too."
While it's true that many of the people who are involved in a "friends with benefits" relationship are "players", "wafflers", "hoochies", "hoes", "cheaters", and "free spirits", who have no intention on making a commitment, it's also true that there are some sincere people involved in this type of relationship who want a serious commitment in the end.
It's just a fact that MANY relationships have to start somewhere. And, they start off as friendships that develop into something more - like a "friendship with benefits". Or, EXCLUSIVELY dating one person.
Although some people's hormones or libido takes over their mind and judgement - or, they "fall in love" - for the most part, many of them still want to take their time and get to know the person they're involved with on various Intimate levels.
Those honest men and women ain't looking for an occasional "hook-up" or a "booty call" three nights a week. That's not their goal. Sometimes, it just goes on like that for a while.
In reality, they want something serious and solid that they can build a foundation on.
How many times have you known a good man or woman who had a "friend" and was involved in a "friends with benefits" relationship but dated their "friend" exclusively? And, the person they're "dating" might feel the same way about them.
They just might not call it a "girlfriend-boyfriend" relationship. Or, even ask each other about a commitment. They just assume that they're committed because they're dating each other exclusively.
Maybe one of them will "clear the air" and bring the conversation up. Like:
"What is this? Are we dating or in a relationship or what? How do you feel about me?"
"Woman, we've been kickin' it for 24 and a half hours! You know I love about you and no one else. Let's get married and have kids. I'm trading my Porche in for a Chrysler minivan tomorrow morning."
And, after their "suspicions" or desires are confirmed, they can go from there with certainty - knowing that they're in an established relationship.
They didn't want to "have their cake and eat it too." They KNEW they were looking for a long-term relationship and their SoulMate in the first place.
Critics are right (sort of): A "friends with benefits" relationship is NOT necessary in a courtship.
But often, it's the natural Course in a courtship.
Most people don't go from meeting a stranger one day to a commitment a week or a month later.
Sometimes, your hormones takeover. Sometimes, people "fall in love" (or "in lust"). And, sometimes, people (both parties) want to sample the merchandise before they make a purchase (or a commitment).
You have to get to know the person one way or the other.
You don't necessarily have to be intimate with him or her, but if you do, the responsibility for doing so is yours. Right?
Hell, there are a lot of innocent and pure virgins out there running around with chastity belts on saving themselves for marriage.
No one says you have to make love to the bum or allow him or her to "have their cake and eat it too."
You don't HAVE to be involved in a "friends with benefits" relationship if you don't want to be.
But, some people do it because:
- They're "lovestruck" and fear that this man or woman might find someone else. So, they continue on with the "friendship" because they don't want to lose him or her.
- Sometimes, people who aren't where they want to be in life won't make a commitment because they want to devote most of their energy to pursuing their career or dreams. It's not that they DON'T want to be in a relationship. It's just that they want to be focused on their goal.
- Some of those people who are involved in these FWB relationships don't feel completely compatible (or satisfied) with the person they're involved with. BUT, they see the potential and don't want to let this person go. They're hoping that their love-interest will change and become a more positive and devoted person.
- Some people don't feel they have the time to devote to serious relationship because their hobby, interests, job, or school. But, they still want to date and have fun every once and a while.
- Some people want to know their "friend" on ALL LEVELS before they make a commitment. They want to be satisfied emotionally, physically, socially, spiritually, and financially before things go any further. This is also what a "waffler" might do and why he or she may have two "friends" at the same time. Picky and trying to choose.
- And, of course, some people want to know if they have "sexual chemistry" with the person they're seeing BEFORE they get into a serious relationship.
- And, some people JUST DON'T ASK or TALK ABOUT the relationship status with their "friend". They simply go with the flow and expect things to work out.
And, there are other reasons. Everybody has their own.
Now, the reasons why most "players", cheaters, and wafflers, are involved in a "friends with benefits" relationship is pretty simple.
They want that Booty.
- They love sex and want to pursue it freely without restrictions. They'll use the person like a convenience store for as long as he or she let's them.
- Sometimes, they're already IN a relationship and don't want TWO or more serious commitments.
- They like being free to party, hangout with their comrades, and move freely without "checking in" or interruptions. It's not always about sex for "free spirited" folks.
- Sometimes, they can't decide between two people and want to keep both for variety in sex, companionship, conversation, and social or intellectual pursuits.
- Sometimes, a "player" will keep a guy or girl as a "friend" only because he or she is "hot" or "good in bed". Other than that, the "friend" has no value and serves no purpose to the bum. The only thing that poor sap is getting are booty calls and fast food. McDonald's.
And, of course, there are other reasons why "players", hoes, and wafflers, are involved in these "friends with benefits" relationships. You know everyone has their own reason.
But, most people know the risk they're taking by not taking their time to get to know the person they're courting.
If they don't know to ask questions and observe in order to find out if they and their prospect are "on the same page", have the same relationship goals, or if they're compatible, then they have no one to blame but themselves when they end up in an FWB for 5 or 10 years.
They know the rules of the game.
If they don't, educate them or send them here.
- loveqna
BUT! Let me say this:
Not all people who are involved in a "friends with benefits" relationship (FWB) "wants to have their cake and eat it too."
While it's true that many of the people who are involved in a "friends with benefits" relationship are "players", "wafflers", "hoochies", "hoes", "cheaters", and "free spirits", who have no intention on making a commitment, it's also true that there are some sincere people involved in this type of relationship who want a serious commitment in the end.
It's just a fact that MANY relationships have to start somewhere. And, they start off as friendships that develop into something more - like a "friendship with benefits". Or, EXCLUSIVELY dating one person.
Although some people's hormones or libido takes over their mind and judgement - or, they "fall in love" - for the most part, many of them still want to take their time and get to know the person they're involved with on various Intimate levels.
Those honest men and women ain't looking for an occasional "hook-up" or a "booty call" three nights a week. That's not their goal. Sometimes, it just goes on like that for a while.
In reality, they want something serious and solid that they can build a foundation on.
How many times have you known a good man or woman who had a "friend" and was involved in a "friends with benefits" relationship but dated their "friend" exclusively? And, the person they're "dating" might feel the same way about them.
They just might not call it a "girlfriend-boyfriend" relationship. Or, even ask each other about a commitment. They just assume that they're committed because they're dating each other exclusively.
Maybe one of them will "clear the air" and bring the conversation up. Like:
"What is this? Are we dating or in a relationship or what? How do you feel about me?"
"Woman, we've been kickin' it for 24 and a half hours! You know I love about you and no one else. Let's get married and have kids. I'm trading my Porche in for a Chrysler minivan tomorrow morning."
And, after their "suspicions" or desires are confirmed, they can go from there with certainty - knowing that they're in an established relationship.
They didn't want to "have their cake and eat it too." They KNEW they were looking for a long-term relationship and their SoulMate in the first place.
Critics are right (sort of): A "friends with benefits" relationship is NOT necessary in a courtship.
But often, it's the natural Course in a courtship.
