I read a post tonight on a Q and A site (questions and answers) about a guy who was recently divorcd and depressed because his ex-wife had a new boyfriend, and it made me think: What would I do if my girl broke up with me for good and found someone new?
Mmmmm... This chick?
I admit, I'd be a little bitter about being kicked to the curb, but at the same time, I'd feel very much at ease. Relieved.
Right now, I'm used to her. I'm used to her ways. I know her well.
I like most things about her, and I know she cares for me - just a little. And there are certain things I would miss - like the way she kisses, her sexy legs, her crazy personality and the crazy things she'll sometimes say. She's honest and the fact that she is a strong woman and not weak-minded or dainty is a plus. Also, she is not reserved with her affections or timid in bed, so a passionate woman like this would be missed.
BUT... On the other hand, beauty is only skin deep. And, a man (or woman) can only take so much aggravation and pressure, no matter how good the love is and looks are. So, If you're not happy, what's the point? So, right now, I think I could handle being dumped.
If the situation was different - if I was in love - maybe I'd feel different. Maybe I'd bawl, beg, and cry my eyes out, because when I first laid eyes on her, I really felt she was "the one".
I've known people who have gotten dumped and they just fell to pieces.
I had two very close friends break-up once because the girl cheated with a DJ she met at a party. She knew this guy (the DJ) and flirted with him on several occasions. One night, after a party, they hooked-up, and she got pregnant. This girl told her boyfriend that it was his baby - BUT! She thought it would be best if they had an abortion because she wasn't ready for a baby. The truth was: She knew that if she HAD that baby, that there was a very, very, very, very, VERY, strong chance that it would not come out looking like it was THEIR baby (she and her boyfriend). There was probably a 100% chance that it would come out NOT looking like it was their baby. So, she desperately wanted an abortion for fear of breaking his heart.
So, she lied and told her boyfriend it was his, but said she wasn't ready to be a mom because she was in college, so he agreed to pay for the abortion.
Before he did, another friend in our little clique told her man what was REALLY going on. Now, she was afraid. She was afraid of being dumped. But, this guy loved this girl. He was distraught, heartbroken, and torn to shreds over this, but he didn't want to break up with her.
He was sad as hell and asked some of his close friends what he should do. He was asking people he never trusted or liked about this situation. That's when I KNEW he was off his rocker. I felt really bad for this guy and all I could say was: "Man, I don't know." I would've dumped that broad. But, you can't tell a guy who's deeply in love to give up on someone he really cares about. It'll make you angry that he didn't take heed to your advice and if they get back together, they'll hate you or you won't be as close as friends.
Well, some of his cousins were also good friends and were in our clique and they cussed the girl out and cussed him out for dating her in the first place. Some of them never liked her.
They called the girl a skank and every other name in the book. They were sure he was going to break-up with her, but they ended up being even more pissed...
He paid for the abortion, she promised never to cheat on him again, and they stayed together.
A few months passed and everything seemed cool.
But, after a while, he couldn't take it... The trust was gone. And he kept hearing rumors. And his cousins were still on his ass about dating her. So, the relationship just wasn't the same. Even their personalities seemed different. You could tell it was over.
When he broke up with that girl, I thought she was going to kill herself. She was crying and screaming and falling out all over the place - going around in circles and holding her chest. I was almost afraid because of the expressions on face. She really did not look like herself. I thought she was literally going to cry her lungs out. And, he was about to cry. He was REALLY sad about breaking up with this girl. I said, "Damn."
The reason I was shocked at this entire scenario was because I had never been in love. And to see the love and hurt in both of their eyes really amazed me. I didn't understand it. After all that had happened, I could tell he still wanted her and that it was killing him to let her go.
She came on our job with all of that drama and someone had to call one of her girlfriends to drive her home. It was crucial.
We all used to hang out together - weekends, weekdays, holidays...
Things got kind of slack for a while after that. You would've thought she was the one who broke-up with him.
The point is: How do you tell someone who is in love to get over it and move on? A half-ass relationship, you could make plenty of suggestions and tell the person to stay busy, volunteer, take up a new hobby, get out and date, etc... But, if the person is in love - and you don't know how deep that love is - what can you really say to help them? "Only Time heals all wounds?" It may be true, but sometimes, too much Time - to think and reminisce - can drive you insane. What do you think?
I don't know what else to say...
- loveqna
Friday, November 26, 2010
Thursday, November 25, 2010
VIDEO - What Women Want from Men - Sporah Show
Who else wants to discover the Truth about "What Women Want From Men"? It doesn't matter where they're from. FEMALE wants, needs, and preferences, are basically the same. But, the only way to know what a woman is really about is to get to know her. Interact with her. Engage her in deep conversations that reveal her thoughts and observe her in situations that put her words and actions to the test.
This is a video I found today when I got a break from helping out in the kitchen with Thanksgiving Dinner... Take notes and don't be so quick to judge or to resist the video's message. I know it may be painful to hear the Truth, but "don't hate".
The good thing is: These women are open and honest and don't feed you a lot of B.S. Observe, and learn what to expect from women and remind yourself of what kind of woman you want and DON'T want. Then, put all of your cards on the table when you go on that first or second date and feel confident in letting the woman know where you stand. That way, you don't end up in relationship full of demands you don't agree with and a lot of drama.
Don't let your disgust cloud your Game. Keep it tight and just listen...
Video provided by - sporahshow
This is a video I found today when I got a break from helping out in the kitchen with Thanksgiving Dinner... Take notes and don't be so quick to judge or to resist the video's message. I know it may be painful to hear the Truth, but "don't hate".
The good thing is: These women are open and honest and don't feed you a lot of B.S. Observe, and learn what to expect from women and remind yourself of what kind of woman you want and DON'T want. Then, put all of your cards on the table when you go on that first or second date and feel confident in letting the woman know where you stand. That way, you don't end up in relationship full of demands you don't agree with and a lot of drama.
Don't let your disgust cloud your Game. Keep it tight and just listen...
Video provided by - sporahshow
My Girlfriend Dumped Me...
THEN...
five minutes later, she was all lovey-dovey and hooked back up with me again. I'm beginning to think she has a few screws loose.
Let me tell you what happened...
She got me so pissed off the other day that I just didn't want to talk to her ever again. So, I ignored her a little bit and avoided her to keep from hearing more of her big mouth. Women love to talk and she is no exception. She loves to chat, talk, gossip, complain, rant, and debate, so the "silent treatment" really pissed HER off and she exploded. It was funny though because sometimes in the middle of her yelling, I would say: "Hold up a minute", and gargle my mouth with mouthwash or get a q-tip and clean my ear or walk over to the closet to change my shirt, and she would stop screaming at me and wait until I said, "Okay, finish telling me." And she would continue her yelling without breaking a stride.
Now, I don't mean to sound like I was making a joke out of the whole thing, but I'm just sick of hearing her fuss. And, she wants me to argue back and debate with her. And, I don't want to do it. I don't like to argue. There are better things I could be doing with my time... Maybe that's how SHE likes to release bottled-up energy but that's just not my bag.
So, I said to her: "I don't feel like arguing or debating all the time. And, whenever you're angry, I just try to stay out of your way."
Wrong. I shouldn't have said that. Then, She really got loud.
"YOU THINK EVERYTHING IS AN ARGUMENT. I'M NOT ANGRY. I'M A WOMAN. I'M GONNA SPEAK MY MIND. YOU WANT SOMEBODY THAT'S A PUSHOVER. WELL IT'S NOT ME. I AIN'T THE ONE. I'M GONNA TELL YOU EXACTLY HOW I FEEL. AND IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, THAT'S JUST TOO BAD. YOU NEED TO SPEAK YOUR MIND AND STAND UP FOR YOURSELF..."
She wants me to argue with her is basically what she's saying.
Now, when I give my opinion - like last week when she went to look at handbags - this broad tells me (while we're in a crowded store) to shut-up and that I didn't know what women liked in a handbag and that I had no taste. Shut-Up??? For a second, I snapped. I was about to say: "Bitch, you shut-the-hell-up!" But, I wouldn't call a woman that unless we were joking around. Anyway... I said, "You shut-up! You don't tell anybody to shut-up! Not me no way. I ain't one of your chaps!" And we continue to shop. She does this all the time out in public - which is crazy - and disrespectful.
Now, believe it or not, right after this, we are not angry at each other. I'm not angry that she told me to shut-up in public. I'm a little offended but not really angry. What pisses me off is that she asks for my opinion or view on something all the time and then she tells me that I don't know what I'm talking about. Well, why in the hell did you ask me in the first place??? And what's the point in me explaining my point when she is already firm in her belief. Does she want me to agree with Everything she says? I'm not going to do it. If you want my opinion, I'm gonna tell you MY opinion and not what you want to hear.
So, this kind of crap has been going on all week.
Then, she called to tell me that she was tired and would probably be sleep when I got off of work, so I should call her and wake her up and she'll come to get me.
Right about the time I was due to get off of work, the store manager wanted to talk to me. After she finished talking to me, I pulled out my phone to call my girl. I had a "missed call" from her. I called her cell. As soon as she picked up the phone she was like: "WHY DIDN'T YOU ANSWER YOU PHONE. I CALLED YOU. YOU CALL WHEN YOU WANT SOMETHING. YOU NEVER ANSWER YOUR PHONE WHEN I CALL. I JUST LEFT THERE. NOW, I GOT TO TURN AROUND AND COME BACK... blah, blah, blah."
I wasn't planning on calling her anyway since she complained that she was so tired and sleepy. Hell, I had been getting to work without her for damn near two weeks so why call her now?
I started to say, "Bitch, you ain't gots to come back! Keep rolling with your damn big-ass mouth!" But, of course, I didn't say that. My poor lame ass. I said, "My phone was on vibrate in my pocket and I didn't feel it. I didn't realize I had a call." Which was true, but She didn't want to hear that sh*t. She went on yelling and calling me a liar. But, really, We're not supposed to have on phones on us while we're on the sales floor and they're not supposed to ring out loud if we do. I keep mine on me to keep up with the time and to check any texts she may send, but I don't get the opportunity to check them right away. And, I just don't stand around when I work. I try to keep busy - with or without customers. So, I may not feel the vibration of my phone sometimes. Anyway, she came back and scooped me up, dropped me off at the house and went to Sam's Club to purchase food and stuff she had to have for Thanksgiving.
