5 Reasons Why An Ego-Maniac Will Cheat

The World is full of cheaters who are full of themselves. They have a huge ego. They are thoroughly proud of themselves and think highly of their beauty, mind, abilities, and accomplishments.

There's nothing wrong with that.

But, some of these jerks take it too far. They are narcissistic and arrogant as hell. I don't know how some people put up with those assholes.

They really do think they're better than everyone else.

They even believe that the way they dress and what they have is a character statement and shows that they have Class. ???

I'm serious....

But, don't get me wrong. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with looking good and having nice things but it definitely doesn't define or hide one's true character.

Chicken shit is chicken shit no matter if it comes from a buzzard or a damn peacock.

Am I lyin'???

Don't try to hide your "true colors" ego-maniac, we know what an asshole you really are...

Have you ever noticed how some of these types belittle their mates and sometimes try to make them inferior or stupid? They boss those poor little devils around and talk to them like they have no brains.

I couldn't live with anyone like that for too long without snapping.

Not all ego-maniacs cheat, but the ones that do usually consider their mates as nothing more than an "accessory". Like a piece of jewelry.

If the mate is Hot, they'll appreciate him or her more and show him or her off to their family and friends. This is the type of mate they'll cheat on but don't want to lose because of how good he or she makes the ego-maniac look. But, the ego-maniac will still keep his or her eyes and "options" open just in case someone better comes along.

If the mate is average but has above average "Benefits" (like a great job, money, or lots of material possessions), the ego-maniac will want to keep him or her around until he can find someone better. If he or she is stuck in a marriage with this person, the ego-maniac will cheat often.

If the mate is weak - no matter how good he or she looks - the ego-maniac will verbally and emotionally abuse that poor little pip-squeak to no end.

If you EVER get into a relationship with someone like this - who feels that you're not really on their level or that he or she is better than you - stack your cash and get out. This person will waste your damn time. They'll only be faithful to you when their options start to run out. And, that may be years down the road because they think they're top-notch and desired by every one they see.

They think that they can have You and anybody else that they want. And, they always want attention. They always want to attract other prospects although they're involved in a relationship. Why???

Because they think they're God's Gift to the World.

They think that they can have their cake and eat it too.

And, in most cases, they ARE eating it too!

They're in a relationship and they're still playing the field - and cheating like hell.

I'm not hatin' on the player. I just wanna put you up some game...

So, here are five reasons why those delusional hanky-ass greedy-ass bums might cheat:

- Some ego-maniacs cheat to feed their ego. It's a self-test to achieve something that would be normally hard to do - like to get a certain good-looking guy or girl. Women will do this when they're "in competition with other women. Men will do this when their "pick-up skills" are challenged by another guy or a GROUP of guys.

In either case, the man or woman (boy or girl) wants to show that his or her "game" is tight and that he or she can have anyone he or she wants. This hoe doesn’t want to be average (romantically). He or she HAS to impress the group, a rival, or him or herself.

He or she may enjoy the challenge of being able to seduce and manipulate others. He or she is impressed with the power or charm that he or she can hold over another.

This sorry-ass bum doesn't care if he or she is in a relationship.

BUT!!! Be careful...

You could be involved with a person like this and THINK you're in a relationship with him or her and really, he or she only considers you two "friends with benefits". Therefore, he or she considers the relationship "open" and that he or she is free to have sex with whomever he or she wants.

- Another ego-maniac that will cheat is one who likes his or her freedom and the ability to come and go as he or she pleases. This cheater is not really free-spirit. He or she just doesn’t want to have to answer to anyone. He doesn’t want anyone trying to tell him what to do or where he can go. He's a rebel. He doesn’t want restrictions in his life. He’s a waffler. He wants a relationship, yet he wants to live by his own rules instead of living by the unwritten rules of a relationship.

- Then, there is the defiant ego-maniac. He or she is searching for Perfection. This guy or girl thinks that he or she is Perfect and wants someone "on his or her level. He or she is superficial – a waffler. He or she is picky because he or she wants the total package - but mostly, they want someone with the perfect looks, style, and finances. To him or her, this perfect person is their SoulMate. And, they're always searching for this SoulMate whether they're in a relationship or not.

- He cheats to spread his seed. I use the word "he" because it's usually a man who does this. This is the type of guy who can barely take care of one baby - let alone 5 or 6 - and he cheats and/or sleeps with women in order to get them pregnant and build his "legacy". You see a lot of crap like this on those TV shows like "Maury" or "Jerry Springer" and shows like that.