Most people don't go from meeting a stranger one day to a commitment a week or a month later.
Sometimes, your hormones takeover. Sometimes, people "fall in love" (or "in lust"). And, sometimes, people (both parties) want to sample the merchandise before they make a purchase (or a commitment).
You have to get to know the person one way or the other.
You don't necessarily have to be intimate with him or her, but if you do, the responsibility for doing so is yours. Right?
Hell, there are a lot of innocent and pure virgins out there running around with chastity belts on saving themselves for marriage.
No one says you have to make love to the bum or allow him or her to "have their cake and eat it too."
You don't HAVE to be involved in a "friends with benefits" relationship if you don't want to be.
But, some people do it because:
- They're "lovestruck" and fear that this man or woman might find someone else. So, they continue on with the "friendship" because they don't want to lose him or her.
- Sometimes, people who aren't where they want to be in life won't make a commitment because they want to devote most of their energy to pursuing their career or dreams. It's not that they DON'T want to be in a relationship. It's just that they want to be focused on their goal.
- Some of those people who are involved in these FWB relationships don't feel completely compatible (or satisfied) with the person they're involved with. BUT, they see the potential and don't want to let this person go. They're hoping that their love-interest will change and become a more positive and devoted person.
- Some people don't feel they have the time to devote to serious relationship because their hobby, interests, job, or school. But, they still want to date and have fun every once and a while.
- Some people want to know their "friend" on ALL LEVELS before they make a commitment. They want to be satisfied emotionally, physically, socially, spiritually, and financially before things go any further. This is also what a "waffler" might do and why he or she may have two "friends" at the same time. Picky and trying to choose.
- And, of course, some people want to know if they have "sexual chemistry" with the person they're seeing BEFORE they get into a serious relationship.
- And, some people JUST DON'T ASK or TALK ABOUT the relationship status with their "friend". They simply go with the flow and expect things to work out.
And, there are other reasons. Everybody has their own.
Now, the reasons why most "players", cheaters, and wafflers, are involved in a "friends with benefits" relationship is pretty simple.
They want that Booty.
- They love sex and want to pursue it freely without restrictions. They'll use the person like a convenience store for as long as he or she let's them.
- Sometimes, they're already IN a relationship and don't want TWO or more serious commitments.
- They like being free to party, hangout with their comrades, and move freely without "checking in" or interruptions. It's not always about sex for "free spirited" folks.
- Sometimes, they can't decide between two people and want to keep both for variety in sex, companionship, conversation, and social or intellectual pursuits.
- Sometimes, a "player" will keep a guy or girl as a "friend" only because he or she is "hot" or "good in bed". Other than that, the "friend" has no value and serves no purpose to the bum. The only thing that poor sap is getting are booty calls and fast food. McDonald's.
And, of course, there are other reasons why "players", hoes, and wafflers, are involved in these "friends with benefits" relationships. You know everyone has their own reason.
But, most people know the risk they're taking by not taking their time to get to know the person they're courting.
If they don't know to ask questions and observe in order to find out if they and their prospect are "on the same page", have the same relationship goals, or if they're compatible, then they have no one to blame but themselves when they end up in an FWB for 5 or 10 years.
They know the rules of the game.
If they don't, educate them or send them here.
- loveqna
Saturday, January 21, 2012
VIDEO - Man Beaten And Forced To Marry
Man Beaten And Forced To Marry
news9tv
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There's no justice for honest hardworking men in this World.
But, Ten Years IS a long time to keep a woman waiting. But, a lot of that goes on everywhere. Some men (and even women - but mostly men) are just afraid to commit for fear of losing their freedom or being trapped in a dull lifestyle.
Some of them fear growing up and taking on the responsibilities. Or, dealing with a nagging temperamental wife. That's enough to keep any man from committing and waiting for something better to come along.
Sometimes, although, the couple has been together for years and years, one of them might not feel a spark, a connection, or think they're compatible.
I know you're saying: "Oh, he just wants to have his cake and eat it too", and I agree with you. It does seem like he only wanted a playmate.
But, you never know, his mother made have the power over him and she may have been the reason he hasn't married this girl.
LOL. I'm just sayin'... Maybe, that's a possibility and the reason why he hadn't married her. After all, he did run away with the girl once, so he must care for her and want her. Right?
lol.
Anyway...
I thnk it's great they got married, and I hope everything is still well with them in the end.
- loveqna
news9tv
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There's no justice for honest hardworking men in this World.
But, Ten Years IS a long time to keep a woman waiting. But, a lot of that goes on everywhere. Some men (and even women - but mostly men) are just afraid to commit for fear of losing their freedom or being trapped in a dull lifestyle.
Some of them fear growing up and taking on the responsibilities. Or, dealing with a nagging temperamental wife. That's enough to keep any man from committing and waiting for something better to come along.
Sometimes, although, the couple has been together for years and years, one of them might not feel a spark, a connection, or think they're compatible.
I know you're saying: "Oh, he just wants to have his cake and eat it too", and I agree with you. It does seem like he only wanted a playmate.
But, you never know, his mother made have the power over him and she may have been the reason he hasn't married this girl.
LOL. I'm just sayin'... Maybe, that's a possibility and the reason why he hadn't married her. After all, he did run away with the girl once, so he must care for her and want her. Right?
lol.
Anyway...
I thnk it's great they got married, and I hope everything is still well with them in the end.
- loveqna
notes - Don't Let Those Jackasses Break Your Spirit
I know I'm posting a lot of notes lately. I have a lot on my mind, but my time is limited since I'm working 3rd shift again, so I'm posting some of my thoughts and plans as notes to be updated later when I go on vacation.
I might not go skiing. I told you some of those bums where kind of "shaky". They thought we would be able to use the cabin next week and it was already reserved. So, they're going the week after next, and I've already put in my request for next week off and can't change it due to some of my co-workers already requesting those days.
Well, that's life.
I'm not gonna let it worry me. I'm gonna enjoy my time off.
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notes...
people can call you names and beat you up but don't let them beat you down and make you feel sorry for yourself or hate your life - to hell with those jackasses!
don't give those rat bastards power over your Mind and Spirit! they can kiss your ass! screw those bums.
some people always have to have some bullshit going on because they're small-minded and can't think of anything else to do with their boring-ass lives
people might look at you as odd because of the way you look, or because of your personality, but don't let that stop you from forging ahead
as Jim Rohn said, you must make yourself more valuable to the people who need you - screw the wackos, the tyrants, the clowns, and the bullies
the people who want to break you down should be the last of your focus unless they can put obstacles in your way or cause you to lose time, money, or energy. and if they can do that, get away from them whenever and however you can
if you have to be around them, teach your mind to deal with them
stand tall and be resilient! don't whine or cry! the hell withem!