When she got back, her and those bad little rugrats busted in the room. Those little brats were bouncing off the bed, the floor, and walls. Pulling papers and stuff off of the dresser and just throwing them on the floor. Dragging their toys and clothes in the room and just leaving them on the floor... Hopping around like rabbits and sh*t. Stomping around. I said, "Chill-Out, You little rug-monkeys!"
Of course, it's a joke, but their antics and unruly behavior still takes me away from blogging and writing. I can't stand all of that noise ALL the time.
Anyway, I think she brought them in there out of spite to distract and disturb me, because she doesn't like for me to be on the computer. She wants to talk. No. So, I picked up my laptop and went downstairs. But... those little demons where hot on my tail and followed me on down - begging for cereal and Kool-Aid - and whining that one hit the other or one of them is not sharing or something...
(Lord, have mercy! Somebody, get these damn chaps!)
Anyway, that pissed me off because she could've left them downstairs or told them to play in their mama's room but she knows they'll run to me most of the time. She just hates the fact that I'll get on the computer instead of listening to her rant and rave.
So, after that I gave her the silent treatment out of spite and she got tired of it and dumped me. I kind of expected it would happen, but I told you: I know her very well... and she's crazy. So, I wasn't shocked when we were smooching on the bed a few minutes later.
My advice to anyone involved in a relationship with a woman:
Don't try to understand women. Just get to know the one you've got and everything will be alright.
Now, let me go in here and help this dizzy broad with this turkey and stuffing.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING! And, thanks for listening!
- loveqna
five minutes later, she was all lovey-dovey and hooked back up with me again. I'm beginning to think she has a few screws loose.
Let me tell you what happened...
She got me so pissed off the other day that I just didn't want to talk to her ever again. So, I ignored her a little bit and avoided her to keep from hearing more of her big mouth. Women love to talk and she is no exception. She loves to chat, talk, gossip, complain, rant, and debate, so the "silent treatment" really pissed HER off and she exploded. It was funny though because sometimes in the middle of her yelling, I would say: "Hold up a minute", and gargle my mouth with mouthwash or get a q-tip and clean my ear or walk over to the closet to change my shirt, and she would stop screaming at me and wait until I said, "Okay, finish telling me." And she would continue her yelling without breaking a stride.
Now, I don't mean to sound like I was making a joke out of the whole thing, but I'm just sick of hearing her fuss. And, she wants me to argue back and debate with her. And, I don't want to do it. I don't like to argue. There are better things I could be doing with my time... Maybe that's how SHE likes to release bottled-up energy but that's just not my bag.
So, I said to her: "I don't feel like arguing or debating all the time. And, whenever you're angry, I just try to stay out of your way."
Wrong. I shouldn't have said that. Then, She really got loud.
"YOU THINK EVERYTHING IS AN ARGUMENT. I'M NOT ANGRY. I'M A WOMAN. I'M GONNA SPEAK MY MIND. YOU WANT SOMEBODY THAT'S A PUSHOVER. WELL IT'S NOT ME. I AIN'T THE ONE. I'M GONNA TELL YOU EXACTLY HOW I FEEL. AND IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, THAT'S JUST TOO BAD. YOU NEED TO SPEAK YOUR MIND AND STAND UP FOR YOURSELF..."
She wants me to argue with her is basically what she's saying.
Now, when I give my opinion - like last week when she went to look at handbags - this broad tells me (while we're in a crowded store) to shut-up and that I didn't know what women liked in a handbag and that I had no taste. Shut-Up??? For a second, I snapped. I was about to say: "Bitch, you shut-the-hell-up!" But, I wouldn't call a woman that unless we were joking around. Anyway... I said, "You shut-up! You don't tell anybody to shut-up! Not me no way. I ain't one of your chaps!" And we continue to shop. She does this all the time out in public - which is crazy - and disrespectful.
Now, believe it or not, right after this, we are not angry at each other. I'm not angry that she told me to shut-up in public. I'm a little offended but not really angry. What pisses me off is that she asks for my opinion or view on something all the time and then she tells me that I don't know what I'm talking about. Well, why in the hell did you ask me in the first place??? And what's the point in me explaining my point when she is already firm in her belief. Does she want me to agree with Everything she says? I'm not going to do it. If you want my opinion, I'm gonna tell you MY opinion and not what you want to hear.
So, this kind of crap has been going on all week.
Then, she called to tell me that she was tired and would probably be sleep when I got off of work, so I should call her and wake her up and she'll come to get me.
Right about the time I was due to get off of work, the store manager wanted to talk to me. After she finished talking to me, I pulled out my phone to call my girl. I had a "missed call" from her. I called her cell. As soon as she picked up the phone she was like: "WHY DIDN'T YOU ANSWER YOU PHONE. I CALLED YOU. YOU CALL WHEN YOU WANT SOMETHING. YOU NEVER ANSWER YOUR PHONE WHEN I CALL. I JUST LEFT THERE. NOW, I GOT TO TURN AROUND AND COME BACK... blah, blah, blah."
I wasn't planning on calling her anyway since she complained that she was so tired and sleepy. Hell, I had been getting to work without her for damn near two weeks so why call her now?
I started to say, "Bitch, you ain't gots to come back! Keep rolling with your damn big-ass mouth!" But, of course, I didn't say that. My poor lame ass. I said, "My phone was on vibrate in my pocket and I didn't feel it. I didn't realize I had a call." Which was true, but She didn't want to hear that sh*t. She went on yelling and calling me a liar. But, really, We're not supposed to have on phones on us while we're on the sales floor and they're not supposed to ring out loud if we do. I keep mine on me to keep up with the time and to check any texts she may send, but I don't get the opportunity to check them right away. And, I just don't stand around when I work. I try to keep busy - with or without customers. So, I may not feel the vibration of my phone sometimes. Anyway, she came back and scooped me up, dropped me off at the house and went to Sam's Club to purchase food and stuff she had to have for Thanksgiving.
When she got back, her and those bad little rugrats busted in the room. Those little brats were bouncing off the bed, the floor, and walls. Pulling papers and stuff off of the dresser and just throwing them on the floor. Dragging their toys and clothes in the room and just leaving them on the floor... Hopping around like rabbits and sh*t. Stomping around. I said, "Chill-Out, You little rug-monkeys!"
Of course, it's a joke, but their antics and unruly behavior still takes me away from blogging and writing. I can't stand all of that noise ALL the time.
Anyway, I think she brought them in there out of spite to distract and disturb me, because she doesn't like for me to be on the computer. She wants to talk. No. So, I picked up my laptop and went downstairs. But... those little demons where hot on my tail and followed me on down - begging for cereal and Kool-Aid - and whining that one hit the other or one of them is not sharing or something...
(Lord, have mercy! Somebody, get these damn chaps!)
Anyway, that pissed me off because she could've left them downstairs or told them to play in their mama's room but she knows they'll run to me most of the time. She just hates the fact that I'll get on the computer instead of listening to her rant and rave.
So, after that I gave her the silent treatment out of spite and she got tired of it and dumped me. I kind of expected it would happen, but I told you: I know her very well... and she's crazy. So, I wasn't shocked when we were smooching on the bed a few minutes later.
My advice to anyone involved in a relationship with a woman:
Don't try to understand women. Just get to know the one you've got and everything will be alright.
Now, let me go in here and help this dizzy broad with this turkey and stuffing.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING! And, thanks for listening!
- loveqna
Wednesday, November 24, 2010
VIDEO - MTV 'Teen Mom' Facing Domestic Battery Charges In Anderson
I was trying to find coverage on the North Korea/South Korea tragedy and didn't realize I had the TV on the wrong station. I was shocked when I saw HLN running this clip from MTV. I was even more shocked when those goons on that station said this girl needed help and suggested that the reason she acted this way was because "she probably has been abused as a child" - sexually, emotionally, and physically - and "she needs help". Come on, Man... If it was the other way around, there would NO Excuse. They'd demand "Satisfaction"! They'd roast this guy's big burly ass and DEMAND that he'd be locked UNDER the jail for domestic violence!
It's a shame and a scandal that a beautiful voluptuous woman would be so cruel... And who knows how long this poor sap has been suffering from this type of abuse.
Video provided by - wish
Below is Another Incident of Abuse suffered by poor Gary... The poor boy gets punched in the face and kicked in the ass as he tries to leave.
Teen Mom Amber vs. Gary
Video provided by - XavierOfLove
- loveqna
It's a shame and a scandal that a beautiful voluptuous woman would be so cruel... And who knows how long this poor sap has been suffering from this type of abuse.
Video provided by - wish
Below is Another Incident of Abuse suffered by poor Gary... The poor boy gets punched in the face and kicked in the ass as he tries to leave.
Teen Mom Amber vs. Gary
Video provided by - XavierOfLove
- loveqna
Sunday, November 21, 2010
Do You Enjoy Exciting Videos With Relationship Themes? Then Read This!
If you enjoy watching exciting videos like Singapore Woman Tortures Boyfriend, then wait until I finish with this post. This post will feature an exclusive list of videos focused on relationships and relationship drama for you to gawk at and learn from. I know your mouths are full of drool and watering for more but keep your shirts on! They're coming!
In the mean time, don't hesitate to check out the archives and click on those juicy links which are constantly being updated and revised.
- loveqna
Desi Wife Caught Her Spouse Cheating
Cheaters Vengeance
Guy Gets Revenge on his Girlfriend
PIE SLAP + HOT CHICK = EPIC LOL
Best Revenge a Guy can Take Over his Girlfriend
Girlfriend KO's Boyfriend
Singapore Woman Tortures Boyfriend
In the mean time, don't hesitate to check out the archives and click on those juicy links which are constantly being updated and revised.