- I don't know if there are women who sleep around for this reason (I've never heard of it), but I DO know some women will cheat in order to find a man who's more willing to settle down, have kids, and build a future together. She'll even backstab her friend for a shot if she thinks he's a guy with potential. Nine times out of ten he's a dirt-bag too.

- Some male and female ego-maniac cheat to prove to others or to him or herself that he or she is independent and free to do whatever he or she wants. This is a rebellious cheater (usually a player in disguise) who wants to make it known that he or she is not tied down or in love or devoted to one person. He wants to show that he isn’t stuck with one woman (or one guy). This cheater cheats to avoid commitment and boost his reputation or show that she's a "free-spirit" with no limitations or restrictions. Usually, their mantra is: "I can do whatever I want! Ain't no ring on my finger!"

- Some men who cheat while their baby momma is pregnant or having the baby will cheat because they don't care but also because they just don't want to be responsible. They don't want to be tied down to one person. They want to be free to be young and enjoy life and roam the streets. They want to continue to hang with their friends and pursue their dreams. They don't want to grow-up. They're on the run and trying to avoid what they feel is "entrapment".

Use your instincts and avoid ego-maniacs if you can. If you can't resist those blood-suckers, then make sure you are strong enough to stand up for yourself. Be bold and talk sh*t (in a joking way) right off the bat the first time they "test" your confidence, because once you start letting them run over you, they won't stop.

They'll abuse you, use you, screw you, and cheat on you if they don't dump you. And, who needs to put up with crap like that from a delusional asshole who's living in a fantasy world???

- loveqna

Backstabbers : The Other Danger Of Neglecting Your Lover

I wanted to put this in the previous post but now, I don't want to add any more to that post right now. I'll get around to updating it later.

Anyway...

A good reason NOT to neglect your lover is because sometimes there are people out there - haters and backstabbers - like friends, rivals, family members, his or her co-workers, or some chick who works down at the fast-food restaurant - just waiting for you two to have issues with your relationship so that they can slip in and take your man or woman when the timing is right.

Neglect can make your relationship get stale, dull, and boring. Drama can push it right over the edge.

And some of these people may not be trying to steal your man or woman, but if the opportunity ever arises, they'll hook-up with him or her when you're having a "break" or offer their affections if he or she should get lonely and approach.

It happens.

Especially when you have one person pouring out his soul to someone who's willing to listen and seems to understand. And, the person is giving good advice. And, they are able to laugh, joke, and talk about anything.

This is a recipe for new love. It happens all the time. That's why you can't let your guards down in your relationship. You have to keep things in check on a regular basis and perform routine "preventive maintenance" so that the relationship doesn't break down.

A lot of women think men don't open-up. But, when a guy is going through drama with his girl or his job, he'll find someone to talk to. And, that's when that friend of yours, or one of his co-workers, or a hoodrat he's met out at a nightclub, has the best opportunity to steal him right from up under your nose.

Women are the same way. They get sick and tired of dealing with a neglectful man after a while. They hate being stuck in a boring relationship that has done flat-lined. And, once that drama hits, and someone close to them shows them some attention and flirts with them a little bit and makes a few promises, it's over. A date or a hook-up is bound to happen.

Before you know it, one of your friends or family members have done snuck-in through the back door doggy-style. I said, "Damn!"

It can be heartbreaking and make you want unleash Hell on those dirty rats, but you've got to consider where you went wrong too. Or, at least where the relationship went wrong or sour or downhill.

I'm not pointing any fingers! I'm just looking at the situation from both sides.

In fact, do you know what the sweetest revenge is over those backstabbing rats???

It's when you find out your mate has cheating and he or she wants end the affair or come back. THEN you get the satisfaction of watching that rat squirm and beg for mercy before you kick their ass to the damn curb. Sorry sack of sh*t.

I know - it's Sadistic... But, I'm sure it feels great. And empowering.

(I can't believe it. I'm feeling good about being bad. boner.)

Anyway...

I don't want to make you paranoid. Most of us choose our friends wisely and have good honest friends and companions who would never back-stab us. But, just to be on the safe side, use your instincts and show your Boo some love on a regular basis. Don't let your relationship fall by the wayside or YOU might get bored and lonely and start looking for a form of escape or a way out.