learn ways to respond to their wisecracks, bullying, and tyranny
such as silence, Jedi mind tricks, asking questions to distract them, asking questions to make them explain in detail or to run,
realize what options you have and search for more options - ask around
don't stay in that place just for the comfort. if you have a guaranteed safe place to go that will allow you growth and peace of mind, make the move
is there a habit or pleasure or addiction or some form of recreation you need to stop for a while in order to save money
sometimes, you can stand up for yourself and give a bully a cold stare to confirm his strength or weakness
when someone starts to "clown around" too much or become too playful, cut that shit short early on. let them know you don't play immature games and that you mean business. don't be so cold but don't laugh it off either or they may keep it up
size matters to a lot of people. if you have to workout and buff-up or tone to shake them up a little bit, do it
if you have to learn martial arts or hand-to-hand combat, to feel more confident - do it
often, your body language and movements and the walk you walk affect whether people challenge you or not. if you walk and move with uncertainty or doubt, you may end up being a target
if you act clueless, you may end up being a target
you must walk with confidence and certainty to keep away mischief but, it may also get you more attention
if your walk is menacing, you may not be challenged but you may be unapproachable
your attitude must always be positive to keep people from affecting you emotionally
remind people that torment you that God will punish them - even if you're an atheist
remind people what goes around comes around or that bad karma will catch up with them one day
remind evil-doers to change their ways before it's too late - let them know that the time is at hand (time for you to whip some ass if they keep it up)
if you have a style that you're proud of and you're enjoying life and getting what you want out of it, screw what other people think - "DO You"
if you think you might need a style makeover to help improve certain aspects of your life such as your love life, or job, then go for it. but, i would start small and not extreme
learn to be self-sufficient so that you don't have to depend on those jackasses and jerks for anything
build your circle of friends so that you can have somewhere to go and chill to get away from the stress and frustration. if you can't get away, learn a new hobby or interest or fixation that will help you take your mind off of the mess you're in
take care of your mind and emotions so that you do not fall in love too easily. if you meet someone, get to know him or her well as friends, then companions, and if it builds from there, so be it. this is the natural order anyway.
don't rush into anything at this time, because your heart and mind could be longing for the love you're not getting and looking for an escape from your current situation. so, you might not choose wisely. OR, you might rush in and scare the person off. OR, you might be making a big deal out of nothing and end up with a broken heart.
furthermore, don't GIVE people a reason to doubt you or to interrogate you. Don't talk down about yourself or be too humble. when problems arise, it might look like you're to blame. OR, people will use you as a scapegoat. so, it will become a habit that you don't need to have around certain people. these people might take your kindness for weakness
Don't think about or mention failure! Be Fierce! Be Ferocious! Enjoy the competition! Work hard to succeed! Work hard to Win!
And, stay on the go! Keep making moves that benefit your life or that take you closer to a life of love and self-sufficiency.
you don't want to be dependent on an asshole for anything! he or she will constantly try to dominate your life, make you weak, and keep you down.
keep looking to build your allies, strength, wisdom, education, skills, and resources. plan, and get the hell away from there as soon as you can.
end of notes
Eye of The Tiger - Part 2 (Ric Flair Style)
In this video, Ric Flair is not only talking about wrestling. He's talking about Life.
"The BOTTOM LINE… in this sport is: You walk down that Aisle, and you get in that Ring, and you Win!
WOO!" - Ric Flair
Don't allow shyness to conquer you. Go after what you want in Life! Love, Wisdom, a Strong Mind, a Goal, a Purpose... You can have it all as long as you work hard, focus, and believe in yourself - and in what you're doing.
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Slick Ric Again
Video provided by - krayven76
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Bob Cottle:
Fans, here's the World Champion, Nature Boy, Ric Flair.
And Ric you know over the years how many compliments I’ve handed you, but I’ve gotta say: My FAITH in the Champion has been Shaken with what I've seen today.
Ric Flair:
If your faith should be shaken in anybody it oughtta’ be Dick Crum up at North Carolina.
You oughtta’ be hollerin’ for Bill Curry.
You don't lose Faith in Winners. And Ric Flair - day in and day out – Woo! – every Day of his LIFE - just keeps winning and winning and winning…
And you know why Bob Cottle? Because I’ve got the most positive attitude. I’ve got the most Ability... I’ve got the greatest physical attributes... and I just happen to Be - the Best athlete alive today - Your World Heavyweight Champion.
So Bob Cottle, Don’t You – and I’ve known you for almost 10 years – Don’t you stick that lower lip out at me Brother and try and degrade anything I'm doin', because I'm still standing here - Custom Made, Brother! Woo! And I mean Custom Made. From the “ALLIGATORS”… to the “Oleg Cassini” right here!
Ric Flair! There's Only One!
And I don’t care if it’s Tokyo, Japan! Greensboro! Richmond! Charlotte, North Carolina! Ashville! Atlanta, Georgia! Charlotte! L.A!
You know, Jim Crockett - is taking the World… and I’m the man that’s making it possible - The World Heavyweight Wrestling Champion… Only One!
And the Magnum T.A.s, the Dusty Rhodes, the Landells, the Kohloffs, the Wahoos… the Tully Blanchards… And I'll tell you What: All of a sudden I'm startin' to like Tully Blanchard because he's a winner too!
I like the Andersons. And you know Why??? Because the Andersons are Winners!
The BOTTOM LINE… in this sport is: You walk down that Aisle, and you get in that Ring, and you Win!
WOOO!
- Ric Flair
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Stand tall and look out all over this vast World of ours....
Do you think you have what it takes to step out there and win?
- loveqna
"The BOTTOM LINE… in this sport is: You walk down that Aisle, and you get in that Ring, and you Win!
WOO!" - Ric Flair
Don't allow shyness to conquer you. Go after what you want in Life! Love, Wisdom, a Strong Mind, a Goal, a Purpose... You can have it all as long as you work hard, focus, and believe in yourself - and in what you're doing.
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Slick Ric Again
Video provided by - krayven76
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Bob Cottle:
Fans, here's the World Champion, Nature Boy, Ric Flair.
And Ric you know over the years how many compliments I’ve handed you, but I’ve gotta say: My FAITH in the Champion has been Shaken with what I've seen today.
Ric Flair:
If your faith should be shaken in anybody it oughtta’ be Dick Crum up at North Carolina.
You oughtta’ be hollerin’ for Bill Curry.
You don't lose Faith in Winners. And Ric Flair - day in and day out – Woo! – every Day of his LIFE - just keeps winning and winning and winning…
And you know why Bob Cottle? Because I’ve got the most positive attitude. I’ve got the most Ability... I’ve got the greatest physical attributes... and I just happen to Be - the Best athlete alive today - Your World Heavyweight Champion.
So Bob Cottle, Don’t You – and I’ve known you for almost 10 years – Don’t you stick that lower lip out at me Brother and try and degrade anything I'm doin', because I'm still standing here - Custom Made, Brother! Woo! And I mean Custom Made. From the “ALLIGATORS”… to the “Oleg Cassini” right here!
Ric Flair! There's Only One!
And I don’t care if it’s Tokyo, Japan! Greensboro! Richmond! Charlotte, North Carolina! Ashville! Atlanta, Georgia! Charlotte! L.A!
