Does It Really Matter If Women KNOW Why Men Cheat?

I just finished sifting through some of the public comments regarding the Tony Parker and Eva Longoria scandal again. I knew people were going to roast his ass after finding out he cheated on her. And, what bothers me is that women are quick to judge and condemn the man - men - and not learn anything from the situation or circumstances. But, then, they'll go around complaining that men cheat and wonder WHY men cheat. And if you try to explain it to them, they'll brush you off by saying that every explanation is "just an excuse". They don't WANT to know why men cheat! They'd rather criticize and hear someone who doesn't know what the hell they're talking about say something clever or make jokes about the man - or men - and remain misled and in denial. They keep listening to these dumbasses make wisecracks and jokes to make them laugh and feel good, and in the end, they keep getting played, cheated on, and dumped, over and over again, with no clue as to why.

If anybody is messing with those women's mind, it's the quacks and wannabee comedians who don't have anything to offer except jokes!

Stop listening to those jackasses!

If you don't try to understand why men cheat, of course you're going to keep getting disrespected and deceived.

And, their friends can't help them understand it because their friends love them and just want to comfort them. So, they'll listen to the woman's problems and complaints and offer their OPINION. And the friends may not know all the facts. The only thing they know is that the woman is pissed off or brokenhearted and needs their help, so they'll say whatever it takes to make the woman feel better. It may sound like good advice but it might not be reality. They don't know what's going on inside that man's head to make him cheat! It ain't always about being greedy for sex or wanting to "play the field" - which is what most people assume. Only he knows the real reason why he cheated. But, if she doesn't want to accept his explanation, and continue to listen to her friends, there's nothing more he can do.

Let me ask you...

Do you want to spend the rest of your life being bitter or worried about whether or not someone you care about is going to cheat on you? Of course not! Then, listen up!

I know there are a lot of  women out there that are sick and tired of going around in circles with men just because they can't find one to have a decent relationship with. Some are swearing against men and only dealing with other women. But there are women in same-sex relationships who are having to deal with cheaters too! You have to be careful of cheaters whatever type of relationship you're in. You can't hide from it!

The best thing you can do to avoid being cheated on is to try to understand the real reasoning behind it and nip it in the bud before it happens and ruins your relationship. You have to take your time and get to know the PERSON to make sure he or she isn't a potential cheater. Pay attentionn to "broken" relationships and the easy way - from people who have cheated and those who have been cheated on. Listen to the man or explain his side... Most women don't want to hear an explanation. They just want to express their anger - And that's understandable. BUT, if the woman doesn't want to hear what the man has to say, then she may end up going through the same thing in the next relationship - whether it's with a man or woman.

Let me give you an example.

Let's say the man cheats and says it's because the woman is too busy. They don't have enough free time together. He's lonely - for whatever reason (affection, companionship, sex, whatever). Now, if the woman doesn't want to hear and says, "Oh, that's bullsh*t! We spend time together! You're not lonely! You're full of sh*t! You just can't keep It in your pants!" What else can the man say? He's told her that he doesn't get the opportunity to spend enough time with her. And the more he tries to convince her of this, usually, the angrier she gets. And, she'll never know the real reason why. Is he lonely for affection, attention, companionship, or sex? Who knows? And, they're either going to break-up or stay together and have trust issues. Observe other couples who get into arguments about infidelity and you'll see what I mean. Look, listen, and learn why cheaters cheat. That way, if you KNOW why cheaters cheat, you'll be able to spot one before he or she cheats on YOU.

This goes for men too! A lot of men need to stop stereotyping and assuming all women are potential cheaters. That's why we have so many jealous and suspicious men in the world. They need to stop following in the footsteps of their friends and these so-called O.G.s who have trust issues, and learn what the woman is about! If you take your time and get to know the woman, you'll know if you have a faithful Queen on your hands or if you're dealing with a cheatin'-ass skeezer.

Sometimes, I get a little carried away...

But, here's my final say on the subject:

Now, I know there's nothing that can GUARANTEE that a woman won't be cheated on. It could happen to anybody. But if she listens and tries to understand WHY someone might cheat, it WILL - at the very least - help to REDUCE the chances of her being cheated on. That's all I'm trying to say.

- loveqna