Backstabbers : The Other Danger Of Neglecting Your Lover

I wanted to put this in the previous post but now, I don't want to add any more to that post right now. I'll get around to updating it later.

Anyway...

A good reason NOT to neglect your lover is because sometimes there are people out there - haters and backstabbers - like friends, rivals, family members, his or her co-workers, or some chick who works down at the fast-food restaurant - just waiting for you two to have issues with your relationship so that they can slip in and take your man or woman when the timing is right.

Neglect can make your relationship get stale, dull, and boring. Drama can push it right over the edge.

And some of these people may not be trying to steal your man or woman, but if the opportunity ever arises, they'll hook-up with him or her when you're having a "break" or offer their affections if he or she should get lonely and approach.

It happens.

Especially when you have one person pouring out his soul to someone who's willing to listen and seems to understand. And, the person is giving good advice. And, they are able to laugh, joke, and talk about anything.

This is a recipe for new love. It happens all the time. That's why you can't let your guards down in your relationship. You have to keep things in check on a regular basis and perform routine "preventive maintenance" so that the relationship doesn't break down.

A lot of women think men don't open-up. But, when a guy is going through drama with his girl or his job, he'll find someone to talk to. And, that's when that friend of yours, or one of his co-workers, or a hoodrat he's met out at a nightclub, has the best opportunity to steal him right from up under your nose.

Women are the same way. They get sick and tired of dealing with a neglectful man after a while. They hate being stuck in a boring relationship that has done flat-lined. And, once that drama hits, and someone close to them shows them some attention and flirts with them a little bit and makes a few promises, it's over. A date or a hook-up is bound to happen.

Before you know it, one of your friends or family members have done snuck-in through the back door doggy-style. I said, "Damn!"

It can be heartbreaking and make you want unleash Hell on those dirty rats, but you've got to consider where you went wrong too. Or, at least where the relationship went wrong or sour or downhill.

I'm not pointing any fingers! I'm just looking at the situation from both sides.

In fact, do you know what the sweetest revenge is over those backstabbing rats???

It's when you find out your mate has cheating and he or she wants end the affair or come back. THEN you get the satisfaction of watching that rat squirm and beg for mercy before you kick their ass to the damn curb. Sorry sack of sh*t.

I know - it's Sadistic... But, I'm sure it feels great. And empowering.

(I can't believe it. I'm feeling good about being bad. boner.)

Anyway...

I don't want to make you paranoid. Most of us choose our friends wisely and have good honest friends and companions who would never back-stab us. But, just to be on the safe side, use your instincts and show your Boo some love on a regular basis. Don't let your relationship fall by the wayside or YOU might get bored and lonely and start looking for a form of escape or a way out.

- loveqna