- loveqna
Desi Wife Caught Her Spouse Cheating
Cheaters Vengeance
Guy Gets Revenge on his Girlfriend
PIE SLAP + HOT CHICK = EPIC LOL
Best Revenge a Guy can Take Over his Girlfriend
Girlfriend KO's Boyfriend
Singapore Woman Tortures Boyfriend
VIDEO - Danny Dumps: Angie. Cheating girl dumped live on radio
Another episode of the extremely popular "Danny Dumps", a program hosted by GalaxyFM, a local FM radio station in Yorkshire, England.
This time we meet Craig. A chap who wanted to ask his girlfriend to marry him on Christmas Day, after a four year relationship. Only to find out his girlfriend was doing her married boss at the company's Christmas party, which he found out through his friends and her colleagues. He then asked radiohost Danny to dump her, live!
http://www.galaxyfm.co.uk/
Video provided by - Fearthefus
- loveqna
This time we meet Craig. A chap who wanted to ask his girlfriend to marry him on Christmas Day, after a four year relationship. Only to find out his girlfriend was doing her married boss at the company's Christmas party, which he found out through his friends and her colleagues. He then asked radiohost Danny to dump her, live!
http://www.galaxyfm.co.uk/
Video provided by - Fearthefus
- loveqna
VIDEO - Desi Wife Caught Her Spouse Cheating - HQ
Damn... If this doesn't keep a man or woman focused on being honest and monogamous, I don't know what will.
Video provided by - arpit0702
- loveqna
Video provided by - arpit0702
- loveqna
Friday, November 19, 2010
20 Signs That Tell You He (or She) Is Cheating
I didn't want to post this, and I'll tell you why.
I see relationship "gurus" and advisors present some of this information on their "top 10 lists" all the time. And, it's always the same. Nothing new. Some of it is extra crap they chuck in just to make their list longer. If your "Male Instincts" or "Female Intuition" is fine tuned, most of you may know this information already, but, if you've recently experienced the deceitfulness of a cheater OR suspect that you're being cheated on, this post may open your eyes.
But, let me tell you this...
Your mate, or partner, or husband, or wife, or girlfriend, or boyfriend, could have ALL the signs and symptoms on this list and it still doesn't mean he or she is cheating on you. Well... some of those signs would be a no-brainer and a definite indication of infidelity, but MOST signs - as incriminating as they may be - aren't GUARANTEES of cheating.
Unless...
Your sweetheart just doesn't seem interested in you or the relationship.
OBSERVE AND USE YOUR INSTINCTS.
Now, if he or she is depressed (or got a lot on his or her mind), that may make him or her seem uninterested in being in a relationship with you. The only thing you can do about that is: try and help them through it and see what happens from there. If you can't deal with the lack of interest and attention, then talk about it and go from there. Or, try counseling. Some people can handle being with someone who's suffering from depression and some people can't. But, don't overlook it and mistake it for cheating or thinking that he or she doesn't care. All you'll do is make yourself angry and make him or her more frustrated and unable to solve the mental or emotional issues that he or she is trying to cope with. So, observe carefully before you suspect or accuse him or her of cheating.
Another type of person a lot people mistake for a cheater is someone who is unwilling or un-motivated, to enjoy the relationship. And, if this is the case, you might want to think about leaving anyway, because a pessimistic person who isn't happy with himself (or herself) will have a hard time being happy about being with you. He or she will only make you miserable. Don't even let someone like bring you down. Run - whether they're cheating or not.
If you KNOW your partner, you'll know when something ain't right. People who are "connected" have stronger instincts about each other. If they're lying or cheating, the majority of the time, you'll know it. Your "spidey senses" will kick in like a damn lightening bolt!
Let me tell you how I know this from first-hand experience...
I was cleaning out my "In Box" one day and ran across some emails from an Ex that I dated way before I met my current girlfriend. After I started reading those old emails I had saved, I kind of wanted to see what my Ex was up to and viewed her profile and the pictures she had posted on her page. And you won't believe this when I tell you but, later that day, my girlfriend called me up and started interrogating me and asking me if I was busy talking to someone else! I was shocked. I KNEW she couldn't have been spying on me but at the same time, I was so sure. Then it hit me! Female Intuition!
Her damn "female instincts" had kicked in and she wanted a Confession!
I didn't tell her sh*t. I said, "What the hell are you talking about? I've been cleaning up all day." (which was partly true).
SHE ALMOST GOT ME! I didn't know we were "connected" like that. I damn near found out the hard way...
Your "romantic instincts" may be that depending on your experience with relationships and how well you know your mate.
So, before you get paranoid and start believing all the crap those quacks put on these lists, get to know your partner and get connected.
But, there's something else I gotta say...
There are a lot of things people can do to avoid being caught cheating. Some people can lie their way out of the drama. Some people can twist the situation and avoid a "break-up". Some people have more than enough time to cheat and hide their tracks. Some people read this same list you're reading (because every quack and her dog has created one) and use them as a guide to avoid getting caught. And, some people will cheat just long enough NOT to get caught cheating.
So, the primary thing is: KNOW YOUR MATE.
Now, here's the crap you've been waiting for...
And, I'm not going into detail. This is Only A List. (I have MORE of this crap in the "top secret" book I'm working on.)
- Smelling strange perfume or body fragrance – usually from “smooching” and making out· Lurking around the house – creeping around and trying to keep up with your location so he or she can make moves
- Smelling fresh and clean - like he or she just took a bath (but not at home) - with "cheap" soap
· Hiding or lying about his or her whereabouts (if you're "connected", you can tell if he or she is lying)
· Not wanting to "make-out" as much; decrease in sex-drive; lack of affection
· Changing or avoiding the steps toward total commitment with his woman/her man – avoids talk about the relationship (or marriage); not wanting to talk about "the next step/level of their relationship
· Making excuses to leave after receiving a phone call
· Always busy and unavailable; always having to do a favor for friends or hang out with them
· Often criticizes you, nags, or complains about how you look, think, or act
· Doesn't talk much or acknowledge you early in the day but later on after work or after you've been apart, he or she is bubbling with enthusiasm
· Lack of interest in the relationship, home-life, or you
* Trying to change the subject when you want to talk about your doubts/fears or trying to change the subject when you question him or her about his or her feelings, suspicious behavior, suspicious actions, or whereabouts
* Trying to turn the tables (accuse you of possible cheating or losing interest) when you question him or her about cheating or your suspicions of cheating (WARNING: If you only SUSPECT him or her of cheating - and don't know for sure - I would not make false accusations or assume, because if he or she isn't cheating, it may seem to him or her that YOU COULD BE CHEATING
· Only sees you at night or for booty calls; you never go out on dates or spend quality time away from either person's house - usually happens in a "new" relationship
· Missing money from joint accounts or from paycheck
· Always VERY concerned about his or her appearance when leaving the house
· Unwilling to answer or accept calls in the your presence (if he or she DOES accept calls, he or she will talk low, mumble, in code, or not look at you but remain aware of how close you are so that you don't over-hear the conversation)
· Constant lying, excuses, and broken promises
· Strange behavior or doing things out of character
· Finding condoms – if you two don’t use them
· Finding another woman’s panties, jewelry, lip gloss, or other type of “accessory” in your home/in his car (she may have a love note, gift, card from a "friend")
· A strange or crazy person continuously calling and often hanging up
- Often starts arguments so that he or she can leave
Now, like I said before, not all signs are guarantees that he or she is cheating. Maybe a combination of signs might suggest cheating, but the only way you will know for sure is if you're connected and it's "obvious". Or, if you catch him or her cheating. Or, if you ask and he or she admits it. Good luck. And, I hope your relationship is well.
- loveqna
I see relationship "gurus" and advisors present some of this information on their "top 10 lists" all the time. And, it's always the same. Nothing new. Some of it is extra crap they chuck in just to make their list longer. If your "Male Instincts" or "Female Intuition" is fine tuned, most of you may know this information already, but, if you've recently experienced the deceitfulness of a cheater OR suspect that you're being cheated on, this post may open your eyes.
But, let me tell you this...
Your mate, or partner, or husband, or wife, or girlfriend, or boyfriend, could have ALL the signs and symptoms on this list and it still doesn't mean he or she is cheating on you. Well... some of those signs would be a no-brainer and a definite indication of infidelity, but MOST signs - as incriminating as they may be - aren't GUARANTEES of cheating.
Unless...
Your sweetheart just doesn't seem interested in you or the relationship.
OBSERVE AND USE YOUR INSTINCTS.
Now, if he or she is depressed (or got a lot on his or her mind), that may make him or her seem uninterested in being in a relationship with you. The only thing you can do about that is: try and help them through it and see what happens from there. If you can't deal with the lack of interest and attention, then talk about it and go from there. Or, try counseling. Some people can handle being with someone who's suffering from depression and some people can't. But, don't overlook it and mistake it for cheating or thinking that he or she doesn't care. All you'll do is make yourself angry and make him or her more frustrated and unable to solve the mental or emotional issues that he or she is trying to cope with. So, observe carefully before you suspect or accuse him or her of cheating.
Another type of person a lot people mistake for a cheater is someone who is unwilling or un-motivated, to enjoy the relationship. And, if this is the case, you might want to think about leaving anyway, because a pessimistic person who isn't happy with himself (or herself) will have a hard time being happy about being with you. He or she will only make you miserable. Don't even let someone like bring you down. Run - whether they're cheating or not.
If you KNOW your partner, you'll know when something ain't right. People who are "connected" have stronger instincts about each other. If they're lying or cheating, the majority of the time, you'll know it. Your "spidey senses" will kick in like a damn lightening bolt!
Let me tell you how I know this from first-hand experience...
I was cleaning out my "In Box" one day and ran across some emails from an Ex that I dated way before I met my current girlfriend. After I started reading those old emails I had saved, I kind of wanted to see what my Ex was up to and viewed her profile and the pictures she had posted on her page. And you won't believe this when I tell you but, later that day, my girlfriend called me up and started interrogating me and asking me if I was busy talking to someone else! I was shocked. I KNEW she couldn't have been spying on me but at the same time, I was so sure. Then it hit me! Female Intuition!
Her damn "female instincts" had kicked in and she wanted a Confession!
I didn't tell her sh*t. I said, "What the hell are you talking about? I've been cleaning up all day." (which was partly true).
SHE ALMOST GOT ME! I didn't know we were "connected" like that. I damn near found out the hard way...