- loveqna

5 Ways "NEGLECT" Can Cause A Man Or Woman To Cheat

I know I promised weeks ago that I would post "50 Reasons Why Men And Women Cheat" without delay, but my mind (brain)... Ugh! It makes me sick to my stomach.

I have so many ideas and plans and things that I want to do (and COULD do)... PLUS! Things that I SHOULD do (and NEED to do), that all of this crap floating around inside my skull makes my life a living hell. I'm sick of it.

Honestly, it's been bugging me that I haven't finished this list, so tonight, I'm gonna go all out.

But, let me warn you...

I might not go into detail so you will have to use your instincts and read between the lines on some of this stuff.

I'm also gonna do a "recap" later on just to make sure we have all fifty reasons laid and played. (laid down and played out)

Okay, let's first start by recognizing some of the needs that can be neglected:

- Emotional Needs

- Physical Needs (we actually covered this under "Why Men and Women Cheat For Sex")

- Sexual Needs (we covered this one too)

- Social Needs (this is the bulk of it)

- Spiritual Needs (this has nothing to do with religion but I'm not going to address this one until later on)

And there are other needs but it's best to cover those later on as well.

Well hell. I guess the others I can cover later on also so let's just jump into the article...

Now, I know a lot of you have heard the widespread myth that states "men cheat for sex and women cheat only when they're neglected". It's been going around for God only knows how long.

Well, I'm here to tell you flat out: That's the biggest bullsh*t ever said about cheating. That ain't NEVER been true. It wasn't true a million years ago and it ain't true now.

Now, don't get me wrong. There have been women who have cheated when they've felt neglected but we all know that hasn't been the ONLY reason women have cheated. We all know there are (and have been; and WILL be) some "loose women" - who are in committed relationships - running around out here in these streets. Anybody that doesn't know it has got to be young and experienced or been living under a damn rock all their life.

On the flip-side, there are MEN out here who cheat because of Neglect also.

A lot of women don't believe it but let me show you why it's true.

Now, I'm not gonna lie and say that these men are cheating because of EMOTIONAL neglect, but men DO get lonely. Men DO get restless and need human interaction. SOME men DO miss their woman when she's away for long periods of time.

A lot of women think men are part of another species and don't have feelings, but men are human too.

Everybody needs a little attention every now and then.

Men need companionship just like a woman needs companionship.

Men need someone to talk to every now and then just like a woman needs someone to talk to every now and then.

Sometimes a man wants to feel his woman in his arms and look into her eyes.

Sometimes HE needs someone to talk to or laugh with.

I'm a guy just like Jesse James (the celeb-actor who cheated on Sandra Bullock). And, I know if I had a fine-ass wife like Sandra Bullock who was on the road all the time working and traveling, and rarely ever saw her, don't you think I'd be lonely sometimes and miss her and crave affection from her? Or, a goodnight kiss every now and then???

I'd be lovesick and frustrated.

Some people need that human interaction EVERY NIGHT (or day, or at least on a regular basis or the emptiness will drive them nuts). And, if their lover can't be there and satisfy their needs, those "lonely" neglected weasels might cheat.

That's why it's rare that long-distance relationships work. Some people need that human experience.

Even Military Families and Couples have to deal with this "test of love". Sometimes the civilian spouse cheats. Sometimes the military spouse cheats.

Sometimes a person's needs can be overwhelming. And, when those needs (or desires) are neglected, the neglected lover might turn to cheating or some other interest to fill the void and ease the frustration.

It's not right but it's a tough position to be in for someone who's lonely feels something is missing from his or her life.

The only way to thwart this evil situation is by checking yourself. You know when you're not spending enough time with your mate. If you two are in a long-distance relationship, use your instincts and recognize when you need to step your game up. When you notice your partner's level of enthusiasm or affection is dropping off, show him or her a little more attention:

Be flirtatious

Give him or her a kiss

Give him or her a hug

Go out

Give the poor slob a compliment

Use your instincts. You know what to do. Show him or her that you're grateful to have such a person your life.

Okay, now here are the "5 Ways NEGLECT Can Cause A Man Or Woman To Cheat":

1. If one partner is always busy with work, or school, or church, or his or her group activities, or hanging out with friends, or always running errands, etc., and doesn't take out "enough" time for his or her partner, this might cause the "neglected" partner's eyes (or heart) to wander.

