Why A Man Needs Two Or More Women

Before you start cussin' me out, let me speak.

I'm NOT saying that a man SHOULD HAVE more than one woman.

And, I'll say it again:

I'm NOT saying that a man SHOULD HAVE more than ONE woman.

If a man has found TRUE LOVE then one woman will be all that he needs. Usually.

I believe this because I believe his heart and mind won't allow him to seek anyone else - IF it's True Love. But, that's just how I see it.

I believe Love will FORCE you to be devoted to ONE PERSON - To be OBSESSED by ONE person and to compel you to only want to please and cater to him or her. It can't be cut into pieces and shared like slices of cake or pie. You can't spread it around because you can't possess Love. You can't OWN it. It owns you.

Okay. I'm not trying to philosophical but you heard what I said, so I don't wanna hear no sh*t from anybody.

Okay.

Now, Surprise...

This is also a post about "Why A Woman Needs Two Or More Men" because SOME women out there feel they have to have more than one guy to be completely satisfied.

It's true!

So, for the record...

I'M not saying that a woman SHOULD HAVE two or more men. I'm addressing the women out there who believe they need more than one man (or love-mate) in their life to be completely satisfied.

Now, let me tell you what this is all about.

It's another post about cheaters and why they feel they need a lover on the side - or two or three lovers on the side.

They do it because they're hard to please, dissatisfied with their circumstances, and unhappy.

This particular reason for cheating is based on Variety. But not sexual variety.

There are many people out there who feel that they don't (or can't) have all of the "voids" in their life filled by one person. They feel they NEED additional mates to help them enjoy certain aspects of life that their Main Squeeze (or Primary Lover) can't help them with.

It's kind of like guys and girls who have their best friend for fun, secrets, gossip, shopping, and hanging out with and a lover for intimacy, affection, and romance.

The lover provides certain "social benefits" and their best friend provides certain "social benefits".

So, why does the man need more than one woman??? In this case, he may be looking for or intrigued by OTHER "Benefits" such as:

- Personality

- Style and Sex Appeal

- Beauty

- Status

Or, he may need to FEEL, SEE, HEAR, SMELL, and TASTE something DIFFERENT.

That could be anything. It may be great sex.

But, as I've stated before, cheaters don't always cheat for sex. In most cases sex is inevitable. It's expected to happen. The cheater wants it to happen. But after he and his lover has had sex, why does he keep going back? I'll tell you why...

He might keep his lover because he FEELS his lover is more entertaining, easier to talk to, prettier, sexier, more outspoken, more confident, more understanding, more charming, or classier. There is something that this other person brings to the table that he's not getting at "home".

A woman who cheats might feel the same way about her lover. It's possible that she deeply cares about her partner but she might not find her partner so entertaining. Maybe they don't have "deep" conversations. Maybe her partner is too serious or too playful. Maybe her partner is weak and she craves someone stronger. Maybe they never go anywhere or do anything romantic or fun. Or, maybe she is simply MORE TURNED-ON by this new person's personality, charm, and beauty. Who knows why she is swooning over this bum.

But even when a man or woman finds an additional partner, he or she may still fall for a THIRD one.

Why?

(And, we're NOT using Sex as an excuse in this post. We've already touched on sexual variety in another post.)

It's the same reason. The cheater will continue to cheat to fill "voids" in his or her life.

What is he looking for THIS time???

This third lover may be MORE generous than the first two. He or she may be more adventurous. He or she may be MORE charming. MORE entertaining. MORE beautiful. Sexier. Whatever.

I know some of you are saying that this is all bullcrap. And, I don't blame you for being pissed-off. But, let me ask you this:

Why do you think some men (AND women) don't want to get married???

If they're in love, why don't they want to be tied down? Why don't THEY want to tie their lover down??? Why aren't THEY begging for their lover's hand in marriage???

Because they're afraid they're going to be trapped in a relationship that is going to get old, dull, and boring. And they're afraid that THEY'RE going to get old, dull, and boring if they get stuck in this "situation".

That's why a lot of men DON'T say "I Do."

They'd rather stay single and have Variety. More variety means more fun-filled EXPERIENCES. Less routine and monotony.

It's like dining out.

If you go to the same restaurant every time you go out (or eat at home all the time) it'll get boring as hell.

But, if you go out to a VARIETY of restaurants and try something different every once and a while, it's like a new adventure every time.

Some people NEED variety. Some people NEED to FEEL, SEE, HEAR, SMELL, and TASTE something DIFFERENT.

Some people feel they need extra lovers to feel "voids" that one lover can't provide.

I've heard plenty of women say that they don't want to be tied down to someone who is only going to get old, fat, and boring. I've heard lots of guys say they don't want to get married because there are too many beautiful women out here to have just one. They'll never be able to get all of those hot babes or even half of them but they want to have options if things get rough - or, if their lives start to look bleak and empty.

Options. Variety. An escape route! That's why a man needs two or more women! He needs someone to turn to take his mind off of his routine lifestyle and to help keep his life exciting.

I remember I used to hear some crap on certain radio stations here in Charlotte about why women needed four or five men in their love-life.

They needed one man to help them out from time to time with bills.

They needed another guy who was sensitive and understanding.

They needed a third man who was outstanding in bed.

They needed a fourth man for fun and excitement.

I forgot why they needed a fifth man, but it was probably to babysit their damn kids.

Sometimes they're searching for something or someone to fill a void and they don't know what that void is. Most of the time they simply crave a new adventure or some excitement. They're greedy to try something new.

You're lucky if you're not in a serious relationship with one of these types of cheaters. But if you are (or, you're in love with one), your only hope is personal improvement (appearance, style, confidence, charm, independence, etc.) and playing a little hard to get - and, that doesn't work all the time.

But, if you want this person, you'll have to try to fill those "voids". You have to give him or her a little bit of everything he or she wants and NEEDS.

Remember: These cheaters love to sample, therefore, they love to chase. They always want to try something new and different. And, when you appear different to them, they get curious and want a taste of the NEW You.

But, be aware: You must not be too easy to get but you can't be too hard to get also. Use your charm and powers of seduction to win his or her heart. Whatever the bum wants, try to give it to him (or her). That MIGHT keep him or her coming back for more.

And, if it doesn't,

Find someone who's "simple", easy to please, and who doesn't have a lot of Needs or needs a lot of Variety.

- loveqna