Your "romantic instincts" may be that depending on your experience with relationships and how well you know your mate.
So, before you get paranoid and start believing all the crap those quacks put on these lists, get to know your partner and get connected.
But, there's something else I gotta say...
There are a lot of things people can do to avoid being caught cheating. Some people can lie their way out of the drama. Some people can twist the situation and avoid a "break-up". Some people have more than enough time to cheat and hide their tracks. Some people read this same list you're reading (because every quack and her dog has created one) and use them as a guide to avoid getting caught. And, some people will cheat just long enough NOT to get caught cheating.
So, the primary thing is: KNOW YOUR MATE.
Now, here's the crap you've been waiting for...
And, I'm not going into detail. This is Only A List. (I have MORE of this crap in the "top secret" book I'm working on.)
- Smelling strange perfume or body fragrance – usually from “smooching” and making out· Lurking around the house – creeping around and trying to keep up with your location so he or she can make moves
- Smelling fresh and clean - like he or she just took a bath (but not at home) - with "cheap" soap
· Hiding or lying about his or her whereabouts (if you're "connected", you can tell if he or she is lying)
· Not wanting to "make-out" as much; decrease in sex-drive; lack of affection
· Changing or avoiding the steps toward total commitment with his woman/her man – avoids talk about the relationship (or marriage); not wanting to talk about "the next step/level of their relationship
· Making excuses to leave after receiving a phone call
· Always busy and unavailable; always having to do a favor for friends or hang out with them
· Often criticizes you, nags, or complains about how you look, think, or act
· Doesn't talk much or acknowledge you early in the day but later on after work or after you've been apart, he or she is bubbling with enthusiasm
· Lack of interest in the relationship, home-life, or you
* Trying to change the subject when you want to talk about your doubts/fears or trying to change the subject when you question him or her about his or her feelings, suspicious behavior, suspicious actions, or whereabouts
* Trying to turn the tables (accuse you of possible cheating or losing interest) when you question him or her about cheating or your suspicions of cheating (WARNING: If you only SUSPECT him or her of cheating - and don't know for sure - I would not make false accusations or assume, because if he or she isn't cheating, it may seem to him or her that YOU COULD BE CHEATING
· Only sees you at night or for booty calls; you never go out on dates or spend quality time away from either person's house - usually happens in a "new" relationship
· Missing money from joint accounts or from paycheck
· Always VERY concerned about his or her appearance when leaving the house
· Unwilling to answer or accept calls in the your presence (if he or she DOES accept calls, he or she will talk low, mumble, in code, or not look at you but remain aware of how close you are so that you don't over-hear the conversation)
· Constant lying, excuses, and broken promises
· Strange behavior or doing things out of character
· Finding condoms – if you two don’t use them
· Finding another woman’s panties, jewelry, lip gloss, or other type of “accessory” in your home/in his car (she may have a love note, gift, card from a "friend")
· A strange or crazy person continuously calling and often hanging up
- Constantly seen riding around in a car with an unfamiliar man or woman
- Often starts arguments so that he or she can leave
Now, like I said before, not all signs are guarantees that he or she is cheating. Maybe a combination of signs might suggest cheating, but the only way you will know for sure is if you're connected and it's "obvious". Or, if you catch him or her cheating. Or, if you ask and he or she admits it. Good luck. And, I hope your relationship is well.
- loveqna
Thursday, November 18, 2010
That B*tch Is Crazy...
I'm supposed to be asleep right now...
It's 4:13 in the morning and I have to wake-up for work at 6:00AM.
But, everytime I close my eyes, my mind keeps turning and turning and turning...
And, I just thought about something that crazy-ass girl of mine said to me.
The backyard has about 15 big-ass trees in it. There are MORE trees surrounding it from the neighbors' yards... And the front.
There are leaves scattered everywhere. And plenty more still on the trees.
I've already bagged over thirty bags of leaves - just in the FRONT yard - because, there are trees there too. AND, more leaves on them. She has two kids big enough to go out and bag at least some of the leaves in the backyard, but she expects me to do it.
Last week, I was on second floor of the roof - the very top - cleaning the gutters again because she was complaining about all of those damn leaves piled up in there. And I don't think she has ever cleaned those gutters because when I first did it, they had mud in them and grass and tiny little trees growing out of them. And, she still hasn't said "thank you" or "good job" or anything.
I already bought the rake and the garbage bags with my poor little paycheck, and I STILL have to clean up the entire yard too??? While those lazy-ass boys of hers sleep and play video games??? And then, I have to wash dishes and cook for her and her doggone "bay-bay kids"???
And, it's not like I have an office job. I have to deal with customers and sometimes lift (by hand) 5,000 - 10,000 pounds of product a day when I work. So, sometimes I'm tired and want to relax on my days off. But, I still have to babysit her daughter's kids while her daughter is at school and/or at work. She says she watches them but her ass is laying up here in the bed asleep. So, I have to watch them so that she can rest. And, I don't get paid for that sh*t!
And, she complains that I don't wash her car. Hell, when I washed it, she junked it back up within a couple of days like she just didn't give a damn. When I clean-up, she let's those little bad-ass kids mess things right back up. I'm like WTF???
I like those little rugrats like they were my own kids, but damn... I didn't sign-up for all this sh*t.
And she had the nerve to say, "A man is built to work. You're supposed to work like a dog. A woman is supposed to take care of the house."
Well, why the hell am I cooking and washing dishes then???
She'll let those bad-ass kids tear the place up and then she wants to walk around whining, complaining, and fussing about how she can't live in such a filthy place and how she's sick and tired of the house being junky.
Now, I know I've done lost my mind for putting up with this sh*t, but is this b*tch crazy???
Or, is it just me?
- loveqna
(good night)
It's 4:13 in the morning and I have to wake-up for work at 6:00AM.
But, everytime I close my eyes, my mind keeps turning and turning and turning...
And, I just thought about something that crazy-ass girl of mine said to me.
The backyard has about 15 big-ass trees in it. There are MORE trees surrounding it from the neighbors' yards... And the front.
There are leaves scattered everywhere. And plenty more still on the trees.
I've already bagged over thirty bags of leaves - just in the FRONT yard - because, there are trees there too. AND, more leaves on them. She has two kids big enough to go out and bag at least some of the leaves in the backyard, but she expects me to do it.
Last week, I was on second floor of the roof - the very top - cleaning the gutters again because she was complaining about all of those damn leaves piled up in there. And I don't think she has ever cleaned those gutters because when I first did it, they had mud in them and grass and tiny little trees growing out of them. And, she still hasn't said "thank you" or "good job" or anything.
I already bought the rake and the garbage bags with my poor little paycheck, and I STILL have to clean up the entire yard too??? While those lazy-ass boys of hers sleep and play video games??? And then, I have to wash dishes and cook for her and her doggone "bay-bay kids"???
And, it's not like I have an office job. I have to deal with customers and sometimes lift (by hand) 5,000 - 10,000 pounds of product a day when I work. So, sometimes I'm tired and want to relax on my days off. But, I still have to babysit her daughter's kids while her daughter is at school and/or at work. She says she watches them but her ass is laying up here in the bed asleep. So, I have to watch them so that she can rest. And, I don't get paid for that sh*t!
And, she complains that I don't wash her car. Hell, when I washed it, she junked it back up within a couple of days like she just didn't give a damn. When I clean-up, she let's those little bad-ass kids mess things right back up. I'm like WTF???
I like those little rugrats like they were my own kids, but damn... I didn't sign-up for all this sh*t.
And she had the nerve to say, "A man is built to work. You're supposed to work like a dog. A woman is supposed to take care of the house."
Well, why the hell am I cooking and washing dishes then???
She'll let those bad-ass kids tear the place up and then she wants to walk around whining, complaining, and fussing about how she can't live in such a filthy place and how she's sick and tired of the house being junky.
Now, I know I've done lost my mind for putting up with this sh*t, but is this b*tch crazy???
Or, is it just me?
- loveqna
(good night)
Does It Really Matter If Women KNOW Why Men Cheat?
I just finished sifting through some of the public comments regarding the Tony Parker and Eva Longoria scandal again. I knew people were going to roast his ass after finding out he cheated on her. And, what bothers me is that women are quick to judge and condemn the man - men - and not learn anything from the situation or circumstances. But, then, they'll go around complaining that men cheat and wonder WHY men cheat. And if you try to explain it to them, they'll brush you off by saying that every explanation is "just an excuse". They don't WANT to know why men cheat! They'd rather criticize and hear someone who doesn't know what the hell they're talking about say something clever or make jokes about the man - or men - and remain misled and in denial. They keep listening to these dumbasses make wisecracks and jokes to make them laugh and feel good, and in the end, they keep getting played, cheated on, and dumped, over and over again, with no clue as to why.
If anybody is messing with those women's mind, it's the quacks and wannabee comedians who don't have anything to offer except jokes!
Stop listening to those jackasses!
If you don't try to understand why men cheat, of course you're going to keep getting disrespected and deceived.
And, their friends can't help them understand it because their friends love them and just want to comfort them. So, they'll listen to the woman's problems and complaints and offer their OPINION. And the friends may not know all the facts. The only thing they know is that the woman is pissed off or brokenhearted and needs their help, so they'll say whatever it takes to make the woman feel better. It may sound like good advice but it might not be reality. They don't know what's going on inside that man's head to make him cheat! It ain't always about being greedy for sex or wanting to "play the field" - which is what most people assume. Only he knows the real reason why he cheated. But, if she doesn't want to accept his explanation, and continue to listen to her friends, there's nothing more he can do.
Let me ask you...
Do you want to spend the rest of your life being bitter or worried about whether or not someone you care about is going to cheat on you? Of course not! Then, listen up!
I know there are a lot of women out there that are sick and tired of going around in circles with men just because they can't find one to have a decent relationship with. Some are swearing against men and only dealing with other women. But there are women in same-sex relationships who are having to deal with cheaters too! You have to be careful of cheaters whatever type of relationship you're in. You can't hide from it!