You know, Jim Crockett - is taking the World… and I’m the man that’s making it possible - The World Heavyweight Wrestling Champion… Only One!
And the Magnum T.A.s, the Dusty Rhodes, the Landells, the Kohloffs, the Wahoos… the Tully Blanchards… And I'll tell you What: All of a sudden I'm startin' to like Tully Blanchard because he's a winner too!
I like the Andersons. And you know Why??? Because the Andersons are Winners!
The BOTTOM LINE… in this sport is: You walk down that Aisle, and you get in that Ring, and you Win!
WOOO!
- Ric Flair
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Stand tall and look out all over this vast World of ours....
Do you think you have what it takes to step out there and win?
- loveqna
How To Develop "The Eye Of The Tiger" - notes
Rocky Music Video-Eye Of The Tiger
Video provided by - CinDrollic12
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What is the "Eye Of The Tiger" is and how it can help you...
This is a philosophy and skill that i was working on as an Aspiring Cappadonna (AsP) and thought about turning into a book. This was long before Charlie Sheen went crazy and started talking about having "tiger blood".
(He may be crazy as hell, but he knows what he's talking about.)
Anyway...
I felt guilty about selling this info as I thought it should be free (like this blog) for all.
But, I realized that some of this info shouldn't given away or exposed to the public concerning this and that is ALSO a reason why I didn't continue to publish any of this.
However, these are the basics of having "The Eye Of The Tiger", and how it can help you with your relationships, your love life, your job, personal development, personal appearance, style, finances, and Spirituality. Anything in Life...
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(update later with notes from red book)
Having "The Eye Of The Tiger" is like having mental rocket boosters to propel you into The Zone. It doesn't matter what you do in Life or what you WANT to do or what you want to accomplish.
When you have Supreme Focus and trying to do the RIGHT things for your Mind, Body, and Soul - and BELIEVE in your skills, abilities, knowledge, wisdom, and learning, to back you up - you can do Anything!
All you have to do is keep that mindset, be a soldier (a trooper), ready and willing to do your "job", and before you know it, you will be on Top. Or, even OVER the top.
You will conquer anything you set out to do.
But you have to work hard to be JUST as far - or further - out in the zone as the next man or woman.
You can't play around and B.S. all day and all night. You have to be serious about it. Even when you're having fun an chillin'.
Have a good time but keep your wits about you and remember your goals and your priorities.
Anything that slows you down or distorts your Mind, throw that shit out.
This will benefit you for anything you love in life. Or, want to do with your life.
It will also help you gain love and respect. And, once you get that, You're living The Dream then, baby.
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Don't just read these notes (as they are incomplete). Use your instincts and dig deeper to interpret and develop your own meanings as well... Learn from others and apply the Wisdom you gain to YOUR Life, Work, Relationship, and Goals.
killer instincts - don't get distracted. understand what you NEED and NEED TO DO to survive. work hard, and go for what you want
you should be "emotionally affected" - thoughtful of your priorities every single day. this includes the things and people you love, need, and have to care for or maintain
know what you HAVE to do and do it - major and minor goals
know your daily objectives to get closer and closer to your major goal
remember that life is about learning, growing, advancing, and that you must continue to build-up or improve in the things around you (knowledge, wisdom, friendships, love, spirit, finances, wit)
don't get distracted by greed
be wary of wasting time, energy, and money. this can cause you to miss out on opportunities, options, or work twice as hard to catch back up with everyone else in the race.
realize that you have to be persistent and cunning (and sometimes an asshole yourself) to get what you want and conquer unfair treatment or being ignored
Be aware of your options. if you don't know what your options are, don't hesitate to ask.
If you want more options, make the suggestion.
learn as much as possible about life and life skills so that your "tests" in life and the obstacles in life won't frustrate you or conquer you - also to minimize mistakes, procrastination, and setbacks
accept the fact the World is full of assholes and teach yourself to deal with them, to ignore them,
accept the fact that you can't save everybody and that you WILL receive Blessings and Good Karma for the good that you are ABLE to do
realize that you must learn and study and get understanding for yourself before you can teach and help others
positive attitude - believe that what you want is what you need and good for you
believe in yourself and your abilities on a spiritual level - learn about yourself, love the things about you, learn to deal with your faults and don't let them bring you down (work on eliminating them), keep improving yourself
explore the world and learn something important - it doesn't matter if it's important to the world as long as YOU love it. immerse yourself in it and learn the different dimensions of it
explore the world and your mind to find your calling in life. realize your calling in life, MUST BE SHARED WITH OTHERS AND BENEFIT OTHER PEOPLE in order for it to make you completely happy. i don't know why this is but this always true.
(use notes from black book 2007 to add info about game)
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To Be Continued... (or at least updated)
Video provided by - CinDrollic12
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What is the "Eye Of The Tiger" is and how it can help you...
This is a philosophy and skill that i was working on as an Aspiring Cappadonna (AsP) and thought about turning into a book. This was long before Charlie Sheen went crazy and started talking about having "tiger blood".
(He may be crazy as hell, but he knows what he's talking about.)
Anyway...
I felt guilty about selling this info as I thought it should be free (like this blog) for all.
But, I realized that some of this info shouldn't given away or exposed to the public concerning this and that is ALSO a reason why I didn't continue to publish any of this.
However, these are the basics of having "The Eye Of The Tiger", and how it can help you with your relationships, your love life, your job, personal development, personal appearance, style, finances, and Spirituality. Anything in Life...
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(update later with notes from red book)
Having "The Eye Of The Tiger" is like having mental rocket boosters to propel you into The Zone. It doesn't matter what you do in Life or what you WANT to do or what you want to accomplish.
When you have Supreme Focus and trying to do the RIGHT things for your Mind, Body, and Soul - and BELIEVE in your skills, abilities, knowledge, wisdom, and learning, to back you up - you can do Anything!
All you have to do is keep that mindset, be a soldier (a trooper), ready and willing to do your "job", and before you know it, you will be on Top. Or, even OVER the top.
You will conquer anything you set out to do.
But you have to work hard to be JUST as far - or further - out in the zone as the next man or woman.
You can't play around and B.S. all day and all night. You have to be serious about it. Even when you're having fun an chillin'.
Have a good time but keep your wits about you and remember your goals and your priorities.
Anything that slows you down or distorts your Mind, throw that shit out.
This will benefit you for anything you love in life. Or, want to do with your life.
It will also help you gain love and respect. And, once you get that, You're living The Dream then, baby.
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Don't just read these notes (as they are incomplete). Use your instincts and dig deeper to interpret and develop your own meanings as well... Learn from others and apply the Wisdom you gain to YOUR Life, Work, Relationship, and Goals.
killer instincts - don't get distracted. understand what you NEED and NEED TO DO to survive. work hard, and go for what you want
you should be "emotionally affected" - thoughtful of your priorities every single day. this includes the things and people you love, need, and have to care for or maintain
know what you HAVE to do and do it - major and minor goals
know your daily objectives to get closer and closer to your major goal
remember that life is about learning, growing, advancing, and that you must continue to build-up or improve in the things around you (knowledge, wisdom, friendships, love, spirit, finances, wit)
don't get distracted by greed
be wary of wasting time, energy, and money. this can cause you to miss out on opportunities, options, or work twice as hard to catch back up with everyone else in the race.
realize that you have to be persistent and cunning (and sometimes an asshole yourself) to get what you want and conquer unfair treatment or being ignored
Be aware of your options. if you don't know what your options are, don't hesitate to ask.