But, even if the "neglected" partner's eyes don't wander, too much free time could allow an admirer to sneak in and charm and seduce the so-called "neglected" mate.

2. One partner doesn't care or seems uninterested in the relationship.

Not spending "Quality Time" with your mate can be neglectful. This is social neglect. Talking on the phone and texting and emailing is okay but a lot of people don't like being stuck in the house all by themselves all the time. They want to talk to their lover sometimes. They want a hug sometimes. They want to go out with their mate sometimes - even if it's to the grocery store or Wal-Mart. And, for most people (especially women), you'd better do a lot better than the damn grocery store or Wal-Mart. But, some people need that human interaction and affection. And, If their mate won't provide it, the relationship will get dull. And, it might get rough.

3. One partner doesn't care or seems uninterested in the relationship making the other partner feel unloved, unwanted, ugly, or worthless. This is why some people turn to their Internet Friends for communication and worth. Or accidentally find Love on the Net.

It doesn't matter how young you are or old you get, all of us need to feel important to someone in our lives - especially to our love-mates, children, friends, and family. We don't want to be involved with someone who ignores us or who doesn't want to talk or who's sour and pessimistic. We want someone we can talk to and have fun with and make love to. We should be loving and enjoying Life everyday! Right???

So, this is also social neglect AND emotional neglect. But, in this case, you could be right in the same house with the person and he or she hardly ever speaks to you besides a grunt here and there - like HE doesn't want to be disturbed from watching his TV show or working on some personal chores. Or, she's so glued to the TV and always on her cellphone yappin' with her friends that it seems pointless to discuss anything with her. And, when she's not talking to her friends or family members or watching TV, she's running around complaining (nagging you) about something and trying to find something for you to do.

It's funny how these "grunters" and "yappers" have egos and treat their mates like trolls when it's the grunters and yappers that desperately need the makeovers and help with their style and/or appearance.

People in this situation REALLY hate being involved with their mate. And eventually, neither one wants to be bothered with the other. Cheating (or one person thinking about cheating) is common in this type of relationship.

4. The neglected partner doesn't feel like he or she is a part of his or her mates life.

The mate may do a lot of things in secret or even whisper or talk in code in front of his or her mate.

The mate may be spending more time with his or her children, or family members, or friends than he or she is spending with the lover. Giving them more attention than he or she is giving to the relationship.

Because of this, the neglected mate is not able to bond with his or her lover to the point where they can move to deeper levels in the relationship.

Eventually, the partner who feels neglected and left out will drift away and possibly hook-up with someone new.

5. Lack of Contact.

If you're a waffler or a struggling entrepreneur or "trying to get focused" or trying to get over depression, then more than likely, you've been in a relationship in which you've not called your girlfriend or boyfriend for days or weeks at a time. Some people will tolerate it for a while (as you know). But, those that can't will eventually lose interest and find someone else.

Some of you get angry and resort to drastic measures to keep the person or to get revenge, but why get angry at this person when you KNOW you're the one who's neglecting the relationship??? Yeah, it's wrong for him or her to cheat and scandalous that he or she would abandon you in your time of need, but it's best to let him or her go. This may not be the person for you anyway if he or she can't understand what you're going through mentally and emotionally - even though you've tried to explain it to him or her a thousand times.

He or she may be just like some of your relatives and friends, and NEVER really know you or understand you. Rather than get upset and waste your time, energy, money, and emotions, let that guy or girl go until you get yourself together and get back on track. And, if you two can make-up and work things out afterwards, then so be it. If not, "there are plenty more fish in the sea".

If you're a Struggling entrepreneur or someone who's been struggling with "trying to get focused", you might do better to invest in yourself, your education, or search for a good-paying job so that you don't miss out on a good man or good woman. The longer you wait on Love, the more opportunities pass you by.

Time flies, Life moves at a fast pace, and people have short attention spans, so there will always be "distractions" or obligations that will cause one partner (or both partners) to neglect the relationship.

And for those who live with their mate, it's hard as hell to find balance in all of this stuff in our lives.

I don't wanna scare you single folks but when you have to juggle YOUR life, your kids life, your work, time with your mate, worry about your appearance and sex-appeal, keep track of bills and expenses, spend time with your friends and lover and others, and make sure your house is in order and running properly, something or someone is bound to get neglected.