The best thing you can do to avoid being cheated on is to try to understand the real reasoning behind it and nip it in the bud before it happens and ruins your relationship. You have to take your time and get to know the PERSON to make sure he or she isn't a potential cheater. Pay attentionn to "broken" relationships and the easy way - from people who have cheated and those who have been cheated on. Listen to the man or explain his side... Most women don't want to hear an explanation. They just want to express their anger - And that's understandable. BUT, if the woman doesn't want to hear what the man has to say, then she may end up going through the same thing in the next relationship - whether it's with a man or woman.
Let me give you an example.
Let's say the man cheats and says it's because the woman is too busy. They don't have enough free time together. He's lonely - for whatever reason (affection, companionship, sex, whatever). Now, if the woman doesn't want to hear and says, "Oh, that's bullsh*t! We spend time together! You're not lonely! You're full of sh*t! You just can't keep It in your pants!" What else can the man say? He's told her that he doesn't get the opportunity to spend enough time with her. And the more he tries to convince her of this, usually, the angrier she gets. And, she'll never know the real reason why. Is he lonely for affection, attention, companionship, or sex? Who knows? And, they're either going to break-up or stay together and have trust issues. Observe other couples who get into arguments about infidelity and you'll see what I mean. Look, listen, and learn why cheaters cheat. That way, if you KNOW why cheaters cheat, you'll be able to spot one before he or she cheats on YOU.
This goes for men too! A lot of men need to stop stereotyping and assuming all women are potential cheaters. That's why we have so many jealous and suspicious men in the world. They need to stop following in the footsteps of their friends and these so-called O.G.s who have trust issues, and learn what the woman is about! If you take your time and get to know the woman, you'll know if you have a faithful Queen on your hands or if you're dealing with a cheatin'-ass skeezer.
Sometimes, I get a little carried away...
But, here's my final say on the subject:
Now, I know there's nothing that can GUARANTEE that a woman won't be cheated on. It could happen to anybody. But if she listens and tries to understand WHY someone might cheat, it WILL - at the very least - help to REDUCE the chances of her being cheated on. That's all I'm trying to say.
- loveqna
If anybody is messing with those women's mind, it's the quacks and wannabee comedians who don't have anything to offer except jokes!
Stop listening to those jackasses!
If you don't try to understand why men cheat, of course you're going to keep getting disrespected and deceived.
And, their friends can't help them understand it because their friends love them and just want to comfort them. So, they'll listen to the woman's problems and complaints and offer their OPINION. And the friends may not know all the facts. The only thing they know is that the woman is pissed off or brokenhearted and needs their help, so they'll say whatever it takes to make the woman feel better. It may sound like good advice but it might not be reality. They don't know what's going on inside that man's head to make him cheat! It ain't always about being greedy for sex or wanting to "play the field" - which is what most people assume. Only he knows the real reason why he cheated. But, if she doesn't want to accept his explanation, and continue to listen to her friends, there's nothing more he can do.
Let me ask you...
Do you want to spend the rest of your life being bitter or worried about whether or not someone you care about is going to cheat on you? Of course not! Then, listen up!
I know there are a lot of women out there that are sick and tired of going around in circles with men just because they can't find one to have a decent relationship with. Some are swearing against men and only dealing with other women. But there are women in same-sex relationships who are having to deal with cheaters too! You have to be careful of cheaters whatever type of relationship you're in. You can't hide from it!
The best thing you can do to avoid being cheated on is to try to understand the real reasoning behind it and nip it in the bud before it happens and ruins your relationship. You have to take your time and get to know the PERSON to make sure he or she isn't a potential cheater. Pay attentionn to "broken" relationships and the easy way - from people who have cheated and those who have been cheated on. Listen to the man or explain his side... Most women don't want to hear an explanation. They just want to express their anger - And that's understandable. BUT, if the woman doesn't want to hear what the man has to say, then she may end up going through the same thing in the next relationship - whether it's with a man or woman.
Let me give you an example.
Let's say the man cheats and says it's because the woman is too busy. They don't have enough free time together. He's lonely - for whatever reason (affection, companionship, sex, whatever). Now, if the woman doesn't want to hear and says, "Oh, that's bullsh*t! We spend time together! You're not lonely! You're full of sh*t! You just can't keep It in your pants!" What else can the man say? He's told her that he doesn't get the opportunity to spend enough time with her. And the more he tries to convince her of this, usually, the angrier she gets. And, she'll never know the real reason why. Is he lonely for affection, attention, companionship, or sex? Who knows? And, they're either going to break-up or stay together and have trust issues. Observe other couples who get into arguments about infidelity and you'll see what I mean. Look, listen, and learn why cheaters cheat. That way, if you KNOW why cheaters cheat, you'll be able to spot one before he or she cheats on YOU.
This goes for men too! A lot of men need to stop stereotyping and assuming all women are potential cheaters. That's why we have so many jealous and suspicious men in the world. They need to stop following in the footsteps of their friends and these so-called O.G.s who have trust issues, and learn what the woman is about! If you take your time and get to know the woman, you'll know if you have a faithful Queen on your hands or if you're dealing with a cheatin'-ass skeezer.
Sometimes, I get a little carried away...
But, here's my final say on the subject:
Now, I know there's nothing that can GUARANTEE that a woman won't be cheated on. It could happen to anybody. But if she listens and tries to understand WHY someone might cheat, it WILL - at the very least - help to REDUCE the chances of her being cheated on. That's all I'm trying to say.
- loveqna
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
VIDEO - PIE SLAP + HOT CHICK = EPIC LOL
This chick must love this guy to suffer such abuse. REVERSE ANGLE.
Video provided by - LOLWHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT
- loveqna
Video provided by - LOLWHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT
- loveqna
VIDEO - Best Revenge a Guy can Take Over his Girlfriend
I'd like to do something like this to my girlfriend but I KNOW she wouldn't be so passive about it.
And, she ought to kick his ass for this... Check it out.
Video provided by - amitmsachdev
- loveqna
And, she ought to kick his ass for this... Check it out.
Video provided by - amitmsachdev
- loveqna
Why It's Hard For Men To Stay Focused (On One Woman)
I don't expect a pat on the back for being faithful to my girl, but I think I'm doing pretty good considering the fact that all of these fine bootylicious women are running around here looking sexy as hell in their skin-tight jeans and push-up bras.
I must admit, when I'm at work, I do my best to resist taking second looks or gawking at these sexy-looking women. And sometimes it's hard. You wouldn't believe what these women wear and how fine they look - especially the wealthy ones. They'll jump out of those Range Rovers and Mercedes Benzes wearing sexy short shorts and spaghetti strapped tops that advertise all of their "goods". They'll have their hair looking good and flowing in the wind... I think some of those women don't even know how fine they really are. Many are married but they're always alone when they come in. I wonder sometimes if their husbands realize how good their wives look or if their husbands are just complacent about their relationship. Those guys are probably at home checking out other babes on TV.
Sometimes we get "hoodrats" in there. They'll come in wearing clothes so skimpy you'd think they just left a pajama party - or, just finished making an all-chick flick. They don't give a damn. They'll have everything hanging out - or damn near about to fall out - butt cheeks, boobs, and all. Tight-ass shorts. I'm not trying to be perverted. I'm just saying it's hard for a man's mind (and eyes) not to wander these days with so many women out here dressing so sexy and so revealing. And it's not just me. I'm always catching some of the male customers grinning and staring at these hotties. You can't help but look. Some of them make a spectacle out of themselves with those tight-ass booty-shorts on.
But this is my point...
You know how you always hear women complain about men cheating or staring at other women but they never look at it from the man's point of view. Everywhere we go, Temptation follows. Anytime we go out in public, we're gonna see women walking around dressed sexy or wearing clothes that show off their legs or clothes that accent their butts or breasts. If we turn on the TV, we're gonna see sexy underdressed models advertising products that are not only meant for women, but also, products that are meant for men. They have buttnaked chicks doing the news and weather! WHY? What's that about??? That ain't female exploitation! That's MALE exploitation to boost ratings! They know men are gonna look!
Companies are even selling SHOES to help women boost the size and appearance of their butts! I know you've seen them. They're everywhere! It may make women feel better about themselves but THEY KNOW that's what a lot of men like! The more sexy booties the better! They have workout videos that focus on "building a firmer tighter booty". My girl has one of those videos - "Yoga Booty Ballet". And if that don't work, women can save some time and buy "body shapers" like the ones sold by Spanx (the Slim Cognito) that can give a woman's butt an "INSTANT" boost.
But a woman's butt and tight clothes ain't the ONLY tools in her arsenal of "weapons"!
They've got fake contacts, hair coloring, hair extensions, make-up, lip-gloss, sweet-smelling fragrances, pantyhose, high heels, flashy accessories, and a million media outlets that love helping them promote their sexiness and/or sexuality.
Now, I might sound like a man scorned, but I'm not mad about any of it. I love looking at all of that eye-candy. It's like looking at fine art. It's hard to take your eyes off of it. It's a beautiful thing. But, women in relationships have to realize, it's also "Competition". I've heard women say, "It's okay if he looks at the menu as long as he don't touch the merchandise." But, we know what would happen if you caught your man ogling one of those fine mamacitas... especially if she's wearing a T-shirt with no bra on up under it.
You'd try to knock his eyeballs right out of his head! Whap!
But, it doesn't even have to be about that. Look at all the well-known male cheaters that have been caught within the last couple of years. The women they've cheated with haven't been all that good-looking, but they've been sexy. And you can say what you want, but I'll be honest... I'm not a guy who's into women with tattoos and/or piercings but some of those women look sexy too.
So, if you want him to keep his eyes on you (most of the time), you have to stay sexy.
I'm not saying that a woman has to dress like a hoe to keep a man interested, but if you can't be sexy, you'd better have his mind focused on you one way or the other. You'd better be doing SOMETHING to keep his attention and interest. And every little bit helps.
My girl has put on some weight and I'll be honest, I don't like it. BUT, there are still quite a few things about her that I find sexy and irristable. She just gets on my nerves with all that fussing. I can't stand it.
Anyway...
Ladies, if you want to keep your man honest then keep your game tight because the Competition is off the chain out here. And these companies are using everything in the book to keep women buying their products to attract attention. And a lot of that attention is coming from committed men.