If you want more options, make the suggestion.
learn as much as possible about life and life skills so that your "tests" in life and the obstacles in life won't frustrate you or conquer you - also to minimize mistakes, procrastination, and setbacks
accept the fact the World is full of assholes and teach yourself to deal with them, to ignore them,
accept the fact that you can't save everybody and that you WILL receive Blessings and Good Karma for the good that you are ABLE to do
realize that you must learn and study and get understanding for yourself before you can teach and help others
positive attitude - believe that what you want is what you need and good for you
believe in yourself and your abilities on a spiritual level - learn about yourself, love the things about you, learn to deal with your faults and don't let them bring you down (work on eliminating them), keep improving yourself
explore the world and learn something important - it doesn't matter if it's important to the world as long as YOU love it. immerse yourself in it and learn the different dimensions of it
explore the world and your mind to find your calling in life. realize your calling in life, MUST BE SHARED WITH OTHERS AND BENEFIT OTHER PEOPLE in order for it to make you completely happy. i don't know why this is but this always true.
(use notes from black book 2007 to add info about game)
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To Be Continued... (or at least updated)
Friday, January 20, 2012
Love And Hate - notes
WARNING: This post may be considered controversial so close your eyes if you have a weak stomach.
Love And Hate - notes (an incomplete mix of a few recurring thoughts meshed and mashed together)
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Bob Marley - One Love
Video provided by - ReggaeMan900
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Now, I understand that some people have preferences when it comes to dating and relationships. I admit, I'm kind of particular about who I date also.
I also understand that some people have fixations, fetishes, and fantasies about being in a romantic relationship with a certain type.
I think most people would agree (if they really thought about it) that some of us can't help our addictions. Or, conquer them overnight.
Some of us can't help who we're attracted to. Or, what type of person we're attracted to. Or, what race we're attracted to.
But, what really irritates me and (I'm sure), many of the romantics and some of the single men and women out there are those people who have the gall to pass up on a good man or good woman because of their social status or the color of their skin.
Not only have I met people who refuse to date OUTSIDE of their race or "class" and social circle. BUT!
I've met people who refuse to date WITHIN their race and social circle!
Look around! You see these folks everywhere!
Blacks who won't date blacks. Whites who don't date whites. Asians who don't date Asians. Americans who refuse to date Americans... Hispanics who don't date certain Hispanics. Good guys and girls who prefer thugs and hoodrats over girls and guys who have class and character!
I know fixations and addictions are hard to fight (especially if you've ever experienced Ecstasy with a certain type). But, let's admit it: Some people will pass on "a good thing" simply because they are prejudice, or have parents or friends who are prejudice.
They'll refuse Love or let a good prospect walk RIGHT OUT OF THEIR LIFE because of their arrogance or delusional thinking/ brainwashed/ influences won't allow their instincts/intuition to tell them when they have a good man or woman (of another race or OF THEIR RACE) staring them right in the face!
I know culture and religious backgrounds are important to many people, but God doesn't care about that. And, True Love is blind. So, why pass on someone who is good FOR you and who wants to be good TO you for a risky relationship with someone who could care less about you and who would abuse you and use you?
What the hell???
Some people would rather throw away their dreams chasing a nightmare.
I know what you're saying: It's ALL a risk.
True!
IF you don't use Wisdom and your Good Instincts to take the time and choose wisely.
AND, if you don't love your mate the way he or she deserves to be loved to draw good loving out so that you will be blessed with love in return.
Yea, you can make mistakes choosing outside of your "preferred type". But, you can also find a Blessing outside of your "preferred type".
Sometimes, you don't know what you're looking for UNTIL you find it.
If any race was better than the other, why would God plant the seed for the birth of Universe so that we would be created and share this World???
If any of us were better than the other, why do we all live within the same dimensions of life and eventually die?
If we were born to serve or to rule each other, why do we ridicule, fight against, and destroy, our own kind?
If you are superior, why are you looked down on by members of your own race?
And, the craziest thing about it is: It doesn't matter if you're on the bottom or the top, or if you're rich or poor, or ugly or beautiful, or have high social status or low social status, there are people of your OWN RACE who will despise you for one reason or another - no matter how good or superior you proclaim yourself, or your race, or your religion, or your nationality to be.
God doesn't give a rats ass if you're an Intellectual or a Dumbass - or, if you're the strongest person in the World or the weakest... Or, clueless. The System is set-up so that, one day, you'll fade away.
And, if you die without True Wisdom and Understanding of Life, you'll be doing a disservice to those after you.
Even worse: If you die without ever knowing True Love, you will have lived your life without experiencing EVERY EMOTION there is! You will have lived an incomplete life!
You might know Joy, Pain, Anger, Fear, and Sadness. BUT! You will never have known Intimate Love on a Human or Spiritual basis.
You will have never learned all you need to know about Life.
How could you ever understand what Life is really about unless you've experienced all dimensions of it???
How could you understand all aspects of life if you haven't experienced all of your emotions?
How could you really teach your children - or the next generation - or sway the minds of those who are ignorant to all the aspects of Life unless you've experienced it for yourself?
Ain't no way in hell.
A lot of people out there claim they have loved but they have no love in their life. They don't THIRST for love.
As strong and as great as love is, you would think they would crave Love like an addiction.
But, look around... It's sad to say but it seems there is more hate and deceit and tyranny than Love.
Why do you think the World is going to hell in a handbasket right now? Because so many people are UNABLE to teach the next generation what they need to know to make the World a better place for all.
Many of these "teachers" are closed-minded and don't know about Love.
They're consumed by prejudice and arrogance.
(And, that's what those after them learn from them.)
Most of them will keep going from relationship to relationship - outside, or inside of their race, "class", or social circle.
They'll never see the light or choose wisely because their instincts and judgement will always be clouded by their pride and ignorance.
Don't fall into that trap.
Now, I'm not suggesting you ignore your preferences or fixations or date someone just because you feel guilt or sympathy for him or her.
Choose carefully the "type" you like, but follow your heart.
And, above all, Choose Wisely. No matter Who or WHAT they are.
- loveqna
Love And Hate - notes (an incomplete mix of a few recurring thoughts meshed and mashed together)
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Bob Marley - One Love
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Now, I understand that some people have preferences when it comes to dating and relationships. I admit, I'm kind of particular about who I date also.
I also understand that some people have fixations, fetishes, and fantasies about being in a romantic relationship with a certain type.
I think most people would agree (if they really thought about it) that some of us can't help our addictions. Or, conquer them overnight.
