Stop Stereotyping Men And Women

Why is it so hard for a man to understand his woman or so easy for a woman to CLAIM to understand her man yet NOT understand why he isn't happy in his relationship or why he would cheat on her with someone else? Maybe he's not so simple to understand after all.

What causes this "lack of understanding"? Stereotyping...

Believing all men are the same and all women are the same.

Instead of the man paying attention to his woman and trying to learn her crazy-ass ways, he ignores her, avoids her, and is satisfied with the idea that "all women are complicated and can't be figured out."

Don't follow in his footsteps or you'll be as miserable as he is. DON'T TRY TO FIGURE ALL WOMEN OUT. You can't. ALL WOMEN AREN'T THE SAME. Each one has different habits, interests, issues, preferences, personalities, wants, needs, etc. So, don't try to figure ALL of them out. Stop stereotyping all of these complicated-ass women and focus on the lunatic you have at home and HER crazy-ass ways. If it's already driving you insane trying to figure HER out, you ought to have enough sense to know that's impossible to figure them All out. And, if you focus on this one woman you have at home, it'll make understanding HER a lot easier.

For women, it's the opposite. Many of them think they know exactly what ALL men want and that men are easy to understand. So, they stereotype men this way: Most women believe that men are the same - "simple" and only want three things: a submissive woman, a TV with a remote, and an endless supply of beer.

Now that's the crazy thing I've ever heard.

Every man isn't satisfied with a submissive woman they can use for sex, cleaning their cave, and raising children while they go out to conquer the world and rustle up some "bacon". Some men have different goals, interests, and ambitions in life. All men aren't the same just as all women aren't the same. You don't know what's going on in your man's mind until you really get to know him. Many women DON'T KNOW what's on their man's mind. Many are too busy to notice. They think everything in the relationship is fine until a revelation smacks them right dead in the face: "HE'S CHEATING ON ME???"

This will happen if you just allow the relationship to drift along. Find ways to get him to open up. He'll talk under the right circumstances. Just because he isn't talking to YOU doesn't mean he isn't willing to talk. More than likely, he's talking to SOMEONE about his problems (or "interests") - like a friend, a co-worker, a family member, or maybe even strangers on the Internet.

I know it SOUNDS easy but it CAN be done. My girl and I disagree on a lot of things, but I understand her. I can make her smile. I know what makes her happy. I know what makes her angry. I know what she wants from me. I know what she needs. I understand her completely. It took a while for me to learn this stuff but (everyday) she makes sure I get the picture. And, with her big mouth, she doesn't mind telling me what's on her mind - good or bad. So, it's no secret of how she feels, what she's happy about, likes or doesn't like, thinks I ought to do, or how I ought to be. I'm completely informed of her wants, needs, preferences, temperament, turn-offs, turn-ons, and demands. I'm learning the hard way, but trust me, I'm well aware of what "buttons" NOT to push if I want to have a good day and sweet romantic nights.

We argue because she's stubborn and doesn't listen, AND doesn't WANT to listen. The woman is RIGHT ABOUT EVERYTHING. And, she thinks she's gonna work me to death... But, she's got another thing coming if she thinks that's going to happen. I REFUSE to submit...

Anyway... This is one way of moving in the right direction to improving your love-life and relationship. Stop sterotyping and get to know the Individual. You have to try to understand each other's ways and continue to learn each other so that you don't constantly step on each other's toes or do things that lead to arguments, boredom, or spite. On the flip-side, you might discover that the relationship just isn't meant to be. Get to know your partner. Why waste the time, energy, and effort to save it if it ain't meant to be?

Talk/Communicate
Ask questions
Create situations where you can relax, have fun, and talk more openly
Observe and Pay attention to what makes him/her smile or angry
Listen for what he/she does say as well as what he/she doesn't say
Listen for what issues keep coming up
etc.

Don't fall for "the all men are the same/all women are complicated" B.S or you'll continue to have more problems and frustrations than you care to deal with. Look, listen, and learn how to deal with the individual and situation you're in. It will help to make your life a lot better - whether you want to save the relationship or just going with the flow until you can find a way out.