- loveqna
I must admit, when I'm at work, I do my best to resist taking second looks or gawking at these sexy-looking women. And sometimes it's hard. You wouldn't believe what these women wear and how fine they look - especially the wealthy ones. They'll jump out of those Range Rovers and Mercedes Benzes wearing sexy short shorts and spaghetti strapped tops that advertise all of their "goods". They'll have their hair looking good and flowing in the wind... I think some of those women don't even know how fine they really are. Many are married but they're always alone when they come in. I wonder sometimes if their husbands realize how good their wives look or if their husbands are just complacent about their relationship. Those guys are probably at home checking out other babes on TV.
Sometimes we get "hoodrats" in there. They'll come in wearing clothes so skimpy you'd think they just left a pajama party - or, just finished making an all-chick flick. They don't give a damn. They'll have everything hanging out - or damn near about to fall out - butt cheeks, boobs, and all. Tight-ass shorts. I'm not trying to be perverted. I'm just saying it's hard for a man's mind (and eyes) not to wander these days with so many women out here dressing so sexy and so revealing. And it's not just me. I'm always catching some of the male customers grinning and staring at these hotties. You can't help but look. Some of them make a spectacle out of themselves with those tight-ass booty-shorts on.
But this is my point...
You know how you always hear women complain about men cheating or staring at other women but they never look at it from the man's point of view. Everywhere we go, Temptation follows. Anytime we go out in public, we're gonna see women walking around dressed sexy or wearing clothes that show off their legs or clothes that accent their butts or breasts. If we turn on the TV, we're gonna see sexy underdressed models advertising products that are not only meant for women, but also, products that are meant for men. They have buttnaked chicks doing the news and weather! WHY? What's that about??? That ain't female exploitation! That's MALE exploitation to boost ratings! They know men are gonna look!
Companies are even selling SHOES to help women boost the size and appearance of their butts! I know you've seen them. They're everywhere! It may make women feel better about themselves but THEY KNOW that's what a lot of men like! The more sexy booties the better! They have workout videos that focus on "building a firmer tighter booty". My girl has one of those videos - "Yoga Booty Ballet". And if that don't work, women can save some time and buy "body shapers" like the ones sold by Spanx (the Slim Cognito) that can give a woman's butt an "INSTANT" boost.
But a woman's butt and tight clothes ain't the ONLY tools in her arsenal of "weapons"!
They've got fake contacts, hair coloring, hair extensions, make-up, lip-gloss, sweet-smelling fragrances, pantyhose, high heels, flashy accessories, and a million media outlets that love helping them promote their sexiness and/or sexuality.
Now, I might sound like a man scorned, but I'm not mad about any of it. I love looking at all of that eye-candy. It's like looking at fine art. It's hard to take your eyes off of it. It's a beautiful thing. But, women in relationships have to realize, it's also "Competition". I've heard women say, "It's okay if he looks at the menu as long as he don't touch the merchandise." But, we know what would happen if you caught your man ogling one of those fine mamacitas... especially if she's wearing a T-shirt with no bra on up under it.
You'd try to knock his eyeballs right out of his head! Whap!
But, it doesn't even have to be about that. Look at all the well-known male cheaters that have been caught within the last couple of years. The women they've cheated with haven't been all that good-looking, but they've been sexy. And you can say what you want, but I'll be honest... I'm not a guy who's into women with tattoos and/or piercings but some of those women look sexy too.
So, if you want him to keep his eyes on you (most of the time), you have to stay sexy.
I'm not saying that a woman has to dress like a hoe to keep a man interested, but if you can't be sexy, you'd better have his mind focused on you one way or the other. You'd better be doing SOMETHING to keep his attention and interest. And every little bit helps.
My girl has put on some weight and I'll be honest, I don't like it. BUT, there are still quite a few things about her that I find sexy and irristable. She just gets on my nerves with all that fussing. I can't stand it.
Anyway...
Ladies, if you want to keep your man honest then keep your game tight because the Competition is off the chain out here. And these companies are using everything in the book to keep women buying their products to attract attention. And a lot of that attention is coming from committed men.
- loveqna
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Why Men Tell Lies And Play Games To Get Dates With Women
Okay...
So, why do men tell a bunch of lies upfront when meeting someone new instead of keeping it real? It's not hard to figure out. Many of them don't want to miss out on an "opportunity" for sex or friendship - or, possibly a relationship. They're afraid the woman might run off or never give them a chance if she knows the truth about them. He may be afraid she won't want to date a "baby-daddy" or a man who's married, or a man who's broke and has no transportation (for those who lie about having a car "in the shop"). But, there could be ANY REASON for this so, let me tell you my experiences and what some men have told me about why they do things like this...
Now, sometimes a woman may meet a man and he'll tell her that he's ready to settle down and that he's looking for a "good" woman that he can get to know and perhaps spend the rest of his life with and all of that crap - and he may be sincere - but, what happens is: After he talks to the woman a little more and gets to know her, he believes he knows what she's about - and he may not like it. And any woman can see this in her own dealings with men who approach them. Just from the first impression, the woman might judge the man as being a scrub, a lame, a player, a braggart, immature, or a weirdo. She might talk to the man for a few minutes on the phone and he may bore her to death or the conversation might be strange enough that she never wants to speak to him again. It's the same way with guys. After talking with you, he may think you have too much baggage. He may think you're uncompromising. He may think you're boring. He may think you're strange or a little too "strong" - and not in a positive way. Or, he simply may believe you two aren't compatible. This may take a few minutes of conversation for him to come to this conclusion. It may take a few days. A few phone calls. It may take weeks.
The reason he may stay in contact with you is only because YOU continue to call him. If he isn't calling you, that should be a sign that he's either involved or not really interested. And, if you continue to pursue him, you'll end up getting your feelings hurt because you're not the type of woman he wants. You may be an Excellent woman (better than average), but just not what he's looking for.
Now, let me tell you the bad news...
The bad news is: He may not be interested but he might not know how to break the news to you that he's not interested - or even worse - he may be willing to allow you to continue to pursue him (thinking he's interested) but in reality, he's only willing to be "friends" or have sex with you whenever it's "convenient". In this case, you're his "back-up plan" or "something to do" whenever he's bored. So, he'll let the "lie" continue until YOU finally stop pursuing.
And the bad news gets even worse...
You may end up STARTING a relationship with a man like this! And he might lead you on for years and years and years.
He might see you as ONLY "girlfriend material". Nothing "serious". A guy like this doesn't see you as being worthy enough to settle down with or have kids with, but something about you keeps him interested - or at least - coming back for more. The turn-off that keeps him telling lies and breaking promises may be your personality, habits, beliefs, busy career, who knows. Maybe he's only infatuated. You may be cute and have a lot going for yourself, but just not what he's looking for in a woman to have long-term relationship with.
Often, women meet men who seem to don't really know what they want. But in reality, many of them do. This may be a guy who's playing the field - pretending he cares about you and wants to get to know you better but he also has other "friends" in his stable. A player. All he wants is sex and he'll say whatever it takes to get it. Or, he may be in a relationship and is only attracted to you physically. So, he's looking for "a chick on the side" - a little variety in his current dull lifestyle. Or, a form of escape from the hell at home. In this case, a cheater.
A weak man might NOT know what he wants and he'll bounce between two women just because he doesn't want to have anyone angry at him. He may not even be having sex with either woman but he'll try to please them both and be a "good friend" so that neither is mad at him. But he'll drive you crazy because he'll continue to talk on the phone to his Ex and listen to all of her bullsh*t problems and run to help her ass out whenever she requests his assistance. You could probably win this wimp over eventually, but it'll take a while.
Then, there are some guys who WANT a relationship but in reality, they're just too busy to have a meaningful relationship. Some women live like this also. They work, work, work, (and possibly have kids to raise) and have no time for love or romance in their lives, yet they want to start a relationship.
And that brings me to the "cat and mouse scenario". This is where the man is ONLY flirting because the woman seems to be ONLY flirting. He may not realize that - in her mind - she's looking for something serious. She may say she's looking for Love, but he may think she's trying to play games with him. And if they DO decide to "hook-up" too soon, he won't know WHAT to think. He may think the woman is a hoe or a player and not take her serious. Or, he might think she's a hoe or a player and not see her as someone he would take home to Mama. And not to take the blame away from anyone or put the blame on anyone, but oftentimes, that's just the woman - usually an outgoing woman - being misunderstood.
Do you know what the biggest complaint is that most men have about women who ask, "why do so many men lie?"
"Women are always going for the "bad boy" - Mr. Excitement. They don't appreciate a "Nice Guy" or a good man who's honest and willing to treat them right. And that's why they keep getting played."
That's what they say. But in reality, almost any man or woman will tell you exactly what you want to hear just to get what they want - whether it's "friendship", love, a relationship, or sex. The best thing you can do is take your time but let the person know that you're interested, get to know the person, let them get to know you, and pay attention to what they say as well as what they DON'T say. If he's lying, the truth WILL come to the light. Just have your eyes open and be ready to accept it. Don't be "in denial" just because he's cute. And if you have to move on, then move on. Anything worthwhile takes work - a good woman OR a good man.
And, that's it for this long-winded post.
- loveqna
How To Spot A Sex Addict
Today, I want to talk about sexual addiction.
After Tiger Woods got caught cheating and decided to check himself into "rehab" for his sexual addiction, there were critics and analysts and haters coming out of the wood-work claiming he was using "sexual addiction" as an excuse and that he would say and do Anything to keep from losing his sponsorships.
I don't know if that's true or not. I don't know Tiger. I'm not a golf fan or a Tiger Woods fan.
But, I DO KNOW THIS...
People can be addicted to anything - video games, shopping, smoking, drinking, drugs, chocolate, driving fast, a certain food, a hobby, a sport, kissing feet, Anything. And that includes Sex.
When people hear someone say that they're a sex addict, they think that the person is saying that he or she is having sex everyday!
Sex addicts don't necessarily have sex on a daily or weekly basis. They may WANT to have sex everyday... But, being a sex addict doesn't guarantee that they are having sex regularly - or that they are having sex at all. It's just the fact that sex is on their mind all the time.