Some of us can't help who we're attracted to. Or, what type of person we're attracted to. Or, what race we're attracted to.
But, what really irritates me and (I'm sure), many of the romantics and some of the single men and women out there are those people who have the gall to pass up on a good man or good woman because of their social status or the color of their skin.
Not only have I met people who refuse to date OUTSIDE of their race or "class" and social circle. BUT!
I've met people who refuse to date WITHIN their race and social circle!
Look around! You see these folks everywhere!
Blacks who won't date blacks. Whites who don't date whites. Asians who don't date Asians. Americans who refuse to date Americans... Hispanics who don't date certain Hispanics. Good guys and girls who prefer thugs and hoodrats over girls and guys who have class and character!
I know fixations and addictions are hard to fight (especially if you've ever experienced Ecstasy with a certain type). But, let's admit it: Some people will pass on "a good thing" simply because they are prejudice, or have parents or friends who are prejudice.
They'll refuse Love or let a good prospect walk RIGHT OUT OF THEIR LIFE because of their arrogance or delusional thinking/ brainwashed/ influences won't allow their instincts/intuition to tell them when they have a good man or woman (of another race or OF THEIR RACE) staring them right in the face!
I know culture and religious backgrounds are important to many people, but God doesn't care about that. And, True Love is blind. So, why pass on someone who is good FOR you and who wants to be good TO you for a risky relationship with someone who could care less about you and who would abuse you and use you?
What the hell???
Some people would rather throw away their dreams chasing a nightmare.
I know what you're saying: It's ALL a risk.
True!
IF you don't use Wisdom and your Good Instincts to take the time and choose wisely.
AND, if you don't love your mate the way he or she deserves to be loved to draw good loving out so that you will be blessed with love in return.
Yea, you can make mistakes choosing outside of your "preferred type". But, you can also find a Blessing outside of your "preferred type".
Sometimes, you don't know what you're looking for UNTIL you find it.
If any race was better than the other, why would God plant the seed for the birth of Universe so that we would be created and share this World???
If any of us were better than the other, why do we all live within the same dimensions of life and eventually die?
If we were born to serve or to rule each other, why do we ridicule, fight against, and destroy, our own kind?
If you are superior, why are you looked down on by members of your own race?
And, the craziest thing about it is: It doesn't matter if you're on the bottom or the top, or if you're rich or poor, or ugly or beautiful, or have high social status or low social status, there are people of your OWN RACE who will despise you for one reason or another - no matter how good or superior you proclaim yourself, or your race, or your religion, or your nationality to be.
God doesn't give a rats ass if you're an Intellectual or a Dumbass - or, if you're the strongest person in the World or the weakest... Or, clueless. The System is set-up so that, one day, you'll fade away.
And, if you die without True Wisdom and Understanding of Life, you'll be doing a disservice to those after you.
Even worse: If you die without ever knowing True Love, you will have lived your life without experiencing EVERY EMOTION there is! You will have lived an incomplete life!
You might know Joy, Pain, Anger, Fear, and Sadness. BUT! You will never have known Intimate Love on a Human or Spiritual basis.
You will have never learned all you need to know about Life.
How could you ever understand what Life is really about unless you've experienced all dimensions of it???
How could you understand all aspects of life if you haven't experienced all of your emotions?
How could you really teach your children - or the next generation - or sway the minds of those who are ignorant to all the aspects of Life unless you've experienced it for yourself?
Ain't no way in hell.
A lot of people out there claim they have loved but they have no love in their life. They don't THIRST for love.
As strong and as great as love is, you would think they would crave Love like an addiction.
But, look around... It's sad to say but it seems there is more hate and deceit and tyranny than Love.
Why do you think the World is going to hell in a handbasket right now? Because so many people are UNABLE to teach the next generation what they need to know to make the World a better place for all.
Many of these "teachers" are closed-minded and don't know about Love.
They're consumed by prejudice and arrogance.
(And, that's what those after them learn from them.)
Most of them will keep going from relationship to relationship - outside, or inside of their race, "class", or social circle.
They'll never see the light or choose wisely because their instincts and judgement will always be clouded by their pride and ignorance.
Don't fall into that trap.
Now, I'm not suggesting you ignore your preferences or fixations or date someone just because you feel guilt or sympathy for him or her.
Choose carefully the "type" you like, but follow your heart.
And, above all, Choose Wisely. No matter Who or WHAT they are.
- loveqna
Monday, January 16, 2012
hot chicks: they're simple girls looking for love too - notes
I was going to post notes on "being misunderstood because of shyness" but, somehow, I got side-tracked and ended up talking about "hot chicks" who are misunderstood because of their beauty. If I figure out what I was trying to say, I'll update this post later.
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If you lack confidence when meeting, dating, and/or socializing with "hot" and sexy prospects, it may be because you're putting them on too high of a pedestal.
I know some guys who'll take one look at a beautiful girl and immediately think she's out of their league.
And, the brave few who will attempt to approach this girl will often do so half-heartedly because they feel they're going to be rejected once she gets a good look at them.
They'd have a better chance if they would just simply relax and enjoy the moment.
In their minds, they've already predicted gloom and doom before they've even made a move.
Of course you're gonna be rejected if your weird-ass approaches a girl like you're freakin' Frankenstein's monster - mumbling and dragging your heels.
You've got to approach that babe with confidence.
Be cool about it. Give yourself a chance. Give her a chance.
many people think that hot chicks are conceited and focus only on their good looks but that's not always true. Some of those girls are sweet as pie.
even hot sexy chicks are shy and afraid of rejection.
hell, they have a hard time finding dates too
they are misunderstood all the time
people think all hot chicks are the same or have the same opinions of themselves - that all these fine babes out here are super-proud of their looks and use their beauty as a weapon to get whatever they want. But, average men and women do this as well. Hell, if the right fool comes along, ANYONE could milk him or her out of anything they wanted.
The truth is: SOME of these "hot chicks" don't realize how beautiful they are.
Some of them are self-conscious about how they look and consider themselves "average" - or even, BELOW average.
i see them come in the store all the time dressed like bums and looking sloppy as hell. they don't know they're being admired or swooned over by all of those eyeballs in there. they could care less about how they look. they aren't concerned with their appearance or impressing anyone. some of my Exes had similar attitudes.
many women - whether they're hot or not - want to be appreciated for what they are on the "inside". and for what they have to offer to another besides good looks.
you might think a lot of these sweet dumplings are cold-blooded but many of these hot chicks out here have a heart. they participate in fundraising, they fight for human rights, they are scientists and activists who want to make the world a better place for all people, and they are teachers.
I've seen mud-ducks who have worse attitudes than hot chicks.
No class whatsoever. And, arrogant as hell. It's disgusting.
Anyway...
every hot chick isn't looking to be a model or an actress or someone's trophy wife.
all of them don't want to be put on a pedestal and admired for their beauty. some of them don't care about beauty. some of these babes want the world to know that they're intelligent and goodhearted
the reality is: many of these hot chicks out here are lonely and feel inadequate in their lives without a true purpose in their lives or Love or the ability to make a difference in the world.
really, it's society and everyone else who's putting so much emphasis on how hot these chicks are because most of us love and appreciate beauty and eye-candy.