All of this stuff IS your life and it's a serious work-out. You've got to have ESP, more hands than octopus, be a diplomat, move faster than lightning, and stay on the move. You've got to be superwoman or a superman in order NOT TO NEGLECT someone or something.

That's why you see a lot of ladies out here give-up on their dreams. They become moms or devoted lovers and go with what's most important in their lives. They focus their attention on the people they care about so that they don't feel neglected and so that they can pursue their dreams and goals. They hit that point in their lives where the "Reality check" light comes on and they let go of many of their desires and make room for their new Priorities.

I've even seen guys give-up their dreams of stardom to devote their lives to their new wife and kids. Sometimes it's a good thing. Sometimes that's what a scrub or a lame guy needs to get his life on track - some real responsibilities.

Well, that's it.

I know I've rambled and I've made this post longer than I planned, but I can't help it. I'll just have to try harder next time. Or, just read a little bit here and there. You don't have to read all of this crap in one sitting. Take it easy.

- loveqna

What It's Like To Date A Female Player - 6

Thank God...

That broad is gone.

Before I get into the details, I want you to know how I maintained will-power strong enough to resist the mindgames and Jedi tricks of a player so that you can do the same...

It wasn't easy at first because I really thought this chick was something special. She has almost every quality I ever wanted in a woman.

But, the more I saw of her, the more sillier and sillier she appeared to be with those simple-minded mind games. I've never seen a girl who was so smart act so damn stupid.

I guess when you have sex-appeal and get a lot of attention, it kind of makes you lose your mind and imagine you're some kind of god or goddess or something.

That chick could go far in life with her style and charm but compared to a lot of these other ladies out here who are looking for good love and who don't even play these mindgames, she's small potatoes.

She thinks she's got it going on and there she is living with her "roommate" ex-boyfriend (and still having sex with him) and she's still on the job begging for money and food. What kind of sh*t is that???

Her game ain't as tight as she thinks it is that's for damn sure.

Some of these players out here are no joke. They will try anything and say anything to win your trust and friendship so that they can take advantage of you.

They will try to flatter you and "butter you up" with compliments.

They will offer their help and advice.

They will perform favors for you so that you will feel obligated to return certain favors.

They will entertain you and try to impress you with their knowledge, confidence, or intellect. And, we all know some of them like to make jokes and be funny to make you laugh in hopes of you letting your guards down.

They'll get to know you and then try to use "guilt-tripping" tactics!

Don't fall for that sh*t!

Cut those bums off early before they milk your pockets bone dry!

When that bum starts telling you his or her sob-story, acknowledge his or her hard luck and don't say a word otherwise.

Help the needy not the sleazy. And sleazy-ass weasels are as sly as a damn fox!

And, be careful that you don't let one of those controlling bullies take over your life! Get out early! And Get away!

Get as far away from him or her as possible, and avoid the scoundrel whenever you can.

When you see him or her coming, go in the opposite direction. Run.

Everyone of those scoundrels have an agenda - please believe it. They don't try to butter you up and be your friend (out of the blue) for no reason. They want something!

Those sneaky devils are always on the hunt for money, or sex, or status, or transportation, or a free lunch.

They'll approach you disguised as sweet innocent lambs, but in reality they are wolves ready to devour fresh meat!

They'll eat up everything you have and make a joke of you behind your back. And, they'll laugh about it with their friends.

Don't do any favors for them if you can help it! And, don't do a favor more than once if you can't. They're like a hungry stray cat. Once you feed the sorry sap-sucker, he or she will always come to you for something to eat.

They'll run your ass into the ground until you can't afford to buy YOURSELF anything to eat.

"GIVE TO THE NEEDY, NOT THE SNEAKY OR GREEDY."

Some of you may already have good instincts and know about the manipulation tactics of players, playettes, con-artists, tricks, and scammers.

Some of you have probably gained experience because you have been used and played for a sucker in the past.

But there are still millions of people out there getting "pimped" and "played" and don't even know it!

They can't get ahead or move up in life because they keep throwing their blessings (and Time, and money) away on some loser who could care less about where they ARE in life or where they end up in life. Why give your hard-earned money away to a player - a loser - who will only waste it? Or, give it to someone else!

These poor dumb chumps don't realize that they're just a back-up plan for these miserable wannabee players. When all else fails, these wannabee players know they can manipulate these chumps.