Open your eyes. You probably KNOW quite a few people who are sex addicts!
It's a real addiction.
Any person is a sex addict if he or she has experienced the thrill of a certain type of sex, thinks about it all the time, and wants to experience it again and again, and as much as possible.
And, just because they don't get what they want, that doesn't make the desire any less of an addiction.
When the addict can't get what he or she wants, he or she will still fantasize about the "situation" and enjoy the "experience" any way they can. More than likely by daydreaming or watching "adult flicks" and masturbating.
And, you can recognize these addicts by observing their behavior, interests, and habits...
- Some sex addicts enjoy watching "adult flicks" on the Net everyday.
- Some sex addicts have fetishes but constantly fantasize about sex or sex with certain people (a certain nationality or race or type).
- A sex addict might masturbate often.
- A pervert, a "peeping Tom", and a sexual predator are ALL sex addicts.
- A sex addict is sometimes referred to as a nymphomaniac, a "player", a "trick", or a ho.
- A sex addict is a man or woman who constantly spends money on other men or women for sexual pleasure.
- Sexual encounters and gratification is high on a sex addict's list of priorities. These addicts talk about their sexual encounters and desires ALL the time.
- Some "compulsive flirts" are sex addicts. They can't complete a sentence with using some sexual reference or innuendos.
Many of these people need help.
They can't save any money or live a decent honest life with another person because sex is an obsession for them.
And, the bad thing about it is, most of these bums don't want to change and don't want professional help - even though they keep creating drama in their love-life and ruining some possibly good relationships.
No matter what anyone says, Sex CAN be an obsession for some people.
Some famous people have been caught in scandals because they put sex before business or politics or marriage. You see these people on TV all the time - mad as hell because they got caught or crying because they've ruined their image and life.
I like to read the comment boards on the Net and see what "regular folks" have to say about all the drama and the "excuses" these famous people give after they've been exposed.
If some of these average Joes and Janes had their way, most of these celebrities and politicians would be burned at the stake! Or, tarred, feathered, and run out of town. They don't even know what's going on in these famous people's lives. Or, what situations (or pains) those poor slobs are dealing with.
And, at least half of these Janes and Joes are hypocrites...
Maybe they aren't cheaters or involved in scandals, but many of them are sexual addicts also. they're either masturbating or they ogling booty all day.
But, be honest: We don't know how or why these people get themselves into these situations. There are all kinds of reasons why a person can become addicted to sex - or Anything for that matter.
Here are a few examples...
Being neglected (sexually and/or intimately) can cause some to search for it, explore it, and become addicted to it.
Being curious about Sex or a certain type of sex or a certain type of lifestyle can cause a person to become addicted to sex - or a certain type of sexual experience.
Being introduced to an "enlightening" sexual experience can cause it.
Who knows how it happens?
So, the World may be full of sex addicts. You probably pass right by hundreds of them everyday. So, be careful of who you shake hands with...
- loveqna
After Tiger Woods got caught cheating and decided to check himself into "rehab" for his sexual addiction, there were critics and analysts and haters coming out of the wood-work claiming he was using "sexual addiction" as an excuse and that he would say and do Anything to keep from losing his sponsorships.
I don't know if that's true or not. I don't know Tiger. I'm not a golf fan or a Tiger Woods fan.
But, I DO KNOW THIS...
People can be addicted to anything - video games, shopping, smoking, drinking, drugs, chocolate, driving fast, a certain food, a hobby, a sport, kissing feet, Anything. And that includes Sex.
When people hear someone say that they're a sex addict, they think that the person is saying that he or she is having sex everyday!
Sex addicts don't necessarily have sex on a daily or weekly basis. They may WANT to have sex everyday... But, being a sex addict doesn't guarantee that they are having sex regularly - or that they are having sex at all. It's just the fact that sex is on their mind all the time.
Open your eyes. You probably KNOW quite a few people who are sex addicts!
It's a real addiction.
Any person is a sex addict if he or she has experienced the thrill of a certain type of sex, thinks about it all the time, and wants to experience it again and again, and as much as possible.
And, just because they don't get what they want, that doesn't make the desire any less of an addiction.
When the addict can't get what he or she wants, he or she will still fantasize about the "situation" and enjoy the "experience" any way they can. More than likely by daydreaming or watching "adult flicks" and masturbating.
And, you can recognize these addicts by observing their behavior, interests, and habits...
- Some sex addicts enjoy watching "adult flicks" on the Net everyday.
- Some sex addicts have fetishes but constantly fantasize about sex or sex with certain people (a certain nationality or race or type).
- A sex addict might masturbate often.
- A pervert, a "peeping Tom", and a sexual predator are ALL sex addicts.
- A sex addict is sometimes referred to as a nymphomaniac, a "player", a "trick", or a ho.
- A sex addict is a man or woman who constantly spends money on other men or women for sexual pleasure.
- Sexual encounters and gratification is high on a sex addict's list of priorities. These addicts talk about their sexual encounters and desires ALL the time.
- Some "compulsive flirts" are sex addicts. They can't complete a sentence with using some sexual reference or innuendos.
Many of these people need help.
They can't save any money or live a decent honest life with another person because sex is an obsession for them.
And, the bad thing about it is, most of these bums don't want to change and don't want professional help - even though they keep creating drama in their love-life and ruining some possibly good relationships.
No matter what anyone says, Sex CAN be an obsession for some people.
Some famous people have been caught in scandals because they put sex before business or politics or marriage. You see these people on TV all the time - mad as hell because they got caught or crying because they've ruined their image and life.
I like to read the comment boards on the Net and see what "regular folks" have to say about all the drama and the "excuses" these famous people give after they've been exposed.
If some of these average Joes and Janes had their way, most of these celebrities and politicians would be burned at the stake! Or, tarred, feathered, and run out of town. They don't even know what's going on in these famous people's lives. Or, what situations (or pains) those poor slobs are dealing with.
And, at least half of these Janes and Joes are hypocrites...
Maybe they aren't cheaters or involved in scandals, but many of them are sexual addicts also. they're either masturbating or they ogling booty all day.
But, be honest: We don't know how or why these people get themselves into these situations. There are all kinds of reasons why a person can become addicted to sex - or Anything for that matter.
Here are a few examples...
Being neglected (sexually and/or intimately) can cause some to search for it, explore it, and become addicted to it.
Being curious about Sex or a certain type of sex or a certain type of lifestyle can cause a person to become addicted to sex - or a certain type of sexual experience.
Being introduced to an "enlightening" sexual experience can cause it.
Who knows how it happens?
So, the World may be full of sex addicts. You probably pass right by hundreds of them everyday. So, be careful of who you shake hands with...
- loveqna
Is My Sugar-Mama Bringing Me Down Or Do I Need To Step Up My Game?
Have you ever heard the ancient proverb: "Behind every successful man is a good woman"? I used to believe that. But, now I wonder how true that proverb really is.
I don't think anybody's life is complete without love or companionship. I believe in Love. I'm looking for Love. But when you look at some of the successful people throughout history - especially women - you can see that having a mate for love, support, friendship, and Success, really isn't necessary. In fact, many of these "successful" people (and middle-class workerbees) ignore Romance and Love so that they are able to focus more on their careers and work. Then they look for love and start a family later in life. And they seem to do allright - financially.
I'm not money-hungry but keep wondering if that's the road I should take. Should I just give up on Love AND Success for now and just focus on having a successful career in some field?
One of the reasons I pursued my current girlfriend was because I really believe that she would a strong support system for me. I was wrong. It's just drama all the time. She has too many distractions in her life that she doesn't seem to know how to deal with and deep down, I don't want to deal with those distractions (and baggage) while I'm in pursuit of my dreams. It's just too much work.
Even if I DO somehow manage to become "A Success" or "financially independent", I don't think I would stay in this relationship. She has put me down so much that I'm just bitter about it, and I don't think I'll ever get over it unless I leave and start a new life. But, it's hard to leave, when you know you have someone you can trust and who's generous and (most of the time) reliable. Maybe I'm afraid of going from bad to worse. And sometimes I just don't feel like putting in the work and time to search and pursue someone new.
I have to admit, in my present financial condition, I'm not a "man of quality", so my "options" may be limited. I was out of work for a couple of years and just recently got back into the game. And unfortunately, the only job I've been able to pick up has been in retail, (part time - but around 35 hours per week). So, right now, I'm more or less surviving on the "scrub level". But, there IS potential for advancement. And while I know I wouldn't have any trouble meeting and dating someone new, I think it would be difficult to find the type of woman I desire. I still want a woman who's sexy, sweet, confident, driven, and family-oriented, BUT, would THAT type of woman be interested in a guy like me? The answer is "yes", but the search would be long - especially if I want to find one who's compatible and who doesn't have a lot of baggage. I like older women, but most older women already have kids and have already been married. I don't want that. Or, they're currently married (but separated) with a baby-daddy lurking somewhere in the midst. That's usually a recipe for drama. And, I ain't got time for that sh*t either.
A chick my own age (or younger) would be nice, but besides being cute and having a hot body, I'm just not that interested...
I care about this chick I'm with now, but, She just likes to fuss, debate, and argue too much. I know she's stressed and tired - but don't take that out on Me! Put your kids in check if you're sick of their crap! I cook for you. I clean up for you. Wash your dishes. Babysit. I do all of your yard work. I have to be a handyman around this big-ass house! Run errands. I have to work on your car - and I'm no mechanic. And still, I have to hear you whine and complain and fuss??? Come on, Man...
That's why she gets no more back rubs, foot rubs, breakfast in bed, cuddling, dates, and intimate conversations... She can have the majority of my paycheck for some of that "sweet brown sugar", but other than that, Love and a long-term relationship is the farthest thing from my mind.
Hopefully, I can get focused, and one day, improve my life as a writer or an entrepreneur. Maybe then, I'll get some Respect - Especially if I'm successful at it. But with all this drama between us, it still may be too late.
- loveqna
I don't think anybody's life is complete without love or companionship. I believe in Love. I'm looking for Love. But when you look at some of the successful people throughout history - especially women - you can see that having a mate for love, support, friendship, and Success, really isn't necessary. In fact, many of these "successful" people (and middle-class workerbees) ignore Romance and Love so that they are able to focus more on their careers and work. Then they look for love and start a family later in life. And they seem to do allright - financially.