Hell, I know I'm guilty. I've dated all types of chicks but it took me a while to appreciate a chick for more than just her beauty.
we're the ones who are making these "average girls" live up to certain ideas and philosophies we have about "hot chicks" and how they should act, walk, and talk
so, of course many of them are concerned about their style and "fitting in" with their friends and peers or living up to the expectations of their parents, relatives, or to society.
but they're like everyone else...
some are crazy as hell
some are nerds
some like to act silly or goofy and make people laugh
some like to get dirty and build things, or fix things, or work in a garden
some of them are worried that they're not interesting enough
some hot chicks are introverts
some of them are socially clumsy and this makes them shy because they feel anxious about striking up a conversation or sharing their thoughts or opinions
all of them aren't stuck-up or uppity or self-centered or prissy
all of them aren't narcissistic
all of them aren't like these so-called "strong women" with attitudes and high opinions of themselves
quite a few of them are "down-to-earth" and they're looking for a nice "down-to-earth" prospect to date and get to know on a deeper level
some of them are begging and praying to find a sweet guy.
Why, this past year, I've seen some of the prettiest girls come into the store with some real gorillas. I mean these guys looked so beastly they could give Shrek or King Kong a run for their money.
I've seen short guys in there walking hand-in-hand with some fine tenderonies as well. So, don't be so quick to negatively judge these hot chicks. All of them are interested in guys based on their looks.
true, some of them are still picky as hell but most people are picky as hell too. So, you still just have to go for it if you're "feeling" her and want to get to know her on a deeper level.
sometimes, they let their friends influence them or guide them about who they should choose to date or what they should strive for in a mate - or, what their relationship goals and life goals should be
and this is what gives many hot chicks a bad reputation. many of them allow their friends or relatives to think for them instead of thinking for themselves
sometimes their friends or some "match-maker" will takeover and pick a prospect for them based on how much money the prospect has or how attractive the prospect is. this could leave you out in the cold if you don't make your move quickly
some hot chicks have no preference or concerns about dating a super-hot buff guy with major cash. she's looking for someone who's honest, respectful, kind, and sweet. all of them aren't superficial.
so your chances are just as good as anyone as long as you're not shy also - or overwhelmed by her looks
give the girl a chance. don't be so quick to judge or to think negative. find a way to approach her so that she knows you're interested and interesting.
don't sit back and let a scrub or a drunkard make a move before you do! that bum will ruin it for everybody! she'll think she's surrounded by losers and clam-up! or, even worse, she'll think that drunkard is funny and exciting and fall in love with him! or HER!
and, it could be days, weeks, months, or years, before that babe realizes her mistake! in the meantime, you're still single and lonely because you've let that opportunity walk right out of your life...
don't be afraid of rejection. you can't win them all but you can't win AT ALL if you don't play. it never hurts to ask. how else could you stand a chance of meeting her?
wouldn't it be funny if both of you were interested in each other but were too shy to approach? it's happened to me before. And, I've missed out on a good thing because of it. Don't let that happen to you.
- loveqna
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If you lack confidence when meeting, dating, and/or socializing with "hot" and sexy prospects, it may be because you're putting them on too high of a pedestal.
I know some guys who'll take one look at a beautiful girl and immediately think she's out of their league.
And, the brave few who will attempt to approach this girl will often do so half-heartedly because they feel they're going to be rejected once she gets a good look at them.
They'd have a better chance if they would just simply relax and enjoy the moment.
In their minds, they've already predicted gloom and doom before they've even made a move.
Of course you're gonna be rejected if your weird-ass approaches a girl like you're freakin' Frankenstein's monster - mumbling and dragging your heels.
You've got to approach that babe with confidence.
Be cool about it. Give yourself a chance. Give her a chance.
many people think that hot chicks are conceited and focus only on their good looks but that's not always true. Some of those girls are sweet as pie.
even hot sexy chicks are shy and afraid of rejection.
hell, they have a hard time finding dates too
they are misunderstood all the time
people think all hot chicks are the same or have the same opinions of themselves - that all these fine babes out here are super-proud of their looks and use their beauty as a weapon to get whatever they want. But, average men and women do this as well. Hell, if the right fool comes along, ANYONE could milk him or her out of anything they wanted.
The truth is: SOME of these "hot chicks" don't realize how beautiful they are.
Some of them are self-conscious about how they look and consider themselves "average" - or even, BELOW average.
i see them come in the store all the time dressed like bums and looking sloppy as hell. they don't know they're being admired or swooned over by all of those eyeballs in there. they could care less about how they look. they aren't concerned with their appearance or impressing anyone. some of my Exes had similar attitudes.
many women - whether they're hot or not - want to be appreciated for what they are on the "inside". and for what they have to offer to another besides good looks.
you might think a lot of these sweet dumplings are cold-blooded but many of these hot chicks out here have a heart. they participate in fundraising, they fight for human rights, they are scientists and activists who want to make the world a better place for all people, and they are teachers.
I've seen mud-ducks who have worse attitudes than hot chicks.
No class whatsoever. And, arrogant as hell. It's disgusting.
Anyway...
every hot chick isn't looking to be a model or an actress or someone's trophy wife.
all of them don't want to be put on a pedestal and admired for their beauty. some of them don't care about beauty. some of these babes want the world to know that they're intelligent and goodhearted
the reality is: many of these hot chicks out here are lonely and feel inadequate in their lives without a true purpose in their lives or Love or the ability to make a difference in the world.
really, it's society and everyone else who's putting so much emphasis on how hot these chicks are because most of us love and appreciate beauty and eye-candy.
Hell, I know I'm guilty. I've dated all types of chicks but it took me a while to appreciate a chick for more than just her beauty.
we're the ones who are making these "average girls" live up to certain ideas and philosophies we have about "hot chicks" and how they should act, walk, and talk
so, of course many of them are concerned about their style and "fitting in" with their friends and peers or living up to the expectations of their parents, relatives, or to society.
but they're like everyone else...
some are crazy as hell
some are nerds
some like to act silly or goofy and make people laugh
some like to get dirty and build things, or fix things, or work in a garden
some of them are worried that they're not interesting enough
some hot chicks are introverts
some of them are socially clumsy and this makes them shy because they feel anxious about striking up a conversation or sharing their thoughts or opinions
all of them aren't stuck-up or uppity or self-centered or prissy
all of them aren't narcissistic
all of them aren't like these so-called "strong women" with attitudes and high opinions of themselves
quite a few of them are "down-to-earth" and they're looking for a nice "down-to-earth" prospect to date and get to know on a deeper level
some of them are begging and praying to find a sweet guy.
Why, this past year, I've seen some of the prettiest girls come into the store with some real gorillas. I mean these guys looked so beastly they could give Shrek or King Kong a run for their money.
