Why Guys Have To Make The First Move - Most Of The Time

There are some men that really expect a woman to approach them rather than them approaching the woman. I mentioned this in an earlier loveqna blog post, but I have to bring it back up because I KNOW FOR A FACT that there are women out there that aren't afraid to approach a man if he's what the woman really wants.

True, some guys feel a little uneasy about this. Some are even turned off by it. Some think women who approach men are possible psychos and weirdos. It's a double-standard and confusing as hell, I know. Because, here you have guys who are TOO AFRAID to approach a woman but when SHE approaches one of them, the guy runs off because he scared that she's a nut! It's like he becomes the girl who's paranoid that anyone who approaches is a potential stalker.

Even if they're both in a night club, this can happen. But how and why???

First, I'm going to give you a list of why people reject romantic attempts, then I'll list THE REASONS WHY MEN MUST MAKE THE FIRST MOVE.

And, I hope none of the ladies take offense to this because men get rejected for the same reasons.

Okay, here'S why a person may get rejected after approaching a prospect:

* Too agressive and too far into the man's or woman's personal space
* Afraid the prospect may be dangerous or a potential hazard
* Afraid the prospect is a player or "wild and loose" with the "goods"
* Appearance or style is not what the guy or girl wants
* Personality doesn't seem to be what the guy or girl wants
* Wrong pick-up line at the wrong time
* Involved and faithful
* Not sure how to respond to your advances
* Afraid of what his or her friends may think
* Making a public spectacle of the situation
* Hygiene is not up to par

Does any of this sound familiar? Have you turned anyone down because the situation met any of these criteria? I'll bet you have, and if you haven't yet, you will at some point in your life.

Now, let me tell you about a small research project I participated in recently...

I went on a Q. and A. site and posted a question for the ladies. I wanted to know why most of them didn't approach men. Of course, I got the obvious answer from a couple of posters: "Because men are supposed to approach." I'm not even going to comment on that crap right now. But, luckily, there were some honest ladies on the site that gave me a couple of honest answers that I would now like to share with you. And, here they are...

Men have to make the first move because many women:

* Are afraid of rejection

* Don't want to make a fool of themselves

* Don't want to be embarrassed by the guy in front of others

* Don't want to approach a man who is already involved or married

* Don't feel comfortable approaching strangers

* Believe the man will think negatively of them

* Doesn't want to seem desperate or too agressive

* Feel it's not lady-like to approach a man or chase him

* Believe in the cultural rule that a man must pursue a woman not vice versa

And, for these reasons, MEN, we must stay in "hot pursuit" if we are going to get the girl of our dreams - or get our greedy little hands on any of that golden booty.

We got to get out there and put our bids in and let those ladies know that we are worth their time and affections. Only a few are going to come to us, so we have no choice but to play by the old rules until women take complete control of the Earth and have to bid against each other for OUR love. What else CAN we do???

Good Luck on your mission, and I'll see you soon...

- loveqna