I'm not money-hungry but keep wondering if that's the road I should take. Should I just give up on Love AND Success for now and just focus on having a successful career in some field?
One of the reasons I pursued my current girlfriend was because I really believe that she would a strong support system for me. I was wrong. It's just drama all the time. She has too many distractions in her life that she doesn't seem to know how to deal with and deep down, I don't want to deal with those distractions (and baggage) while I'm in pursuit of my dreams. It's just too much work.
Even if I DO somehow manage to become "A Success" or "financially independent", I don't think I would stay in this relationship. She has put me down so much that I'm just bitter about it, and I don't think I'll ever get over it unless I leave and start a new life. But, it's hard to leave, when you know you have someone you can trust and who's generous and (most of the time) reliable. Maybe I'm afraid of going from bad to worse. And sometimes I just don't feel like putting in the work and time to search and pursue someone new.
I have to admit, in my present financial condition, I'm not a "man of quality", so my "options" may be limited. I was out of work for a couple of years and just recently got back into the game. And unfortunately, the only job I've been able to pick up has been in retail, (part time - but around 35 hours per week). So, right now, I'm more or less surviving on the "scrub level". But, there IS potential for advancement. And while I know I wouldn't have any trouble meeting and dating someone new, I think it would be difficult to find the type of woman I desire. I still want a woman who's sexy, sweet, confident, driven, and family-oriented, BUT, would THAT type of woman be interested in a guy like me? The answer is "yes", but the search would be long - especially if I want to find one who's compatible and who doesn't have a lot of baggage. I like older women, but most older women already have kids and have already been married. I don't want that. Or, they're currently married (but separated) with a baby-daddy lurking somewhere in the midst. That's usually a recipe for drama. And, I ain't got time for that sh*t either.
A chick my own age (or younger) would be nice, but besides being cute and having a hot body, I'm just not that interested...
I care about this chick I'm with now, but, She just likes to fuss, debate, and argue too much. I know she's stressed and tired - but don't take that out on Me! Put your kids in check if you're sick of their crap! I cook for you. I clean up for you. Wash your dishes. Babysit. I do all of your yard work. I have to be a handyman around this big-ass house! Run errands. I have to work on your car - and I'm no mechanic. And still, I have to hear you whine and complain and fuss??? Come on, Man...
That's why she gets no more back rubs, foot rubs, breakfast in bed, cuddling, dates, and intimate conversations... She can have the majority of my paycheck for some of that "sweet brown sugar", but other than that, Love and a long-term relationship is the farthest thing from my mind.
Hopefully, I can get focused, and one day, improve my life as a writer or an entrepreneur. Maybe then, I'll get some Respect - Especially if I'm successful at it. But with all this drama between us, it still may be too late.
- loveqna
VIDEO - Singapore Woman Tortures Boyfriend
My girlfriend is mean and bossy but she's never done anything like this to me. I like fiesty women, but this is just vicious. My poor little balls are nervous just thinking about it.
I ran across this video the other day while lying in bed listening to her complain about... I don't know what the hell she was fussing about. I usually tune her out before she even gets started. Anyway, some of you probably won't believe this video. Some of you will probably enjoy it. Some of you might even be turned on by it.
Video provided by - TiKayedge
- loveqna
I ran across this video the other day while lying in bed listening to her complain about... I don't know what the hell she was fussing about. I usually tune her out before she even gets started. Anyway, some of you probably won't believe this video. Some of you will probably enjoy it. Some of you might even be turned on by it.
Video provided by - TiKayedge
- loveqna
50 Things Girls Want Guys To Know
Here's a video that was posted by a young girl on Youtube. Some of these tips you may be able to use. Who knows, depending on the girl and/or her age, all of these tips may be useful. Anyway, it's cute so check it out.
Video provided by - princessdebraaa
- loveqna
Video provided by - princessdebraaa
- loveqna
Monday, November 15, 2010
Why Men Compare Women To Cars
Before you judge me, let me tell you how I came up with the title...
This bright idea spawned from a couple of phrases men (and women) used to use all the time back in the day when they were frustrated with their relationships. The women had their saying when they were sick and tired of their "sorry-ass man", which was: "I need to "upgrade" and find me a "quality man"." And, when the men were sick and tired of their relationship or woman, they would proclaim that they were about to "trade their woman in for a newer model" (one with less issues and/or mileage).
For men, seeing their companion as a car and the relationship as the experience of owning a car was a common metaphor back then - and even today - because cars are sexy (like women). BUT, they can also give you problems (like women). They have their own personalities and temperaments. Some are dependable. Some are unpredictable. Some make you look good. Some are high maintenance. Some give you nothing but headaches and drain the hell out of your bank account. And some, you want to "pamper and spoil" with new accessories and trinkets. They're like women. Are you beginning to see why so many men give their cars female names like Sally, Lucy, Betty, Betsy, Bertha, Charlene, Christine, Eleanor, etc?
For some men, their car is like the love of their life and they'll drive it and take care of it for years and years. A man like that is dedicated. And he might be dedicated to a woman in similar fashion - unless he's using the car as "bait" or a chick magnet. If that's the case, he may trade up every few years (every few months iin the case of a woman).
You're probably saying to yourself: "All of this is B.S." But listen...
Don't get me wrong, I don't believe all men look at women this way. I don't even think it's in the forefront of their minds when they view women. But it IS in the subconscious mind of some guys out there. Some men gawk at women the same way they would gawk at a polished red Farrari or jet-black Lambo. More than likely, the super-hot sports car would get MORE attention.
Look at it this way: Cheaters and players are good examples...
This idea of comparing cars to women is evident when you view it from the perspective of cheaters and players who shop for women like they're shopping for cars.
Let's say the woman is as sexy as a Corvette he's "driven" for a few months...
There's nothing wrong with "the car". It's flawless. Any man would be proud to get behind the wheel of such a "vehicle" and take it for a spin. But, in the case of cheaters and players: They may be driving a sweet-ass Corvette but they sure as hell wouldn't mind getting behind the wheel of a sexy Maserati. Or, taking a bad-ass Porche or Bentley for a "test drive" to see how it REALLY "handles". They can't resist that Eye-Candy! They want first-hand experience in the cockpit of one of those curvacious luxurious Supercars. They want to feel the "rush" of a unique woman (I mean, Car) that performs like no other!
So when a man compares a woman to a car:
He may see her as a sleek and beautiful fun-to-drive exotic sports car he can always have a great time with.
Or, he may see her as a luxury model with class, style, and sophistication that he can be proud to drive and be seen with.
Or, he may see her as an worn out old clunker with a lot of mileage that he's sick and tired of driving - therefore, he's more than likely in the market for something new.
Or, he may see her as a project car that - with a makeover - has the potential of being a supercar or a classic.
Or, he may see her as a stylish classic that makes him feel good (proud) about being behind the wheel of something unique and rare.
Still think it's all B.S.?
Google "Why Men Compare Women To Cars". There are some other opinions about this on the Net. Google and check them out.
- loveqna
This bright idea spawned from a couple of phrases men (and women) used to use all the time back in the day when they were frustrated with their relationships. The women had their saying when they were sick and tired of their "sorry-ass man", which was: "I need to "upgrade" and find me a "quality man"." And, when the men were sick and tired of their relationship or woman, they would proclaim that they were about to "trade their woman in for a newer model" (one with less issues and/or mileage).
For men, seeing their companion as a car and the relationship as the experience of owning a car was a common metaphor back then - and even today - because cars are sexy (like women). BUT, they can also give you problems (like women). They have their own personalities and temperaments. Some are dependable. Some are unpredictable. Some make you look good. Some are high maintenance. Some give you nothing but headaches and drain the hell out of your bank account. And some, you want to "pamper and spoil" with new accessories and trinkets. They're like women. Are you beginning to see why so many men give their cars female names like Sally, Lucy, Betty, Betsy, Bertha, Charlene, Christine, Eleanor, etc?
For some men, their car is like the love of their life and they'll drive it and take care of it for years and years. A man like that is dedicated. And he might be dedicated to a woman in similar fashion - unless he's using the car as "bait" or a chick magnet. If that's the case, he may trade up every few years (every few months iin the case of a woman).
You're probably saying to yourself: "All of this is B.S." But listen...
Don't get me wrong, I don't believe all men look at women this way. I don't even think it's in the forefront of their minds when they view women. But it IS in the subconscious mind of some guys out there. Some men gawk at women the same way they would gawk at a polished red Farrari or jet-black Lambo. More than likely, the super-hot sports car would get MORE attention.
Look at it this way: Cheaters and players are good examples...
This idea of comparing cars to women is evident when you view it from the perspective of cheaters and players who shop for women like they're shopping for cars.
Let's say the woman is as sexy as a Corvette he's "driven" for a few months...
There's nothing wrong with "the car". It's flawless. Any man would be proud to get behind the wheel of such a "vehicle" and take it for a spin. But, in the case of cheaters and players: They may be driving a sweet-ass Corvette but they sure as hell wouldn't mind getting behind the wheel of a sexy Maserati. Or, taking a bad-ass Porche or Bentley for a "test drive" to see how it REALLY "handles". They can't resist that Eye-Candy! They want first-hand experience in the cockpit of one of those curvacious luxurious Supercars. They want to feel the "rush" of a unique woman (I mean, Car) that performs like no other!
So when a man compares a woman to a car:
He may see her as a sleek and beautiful fun-to-drive exotic sports car he can always have a great time with.
Or, he may see her as a luxury model with class, style, and sophistication that he can be proud to drive and be seen with.
Or, he may see her as an worn out old clunker with a lot of mileage that he's sick and tired of driving - therefore, he's more than likely in the market for something new.
Or, he may see her as a project car that - with a makeover - has the potential of being a supercar or a classic.
Or, he may see her as a stylish classic that makes him feel good (proud) about being behind the wheel of something unique and rare.
Still think it's all B.S.?
Google "Why Men Compare Women To Cars". There are some other opinions about this on the Net. Google and check them out.
- loveqna
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