I've seen short guys in there walking hand-in-hand with some fine tenderonies as well. So, don't be so quick to negatively judge these hot chicks. All of them are interested in guys based on their looks.
true, some of them are still picky as hell but most people are picky as hell too. So, you still just have to go for it if you're "feeling" her and want to get to know her on a deeper level.
sometimes, they let their friends influence them or guide them about who they should choose to date or what they should strive for in a mate - or, what their relationship goals and life goals should be
and this is what gives many hot chicks a bad reputation. many of them allow their friends or relatives to think for them instead of thinking for themselves
sometimes their friends or some "match-maker" will takeover and pick a prospect for them based on how much money the prospect has or how attractive the prospect is. this could leave you out in the cold if you don't make your move quickly
some hot chicks have no preference or concerns about dating a super-hot buff guy with major cash. she's looking for someone who's honest, respectful, kind, and sweet. all of them aren't superficial.
so your chances are just as good as anyone as long as you're not shy also - or overwhelmed by her looks
give the girl a chance. don't be so quick to judge or to think negative. find a way to approach her so that she knows you're interested and interesting.
don't sit back and let a scrub or a drunkard make a move before you do! that bum will ruin it for everybody! she'll think she's surrounded by losers and clam-up! or, even worse, she'll think that drunkard is funny and exciting and fall in love with him! or HER!
and, it could be days, weeks, months, or years, before that babe realizes her mistake! in the meantime, you're still single and lonely because you've let that opportunity walk right out of your life...
don't be afraid of rejection. you can't win them all but you can't win AT ALL if you don't play. it never hurts to ask. how else could you stand a chance of meeting her?
wouldn't it be funny if both of you were interested in each other but were too shy to approach? it's happened to me before. And, I've missed out on a good thing because of it. Don't let that happen to you.
- loveqna
Sunday, January 15, 2012
Love Crimes Of Kabul - notes (video clips included)
(This was originally a couple of sentences added to the previous post about confidence but I got a little bit carried away. There are several other controversial topics I'd like to talk about and maybe rant about but I'm working late-night shifts again and I don't know when I'll feel motivated to speak on these things.)
Take a look at this documentary about "love crimes" in Afghanistan. I saw this documentary several months ago entitled "Love Crimes of Kabul". It came on TV again today.
This documentary broke my heart a little bit and made me angry too. But, each society, culture, and religion has their own laws and ways of punishing people for their "love crimes".
Some of these laws help to keep "filth", scandals, and violent criminal activity to a minimum (I guess) but I have mixed emotions because some of these laws seem to trap you or leave you with no way out if you end up in a bad relationship.
Some societies probably need stricter rules, laws, and punishment to curb the "love crimes" of their citizens so don't be too quick to judge. But, we'll have to discuss the "benefits" of the punishment later as I only have two and a half hours to get some sleep before I head off to work.
It doesn't show much in the way of the guys accused of "love crimes" but I guess the producer, Tanaz Eshaghian, has this documentary directed more towards women viewers. And, there's nothing wrong with that. I'm just saying I'd like to see a more well-rounded documentary from female and male perspectives. It's still a good documentary.
So, check out that documentary if you can. It'll make a good conversation topic and open the door to other discussions that you can initiate on a date - or, when you're just sitting around chatting with friends...
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I found this on my favorite site, YouTube. I don't know how long it will be posted on there, so take a look while you can. *UPDATE: Current full-length video replaces 5 video clips on 04/22/21.
Love Crimes Of Kabul
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confidence building and face-to-face conversation - notes
notes on confidence for shy folks. will update later (maybe)
you're never gonna feel like yourself if you keep worrying about "fitting in" and trying to be someone other than who you are. discover who you are on the inside. live by your true philosophies and beliefs. stop being afraid of who you really are. stop worrying about being judged. be who you really are.
think about what's holding you back. what are you afraid of (socially)? do you fear you will say something stupid when you interact with others?
do you fear people will think you're weird?
do you feel like you have nothing interesting to say?
why do you really want to improve your confidence? is it to get more dates? improve your social skills? approach someone you admire?
it's all about interacting with others.
learn to conquer or minimize your social weaknesses.
you're doing the right thing by trying to improve your confidence. but, learn what's keeping you from being confident and go from there.
don't allow (false) images, personal perspective, desires, or fantasy, to cloud your instincts
learn to read people without judging, and allow your instincts to be your guide. use judgement to make your decisions on how to deal with the person or situation
reading people and using your instincts will also help with confidence. don't humble yourself too much
don't consider so much WHO the person is. Listen to what he or she is saying and keep an interactive mind. ask questions to clarify points they're trying to make.
remember: when the conversation starts, what is said is just as important as who is saying it. listen carefully, you may be chatting with a wise man (or woman) or a fool. Or, even worse: a tyrant.
one way to keep from humbling yourself or being overly shy is to focus on the conversation and body language and responses only. This will help you enjoy the moment a lot more.
Don't be too polite! it'll only make you boring.
And, you may miss out on a second date (or invitation).
after the speaker has made his or her point, respond. agree, disagree, or keep silent if you think silence is best. it never hurts just listen as long as you don't "just listen" throughout the entire conversation.
share whatever experiences you've had if you can relate to the what the speaker is talking about
don't overly shower people with respect (or false blessings)
know proper etiquette and maneuvers/manners in dealing with certain people
you're never gonna feel like yourself if you keep worrying about "fitting in" and trying to be someone other than who you are. discover who you are on the inside. live by your true philosophies and beliefs. stop being afraid of who you really are. stop worrying about being judged. be who you really are.
think about what's holding you back. what are you afraid of (socially)? do you fear you will say something stupid when you interact with others?
do you fear people will think you're weird?
do you feel like you have nothing interesting to say?
why do you really want to improve your confidence? is it to get more dates? improve your social skills? approach someone you admire?
it's all about interacting with others.
learn to conquer or minimize your social weaknesses.
you're doing the right thing by trying to improve your confidence. but, learn what's keeping you from being confident and go from there.
don't allow (false) images, personal perspective, desires, or fantasy, to cloud your instincts
learn to read people without judging, and allow your instincts to be your guide. use judgement to make your decisions on how to deal with the person or situation
reading people and using your instincts will also help with confidence. don't humble yourself too much
don't consider so much WHO the person is. Listen to what he or she is saying and keep an interactive mind. ask questions to clarify points they're trying to make.
remember: when the conversation starts, what is said is just as important as who is saying it. listen carefully, you may be chatting with a wise man (or woman) or a fool. Or, even worse: a tyrant.
one way to keep from humbling yourself or being overly shy is to focus on the conversation and body language and responses only. This will help you enjoy the moment a lot more.
Don't be too polite! it'll only make you boring.
And, you may miss out on a second date (or invitation).
after the speaker has made his or her point, respond. agree, disagree, or keep silent if you think silence is best. it never hurts just listen as long as you don't "just listen" throughout the entire conversation.
share whatever experiences you've had if you can relate to the what the speaker is talking about
don't overly shower people with respect (or false blessings)
know proper etiquette and maneuvers/manners in dealing with certain people
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