Open your eyes Suckers and take heed!

Beware of their games and Stop letting these bums play you out!

And, for those you who are looking for love, honesty, and loyalty...

You'll never get what you REALLY want out of those heathens by trickin' and allowing them to manipulate you!

Letem go. Even if they go away mad, letem go.

Now, for the latest...

In the last post of this "series", I mentioned that "Slim n Sexy" was going through a bit of family and financial drama.

Well, she had to leave Charlotte and go back to her hometown.

A few days or so before she had given her "notice" to our boss, she was flirting with me again and calling out my name and so forth. I knew she was gonna do this stuff so it really didn't surprise me.

But, I WAS shocked when she informed me that she was quitting her job and going back home, but, I was also glad to see her go. That girl was nothing but a damn moocher. Even one of her "friends" who actually liked her laughed and said she had milked all of us so now she had to go to another job and milk those folks.

That beggin-ass girl had the nerve to ask me if I was gonna give her a going-away present and she never even paid me back the money I loaned her to pay her cellphone bill.

And you know we recently got into that argument and she expects me to swoon over a few flirtatious remarks, kiss her feet, and give her a going-away present???

I wanted to stick up my middle finger at her and say: "Yeah, I have a going-away present for ya, right here... Let me know when you need some more."

I'm serious.

She asked me two or three times about a going away present and I came close to showing her that middle finger.

I had to avoid that chick the rest of the day until she was gone. And, I hated that I had to do it. She looked gorgeous as usual and I wanted to get my hug before she left but, I couldn't stand all of that damn beggin'. Greedy beggin' gold-diggers just turn me off.

I'm about sixty percent sure I might've missed out on "something else" by not acknowledging her, but to hell with it. They're still plenty of other fish in the sea and more sirens await!

Good riddens.

Besides, I haven't run out of Options yet.

- loveqna

MUSIC - Amos Lee - Sweet Pea

This is a cute melody and a nice song to hum, but I had a "sweet pea" of my own once - and she got on my damn nerves...



Video provided by - rythebrain

- loveqna

VIDEO - Wendi Deng Murdoch Smacks Pie-Thrower Who Attacks Husband

I bet he won't be throwin' any more pies for a while. That S.O.B. better be glad his head was glued to his damn neck cause that chick almost knocked it clean off.

Video provided by - slatester

- loveqna

Why A Man Needs Two Or More Women

Before you start cussin' me out, let me speak.

I'm NOT saying that a man SHOULD HAVE more than one woman.

And, I'll say it again:

I'm NOT saying that a man SHOULD HAVE more than ONE woman.

If a man has found TRUE LOVE then one woman will be all that he needs. Usually.

I believe this because I believe his heart and mind won't allow him to seek anyone else - IF it's True Love. But, that's just how I see it.

I believe Love will FORCE you to be devoted to ONE PERSON - To be OBSESSED by ONE person and to compel you to only want to please and cater to him or her. It can't be cut into pieces and shared like slices of cake or pie. You can't spread it around because you can't possess Love. You can't OWN it. It owns you.

Okay. I'm not trying to philosophical but you heard what I said, so I don't wanna hear no sh*t from anybody.

Okay.

Now, Surprise...

This is also a post about "Why A Woman Needs Two Or More Men" because SOME women out there feel they have to have more than one guy to be completely satisfied.

It's true!

So, for the record...

I'M not saying that a woman SHOULD HAVE two or more men. I'm addressing the women out there who believe they need more than one man (or love-mate) in their life to be completely satisfied.

Now, let me tell you what this is all about.

It's another post about cheaters and why they feel they need a lover on the side - or two or three lovers on the side.

They do it because they're hard to please, dissatisfied with their circumstances, and unhappy.

This particular reason for cheating is based on Variety. But not sexual variety.

There are many people out there who feel that they don't (or can't) have all of the "voids" in their life filled by one person. They feel they NEED additional mates to help them enjoy certain aspects of life that their Main Squeeze (or Primary Lover) can't help them with.

It's kind of like guys and girls who have their best friend for fun, secrets, gossip, shopping, and hanging out with and a lover for intimacy, affection, and romance.

The lover provides certain "social benefits" and their best friend provides certain "social benefits".

So, why does the man need more than one woman??? In this case, he may be looking for or intrigued by OTHER "Benefits" such as:

- Personality

- Style and Sex Appeal

- Beauty

- Status

Or, he may need to FEEL, SEE, HEAR, SMELL, and TASTE something DIFFERENT.

That could be anything. It may be great sex.

But, as I've stated before, cheaters don't always cheat for sex. In most cases sex is inevitable. It's expected to happen. The cheater wants it to happen. But after he and his lover has had sex, why does he keep going back? I'll tell you why...

He might keep his lover because he FEELS his lover is more entertaining, easier to talk to, prettier, sexier, more outspoken, more confident, more understanding, more charming, or classier. There is something that this other person brings to the table that he's not getting at "home".

A woman who cheats might feel the same way about her lover. It's possible that she deeply cares about her partner but she might not find her partner so entertaining. Maybe they don't have "deep" conversations. Maybe her partner is too serious or too playful. Maybe her partner is weak and she craves someone stronger. Maybe they never go anywhere or do anything romantic or fun. Or, maybe she is simply MORE TURNED-ON by this new person's personality, charm, and beauty. Who knows why she is swooning over this bum.

But even when a man or woman finds an additional partner, he or she may still fall for a THIRD one.

Why?

(And, we're NOT using Sex as an excuse in this post. We've already touched on sexual variety in another post.)

It's the same reason. The cheater will continue to cheat to fill "voids" in his or her life.

What is he looking for THIS time???

This third lover may be MORE generous than the first two. He or she may be more adventurous. He or she may be MORE charming. MORE entertaining. MORE beautiful. Sexier. Whatever.

I know some of you are saying that this is all bullcrap. And, I don't blame you for being pissed-off. But, let me ask you this:

Why do you think some men (AND women) don't want to get married???

If they're in love, why don't they want to be tied down? Why don't THEY want to tie their lover down??? Why aren't THEY begging for their lover's hand in marriage???

Because they're afraid they're going to be trapped in a relationship that is going to get old, dull, and boring. And they're afraid that THEY'RE going to get old, dull, and boring if they get stuck in this "situation".

That's why a lot of men DON'T say "I Do."

They'd rather stay single and have Variety. More variety means more fun-filled EXPERIENCES. Less routine and monotony.

It's like dining out.

If you go to the same restaurant every time you go out (or eat at home all the time) it'll get boring as hell.

But, if you go out to a VARIETY of restaurants and try something different every once and a while, it's like a new adventure every time.

Some people NEED variety. Some people NEED to FEEL, SEE, HEAR, SMELL, and TASTE something DIFFERENT.

Some people feel they need extra lovers to feel "voids" that one lover can't provide.

I've heard plenty of women say that they don't want to be tied down to someone who is only going to get old, fat, and boring. I've heard lots of guys say they don't want to get married because there are too many beautiful women out here to have just one. They'll never be able to get all of those hot babes or even half of them but they want to have options if things get rough - or, if their lives start to look bleak and empty.

Options. Variety. An escape route! That's why a man needs two or more women! He needs someone to turn to take his mind off of his routine lifestyle and to help keep his life exciting.

I remember I used to hear some crap on certain radio stations here in Charlotte about why women needed four or five men in their love-life.

They needed one man to help them out from time to time with bills.

They needed another guy who was sensitive and understanding.

They needed a third man who was outstanding in bed.

They needed a fourth man for fun and excitement.

I forgot why they needed a fifth man, but it was probably to babysit their damn kids.

Sometimes they're searching for something or someone to fill a void and they don't know what that void is. Most of the time they simply crave a new adventure or some excitement. They're greedy to try something new.

You're lucky if you're not in a serious relationship with one of these types of cheaters. But if you are (or, you're in love with one), your only hope is personal improvement (appearance, style, confidence, charm, independence, etc.) and playing a little hard to get - and, that doesn't work all the time.

But, if you want this person, you'll have to try to fill those "voids". You have to give him or her a little bit of everything he or she wants and NEEDS.

Remember: These cheaters love to sample, therefore, they love to chase. They always want to try something new and different. And, when you appear different to them, they get curious and want a taste of the NEW You.

But, be aware: You must not be too easy to get but you can't be too hard to get also. Use your charm and powers of seduction to win his or her heart. Whatever the bum wants, try to give it to him (or her). That MIGHT keep him or her coming back for more.

And, if it doesn't,

Find someone who's "simple", easy to please, and who doesn't have a lot of Needs or needs a lot of Variety.

- loveqna